In this solo episode, I share strategies to help you find clarity amidst the overwhelm of abuse and divorce. I explain how borrowing someone else’s mental resilience—whether a trusted friend, mentor, or professional—can help you think clearly, make grounded decisions, and move forward with strength.

You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s explore how leaning on support can make all the difference.

What you’ll hear:

• Why proper documentation is essential for protecting yourself and your children, and how to do it effectively 
• There is nothing wrong with you; the only thing wrong is the abuse you’re enduring, and you deserve to break free
• Seeking support—whether by borrowing someone else’s clarity or building a strong team—can help you regain focus, confidence, and control over your life

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

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Episode link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-303-borrow-a-brain-gaining-clarity-and-strength-through-support/

Sol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, joins me to share how this groundbreaking co-parenting AI-powered app is revolutionizing the way parents navigate high-conflict situations. With features that automatically censor toxic communication, BestInterest helps you reclaim your peace, focus on healing, and show up fully for your kids.

This episode is all about empowering you to establish boundaries, disengage from unnecessary emotional triggers, and take control of your co-parenting dynamic—even when the other parent isn’t on the same page.

What you’ll hear:

• How BestInterest helps you block out toxicity and protect your emotional well-being (7:46)
• How to handle situations where your co-parent refuses to use the app (11:47)
• Some of the tools and features of the app, including those that help you create and hold boundaries! (13:38)

Learn more about Sol Kennedy:

Sol Kennedy is the founder of BestInterest, an innovative, AI-powered app created to transform the co-parenting experience. As a co-parent himself, Sol understands the challenges of communication and stress that often accompany separated parenting. BestInterest offers tools to keep interactions respectful and child-focused, with features like advanced filters, customizable notifications, and a co-parenting journal that helps parents prioritize the children’s well-being. Sol’s mission is to empower co-parents to build peaceful, productive relationships, ultimately benefiting families and reducing conflict.

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

BestInterestApp website

BestInterestApp on Facebook

BestInterestApp on Instagram

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Episode link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-302-bestinterest-the-ai-app-for-co-parenting-in-toxic-dynamics-with-sol-kennedy/

I’m diving into a big topic this week—the holidays during divorce. It can feel like walking an emotional tightrope while trying to hold onto some joy. Whether it’s your first holiday season after divorce, your last one as a family before separating, or you’ve been navigating holidays in divorce for a while, it’s a time that stirs up all the emotions. 

Wherever you are in this process, I want you to know, that you’re not alone. And let’s be real, were the holidays stress-free before divorce? Probably not. This episode isn’t just about surviving the holidays—it’s about reclaiming them in a way that works for you and your kids. Get emotionally prepared, collaborate where it counts, and make choices that put your kids at the heart of it all. 

In this episode, I dive into:

• Self-care survival to ensure you’re showing up for yourself and your kids
• Creating new traditions that align with who you are now
• Navigating the tricky question of whether to celebrate together “for the kids”
• Practical co-parenting strategies for gift-giving, scheduling, and prioritizing your children

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Episode link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-301-holidays-in-divorce/

I’m thrilled to share this special Thanksgiving episode with you as the podcast celebrates a huge milestone: the 300th episode! To honor this accomplishment, I’m revisiting some of the most impactful episodes we’ve shared together. These conversations have left a lasting mark on many of you, and it’s a privilege to highlight them again. 

This episode is my heartfelt thank you to this amazing community we’ve created together. Your dedication and willingness to show up for yourselves and each other mean the world to me. Here’s to continuing the journey!

Highlights in this episode:

• Scenarios that are not your fucking job and why you need to stop carrying all the weight in your relationship – Episode 55: Not Your Fucking Job
• What to know about divorcing a narcissist and the wild truths you can’t make up – Episode 156: Divorcing Your Narcissist with Tracy Malone
• Listener Q&A on co-parenting with a manipulative ex and supporting your kids through divorce – Episode 161: Listener Q&A: Co-parenting with a Narcissist
• Abuse recovery and advice for those considering reconciliation after their partner starts therapy – Episode 163: Covert Emotional Abuse with Annette Oltmans
• Compassionate advice and exploring tough questions like “Where’s your line?” – Episode 177: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes 

Episodes highlighted:

Episode 55: Not Your Fucking Job

Episode 156: DIVORCING Your NARCISSIST: You Can’t Make This Shit Up! With Tracy Malone

Episode 161: Listener Q&A: Co-parenting with a Narcissist, Dealing with a Manipulative Co-parent, and Supporting Your Children Through Divorce

Episode 163: Covert Emotional Abuse with Annette Oltmans

Episode 177: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola

Episode 159: The Top Eight Symptoms of Narcissistic Abuse with Leanne Oaten

Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans

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Episode link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-300-giving-thanks-for-300-episodes/

I’m so excited to welcome back my dear friend and returning guest, Susan Guthrie, a leading family law attorney and mediator, for a robust conversation about the family court system. While family court often gets a bad rap (and yes, it needs reform), Susan and I dig into why it’s not always terrible. There is good that can come from it too.

Together, we’re breaking down what you can expect if you navigate the family court process, how to prepare for it, and how to make decisions that truly serve you and your kids. We’re also diving into the hot topic of no-fault divorce laws: Could they be repealed? And what would that mean for families going forward?

What You’ll Hear:

• Why family court is necessary and not always the “necessary evil” it’s made out to be (7:09)
• What most people can expect from the family court system (12:50)
• How to prepare for your day in court, including what serves you and what doesn’t (17:25)
• The likelihood of no-fault divorce laws being repealed and the potential implications (34:13)

Learn more about Susan Guthrie:

Susan Guthrie has been one of the leading family law attorneys and mediators in the country for more than 30 years and a world-wide expert in online mediation and she has trained over 20,000 professionals in the ethical and practical considerations in transitioning to a virtual practice. In late 2020, Susan and legal legend Forrest “Woody” Mosten partnered together to found the Mosten Guthrie Academy to provide top of the line training for mediators and collaborative professionals in a virtual format world-wide. Her award-winning podcast, The Divorce & Beyond Podcast, is one of the top 1% of podcasts worldwide and she is known to millions of listeners around the world as the “divorce voice you can trust!”

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable - the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Susan’s podcast

Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq and @divorceandbeyond

Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans

This episode is also sponsored by Soberlink:

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Episode link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-299-not-all-bad-a-nuanced-perspective-on-family-court-with-susan-guthrie-esq-family-court-awareness-month/

I’m excited to welcome Tina Swithin back to the show for a powerful conversation about Family Court Awareness Month, which she founded five years ago to shine a light on the deep issues within our family court system. 

Together, we dive into the systemic obstacles—from the lack of judicial training on domestic abuse to the financial incentives that keep conflicts alive in court. Tina also walks us through important legislative efforts, like Kayden’s Law and Piqui's Law, named after children who lost their lives due to preventable court failures.

This episode is all about the critical importance of grassroots advocacy, educational efforts, and collective action to protect children and their families and demand accountability in our courts.

Featured Topics:

• The harsh realities and challenges in the family court system (2:30)
• How financial incentives feed systemic corruption (10:00)
• The need for judicial education on domestic abuse (12:27)
• The impact of Kayden’s Law and Piqui's Law on state legislation (16:09)
• Support networks and grassroots efforts pushing for change (24:18)
• Educational resources and future advocacy goals (36:34)

Learn more about Tina Swithin:

Tina Swithin is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series), founder of One Mom’s Battle and the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina Swithin continues to champion children’s rights through her family court advocacy. Tina is working to raise awareness of the issues in the family court system and to educate the general public on post separation abuse, narcissistic abuse and the "alienation industry." Tina is a cofounder of the organization, nationalsafeparents.org and volunteers her time helping with family court reform through awareness, education and improved legislation such as Kayden's Law.

Resources & Links:

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

One Mom’s Battle

Tina’s Lemonade Wisdom: Divorcing a Narcissist

Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans

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Episode Link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-298-the-fight-for-family-court-reform-with-tina-swithin-family-court-awareness-month/

We kick off Family Court Awareness Month with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko as we talk about their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. This collection of 22 women’s stories raises awareness about the systemic issues plaguing family courts, aiming to ignite awareness about the family court crisis by sharing the voices of those directly impacted.

In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and Polacko highlight the deep-seated misogyny and financial exploitation within family courts, emphasizing that this isn't just a U.S. issue—it's a global crisis that affects women of all races, demographics, and socioeconomic backgrounds. This episode is a call for awareness and action. Together, we can advocate for systemic change to better protect victims and their children.

Featured topics:

• The family court crisis and how the assumption of justice often falls short, leaving victims unsupported (3:56)
• How disclosure of abuse can lead to devastating consequences, including loss of custody (4:35)
• Deeply rooted biases allow a system to profit from the suffering of women and children (5:41)
• The danger and harm of reunification therapy and camps (18:19)
• Kayden’s Law, enforcing legislation, and how everyone can join the fight for family court reform (22:51)

Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko:

Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally.

Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood.

Resources & Links:

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Framed: Women In the Family Court Underworld for more information and workshops!

Dr. Cocchiola’s website

Amy’s website

Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans

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Episode Link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-298-framed-women-in-the-family-court-underworld-with-dr-christine-cocchiola-and-amy-polacko-family-court-awareness-month

Yesterday morning, like many of you, I woke up to the devastating news that a convicted rapist with countless indictments has been re-elected to lead our country. As I sit with this heavy reality, I’m thinking of all of you—especially women in difficult relationships and those in marginalized communities facing fresh threats to our freedoms. 

Today, I turn to a Zen Buddhist saying to help me keep going: “Chop wood, carry water.” It reminds me that there is nothing you must do in life other than what must be done. So today, I stare into the void, speak to women, reassure my son, and cuddle my animals.

Chop wood, carry water.

And later, I will continue the fight.

Please know that I will never stop fighting for you, for us, for our children and their futures.

Resources & Links:

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

In this solo episode, I’m diving into the journey of letting go and reclaiming your power during the divorce process, especially if you’re healing from abuse. I know firsthand the mental conditioning and hypervigilance one endures during an abusive relationship, which is why it’s so crucial to establish firm boundaries, even when fear tries to hold you back.

I share a personal story of setting boundaries in the face of a controlling relationship and offer practical tips for stepping away from manipulative people, like muting their messages and using support tools such as Aimee Says. Remember, you deserve happiness, and I'm here to help you find it.

Featured topics:

• How to reclaim your power and protect your peace
• Strategies to stay grounded and maintain boundaries
• Discover how self-worth fuels your healing journey
• A reminder that healing is not linear

Resources & Links:

Drop the Rope - 20 Phrases to Disengage from Conflict Free Download

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Aimee Says 

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Episode Link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-296-drop-the-rope-embracing-your-power-during-divorce/

Bill Eddy is back on the show to dive into a critical topic: adult bullies. With election season upon us, the presence of bullies—whether in politics, the workplace, relationships, or even parenting—can feel more intense than ever. Bill, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and author of Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them – How to Stop Them, explains how today's media-driven culture fuels the rise of adult bullies, encouraging aggression and disregarding rules.

We explore how bullies create crises out of thin air, positioning themselves as heroes of their made-up stories. Plus, Bill shares concrete examples of adult bullying in the world today, how it impacts children when parents are the bullies, and why it's crucial to stand together against bullies to take them down.

Listen and learn how to protect yourself and your loved ones from the emotional manipulation bullies use to gain power.

Featured topics:

• What defines an adult bully and the key traits to look out for (4:30)
• The secret weapon of bullies: emotional manipulation and the "crisis-villain-hero" narrative (8:04)
• How media and social media fuel the growth of adult bullies (15:27)
• How parents can inadvertently turn their children away from a co-parent (24:09)
• The importance of empathy: addressing bullying without becoming bullies ourselves (34:56)
• The future of adult bullies: what to expect and how to stand against them (49:27)

Learn more about Bill Eddy:

Bill Eddy is the author of Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them – How to Stop Them and the Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists throughout the United States and a dozen other countries in managing high-conflict family, workplace, and legal disputes. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals and has a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com.

Resources & Links:

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

High Conflict Institute

Bill’s book “Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them, How to Stop Them”

The High Conflict Institute on Facebook

The High Conflict Institute on Instagram

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Episode Link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-295-adult-bullies-with-bill-eddy-your-vote-your-choice/

I’m chatting with Erin Levine, the founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, about why the push to get rid of no-fault divorce is seriously bad news—especially for women. No-fault divorce has enabled people to leave marriages without having to prove things like abuse or cheating and it makes women safer.

The GOP wants to repeal or restrict no-fault divorce. We’re here to break down why that’s a huge problem. Erin, a lawyer-turned-CEO, has been shaking up the divorce world with Hello Divorce, a platform that makes the whole process smoother, easier, and less stressful. In this episode, we discuss what no-fault divorce is, why it matters, and what could happen if it’s taken away. Spoiler alert: it’s not good.

Featured topics:

• No-fault divorce: What it is, and how it differs from fault-based divorce (4:55)
• How no-fault laws help victims leave unsafe marriages (6:55)
• Why the rollback of no-fault divorce would be disastrous (32:17)
• What you can do to ensure no-fault divorce protections remain in place (34:16)

Learn more about Erin Levine:

Erin Levine is not your typical attorney. With over a decade of experience in litigating complex family matters, she saw the need for a kinder, easier and more affordable pathway out of marriage and into the next chapter of life. To achieve this, Erin set out to revolutionize the broken divorce system and founded Hello Divorce, a venture capital backed, tech-enabled platform, that combines self-service online tools with integrated expert advice, making it easier for everyone to navigate their lives and finances with less stress and mess. Erin’s innovative approach to the divorce process has earned her media mentions from the legal industry and beyond, with recent features in Vice, Forbes, American Bar Association Journal, Business Insider and TechCrunch. Ultimately, Erin is on a mission to help separating couples empower a better life ahead and has helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps and reimagine their next (best) chapter.

Resources & Links:

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Hello Divorce

Hello Divorce on Instagram @hellodivorce

Erin on Instagram @erinlevinepace

Hello Divorce on Facebook

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Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-294-your-divorce-your-choice-the-future-of-no-fault-divorce-with-erin-levine-your-vote-your-choice/