Today's podcast is all about being a powerful advocate for yourself at the fertility clinic. And... if things aren't going swimmingly, this is my plea, to please be the squeaky wheel.

Is it a sign from the universe or something else? I know that when I was on my fertility journey, at the start there, there were MANY times when I questioned whether the universe was sending me a sign that I wasn’t meant to be a mother.

Years later, as my entire emotional wellbeing has changed, I know better.

And just the other day I caught myself saying to a friend that I was receiving all of these signs from the universe… before then ‘resetting’ in my mind and asking myself the truer, deeper questions that I needed to ask.

Tune into today’s episode and see (especially right at the end) how to truly know what to do when you think you’re seeing signs all around and also how our brain influences what we see.

And… if you’ve seen, we’re about to close the doors on The Reset program. If you’d like to know more, click here

This is for anyone who has tried meditating, but still feels heavy under the weight of trying to conceive, and why meditations might not be working for you.

Over the years I’ve worked with hundreds of women in my programs, previously The Fertility Warrior Intensive but now my program is called The Reset and… it’s been really interesting because so many of the women I’ve worked with are… just like me.

Type A personalities.

I was the type who really and truly struggled with:

Not being able to hard work myself into getting pregnant

Feeling out of control in my life and not knowing what my future would look like

And so many of the women we’ve worked with are exactly the same.

My programs haven’t supported them with education on getting pregnant because honestly, the majority of women, haven’t needed it - being educated hasn’t been the problem - everyone is already (by and large) taking the supplements, eating a healthy diet, knows when they’re ovulating.

And almost everyone has also already tried meditating to feel better.

For some it helps a little, for some it has made them feel more anxious (which has then often led to them feeling like they’re doing it wrong or they’re broken). So spoiler alert - you’re not broken… but meditating might not be right for you, or might not be enough.

Tune into today’s podcast to learn more about:

The 5 reasons guided meditations might not be working for you

What might be a better strategy for women who’ve experienced trauma

The 3 pillars we focus on in my program, The Reset

And don’t forget, if you haven’t already - make sure you jump in to catch my free masterclass on how to cope with negative pregnancy tests here.

We’d love to invite you to our free Masterclass

How to cope with negative pregnancy tests (and other setbacks), regardless of whether you’ve been trying to conceive for 6 months or 6 years.

Tickets are free, but limited.

Register and get yours at robynbirkin.com/masterclass

This podcast is jam-packed with practical advice and tips on what to reply when they ask when you’ll get pregnant…. And are actually secretly trying to conceive, but it might be taking longer than you anticipated.

You know… those family functions, milestone birthdays with friends, or even work functions and things shift when they ask you this.

In this podcast I talk about:

• What it felt like for me when I was asked this question
• Some actual phrases you can use  (and the direction to think about in advance)
• What you can say to work to let them know you need some flexibility
• One thing you might not have considered that could be super helpful in letting people know gently

Don’t forget to get your free ticket to my upcoming masterclass here, or put your name down on the waitlist for The Reset so you get first dibs (and best rewards) here.

One of the moments etched into my mind from my season of trying to conceive was a friend’s birthday party and it was one of many times that I felt sad.. And just deflated by a friend’s pregnancy.

I was still recovering from hyperstimlation and a medical miscarriage and the last thing on earth that I felt like doing was celebrating… and so while everyone else did, I dragged myself along with a big water bottle…. And while they all dressed up… I just wore a black summer dress.

This was my rock bottom season, and yet there she was, absolutely gorgeous and glowing with her four month pregnant belly.

• In this podcast, I talk more about this story and what it felt like for me
• My take on jealousy
• The reframe that helped me feel better.

One of the biggest misconceptions that I work through with clients is that as soon as you get pregnant, the anxiety melts away - and I feel really passionate about not promoting that myth…. Because I’ve seen too many times that it keeps us stuck in not seeking help. Instead… what it does… is stop us from developing true emotional coping skills that will support us through pregnancy, birth and beyond.

On today’s podcast I talk about:

• What getting pregnant looks like and what to expect
• How getting help might change once you’re pregnant and what that looks like
• How to take charge of your pregnancy now.

What is the best way to help your partner through infertility and loss… particularly if you’re also struggling with it all yourself?

Listening to this podcast could be a combination of many different folks! It could be husbands, wives, same sex couples - and within that, differing dynamics of energy.

It hurts, truly to see your partner really struggling with navigating next steps… and just life… while they’re trying to conceive and working through infertility, pregnancy loss and generally disappointment month after month, while often being expected to continue on with their life (with potentially other people not knowing about what they’re going through) as if they aren’t going through the biggest upheaval of their lives.

So what is the number 1 way to support your partner through infertility, pregnancy loss and other factors in TTC that make it incredibly emotionally hard.

On today’s podcast, I talk about:

• The differences between men and women
• The research on the emotional toll and how it affects men and women differently (but also in some circumstances similarly)
• The different coping strategies (and which ones have been proven more successful for men vs women)
• Lastly, the number 1 thing you can do to support your partner through infertility.

On today’s podcast I talk about 7 really compelling reasons why you might decide to shift your focus to, and invest in cultivating a strong mindset, and some of these are things you may not have thought of before.

When I talk about investment, I’m not just talking about money (although obviously sometimes things cost money! ha!) but I’m also talking about…. Shifting your mental load and focus, prioritising your time and investing in being open to change.

Truly… the way you’re feeling and dealing through infertility, loss and trying to conceive, can have a positive ripple effect throughout your entire life… not just for what is going on for you now.. But in terms of the future you and any future setbacks or challenges you experience in the future.

Tune into today’s podcast and let me know what you think. I’m so humbled that so many of you listen to me every Wednesday. A BIG thank you. Here’s 7 reasons to develop a strong mindset through infertility.

We had a support call in our Fully Supported community (we have them weekly FYI - and Fully Supported is my membership program for folks who've completed The Reset and want more resources, support and community. You can learn more about The Reset here). But on the call I always open up with a quote or something to ponder. Last week, I shared this quote: Healing doesn't have to look magical or pretty. Real healing is hard, exhausting and draining. Let yourself go through it. Don't try to paint it as anything other than what it is. Be there for yourself without judgement. And this really stood out to me because so many people expect that you can start the process of healing, and it's this instant process of feeling like you're walking through a candyland

Over the years I've had certain beliefs that have shifted.... That have been game changers for my mental health and moving forward. In today's podcast, I talk about right of these game changers and how these have benefitted my life (and how they can benefit yours too!). It's a pretty broad spectrum... but once you can start making shifts in your mindset, it starts to filter down through to the decisions you make... and then the experiences that you have of life, how you weather the storms of life and generally the lens through which you view your life. Which flows through to your mental health. Tune into the podcast and let me know what you think! On the podcast I also mentioned my Instagram - and yep! I share lots of additional trainings and resources over on Instagram, as well as a big Q+A sticker on Wednesday's and on Friday's (to lighten the mood) I share some funny memes I've come across (and almost always - they've got nothing to do with fertility or trying to conceive!). Come and follow me @robynbirkin