"If he wanted to he would" and "It will happen when you least expect it" are just two examples of the dating advice we're so done with. In this episode, I'm sharing what dating advice floating around the internet is unhelpful and why, and what to focus on instead that will actually get you closer to your goals of getting into a secure, healthy long term relationship. The advice that works is based on what other listeners have found success with - not just my experience. I'd love to hear from you! What advice are you so done with hearing?

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Ever wonder what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in your 40's when you're already a parent and going through a divorce? My mom, Daniella Landau, shares her dating intentionally story after getting separated and divorced. She describes her approach to dating apps, how she met her husband on OkCupid, and more. Daniella also shares her experience with breaking up and getting back together with her husband before they got married, and what it took to transform their relationship. She also shares details about how they approached introducing each other to their kids. It was an amazing conversation and I hope you enjoy it!

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At the end of every guest episode, I ask, what do you want to see more of in dating culture? Past guests have shared a variety of interesting answers, from more empathy to seeing more enthusiasm for butt stuff. Today, I'm answering the question myself! I want to see more women making the first move, more compassion for all daters (dating is hard for everyone!), and more self-compassion, among other things I discuss in this episode.

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In this episode, I'm breaking down the most common early dating mistakes and what you can do to avoid them. Whether you're new to dating or you've been at it for awhile, this episode will help ensure you're not accidentally holding yourself back, self-sabotaging or sending the wrong message to potential partners.

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• Stay grounded in early dating
• Tips for slowing down in early dating

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In this episode, I'm answering three dating questions from listeners dealing with confusing behavior, imbalances in a relationship, and uncertainty about moving forward in a new situation. I love answering your questions!

1. We had five dates. Then he left for a work trip. I haven't heard from him. What to do?
2. I'm the only one who brings up deep conversations in my relationship. Can I ask him to start initiating them more?
3. I'm starting to realize my date is a big drinker and I'm not. How to end it?

As always I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments if you're listening on Spotify! '

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How do you know if it's your gut telling you to do something or if it's just anxiety? In this episode, guest Amanda White and I get into a variety of topics like navigating dating advice on social media, getting out of the comparison trap, doing less in our love lives and more. Amanda shares so many practical tips for embracing ambiguity, sitting in the discomfort of indecision and how to lean into your intuition rather than listen to your anxiety. At the end, we talk about her new substack, Fence Sitter, and her tips for figuring out whether or not to have children (something I'm dealing with right now). I love Amanda's unique perspective and I know you're going to learn a ton from her!

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Amanda is an author, and the founder and director of Therapy for Women Center, a therapy practice based out of Philadelphia with therapists across the country. She teaches women how to set boundaries and engage in real self care and she quit drinking in 2014. Whether you are interested in sobriety, boundaries, self care, or something in between, Amanda has relatable and actionable mental health tips for you. 

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Hello from NYC! In this episode, I cover one of the trickiest parts of dating: identifying a good match. You'll get practical tips on what to look for in a partner, why finding a good match can be so challenging, and how to assess compatibility after the first few dates. You'll learn what defines a good match, three major obstacles to finding the right person and how to have an open mind when it comes to dating and meeting new people. I also get into key signs of compatibility. At the end I answer a listener’s question about casual dating after a breakup and setting boundaries around intimacy while navigating a new dating landscape.

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If you're in a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, or if you have this attachment style, this episode is for you. I got to talk to Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist, about the difference between manipulative and ethical avoidant attachment, signs someone is avoidant, and how to navigate a relationship with someone who is avoidant. You’ll hear about how Adam helps clients heal their avoidant attachment and so much more. At the end, Adam shares how to bring up the topic of attachment styles with a partner who is avoidantly attached.

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About Adam: With an unwavering belief in the transformative power of secure attachment to help right many social ills facing the modern world, Adam has amassed a dedicated following of over 550,000 on social media. Together, they're rewriting the belief about how human connection is supposed to function. Adam teaches honesty, direct communication, clear boundaries, measurable levels of trust, and other means of building secure and healthy relationships.

Drawing from his wealth of clinical experience and personal insight, Adam offers a unique perspective on the essential role of attachment in our lives. His engaging podcast episodes on the I Wish You Knew podcast and his online presentations during livestreams and recorded video media have inspired individuals, couples, and families around the world to embrace the journey of repairing their relationships and fostering secure attachments.

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In this episode I'm sharing tips on making the most of a holiday season when you're single (again), how to be sparkier and create chemistry on dates and what to do when someone is trying to bench you or save you for later. Listen and hear my answer to these questions:

1. I'm single on the holidays for the 3rd year in a row. What should I do?
2. How can I build more chemistry on first dates?
3. I've been dating someone who's about to deploy. How to move forward?

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#43 - How to build chemistry and stop chasing sparks

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In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life.

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About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms.

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In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:

1. “He texts too much, but I'm not sure if it has to do with his mental health.”

2. “We're long distance, but can't decide who should move."

3. “How do I heal from a confusing situationship?”

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• #30. Texting 101: How to navigate texting in early dating
• #93. Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it)

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