The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni

  • 40 minutes 50 seconds
    Decluttering the overwhelmed brain
    If you find your mind feels like an overstuffed closet, and your actual closet is also overstuffed, I'll try to help you balance the mental and physical clutter in this episode. It's a special episode that strays away from the norm, but hey, out of eleven years of doing this show, one off the beaten path isn't going to hurt.
    16 February 2025, 7:02 am
  • 37 minutes 35 seconds
    When empathy is used against you
    Some people can be draining, especially if they play the victim after they've done bad behavior and expect you to empathize with them. Some people are very, very good at doing that. I talk about those people today.
    9 February 2025, 6:59 am
  • 47 minutes 26 seconds
    What can keep you stuck with the same results over and over again
    Our childhood coping mechanisms shape our adult relationships. Sometimes the old fears keep us from moving into new, better territory, keeping us stuck where we are. 
    2 February 2025, 7:00 am
  • 38 minutes 5 seconds
    Washing your hands of a problem that won't go away
    Some problems won't go away until you walk away from them. But walking away can be hard... sometimes impossible. And sometimes it involves sacrifice. And is walking away the only answer? 
    26 January 2025, 7:00 am
  • 39 minutes 47 seconds
    The pressure of sex and expectations in an established relationship
    Sometimes emotional and sexual expectations can be challenging to balance in a long-term relationship... but do they have to be? Or is intimacy just difficult with certain people who seem entitled to receive it instead of trying to build it from the ground up?     
    19 January 2025, 7:02 am
  • 1 hour 10 minutes
    Feeling like you have no choice but to submit to ungrateful, uncaring people
    You know the type: They do nothing and you do everything. In this episode, I share the struggle of a woman who has a rocky relationship with her adult daughter who moved back in with her. I share a lot of thoughts and lessons we can learn what we can do, if anything, when the other person in your life is making things unnecessarily harder.
    12 January 2025, 7:02 am
  • 42 minutes 51 seconds
    The partner who likes things as they are when you're just miserable
    When you live with your romantic partner... And their relatives... And your partner doesn't seem to want that to change... What are your choices? Very hard question! I thought I'd tackle that today. 
    5 January 2025, 7:02 am
  • 29 minutes 21 seconds
    The people who avoid you
    Are you trying to reconnect with someone who’s unresponsive? Maybe they want nothing more to do with you and maybe you don't know why? And maybe this episode gives you the final step to take with others who seem like all they care about is avoiding you. 
    29 December 2024, 7:02 am
  • 44 minutes 31 seconds
    The judgments you have about others that keep you unhappy
    If you’ve ever found yourself trying to change someone's habits or feeling frustrated by their behaviors, this episode might help you learn what it takes to deal with and maybe even heal with someone you just can't seem to fully accept. 
    22 December 2024, 10:06 pm
  • 57 minutes 15 seconds
    How your coping mechanisms may be interfering with your happiness
    How you cope with challenges affects... well... your whole life really! It can be helpful to know what your coping mechanisms are and where you learned them so that perhaps you can examine them and choose different responses in the future. If it were only that easy. 
    15 December 2024, 7:02 am
  • 45 minutes 2 seconds
    The massive, impossible, overwhelming circumstances that make life feel hopeless
    Problems can add up, compound, and create a situation so impossible to get out of that there seems to be no hope. Is it total defeat or is there anything you can do? 
    8 December 2024, 7:02 am
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