Perfection is a big f*cking fat lie.

I know. It’s tough. Every day, that little voice in your head whispers: “If you just do everything right, you’ll avoid pain and only feel immense pleasure.” And this belief is holding you hostage. (Just like it did to me, for years while TTC.)

This BELIEF is making your journey feel like an uphill battle – and no matter how hard you push for “perfection,” your dreams of pregnancy will always seem just out of reach.

I’m calling out the myth that has you stuck, confused and blaming yourself,, and I’m bringing in someone who cracked the perfectionist code. 

Meet Eva – the woman who thought a perfect career, house, body, and even a “perfect” baby would bring her peace. For years, she ignored her nervous system’s signals, pushing for that impossible perfection.

And what did she get in return? Exhaustion. Shame. And a constant feeling of "not enough."

But then Eva joined my program, Fertility Mind-Body Mastery (link here Vanessa), and everything (slowly) shifted.

Here’s what she learned:

• You are not broken. (Like, actually.) She realized while being a part of the FMBM community and hearing other women’s coaching, that your thoughts and struggles are normal and not a sign of something wrong with you. It's just cultural conditioning trying to sell you a lie.

• Pain is not the enemy. It’s part of life. Stop trying to avoid it – feel it, process it, and watch it pass way faster.

• You are allowed to rest. It’s not about pushing harder, it’s about listening to your body and honoring what it truly needs.

• Perfection is overrated. You’ll never be perfect. But you are already worthy of everything you want – right now.

Eva now knows how to show up for herself – even when things feel messy. (She gives plenty of examples of this in the podcast) And guess what? She got pregnant with a baby girl inside the program

If you’re utterly exhausted striving for the unattainable and ready to finally let go of the pressure to be perfect, it’s time to get on board.

Listen to this week’s podcast now: Imperfect and Still… Got Pregnant, and hear Eva’s in depth, super vulnerable full story.

Then, make 2025 the year you stop trying to “do it all right” and start embracing the messy, powerful, beautiful woman you already are. Join Fertility Mind-Body Mastery today.

You don’t need perfection. You need you.

Here’s a question for you: When you think about your fertility journey, what comes to mind? The tests, the memories, the treatments, the hope and disappointment... all of it, right?

But what if I told you that the real key to navigating this journey isn’t just about those things? What if the missing piece to creating the life you want is something a little more unexpected? And deeper?

It might sound a little strange, but hear me out.

In the first Fertile Ground podcast episode of my Self-Love Series, I’m diving deep into the one thing that has the power to transform how you approach not just fertility—but your life as a whole. It’s not something you can just Google or buy in a bottle, and it’s definitely not another “hack” or quick fix.

The medicine: It’s learning to truly love yourself – even… or better put especially in the hard times, the triggers, the times when you really need… you. 

And I don’t mean the “treat yourself” kind of love. It goes beyond taking a bubble bath. I’m talking about the kind of compassionate self-love that helps you feel safe in your own skin, trust your body, and—believe it or not — attract (not chase) the outcomes you truly desire.

If you’re feeling like you’ve tried everything on your fertility journey, but still haven’t found peace, or if you’re just exhausted by the emotional rollercoaster… then this episode is for you.

This isn't about feeling good enough once you’ve reached some milestone or goal. It’s about being enough, right now—on the journey and realizing that when you embrace yourself fully, your body can actually relax, heal, and flow in a way that might surprise you.

Curious to hear more?

Click here to listen!

This week, I interviewed Kari on the Fertile Ground podcast – a woman I’ve never personally worked with – but I admired on social media for years while she so openly navigated trying for baby #2 as an influencer online.

Something was different about her… 

She seemed to give less fucks. She had immense vulnerability, but a ton of confidence. Two qualities that are hard to come by on the TTC journey (and embodying these 2 qualities is something I actively teach women inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery.)

I asked to interview her on the podcast because I thought, “MY PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW HER SECRET to giving less fucks.” EVEN when you’re approaching your 40th birthday!  

She describes her journey, her thoughts, her unique perspective… very well. 

Kari’s story isn’t just about fertility—it’s about life and trusting yourself through all the highs and lows. 

On this week’s podcast, here’s what you’ll discover:

How to own your pace and block out “hurry up” culture.

Setting boundaries that protect your peace (this one’s huge!).

Embracing both pain and pleasure, right here and now.

Powerful no BS guidance for TTC women at 40.

Listen to this podcast – especially if you feel stuck, alone, or pressured to “figure it out” ASAP. Kari’s story is a reminder that it’s okay to move at your pace and listen to what you need.

Click here to listen and get ready for an episode full of raw insights, resilience, girl talk and even a few laughs.

My wonderful client was worrying about making the “right” decision. She was thinking about switching jobs, but had a lot of fears… What if this is the wrong decision? How do I know if it’s the right decision? What if I fuck everything up? How do I know I can trust myself?

 

Today – you’re in for a treat because I’m releasing a 10 minute clip from our Fertility Mind-Body Mastery call for this week’s new Fertile Ground podcast. This will give you a really great idea of what it’s like to be coached by me inside of our group coaching

 

️You’ll notice that on the calls, you get all the time you need. 

️The calls are not super serious. We cover a lot of ground and get straight to the point, but the process is really joyful.

️Why Fertility Mind-Body Mastery is about building trust in YOU. It’s not about needing me. It’s about knowing that you have everything you need inside of you. This program teaches you just how brilliant you are.

️We don’t just coach on fertility. We coach about anything and everything. It all relates to fertility. Because fertility = LIFE!

 

On this week’s new podcast: Stressed about making the right decision? You’ll learn: 

 

• How to chart uncertain waters.

• Why perfectionism keeps you stuck. 

• How other categories of your life can apply to your fertility journey. 

• How my coaching helps you let go of control. 

• You’ll learn that I don’t guide you to the “right” answers, but help you reveal the answer from your higher self.

 

Listen now!

 

TTC for years feels… well… unfair, unclear and kinda unbelievable.  

I’m sure you’ve tried almost everything — but despite your efforts, still find yourself counting yourself out each month. If this is you, you’re gonna want to tune into the newest Fertile Ground podcast… 

Imagine this: You’ve been on this rollercoaster for years, you’ve peed on the sticks, you’ve taken your temps, you’ve spoken to psychic’s and you’ve kept your feet up high after sex (yup, been there!). 

But now after years of TTC, you’re not even bothering to do much of what you started doing when you were just a wee baby TTC,  because it just feels like what’s the point?

Trust me, I get it. After 8 long years of trying, that feeling is so real. The pressure to try something new, to get it perfect and that fear of getting your hopes up after years of rejection— it’s a lot! BUT…

What if I told you that the key to turning this around isn’t about trying harder? It’s about opening your heart again even if it’s terrifying.

In this episode – Rediscovering hope after the long haul –  I dish out some real talk on why simply having sex doesn’t mean you’re truly open to getting pregnant. Spoiler alert: It’s all about vulnerability, and yes, this episode might be a bit of a big sister kick in the ass (in the most loving way, of course!).

We’ll explore how to create a safe space for your heart, why it’s crucial to embrace the uncertainty of the TWW, and how to infuse some joy into your life right now—because you’re worthy of it (even if you don’t feel like you are )!

Curious? I promise you won’t want to miss this.

 Click here to listen to the episode and get ready for some laughs, insights, and maybe even a few tears.

Hit play, and let’s dive in!

 

To the outside world, Ingrid’s life looked organized, normal and joyful – but internally, she was feeling lost, alone and living in her head.

After trying fertility teas, frantically researching the “next things to try” and experiencing 2 heartbreaking miscarriages – she knew she needed to try something different that wouldn't cause her more anxiety. 

Having a scientific, logical perspective on life – Ingrid was curious about my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery but was scared about something…

She was worried about the vulnerable piece. She feared what would happen in our group coaching calls and if she would belong and feel safe after everything she’d been through. Which in my opinion is super valid and it's why I share with you these types of podcasts. 

In this week’s Fertile Ground podcast episode, Ingrid shares a very honest perspective of what her time inside of Fertility Mind-Body Mastery was really like. 

Ingrid bravely and vulnerably reveals with you: 

• How she went from a self-proclaimed control freak… to a totally surrendered state. (Even when her hubby was wanting to “do more”) 

• The very specific way she knew she was on the right track, even though she hasn’t seen any physical proof yet. 

• What finally clicked to help her get pregnant naturally (and is now 22 weeks pregnant!) 

She says, “I’m very fact driven and I often think – if I can understand concepts of surrender with my brain then it’ll work – but when you actually properly embody surrender in your body… it feels like the most amazing breath out. And like this weight that is taken off of your shoulders. It’s a peace and calm that I had not felt in such a long time.”

Learn how she did it and how exactly you can do it too, in this week’s episode. 

Listen now!

Have you ever caught yourself wondering if all the actions you’re taking—doctor visits, acupuncture appts., constant diet adjustments, or endless google/instagram research — is truly helping? 

Or… are they just distractions from deeper feelings you might have about yourself and your fertility? 

I spent 8 long years caught in that loop, thinking that if I just did more, I’d finally get what I wanted. But the truth is, it wasn’t about doing more… it was about something MUCH deeper

In today’s kick off episode of the new season of the Fertile Ground podcast – we dive into a crucial question:

 Are you taking action towards your baby, from love or from a wound?

I share my own struggles with this question, and how I learned to take action from a completely different energy that I believe made the journey 1000 times easier, made me happier AND more fertile.

This isn’t about shaming yourself for feeling overwhelmed or lost. It’s about recognizing that you can shift your energy from a wounded state—where you believe you need to prove your worth with a positive test—to a loving one, where you learn to embrace who you are, quirks, diagnosis, years TTC and all.

Trust me when I say: This particular topic inside of this podcast will save you years of heartache.

Curious? You’ll discover powerful steps to start choosing love over fear, including:

1. 3 steps to take to take action from love over a wound. And how to know the difference.

2. Why your monkey mind is full of shit. And how to spot the BS.

3. 3 questions to ask yourself to build your self-worth. Again, this is what gets you off the TTC

By the end of this episode, you’ll not only feel more clear-headed but also more connected to your body. Plus, I share how you can dive deeper into this work with my program, Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. Imagine waking up every morning feeling like you’ve already found what you’re looking for, even though you’re not pregnant… YET! 

Please don’t miss this episode. 

Listen now and let’s journey together.

I was coaching my radiantly pregnant (45 year old) mama inside of our FMBM coaching call, and she had been sold the same lie that I was while TTC.    That pregnancy (and motherhood) are a walk in the park and that you should be beaming with gratitude 24/7 and that everyday you should feel like you’re JLo in the middle of one of her romance movies. Cute, bubbly, daily blow-out hair style and almost fearless.   So when we get pregnant – and we wake up dry heaving with just enough energy to put together a quick bread and cheese sammie, while anxiously anticipating the next ultrasound – we wonder if there’s something that we’re doing wrong.    Luckily for my client, all the tools she’s learned to become pregnant, she is now applying to pregnancy. She’s primed her nervous system for pregnancy, before it even happened. She’s feeling more equipped for the sensations she’s experiencing in pregnancy.    Here’s one thing I want you to take in and if you do… things can change for you real fast:   Your fertility journey is here to expand your energetic capacity for pregnancy – by training your nervous system to tolerate a greater range of sensation.   This is important to know because we all experience challenges, intense emotions and uncertainty while TTC. And we respond to these experiences with resistance and thoughts like, “This shouldn’t be happening to me.” or “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” or worst, “I can’t do this.” when you absolutely can ❤️   These sacred moments are grooming your mind and body for conception.    I recorded a podcast – Expanding your nervous system capacity for pregnancy – to explain more deeply what I mean, how to do it and how my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery was designed to prime your nervous system for both peace and pregnancy.    This one will blow your mind and make your life a helluva lot easier.    Listen now!

One of the main teachings inside of my book, Fertile Ground, is that: 

 

There are 1000’s of different paths you can take to conceive your baby

 

The problem is that we get caught up in how we’re supposed to do it according to culture and the mainstream fertility industry. 

 

For example, think about how people usually talk about getting ahead in education and business. Most people will tell you the way to go is to head off to a four-year college and get that degree. But there are tons of other routes, like vocational training, online courses, or just learning on your own. 

 

Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs are both college dropouts. Beyonce and Oprah didn’t even bother.

 

There is another way. Life is a LOT more abundant than that one, narrow path culture convinces you to take.

 

Problem is, most people stick to the traditional and “acceptable” way of doing things, even though there are plenty of other paths that will lead to a similar (if not better) destination. 

 

We’re trained to do this, even if the mainstream path causes: 

 

• Burnout

• Stress

• Overwhelm 

• Or just doesn’t feel right.

 

This week’s podcast is to reveal to you that there is another way to your baby. Another approach. 

 

I know – first hand – how scary it is so go against how everyone else is doing it. 

 

But I also know – first hand – that I would not be where I am today, if I continued to follow what everyone else did. 

 

Me and my nature were not made for the normal way of doing things. And if you’re reading this, I don’t think you were either.

 

We’re safe to be different. 

Ready to feel the relief? Click here to listen to this week’s podcast and build the safety you need to do things your own damn way.

As you’re reading this email, I’m most likely sleeping, meditating, oracle card reading or listening to 528 Hz beats while going pen to paper

 

This mama needs a break. I need a break away from producing, promoting, posting, doing, blooming. 

 

And I ain’t got no shame. 

 

After my book launch and a recent death in my family which has left me quite heart broken, my body is feeling burnt out. And to me, that means, I need (not want… need) a retreat inward.  

 

Of course, my socialized self is tempted to bypass this very real, very necessary call to rest. 

 

But I’m listening. Because I know that this time and space inward, is where I recharge and receive the most bang on guidance about next steps in my life.

 

I will never find what I’m looking for, outside of myself. 

 

I recorded a podcast this week where I share more about this decision, because too many of us are attempting to bloom all year round. When a retreat inwards, could be the exact medicine you need to get happy and/or get pregnant.

 

You are an extension of nature. You have this code inside of you that knows what you need to thrive, to grow (yourself and that belly) and to be the best version of yourself. 

 

But you miss this. YOU. MISS. THIS... when you don’t take the time to fold inward and hear what nature wants for you.

 

To learn how to do this, listen to this week’s podcast. 

 

The code of your nature has been patiently waiting for you. 

 

My husband Dan attended a work conference a couple weekends ago in Banff, Alberta.    It was a gathering of female physicians with a focus on mental health.    I wasn’t there. But it was a shock to Dan that so many women are struggling getting their partners on board with the day to day tasks that make adulting feel so hard.   Women do so much. It’s called the “invisible workload” and it encompasses the intangible and often unnoticed tasks and responsibilities involved in managing a household and even more so in your case, the fertility journey.    It’s very common for women to  struggle to create a more equal role of responsibility on the fertility journey. Not sharing the responsibility of this journey with your partner adds a ton of pressure to the woman, while also making her feel fully responsible to “make it happen.”    This week, I interviewed my husband Dan on the Fertile Ground podcast to create common ground towards a solution. I’m so excited for you to listen! (And omg can I just tell you – I am so in love with this man.)   Men are different. They think and do things differently. But this doesn’t mean we can’t come together to achieve our goals and live a beautiful life… where we take on equal roles to make sure everyone is rested and happy   TBH, making this transition to equality wasn’t easy for Dan and I. But you can listen and learn from our mistakes   This week you will learn the 3 steps on how to create more equality in your partnership:  

• Accept that men and women are different (and why this isn’t a bad thing).
• Disarm each other when you get activated. 
• How to ask for what you want and need from each other. 

  You’re gonna LOVEEEE this episode!    A weight is going to be lifted off of your shoulders.    The pressure isn’t yours to hold mama bear.   Listen now!