Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

  • 32 minutes 10 seconds
    Don't lock yourself into a worse situation

    When you get into an emotionally abusive relationship, you have no idea what you're walking into. When you figure it out, you might have to make some tough choices. One of those choices might lead to getting deeper into something you know is bad for you. 

    12 March 2025, 1:52 am
  • 42 minutes 40 seconds
    Why abusive people need to maintain power and control over you

    Some people just won't stop being hurtful. Why won't they stop? Are they just terrible people we have to accept and move on? Power and control is their M.O. and it's important you know why. For some there is hope. For others, well, it may take a lot more than hope to see change.  https://loveandabuse.com

    21 February 2025, 11:40 pm
  • 44 minutes 23 seconds
    Those who hurt you have poor coping skills so give them a break... right?

    Hurt people hurt people, so we should have compassion when they hurt us, right? You know the answer and I know the answer. How does the person who is hurting you start to change and heal, though? Lots to unpack here. 

    5 February 2025, 11:31 pm
  • 49 minutes 13 seconds
    The gradual shift from who you were to who you became in the emotionally abusive relationship

    The person you were before the difficult relationship almost always looks and feels different than the person you became while in the difficult relationship. And losing that part of yourself may make you think there's no way back. Sometimes, you can't even remember who you used to be. 

    29 January 2025, 1:14 am
  • 48 minutes 4 seconds
    The growing resentment that can build when their hurtful behaviors never end

    When someone keeps hurting you, you might blame yourself and think if you were only better, they'd stop. But as their hurtful behavior continues, resentment builds and you start questioning everything about yourself.

    8 January 2025, 1:55 am
  • 29 minutes 47 seconds
    Are you the reason someone is hurtful to you?

    What is the cause of mistreatment in a relationship? Do you think it's possible you are reason someone is hurting you or trying to change you? If so, you need to listen to this episode. There are many reasons this is happening, but...

    11 December 2024, 9:40 pm
  • 26 minutes 51 seconds
    When someone destroys what makes you happy

    What do you do when someone shatters something that brought you joy? In this episode, I talk about understanding your limits in relationships and recognizing when resilience becomes a liability rather than a strength. It's important you know how to navigate toward making the right decisions for you and those you love.  

    26 November 2024, 2:58 am
  • 43 minutes 25 seconds
    What makes taking a break from the relationship work?

    Is there a path out of being stuck in the whirlwind of a toxic relationship? Maybe taking a step back and out of the situation a while will help you gain clarity and reconnect with yourself. What happens when you never get away from the toxicity, though? Can you ever get a clear mind? 

    12 November 2024, 12:16 am
  • 40 minutes 47 seconds
    When you can barely take care of yourself let alone give them what they want

    What if you're doing all you can to maintain your own health and well-being but you have someone in your life who a consistent drain on your mental and emotional health? Can you rebuild your energy or do you have to accept that it may never stop and you may have to make tougher choices about the relationship?

    20 September 2024, 2:12 am
  • 49 minutes 33 seconds
    When they shower you with love after they've done bad behavior

    How can you tell if your partner’s affection is genuine or a manipulation tactic? Love bombing usually takes place at the beginning of a relationship to create a strong bond between an abusive person and their victim. But it can also be used to get away with bad behavior in long-term relationships as well. 

    22 August 2024, 1:41 am
  • 17 minutes 44 seconds
    When you decide enough is enough - the first step isn't the last

    The victim of abusive behavior will eventually reach their breaking point. In that moment, they finally feel like they can take their life back. But they may still not be out of the woods yet during the transition from victim to empowered. 

    13 July 2024, 5:25 pm
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