Human beings are reward-focused, and this can be extremely problematic when we don't feel appreciated. Our need for appreciation actually makes us more miserable. In this video, I'll show you three practical strategies to break free from feeling invisible and finally feel appreciated - even if the people around you never change.

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Depression treatments often fail because they focus too much on the mind, ignoring the body. Your brain is an organ first and an emotion-producer second, which changes everything about treatment. Living with treatment-resistant depression isn't just about finding the right therapist or medication. Understanding whether your struggles stem from physical health, self-talk patterns, or connection difficulties can completely transform your recovery journey. In this video, I break down six often-overlooked reasons why your depression might be stubbornly persistent. These insights come from 15 years of clinical experience helping people who thought nothing would ever work.

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Traditional therapy is failing the mentally ill community. The current system wasn't built for those battling severe mental health challenges. Insurance barriers and practice models push the most skilled therapists toward treating the "worried well." The harsh reality is that finding a therapist who truly understands chronic mental illness requires exhausting trial and error. In this video, I explain why most therapy techniques fall short for severe mental health issues. You'll learn why your past therapy experiences may have failed you and gain realistic expectations for finding the right help. If you're looking for a good therapist, you might enjoy this video on my criteria for choosing.

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Society tells us lost years are wasted years. In reality, these painful periods of mental illness are not our fault, but a natural outcome of battling an invisible enemy. My own decade-long struggle with mental health taught me that recovery begins when we stop blaming ourselves. Through this journey, I discovered that managing mental illness often requires doing the opposite of what our minds tell us to do. In this video, I'll show you why your "lost years" don't define your worth and share practical insights for moving forward. I'll help you understand that your struggles aren't a reflection of failure, but a testament to your resilience.

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Happiness isn't a natural state for everyone, and that's perfectly fine. I've spent decades fighting against my brain's inability to maintain joy. Interestingly, constantly chasing happiness makes you more miserable. My breakthrough came when I stopped fighting against my natural emotional baseline. In this video, I'll show you why accepting your unique emotional framework and focusing on less-leaky emotional buckets can create a more fulfilling life. I'll also explore how neurodiversity affects our emotional experiences and why traditional happiness-seeking might be holding you back.⁠

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Your messy home isn't a character flaw - it's your brain on survival mode. Research shows your brain actually develops differently in cluttered spaces, affecting everything from memory to relationship perspectives. Through my work with therapy clients, I've discovered that organizing your space isn't about perfection - it's about creating mental peace. In this video, I share six science-backed strategies to transform your living space and lift your mood.

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Relaxation techniques aren't failing you - they're just incomplete. Most experts only teach half the solution, leaving you stuck in an endless cycle of anxiety. Effective stress management requires both physical and psychological interventions. Your brain's natural stress response operates on multiple levels, demanding a more sophisticated approach. A portion of this video is in partnership with Happier. Happier is a meditation app made for those of us who struggle to find time, space, and belief that meditation can work for us. It’s not about “enlightenment culture” or becoming a guru. It’s simply made to help us experience the enormous benefits of meditation on a more regular basis. Happier is giving away free 1-year subscriptions to the app to those who have struggled with meditation in the past. Offer expires 10/30 at 11:59PM. Sign up today.

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Mental illness can make you feel like you don't belong in this world, and often lead to isolation and alienation. Isolation can lead to a worsening of mental illness, which can in turn lead to greater isolation. And on, and on. Society tells us disconnection from the world means we're broken. My journey through mental illness taught me disconnection is actually a natural defense mechanism. Living with depression and anxiety drove me to create mental barriers, including constant internal music and visual filters. These coping mechanisms helped me survive but ultimately deepened my isolation. In this video, I share three practical strategies that helped me rejoin the world without losing myself. Let me show you how to find balance between self-protection and meaningful connection.

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Happiness isn't humanity's default state. Some of us are wired differently, we require active effort to maintain emotional well-being.

Living with a happiness deficit feels isolating, especially when surrounded by naturally content people. As a psychologist I've discovered effective strategies for managing this unique brain type.

If you're constantly struggling to feel happy despite having "nothing wrong," your brain might be wired like mine - and I'll show you exactly how to work with it, not against it.

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• ⁠Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety⁠ (I have partnered with this brand):

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Pressure and stress motivate humans to get stuff done, but only to a certain point. After that point they become a liability - they can actually make you less likely to achieve your goals. Hard work, by itself, is not enough. You need strategy, which comes from understanding how your brain actually works.

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⁠⁠Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)⁠⁠

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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.

How you sleep matters. The way you feel and function during the day is a direct reflection of both the quantity and quality of your sleep.

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It's not just about how to get to sleep fast, but how to sleep better at night naturally.

And if you have 1 or more chronic mental health conditions (major depressive disorder, bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, PTSD), the stakes are higher for you to hit all the needed stages of sleep - getting the benefit of the full sleep cycle.

• ⁠Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly⁠⁠.

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• ⁠⁠My book: For When Everything is Burning⁠⁠

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⁠⁠Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)⁠⁠

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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.