Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation
Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.
Takeaways
· Change and disruption can be challenging.
· Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.
· Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.
· Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.
· Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.
· Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.
· Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.
Sound Bites
· "Change and disruption are difficult for me"
· "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"
· "The power of naming things and how validating it is"
· "It's the openheartedness really."
· "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Frustrations
08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility
25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility
34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs
40:39 Managing Expectations
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment
Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.
· Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.
· Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.
· Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.
· Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.
Takeaways
· Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.
· Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.
· Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.
· Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.
· Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.
· Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.
· Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.
· Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.
· Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.
· Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
· Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.
· Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
· Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.
Additional topics discussed:
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception
07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support
08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries
12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions
14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support
20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability
21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm
22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations
23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations
25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation
26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships
27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking
28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best
29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries
29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy
30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information
32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel
38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life
40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined
Summary
Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.
Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.
Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.
Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
Points made in this episode:
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic
01:36 The Wound of Too Much
06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy
07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females
10:16 Stimming and Accommodations
11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues
13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much
14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions
18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties
20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight
21:10 Personal Examples and Communication
23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest
24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm.
Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone.
Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things.
Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.
Additional takeaways:
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone
03:04 Trusting the Process
04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD
05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others
06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy
07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
09:13 Taking Care of Pets
11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships
13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension
16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting
22:30 Processing and Communication
24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance
26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace
28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.
· Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.
· Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.
· Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.
More about unmasking
Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity
12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles
26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking
30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative
35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection
36:06 Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
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Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Staying true to your authentic self is important when creating content.
Building trust and security in relationships takes time and vulnerability.
The value of a podcast is not solely determined by download numbers.
Interdependence allows for mutual support and growth in relationships.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
02:44 Struggles with Linear Content and Personal Experience
08:04 Shifting Focus to Relational Content
13:26 Building Trust and Security in the Relationship
21:18 Navigating Attachment Insecurities
25:24 Interdependence and Holding Space for Each Other
28:08 Communication and Vulnerability in the Relationship
31:20 Planning Visits and Considering Context
34:08 Conclusion and Gratitude
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
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Red & Green Flags in Relationships
Patricia discusses red flags and ideal qualities in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of honoring rhythms and self-care, as well as effective communication and conflict resolution. Patricia also addresses gaslighting, setting boundaries, and the significance of trust, honesty, and similar values in a relationship. She explores the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. The episode concludes with a reminder to embrace sensitivity and prioritize self-care.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Honor your rhythms and practice self-care in relationships.
Pay attention to red flags such as controlling behavior, lack of respect, and constant fighting.
Look for qualities like kindness, respect, trust, and effective communication in a partner.
Set boundaries and be aware of gaslighting in relationships.
Consider the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership.
Spend quality time together and ensure compatibility with each other's friends.
Red Flags:
Green Flags
Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Update
01:03 The Importance of Honoring Rhythms and Self-Care
04:00 Qualities to Look for in a Relationship
06:05 Communication and Conflict Resolution
09:33 Gaslighting and Boundaries
13:38 Equality, Support, and Independence
16:09 Trust, Honesty, and Similar Values
18:24 Attachment Wounds and Conflict Resolution
21:44 Spending Quality Time and Friend Compatibility
22:28 Conclusion
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
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Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding
Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.
Takeaways
Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery.
Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance.
Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.
Additional points discussed:
Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest
02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want
03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience
04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No
05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards
06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero
07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain
08:26 Communication Challenges with Children
09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values
11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation
14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings
15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives
18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded
19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps
22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way
25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans
26:27 Staying in Relationship Through Messiness
30:20 Having Grace and Humility in Relationships
32:01 Accepting Imperfection and Being Present
35:15 Wrapping Up and Expressing Love
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
To write a review in itunes:
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv
e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real
I talk about the challenges and complexities of friendships for neurodivergent folks, and the changing nature of friendships, the importance of reciprocity and communication. I discuss navigating difficult conversations, recognizing and addressing needs, and setting boundaries. I talk about the tendency to feel central in someone's life, and the challenges of accepting neurodivergence in relationships. I explore the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and honoring one's own needs in relationships.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Not all friendships are meant to last forever, and it's important to recognize that friendships come and go.
· Communication and reciprocity are key in maintaining healthy relationships.
· Navigating difficult conversations and setting boundaries is essential for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships.
· Recognizing and honoring one's own needs is crucial in navigating relationships.
· Understanding and accepting neurodivergence in relationships can be challenging but necessary for fostering understanding and connection.
Other Insights:
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
00:55 Challenges in Making and Keeping Friendships
02:02 The Changing Nature of Friendships
03:35 Reciprocity and Communication in Relationships
04:58 Recognizing the Lack of Reciprocity
05:58 Testing Relationships and Making Assumptions
06:56 Navigating Difficult Conversations
08:05 Recognizing and Addressing Needs in Relationships
09:21 Dealing with Resentment and Setting Boundaries
10:24 Navigating Relationships During Tragedy
11:44 Feeling Central in Someone's Life
12:41 Recognizing Support Systems in Relationships
13:40 Navigating Relationships with Different Perspectives
16:00 Missteps and Room for Growth in Relationships
17:21 Challenges in Accepting Neurodivergence in Relationships
18:52 Understanding the Nuances of Autism and ADHD
20:16 Navigating Relationships with Limited Understanding
21:43 Setting Boundaries and Ending Relationships
23:13 Processing Grief and Emotions in Relationships
24:21 Having Vulnerable Conversations with Loved Ones
25:46 Navigating Emotional Needs and Connection
27:30 Recognizing and Honoring Personal Needs
29:32 Navigating Decision-Making and Overwhelm
31:30 Communicating Needs and Boundaries in Relationships
33:34 Navigating Overwhelm and Self-Judgment
35:19 Summary and Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
To write a review in itunes:
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv
e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help
Patricia and Jen discuss their health updates and the challenges they have faced. They also delve into the pressure to be productive and the fear of not functioning. The conversation shifts to vulnerability and insecurity in relationships, as well as the process of learning to receive and ask for help. They reflect on the growth and healing that comes from navigating attachment wounds. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of not always having to do deep work in therapy.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation. They explore the importance of finding joyful movement and the impact of rest on their well-being. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of self-compassion and acceptance. They acknowledge the need to be kind to oneself and accept the challenges that come with it. They also talk about the practice of naming and addressing gremlins, which are negative thoughts or beliefs that can hold us back. By bringing these gremlins to light, they can be examined and dealt with. Lastly, they touch on the topic of protectiveness and support, highlighting the importance of being there for each other during difficult times.
Takeaways
Finding joy in movement can energize and fulfill us.
Rest is essential for rejuvenation and creativity.
Vulnerability and asking for help can deepen connections.
Navigating attachment wounds can lead to growth and healing. Practicing self-compassion and acceptance is crucial for personal growth and well-being.
Naming and addressing gremlins can help in overcoming negative thoughts and beliefs.
Being protective and supportive of others during challenging times fosters strong relationships.
Acknowledging and accepting temporary struggles can lead to personal growth and resilience.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Health Updates
03:11 Finding Joyful Movement
08:02 Struggles with Productivity and Pressure
13:10 The Importance of Rest
18:20 Vulnerability and Insecurity in Relationships
23:08 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help
28:27 Navigating Attachment Wounds
30:30 The Growth and Healing Process
33:01 The Importance of Rest in Therapy
33:53 Closing Remarks
33:58 Self-Compassion and Acceptance
34:46 Naming and Addressing Gremlins
35:04 Protectiveness and Support
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
To write a review in itunes:
Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com
Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/
Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber
Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv
e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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