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Have you wondered what a narcissist was thinking? Why would they do what they do? Do they intentionally know they were being cruel?

This week, I’m going to re-release an interview I did with Dr. Carter in 2023. In it, he gave a unique perspective on the narcissist’s mindset and explained their worldview and defensiveness. Learn how they so effectively turn the tables on us, making us think we’re the crazy ones. 

Stay safe this week! I look forward to having you back for our new episode featuring psychologist Dr Erin Leonard next week. She will be joining us to discuss resiliency, vulnerability, and attachment problems with narcissists. 

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Have you noticed that too off family court becomes just another battle ground for the narcissist?

Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss post-separation of abuse. Most of us passionately want to protect our children from our toxic ex only to experience more helplessness in the mediation and courtrooms.

To learn how to tip the scales in your favor legally, join me for the Podcast Extra interview by becoming a paid subscriber. Learn the common mistake too many parents make, and what to do instead. Get immediate access here: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse?utm_source=edit-profile-page

Resources Referenced:
Emotionally Bulletproof Kids
https://strongerthanbefore.ca/webinar-bulletproof-kids

When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft: https://amzn.to/3Xbg8mj

Angela - Family Court Corner: https://www.familycourtcorner.com

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Are you being abused and don’t know it? Not only is society blind to narcissistic abuse, but so are most victims.

In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why narcissistic abuse is so difficult to spot, even to the victims, and the role this plays in the difficulty of getting help.

To learn how to break your silence and society’s denial in this week’s podcast extra interview with Lisa. You get access to this resource along with twenty other amazing interviews with experts like Dr. Les Carter and Bill Eddy. Get that help today: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse

Resources Mentioned:
More on Hannah Neeleman & the Ballerina Farms controversy: https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk

How He Gets Into Her Head by Don Hennessey: https://amzn.to/3WICNET

How I Met, Married, and Got Scammed by a Gold Digger TikTok series: https://www.tiktok.com/@kerrymcavoyphd/playlist/Gold%20Digger%20Series-7391205894526176031?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

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Every person who has dealt with a narcissist has been bullied.

This week, expert and author Bill Eddy joins me to discuss what we get wrong about bullying behavior and the practical steps we all should take to better protect ourselves from antagonistic and vindictive people.

To learn more about Bill Eddy and his work, visit: https://highconflictinstitute.com

And be sure to check out his latest book, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them - How to Stop Them: https://amzn.to/3Abr0r3

Is using the Gray or Yellow Rock method wise in custody or legal situations? Find out what Bill Eddy thinks in this exclusive interview, along with other practical tools and strategies. Get immediate access here: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ 

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Leaving is a moral choice. Often, breaking up or divorce is viewed as a personal choice, but it has ramifications and is character-defining. 

Rossana Faye joins me this week to discuss why sometimes it becomes a moral dilemma to leave our narcissistic partner. Deciding to divorce is often not as clear-cut for many of us. 

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These days, it seems like everyone is a narcissist. Is the label of narcissist or narcissistic harmful or helpful? 

This week, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the importance and impact of identifying narcissistic abuse and dysfunctional relationship dynamics. 

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Divorcing a narcissist often ends up a contentious battle. Victims come into court shaken up and traumatized, whereas their toxic ex appears poised and confident.

Today, two Toronto legal mediators, Amanda Silver and Alex Howard, are joining me. They are also the co-hosts of the Dirty Laundry Podcast. They are going to share how to protect your interests better when leaving a narcissist.

To learn more about Amanda and Alex, please see:
Podcast: https://dirtylaundry.buzzsprout.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJxM73RNPkuk5doIOcqelWA

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What if you're not going to leave a narcissist? What if leaving isn't possible? Is there a way to survive a toxic relationship?

Sometimes, leaving a toxic relationship isn't possible due to complex reasons. Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss why some victims find themselves trapped in a bad partnership and what to do if this describes your situation.

Resources Referenced:

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: https://amzn.to/4cx4cAe

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Have you heard of trauma dumping? It’s become a new way to attack victims for talking about their narcissistic abuse experiences.

Rossana Faye joins me as this week’s special guest to explore the importance of sharing your trauma and the role it plays in helping you heal from abuse.

And you don’t want to miss this week’s Podcast Extra where Ro and I discuss the differences between trauma reprocessing and trauma dumping. For this exclusive interview, subscribe here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse

Reference:
Betrayal Blindness by Jennifer Freyd: https://amzn.to/3VIEvFU

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

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In celebration of the upcoming holiday, this episode features three of our listeners’ favorites.

Listen in as Tara Blair Ball and I discuss:
1. How narcissistic abuse is different from emotional abuse
2. Why covert narcissists are difficult to spot
3. If it's true that narcissists make good lovers

Listen to the full episodes here:

S2 EP 33: Were you emotionally abused or narcissistically abused? Why the differences matter

S2 EP 38: Are you trapped by a covert narcissist? The top reasons why you're not spotting covert narcissists faster!

S2 EP 30: Are all narcissists sex addicts? What goes wrong with intimacy in the bedroom

References:
Defining Narcissistic Abuse: The Case for Deception as Abuse by Dr. Kristen Milstead

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The mind of a narcissist is wildly self-absorbed and oblivious to those around them. They are excessively focused on me, me, me.

Dr. Les Carter joins me to discuss what victims get wrong about the mind of a narcissist. He shares how our assumptions and misunderstandings create false hope, causing us to stay too long and to give too many chances.

To learn more about Dr. Carter: Visit Website & his Surviving Narcissism YouTube channel.

Dr. Carter's book: When Pleasing You Is Killing Me

In an exclusive interview on the Podcast Extra, Dr. Carter shares what he believes creates the shame-based narcissistic self. Become a subscriber to hear his opinions for only $5/month on either Substack or Ko-fi! Same great content in 2 different places: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphd

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