“Sometimes the initiation of conflict is really a bid for connection. It’s really a desire to figure out how we can get this connection going again. A thriving intimate relationship through conflict and repair, it’s vital for us. It’s vital for our health, for our longevity and for our children. But what we need as men in the world is a tool that we can use because we have to learn how to repair.” – Tait

Today on Men, This Way:

• 04:40 – The Illusions of Conflict
• 09:38 – The 3 real reasons why you and your partner are having arguments.
• 15:30 – The most important things to do when you don’t feel safety and trust
• 18:35 – Recognizing your behavior patterns to learn how to build connection
• 22:53 – How most men learned the worst strategies to handle conflict
• 30:00 – The 3 stages of conflict in healthy relationships
• 34:00 – Why 69% of the disagreements that happen inside of relationships are unresolvable
• 35:36 – The 2 different conflict motivations of Masculine & Feminine energies
• 40: 39 – The 4 Steps (4 S’s) to Mastering Conflict and Repair
• 47:11 – Details about our Elevate your Relationship program
• 47: 55 – How language needless can transform your relationship
• 55:35 – Something you can do if you are experiencing unresolved conflicts and are uncertain how to resolve them.

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com 
• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
• Email: [email protected] / [email protected] 

This show is produced by Synchro Social

 

“Getting into a relationship is one of the most courageous acts that men and women can have. Each of us are bringing our own pain and suffering into a relationship, and now trying to work it out between two couples. Not only that, everybody’s walking into a new relationship with a 100% breakup rate prior to getting into that relationship. So how do we be in a relationship, holding what we’re holding, and create safety and trust for one another in ways that matter, that can help us calm our nervous system? And nobody trains us how to do it.” – Tait

 

Today on Men, This Way:

• 4:00 – Understanding how women don’t feel safe in the world
• 14:10 –  Ways in which men unintentionally damage trust in relationships
• 22:00 – The gifts that women bring to a relationship
• 26:00 – The result of men’s lack of presence
• 29:50 – Breaking down the idea of “f*ck your feelings”
• 33:50 – How men don’t feel safe in relationships
• 40:00 – Identifying criticism delivered unskillfully
• 43:20 – The four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse
• 48:10 – Having freedom in relationship
• 53:15 – 3 steps to connect with your partner

 

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Roadmap to Thriving in Relationship: training.elevaterelationship.com
• Website: bryanreeves.com 

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
• Email: [email protected] / [email protected] 

 

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

“Pretending to have control where we don’t only leads to losing ourselves in the chaos…Embracing this, we learn to dance with uncertainty, finding true power not in control, but in acceptance and adaptability.” – Tait

 

Today on Men, This Way:

• 6:30 – The overwhelming complexities of life and finding power in surrender 
• 9:30 – The illusion of control and how embracing uncertainty can lead to greater power and freedom
• 17:20 – The importance of shifting from trying to exert power over others to sharing power with them
• 22:00 – Preparing your children vs. controlling them
• 26:40 – How men isolate themselves & understanding “Mr. Nice Guy”
• 34:40 – The paradox of power and a simple formula for creating change in life
• 40:40 – Power with vs. power over: “Everything in the forest is the forest”
• 43:50 – Living inside uncertainty and utilizing it as a tool 
• 46:00 – The practice of real surrender; allowing messiness vs. the need to “fix”
• 53:20 – Power leaks: letting go of behaviors that numb emotions, like pornography use; the impact of negative self-talk & compassion; setting boundaries and speaking up for oneself
• 1:03:30 – Vulnerability as a superpower
• 1:07:15 – How to add power to your life: the role of habits in standing in your power

 

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Referenced book: The Surrender Experiment
• Website: bryanreeves.com 
• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
• Email: [email protected] / [email protected] 

 

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

“One of the things we have to be willing to do as men is look at what the impact our actions and our lack of presence is having on ourselves and on the people that we care about most.” – Tait

 

Today on Men, This Way:

• Commitment challenges men face with fully choosing partners
• Presence in relationships & how inconsistency leads to a lack of safety and trust
• “Masculine Checkout Syndrome,” emotional and mental disengagement in men
• Reflections on how past behaviors impacted relationships
• Practical methods for improving daily connection and presence

 

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com 
• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight 
• Email: [email protected] / [email protected] 

 

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

“As men, we paint our faces the best we know how, and we go out into the world and try to be good men, fathers, workers, providers, lovers — and in large measure, because we don’t know what we’re doing, we end up leaving a trail of tears behind for ourselves and for the people that we love the most. It’s not because we don’t want to do better, it’s because we haven’t been shown how.”

 

Welcome to the relaunch of “Men, This Way,” where Bryan and his childhood best friend, Tait Arend, step into their roles as co-hosts, aiming to amplify the impact they have on men striving to live a good life.

 

Today on Men, This Way:

• The evolution of Bryan and Tait’s 40-year friendship
• Four masks men wear to navigate societal pressure
• Personal journeys toward honesty and vulnerability
• The importance of deep, trustful male relationships
• Personal Growth Formula: Insight plus action equals meaningful change

 

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com 
• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight 
• Email: [email protected] / [email protected] 

 

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are dying to discuss – intimacy, purpose, manhood, love, and much more. Men (and the women who love them) … this way.

Do you know why men tend to check out of relationships?

Do you know the 3 Pillars of Intimacy?

Do you have a tried and tested roadmap for creating a thriving relationship?

Welcome … I’ve got a fantastic episode for you today … I’m putting out less episodes at the moment because something big is about to happen for this podcast … and we’re on the precipice of a new era that will launch in just a few weeks! 

I’ve hired a new podcast production team that is powerfully challenging me to raise my game big-time in this space  … we’ve been stripping Men This Way down to rebuild it back up better … I was even challenged to think of a new name for the podcast, to make it more understandable and accessible to people … now, the name “Men, This Way” has so much meaning to me personally, but there was some concern that it didn’t make sense to anyone else, or that it suggested the podcast was only for men and not women, which although I certainly tailor this to speak more to men, I always want women to feel welcome here, too … so that was a concern … and so we came up with a bunch of different name possibilities … that process even infiltrated my dreams … my dream team even came up with an amazing title …  “Balloons for Men” … … yeah hahaha …yeah hahaha …. actually NOT going with that title … actually none of the hundreds of names we came up with felt any better than, Men, This Way, … so I’m excited to say, we’re keeping that name … but there’s another huge change upcoming that I’ll announce when we launch on Thursday, February 22, and that I’m personally sooooo excited about. I’ll just give you a hint: I hate doing this shit alone. 

And with that, let’s dive into today’s episode.

This is a rebroadcast of a different podcast I was recently on – The Art of Masculinity – hosted by my dear friend and past Men This Way guest, Johnny Elsasser. We had a profound conversation about my “thriving relationship road map” for men, and I wanted to make sure you heard it here. Johnny does a great job hosting and jamming with me on this topic that is of vital importance to any man who truly wants to thrive in his life.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

•Emotional intelligence and vulnerability in male relationships •The three pillars of intimacy •Navigating rejection and emotional expression •Strategies for deepening connection and fostering fulfilling partnerships •Unlocking the secret to unstoppable success in relationships through self-ownership ELEVATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP … is a 6-month live coaching experience for MEN challenged by an intimate relationship.

In this live 6-month coaching experience – in which you get direct, personal support from Bryan – you will learn how to better navigate conflict, create (and maintain) healthy boundaries, be your full authentic self in relationship to your partner, create emotional connection with your partner, practice the Art of Masculine-Feminine Intimacy (for deeper passion), and more.

If you’d like to be considered for this, please fill out this form and we’ll arrange a no-cost, no-pressure phone consultation ASAP to explore if this is a good fit for you:

https://forms.gle/UQ2WrHQreqBCcBNe7

Connect with Bryan:

•Instagram •Website  •Elevate Your Relationship Coaching Program For Men – A Free Training

Connect with Johnny:

•Instagram •Website

Do all relationships struggle?

What even is intimacy … really?

Why do so many men struggle with relationships and intimacy?

In this episode, my very special guest and I dive into these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life … And my very special guest is … my wife of 8 years … Silvy Khoucasian … 

Silvy is brilliant and bad-ass in her own right. She’s the host of the popular instagram community under her name, where she writes about attachment, healthy boundaries, relational dynamics … I’m constantly hearing from people, even my own clients often, who tell me they saw something she posted the other day that struck them deeply … 

Silvy is already a world renowned and highly sought after expert on the subject of healthy relationships and how to create and maintain them. 

She’s been interviewed by Vogue Magazine, Playboy Magazine, Allure Magazine, featured by Buzzfeed and countless other worldwide media.

In today’s episode Silvy and I dive into The 2nd Pillar of a Thriving Man: Intimacy … which is one of The 5 Pillars of a Thriving Man: Purpose. Intimacy. Family. Brotherhood. Spirituality. 

We talk about our relationship and each of our cultures, family systems, backgrounds that we brought into the relationship, and some of the challenges we’ve faced as a result of that. We did clash at the beginning of our relationship, a lot, even broke up after just 4 months, even still today sometimes we clash. But that is exactly what we both needed and continue to need to grow in our relational capacity to love. We fought hard against our differences early on, and it almost cost us both a great relationship.

We talk about all that and more, as we invite you into our love story, and our adventure in intimacy both with ourselves and each other … 

One last thing … 

The time is NOW to apply for “ELEVATE 2024 – My year-long coaching journey for men committed to thriving in life” … enrollment is open. I’m only inviting 10 men to go through all of 2024 with me, personally, on the adventure of a lifetime. And already 6 spots are taken. Only 4 spots remain.

If you’re ready to rise above the distractions & compulsions sabotaging you from living your fullness as a man.

If you’re done trying to lone-wolf it through life, bearing all your burdens alone … this is for you.

ELEVATE 2024 includes personal coaching with me for an entire year, alongside a select group of trustable men on the journey with you. We’ll also meet in person for a 5-day retreat mid-way through in a beautiful spot in nature. Through this experience these men, and I, will become your brothers for life. 

You can learn more and hear about past participant’s experiences at  https://bryanreeves.com/elevate 

Now, let’s get back to this encounter with my lovely Lady Silvy Khoucasian. This is a very special episode in which we both get vulnerable about our experience together. 

I strongly encourage you to stay tuned all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright, 

Let’s dive …

CONNECT WITH SILVY 

Instagram – @silvykhoucasian

Official Website – www.silvykhoucasian.com

CONNECT WITH BRYAN 

Instagram – @bryanreevesinsight

Youtube – @bryanreevesofficial

Facebook – @Bryanreevesofficial

Tiktok – @bryanreevesinsight

Do you live with an inspired vision guiding your way?

Have you set up accountability to help you achieve what you deeply desire?

Are you really even aware of what’s in your way of achieving it?

In this episode, my brilliant guest is again, none other than my life long childhood friend, Tait Arend, … and he and I mine these questions, and more for wise insights that could make a meaningful difference in your life.

Today’s conversation is an extension of our last episode together Episode 108 –  in which we talked about The 5 Pillars of a Thriving Man: Purpose. Intimacy. Family. Brotherhood. Spirit.

In that episode we also talked about the 5 things holding men back from truly thriving in life, cynicism, isolation, feeling disoriented, feeling numb, and feeling powerless.

Today, we’re going to give you some of our secret sauce … the road map we use to help men have what they really want in life. Collectively, Tait and I have over 30 years experience working with men on some of the deepest challenges men will ever face in life. This road map is what we’ve discovered works to help men achieve what they really want in life – beyond the material success – and what men really want is to feel fully enlivened every day, to be powerfully on purpose, and to feel deeply supported in our lives so that we don’t have to carry all our burdens alone.

In today’s episode we’ll share the ten steps we see as essential, that you can apply to essentially any dream or desire you have, whether it’s to start a business, grow a business, or simply have a great relationship, or just feel great everyday no matter what is going on around you – these ten steps are the essential recipe for achieving and having whatever it is you want. 

Now, I know ten steps may sound like a lot … like what happened to the 3 point plan or the 5 step process or maximum 7 steps please …. Lol … well, sure, there’s lots of maps out there that challenge you to dream big and act big, but what I like about our unique roadmap is, as you walk these 10 steps, in addition to getting clarity around your vision and taking meaningful action and all that important stuff, our journey also brings you face to face with the things that are holding you back, the wounds and blindspots that live in your shadow, the resistance that is sabotaging you and possibly the ones you love, too. It requires you to be honest with yourself about where you may be lacking in skill, or insight, and to get accountability and powerful support with people, mentors, guides, fellow journeyman, who can actually help you get where you aim to go. So, while there’s lots of conveniently 3-step plans out there, our roadmap effectively brings you face to face with yourself, for you are both your greatest ally, and your greatest adversary.  That’s all I’ll say for now … Tait and I will dive deeper in today’s episode on how to be fully enlivened, powerfully on purpose, and feel deeply supported. 

… Speaking of which, 

At the time of this recording, I only have 4 spots left for my ELEVATE 2024 coaching adventure for men committed to thriving in life …

If you have any curiosity about what it might look like to journey alongside a small group of trustable, inspired men, including myself, I strongly encourage you to learn more about, and if you dare, apply for “ELEVATE 2024” … I’m only inviting 10 men to go through all of 2024 with me, and 6 spots are now taken … might even be 7 by the end of today.

So … If you’re ready to rise above the distractions & compulsions sabotaging you from living your fullness as a man.

If you’re done trying to lone-wolf it through life, bearing all your burdens alone …

If you’re ready for a big breakthrough in your relationship, or around getting clarity about your purpose, or overcoming some persistent challenge in your life that has you stuck, or feeling unfulfilled …  

Then … ELEVATE 2024 may be for you.

It includes personal coaching with me, alongside a select group of trustable men, and we’ll meet in person for a 5-day retreat at a beautiful place in the mountains of western North Carolina. Through this experience these men, and I, will become your brothers for life. 

Learn more and apply at https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

CONNECT WITH BRYAN 

Instagram – @bryanreevesinsight

Youtube – @bryanreevesofficial

Facebook – @Bryanreevesofficial

Tiktok – @bryanreevesinsight

In this episode, my brilliant guest is Michaela Boehm.

Michaela Boehm is one of the most influential and wise teachers who’s work has profoundly influenced my life. I was fortunate to study with her personally over the course of about 3 or 4 years. I was certified by her as an “Intimacy & Attraction” workshop teacher. She’s taught me so much about sexual polarity, relationship dynamics, embodiment, and also how to be an ethical teacher – and there are a lot of unethical, immature, overlysimplistic, teachers coaches influencers in the world today.

If you’ve never heard of Michaela … then you’ve obviously not followed Gwyneth Paltrow’s relationship journey … I’m just kidding … but also not … because Michaela actually is known as the intimacy coach to the stars … her publicly acknowledged clients include Gwyneth Paltrow and Will Smith, which is cool but what’s most impressive to me about Michaela is that she combines degrees in psychology and extensive clinical counseling experience with in-depth training in the yogic arts as a classical Kashmiri Tantric lineage holder … So, Michaela’s approach to intimacy and relationships empowers her students through an eclectic mix of education, experiential exercises and guided explorations sourced in both eastern and western realms of knowledge and tradition. She’ll share a bit of her extensive background in our conversation – some 35,000 client hours over decades of working with not just Academy Award–winning actors, producers, business pioneers, and multiple Grammy Award–winning musicians, but also for many years working in clinical settings with high-trauma clients.

Now, just to let you know … our conversation starts off broad and philosophical; and truly fascinating, as her knowledge of human dynamics and relational dynamics is vast and deep! She takes us into the original origins of the terms masculine and feminine, and helps us understand why those terms actually can be harmful when rigidly applied to human relationships; especially the way so many online coaches and influencers are attempting to do these days.

In the latter half of this episode, we dive into practical applications of sexual challenges that many couples face when one or both partners don’t know how to just be in their bodies … and these days, truth is, MOST of us don’t really know how to be in our bodies. So if improving your sexual experiences is something you’re interested in, definitely stay tuned to the end of the episode as Michaela shares profoundly useful, and practical understandings of what makes for great sex. If you’re in a relationship where you or your partner often don’t feel interested in sex, or sex has become a struggle, this is a rich conversation, and I think you’ll enjoy it and be served well by it.

One last thing … 

The time is NOW to apply for “ELEVATE 2024 – My year-long coaching journey for men committed to thriving in every domain of life” … enrollment is now open. I’m only inviting 10 men to go through all of 2024 with me, personally, on the adventure of a lifetime. And already 3 spots are taken. 

If you’re ready to rise above the distractions & compulsions sabotaging you from living your fullness as a man.

If you’re done trying to lone-wolf it through life, bearing all your burdens alone … this is for you.

If you’re ready for a big breakthrough in your relationship, or around getting clarity about your purpose … this is for you.

ELEVATE 2024 includes personal coaching with me for an entire year, alongside a select group of trustable men on the journey with you. We’ll also meet in person for a 5-day retreat mid-way through in a beautiful spot in nature. Through this experience these men, and I, will become your brothers for life. 

Get the details and, if you dare, apply at https://bryanreeves.com/elevate 

CONNECT WITH MICHAELA

Michaela’s Official Website

CONNECT WITH BRYAN

Bryan’s Official Website

In this episode, my brilliant and inspired guest is none other than Tait Arend. Tait is my business partner in “Men, This Way,” and my co-faciltator for the last 3 years in the men’s work I’ve been hosting for men all over the world. He and I together have stewarded around 50 men through our ... Read more