Monique Koven is a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach and worked as a Social Worker for over 25 Years. As a survivor herself, she features conversations with Trauma experts & survivors to offer hope for the healing journey. www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com Disclaimer:The content on this podcast is not counselling advice nor a substitute for individual therapy. The content is for information purposes only. The information provided is not intended to be used as a replacement for medical and mental health advice. Follow the advice of your licensed mental health professional.
In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique Koven speaks with trauma therapist Gina Birkemeier about her book 'Generations Deep,' which explores the impact of generational trauma and the importance of healing. They discuss how family patterns shape our beliefs and behaviors, the significance of corrective experiences in healing, and the role of curiosity in breaking cycles of dysfunction. Gina shares her personal journey of recognizing and addressing inherited trauma, emphasizing the need for supportive relationships and the importance of not navigating this journey alone.
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Find Gina here: Gina Birkemeier, LPC, NCC
Gina's Book: Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy https://amzn.to/3X9ytPC
Generations Workbook: Generations Deep Journal: Write Your Healing Story
In this conversation, Monique and Dr. Maureen Gallagher explore the integration of Somatic Experiencing and Inner Relationship Focusing as powerful tools for healing trauma and understanding the inner critic. They discuss how these methods can help individuals build a compassionate relationship with their experiences, update old emotional learnings, and transform the inner critic into a supportive part of the self. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, the role of attachment in personal growth, and the potential for learning these techniques to enhance emotional well-being.
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About Our Guest: Dr. Maureen Gallagher is a Licensed Psychologist (NY, NJ), Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Faculty Member, Inner Relationship Focusing Trainer, Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor and a Relational Psychoanalyst. Her work and teaching are dedicated to the embodiment of psychotherapy and related healing disciplines, in which she integrates somatic awareness and the use of somatic intervention along with adult attachment work and a relational focus. She brings a broad range of experience and training to this endeavor, including Certifications in Somatic Experiencing, Inner Relationship Focusing, Relational Psychoanalysis, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Integral Somatic Psychology, SE Touch skills training and Biodynamic Cranial Sacral Therapy. Her clinical work integrates focusing, somatic experiencing, relational psychoanalysis and experiential and process oriented models of attachment theory. She has maintained a private practice for over 20 years. She is the founder of Embodying Psychotherapy.
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In this conversation, Monique welcomes back Dr. Lindsay Gibson to discuss the complexities of emotionally immature mothers and their impact on daughters. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, the need for empathy and connection, and the challenges faced by adult children in navigating relationships with such parents. The discussion also touches on healing strategies, the importance of supportive relationships, and the future of parenting emotionally mature children.
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Watch this episode on youtube
https://youtu.be/fthdfUk5WHE?si=X4qmjUrY5jbzT373
Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy
Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence
Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents
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This episode is a re release from a previous season.
In this conversation, Monique is talking with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems, (IFS) They discuss the model and its application in healing trauma, particularly childhood and complex trauma. Richard emphasizes the importance of understanding the 'self' within IFS, the process of unburdening parts of oneself that carry trauma, and the transformative potential of accessing one's inherent self. The discussion also covers practical techniques for working with protectors and exiled parts.
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https://ifs-institute.com/
The Internal Family Systems Workbook: A Guide to Discover Your Self and Heal Your Parts https://amzn.to/3Ky7nPf
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model https://amzn.to/4mUZHUF
Introduction to Internal Family Systems https://amzn.to/3VPnudK
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*This episode is being re released on September 30 to honour the National day For Truth And Reconciliation.
In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven speaks with Nakuset, an Indigenous woman who shares her powerful story of being a survivor of the 60s scoop and the impact of residential schools on her life and family. Nakuset discusses her journey of self-discovery, the challenges faced by Indigenous communities, and her work as the executive director of the Native Women's Shelter in Montreal. The conversation highlights the importance of healing, community support, and the need for accountability in addressing historical injustices.
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https://www.instagram.com/supacree/
Documentary: https://youtu.be/9P4iYYL4FYY?si=tayMiSmckkSWOe9C
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*This episode is a re release from a previous season.
In this conversation, Monique is talking with guest family therapist Sidu Arroyo about the critical aspects of emotional regulation, particularly for those with trauma histories. She emphasizes the importance of understanding that emotions are neither good nor bad, and that self-regulation is a skill that requires practice and co-regulation with others. The discussion also addresses the feelings of guilt and shame that parents may experience when they lose control, and the significance of repairing relationships with children after emotional outbursts. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for compassion towards oneself and the importance of creating a safe environment for emotional expression.
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Sidu Arroyo:
https://www.instagram.com/becomingathome/
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In this conversation, Linda Pevac shares her journey of healing through writing, discussing her three books that explore her experiences as an adoptee and the therapeutic techniques that have aided her growth. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's identity, the impact of trauma, and the necessity of embracing change for personal development. The discussion also highlights the nuances of the adoptee experience and the significance of creating a safe space for healing.
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Linda's new book: Choosing to Breathe
The Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Story
A Fire is Coming
Linda's website: www.emmastevenswriter.com
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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Tim Fletcher, who shares his journey from burnout to becoming a trauma counselor. Tim discusses the roots of complex trauma, the importance of emotional needs in childhood, and the long road to recovery. He emphasizes the significance of self-love, finding safe people, and the challenges of navigating emotions in complex PTSD. Tim also provides insights on tools for emotional regulation and the necessity of patience in the healing process.
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Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/llF501d9mkY?si=ywL7to0XUXnmPsJYTim's Website:https://www.timfletcher.ca/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/
Guest host :Dr. McNear's Website: https://markmcnear.com/
In this conversation, host Monique Koven has invited Dr Ingrid Clayton back to answer your questions. They explore the concept of fawning as a relational trauma response, discussing its implications on identity, relationships, and personal growth. They delve into the complexities of fawning, including its connection to chronic pain, dissociation, and the importance of setting boundaries. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-compassion and understanding in the healing process, as well as the role of environment in shaping fawning behaviors. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey towards authenticity and self-worth, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves.
Ingrid's new book:
Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back
IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/
Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/
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In this conversation,Trauma psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton shares her journey of healing from complex trauma and the significance of the fawn response in understanding relational dynamics. She discusses her experiences as a survivor and therapist, emphasizing the importance of recognizing fawning behaviours and their impact on self-identity and relationships. The dialogue explores the process of building self-trust, compassion, and the ongoing journey of healing, highlighting the need for a trauma-informed perspective in understanding these responses. Ingrid's insights aim to empower listeners to embrace their experiences and foster a deeper connection with themselves.
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Ingrid's new book:
Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back
IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/
Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/
In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, clinical psychologist and author Dr.Tian Dayton shares her extensive knowledge and experience in trauma, addiction, and recovery through the lens of psychodrama. She discusses her journey into psychodrama, its origins, and how it can be integrated into addiction treatment. The conversation highlights the importance of role reversal in healing, the impact of trauma on the self, and the development of a trauma-informed approach. Dr. Dayton also emphasizes the significance of sociometry and group dynamics in therapy, and how psychodrama can address fragmentation within individuals.
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About Our Guest:
Dr. Tian Dayton is a senior fellow at The Meadows and author of fifteen books including Treating Adult Children of Relational Trauma, Sociometrics,The ACoA Trauma Syndrome:, Emotional Sobriety, The Living Stage and Forgiving and Moving On. Dr, Dayton was formerly a professor of psychodrama at NYU. Dr. Dayton is a fellow of the American Society of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy ASGPP, winner of the Lifetime Achievement award, their scholar’s award, the President’s award and editor in chief of the Journal of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy and sits on the professional standards committee. She is also the winner of The Marty Mann Award, The Mona Mansell Award and The Ackermann Black Award. Dr. Dayton has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, Geraldo. For further information log onto tiandayton.com, RTR-sociometrics.com to learn more about RTR.
Newest Book: Growing Up with Addiction: How Adult Children of Addicts Can Heal Family Trauma, C-PTSD, and Codependency https://amzn.to/3V9eS0R
Tian's Website:
https://relationaltraumarepair.com/
Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear