A few weeks ago we interviewed our husbands with YOUR questions sent in on our Instagram page. What we were not expecting to receive was a lot of questions about navigating in-law relationships! Since so many of you sent in questions on this topic, we thought we’d dedicate an entire episode diving into how our relationships with our in-laws have changed over the years and how we’ve navigated being daughter-in-laws.

When it comes to in-laws, everyone has a different story. We’ve seen these relationships go all sorts of directions in our friends’ lives and also in our own. If you’re feeling like your in-law relationship is hard as a parent of young children, you’re not alone. These relationships can be hard! We’ve been there. We’ve learned over the years that in-law relationships are a journey. We understand that today’s episode may not apply to everyone’s situation, and we want to hold space for you if that’s the case. However, if you feel it's appropriate, we hope you find our simple tips about managing expectations and boundaries, communication, and how to deal with the holidays (and more!) helpful and use them to nurture and grow your in-law relationships. 

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Today on the podcast, we are happy to be hosting Dr. Menije, licensed Psychologist and founder of Embracing You Therapy which specializes in perfectionism, OCD, addiction, and anxiety. Dr. Menije is passionate about turning judgement into compassion, and pain into purpose. She loves helping people explore behavior changes to support their new way of thinking and utilize action goals. 

This episode will be a deep dive into perfectionism; the addiction to it, why it can create anxiety, and more. With the holidays approaching, we all can fall victim to the feeling of needing to be doing it ALL or MORE. This episode is a great listen for someone who is a perfectionist themselves and wants to learn better strategies to manage their tendencies. On the flip side, this episode also takes a look into relationships where your partner might be the perfectionist, and ways that you can work together to help them process and better cope with their perfectionist ways. Whether you deal with perfectionism, or you love someone who has perfectionistic tendencies, we hope from today’s interview that you learn some practical tools and methods to apply to your everyday stressors or you learn how to support someone you love! 

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You asked, we answered! Today, the husbands are back to answer your burning questions on our relationships, parenting, how life has changed since their last sit down with us, and more. Drew and Colin get vulnerable with their honest answers, which is why we love them so much! Whether you want to hear how our families handle filling in our social calendar with sports, parties, and other activities OR you’re here to find out what REALLY goes on behind the scenes of the Green and Kiefer households, we’ve got it here for you. We felt this episode was good timing considering the holiday season is upon us. We all can utilize this time to reflect on our 2024, to recognize the areas in our lives we can improve and the areas we excel. We hope you find today’s episode to be fun, but that you also take away something valuable! 

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With the holiday season here upon us, we thought it would be the perfect time to revisit our interview with Erica Djossa of @momwell as our “Greatest Hits” episode this Thanksgiving week. We feel like her mission and our mission here at the HERself podcast to get women the best information possible really align!

During this incredible episode with Erica we discussed the invisible load in motherhood, what causes the feeling of being on edge, toxic positivity and so much more. These topics could not be more relevant during the hecticness of the holiday season.

At the end of the episode, Erica speaks to the fathers of our children. We get asked so often, from you, about how your partner/husband can get resources. We wanted to make sure we covered that inside this interview as well because we all know dads and partners struggle too. We hope revisiting this episode highlighted something new for you to reflect upon as we enter this busy season at the end of 2024!

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We know finances and discussing budgets can be major pressure points in romantic relationships, and here at the HERself podcast, we want to cover these difficult topics and bring you the best experts and best information! Today we have Hannah Rein, CPA, financial educator, wife, and mother of two on the show today. Hannah’s goal on her platform, Financially Engaged, is to help people find the balance between living in the now while also investing for the future. She loves helping couples who want to make good money choices, but aren’t exactly sure where to start. Hannah is going to answer our hard-hitting questions like how often to have a budget meeting with your partner, where to begin investing if you’re in your 30s, how to deal with upcoming holiday spending, and more! We close out our interview with some rapid fire questions all about money we think you should know. Hannah has some really great financial resources and courses we think could be valuable to you, our listeners, so be sure to check out her website linked below for more information!

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Inspired by our recent project together, today’s episode is all about how we tackled decluttering Amy’s house! Amy felt her house was bursting at the seams in all the wrong ways - think overflowing closets, dresser drawers, toy storage, etc. In comes Abby to save the day! Having read all the books and listened to all the podcasts, Abby has taken all the information she’s learned over the years to create her own manageable and flexible method of decluttering to keep her home, and now Amy’s, a space that is clutter free and easy to keep tidy. We’re tagging it the “Abby Green Method” and she’s going to share her 4 decluttering steps with us during today’s discussion! Whether you’ve also read all the books like Abby and feel like an experienced declutterer, or you’re totally new at this and feeling overwhelmed with where to begin, our hope is that you are able to take away some of the tips from this episode and apply them to your own decluttering journey!

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Dr. Jasmine, our guest on today’s episode, did everything she could to check off her boxes on her timeline. But after struggling to conceive her first child, she expected motherhood to be smooth sailing from there. However, after the birth of her baby, Dr. Jasmine suffered from debilitating postpartum depression, anxiety, and insomnia. With her background as a clinical pharmacist with a doctorate in Pharmacy, Dr. Jasmine felt that even though she was clinically prepared to be aware of the signs and symptoms and treatment of PPD, it still didn’t make sense to her why she was walking through that hardship. Once she accepted her feelings, she sought help from a perinatal mental health therapist and decided to pursue studies to obtain her own perinatal mental health certificate to better understand what she and so many other women were struggling with. 

Now through that storm, she hosts a podcast called “Healing the Tigress” where she focuses on conversations and stories around Asian American Pacific Islander (AAPI) mental health. Her presence online has created a safe and honest space for other women to share their experiences and celebrate the meaning of “One and Won”. Today on our show, Dr. Jasmine is so vulnerable about her postpartum depression, anxiety, and insomnia experience and also shares with us how she came to the conclusion that one child was the best fit for her and her family. She explains how the societal saying of “One and Done” can be perceived and instead, provides a new and fresh reframe of “One and Won” to celebrate the joy of having one child. This concept leaves room for families to change their minds if they decide to expand their family in the future. We are so grateful for the honesty and openness Dr. Jasmine brings to today’s episode and hope you share this with someone you love who may need to hear today’s message. 

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We shared in our last check-in episode that this school year was going to bring big changes to both of our family’s lives. Today, we, Amy and Abby, wanted to revisit those changes and discuss how things are going now that we are a few months into the school year, as well as talk about how we practice self care during this season of motherhood.  

While today is a shorter episode, we still wanted to bring you, our listener, some tangible tips that we feel have made a big difference with prioritizing self care in our everyday lives. We talk about leaving space for quality family time, creating time to move your body and how that movement may vary during different seasons of motherhood, and how to tweak your daily routine by adding or removing habits that can support your well-being. 

We want to be good examples for our kids. And our kids watching us pour into them with an empty cup doesn’t set the greatest example. Fill up your cup mama, however you feel will fill you up best, and then pour into your family with renewed enjoyment and excitement for motherhood. Whether you are a stage ahead of us in motherhood, or a stage behind, we hope you found today’s episode helpful in some way!

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You cannot miss this episode! Cindy Hovington, PhD, mother of three, and creator of Curious Neuron is our guest on today’s episode. Cindy specializes in mental health and emotions and has made it her mission to support parents in developing skills and habits that will allow them to nurture their own well-being. She also helps parents to develop leadership skills, coaching skills, and learn science-based well-being tips to encourage parenting and emotional intelligence. We are diving into some deep and heavy topics today with Cindy, but you know here at HERself, it’s our passion to bring you the best information from the best experts. 

Soccer practice, dance class, play dates…the list goes on and on of the activities we do for our children. Cindy reminds us that the studies show if we continuously say “there isn’t enough time!” that it will eventually have negative effects on our mental and physical health. It’s so important to be mindful of how your family spends their time and find the balance that works for your family. Setting boundaries, knowing your limit, and having open communication with your family is key.

Gentle parenting has been a trending parenting style for the past several years. Cindy has really great insight to help us find the balance between being too permissive and being too authoritarian. Finding that balance is not only best for your children, but best for your mental health as the parent. Cindy has a special offer just for HERself listeners, so check out the links in the show notes for more information!

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We get into it ALL in today’s episode with Dr. Heather Finley! After struggling with her own digestive issues for nearly 20 years, Heather completed her training to become a registered dietitian and also has a doctorate in clinical nutrition. She understands first hand the impact that nutrition, lifestyle, and mindset all have on digestive health and now uses her passion for nutrition to help people struggling with bloating, constipation, and IBS find relief from their symptoms and feel excited about food again. 

Social media is constantly showing us the newest elimination diet, anti-bloating pill, or inflammation-friendly health trend. But is it really that easy? Heather gives us her expert opinion on what “normal” GI health should look like, factors that may be impacting your overall gut health, and how to help your bloating. Travelling seems to always bring on constipation due to many external factors like dehydration, less movement, diet change, etc. Heather gives us her favorite tips and tricks to ease your tummy problems while on your trips, but they are also totally applicable to at-home use too! 

Decreasing inflammation and elimination diets seem to be big trends online right now. We talk with Heather about how the gut can impact a lot of areas of our health, how to know if you’re experiencing inflammation, and whether or not you should try that new trendy elimination diet. The good news is that there is help from experts like Heather if you are experiencing any of the symptoms we talked about in today’s episode AND there is so much research happening surrounding gut health! Follow Heather for an expert’s guidance and the most up-to-date information on these topics!

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This episode is a bit different from our norm! Today we have a couple on the show! Stranz and Mallory Wolfgramm host the podcast “Make Marriage Work” and are here to talk with us about what they’ve learned as a couple over the years and techniques we can take away to have successful arguments and conflict resolution in our relationships. Mallory is a licensed therapist with a private practice who specializes in couple’s therapy and is the perfect guest to talk about this topic! 

We want you to know that every relationship has a conflict cycle and it’s perfectly normal to have arguments! And to really prove that theory, Abby and Amy get vulnerable and share some areas of conflict in their marriages and relationship challenges to get Mallory’s expert advice.  We also talk through Mallory’s controversial Instagram post about how she feels we should know our partner’s phone passcode. We really enjoyed today’s talk with Mallory and Stranz and feel this could have gone on much longer than time allotted for!

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