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Autism vs Highly Sensitive Person. Yep, again!

Do you have Autism, or are you just a highly sensitive person?

From my observations and experiences here on YouTube, there are many people who misdiagnose themselves as having Autism Spectrum Disorder, but instead the majority of them are just having a sensory processing sensitivity.

The last episode here on this channel discusses that broadly.

Nevertheless, there are for sure some people, who actually have autism (ASD).

In order to get a clear understanding of autism spectrum disorder (ASD), here are 9 big signs, that it’s actually ASD, not just HSP.

We also discuss the overlap of both conditions, visualized in a venn-diagram at the end of the episode.

And in the episode next week, we will explore how a diagnosis of ASD+HSP could look like, if those are basically the same thing.

► Links and Resources:

Last episode about HSP vs. ASD: https://youtu.be/sib1ok3a6-w

ASD Spectrum: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202208/autistic-linear-spectrum-pie-chart-spectrum

Reframing Autism Article: https://reframingautism.org.au/introduction-to-autism-part-1-what-is-autism/

Autism in Females Article: https://www.mdpi.com/2227-9067/9/2/272

Undiagnosed Autism: https://youtu.be/nAfqKQNrlmg

The Highly Sensitive Person: https://hsperson.com/

AQ50-Test: https://embrace-autism.com/autism-spectrum-quotient/

Meltdown, Shutdown, Burnout Episode: https://youtu.be/_DuzKTeWBqQ

Hyposensitivity Episode: https://youtu.be/A6USY9ECbkM

Re-Regulation Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:21 What Is ASD?

02:47 What Is HSP/SPS?

04:08 The Overlap

07:06 Sign 1: You Have A Hyperconnective Processing Style

09:21 Sign 2: You Have Hypo- Or Hypersensitivity

10:30 Sign 3: You Have Hypo- Or Hyper-Empathy

11:28 Sign 4: Your Thriving And Development Are Primarily Influenced By Your Neurodiversity

12:28 Sign 5: You May Be Challenged By Social And Interhuman Connection

13:57 Sign 6: You Have A Low Cognitive Flexibility

14:44 Sign 7: You Experience Meltdown, Shutdown and Burnout

17:02 Sign 8: Your Thinking And Perceiving Are Context-Independent

18:25 Sign 9: You Use Self-Soothing And Stimming To Regulate Yourself

19:30 Final Thoughts

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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Uhhhh - The Highly Sensitive Person vs Autism.

Are you just highly sensitive, or are you autistic?

We discussed that question a lot here before on this channel.

But as the topic of autism became more popular recently, I see a lot of people misdiagnosing themselves through content on social media.

I talked with my therapists about that as well.

And what they told me is:

NO, not anyone who can identify themselves with traits of ASD actually has a mental disorder like autism.

And YES, sensitivity is a trait that causes autism related symptoms and increases the chance for complex trauma as well.

Therefore, today I want to introduce you to 7 signs, that you are a highly sensitive person and not autistic.

We also discuss the major differences between a highly sensitive disposition and clinically diagnosable autism spectrum disorder.

This video is also the first one of three part series on HSP vs autism.

► Links and Resources:

HSP vs. Autism Video: https://youtu.be/RXd7r5wV5CQ?si=qho9r2aSJjmUSfrr

Elaine N. Aron: https://hsperson.com/

Autism Spectrum: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202208/autistic-linear-spectrum-pie-chart-spectrum

Sensory Processing Article: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20203139/

What is Autism Article: https://reframingautism.org.au/introduction-to-autism-part-1-what-is-autism/

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:09 What Is HSP/SPS?

03:50 What is ASD?

05:19 The Overlap

08:33 Sign 1: Your Style Of Processing Is More “In-Depth”

11:30 Sign 2: You Have A Particular High Sense Of Empathy

13:10 Sign 3: Your Thriving And Development Are Primarily Influenced By The Environment

15:28 Sign 4: You Have A Strong Need For Social Connection

16:44 Sign 5: You Are Cognitively More Flexible

17:42 Sign 6: You Have A Heightened Emotional Awareness

18:35 Sign 7: You Think Context-Dependent

19:43 Venn Diagram: Overlap HSP And ASD

21:26 Final Thoughts

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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Pssst.

Not everyone's childhood trauma is obvious to see.

In fact, the signs can be subtle… or the person is very trained in hiding them.

BUT, if you know what to look for, you can identify pretty reliably that someone had a rough childhood.

In the past episode, I presented to you 10 obvious signs that someone had a traumatic childhood. Today, we take a look at 10 subtle, more hidden signs.

As we go through them, you might recognize these signs in yourself, a close friend, or even a family member. So in the end, we talk about what you should do in such a situation.

► Links and Resources:

10 Obvious Signs of Childhood Trauma Episode: https://youtu.be/8YBmH74w584?si=6KwI6_XqCAVJJZUB

The 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=dDN-IrHOpdseCczu

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

0:39 Why Is It Hard To Tell, Someone Had A Traumatic Childhood?

3:00 Sign 1: They’re “So Mature For Their Age”

4:36 Sign 2: They’re Conspiracy Theorists

5:59 Sign 3: They’re High-Performers And Achievers

8:04 Sign 4: They’re Highly Independent

10:06 Sign 5: They Rarely Share What Happens At Home

10:59 Sign 6: They Seek Every Kind Of Attention

12:48 Sign 7: They Take On A Lot Of Responsibility

14:53 Sign 8: They Have A Fear Of Being Hugged Or Touched

15:53 Sign 9: They Overcompensate With Laughter

16:31 Sign 10: They Seem Like They Have It All Together

17:34 What To Do, If You Identified That Someone Had A Rough Childhood?

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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What do you think, how easy is it to tell, that someone had a traumatic childhood?

The answer is: It’s often very obvious to recognize from the outside…

BUT: for those who are affected, it’s not that easy to tell at all

This is why today we zoom out a bit and explore 10 signs together, that immediately tell you, that someone had a traumatic childhood

And maybe this someone might be you, yourself, or your brother, partner or best friend.

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CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/rc4NqZQV5hA?si=6W9RDdSZ8BGlgwXB

Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI

4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=3GwVJIm8uC0ibSsO

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:42 Sign 1: They Normalize Abuse And Maltreatment

05:48 Sign 2: They Suddenly Feel Vigilant/Alert/Scared

10:39 Sign 3: They Go Out Of Their Own Way To Make/Keep Everyone Happy

12:06 Sign 4: They Are Always Apologizing

13:42 Sign 5: They Have An Unhealthy/Insecure/Unstable Relationship With Their Parents

16:07 Sign 6: They Have No Sense Of Achievement

17:30 Sign 7: They Have A Major Lack In Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem

18:34 Sign 8: They Can’t Accept Compliments

20:13 Sign 9: They Seek Unreachable Partners & Relationship-Drama

21:28 Sign 10: They Catastrophize / Always Think About The Worst Case Scenario

23:18 Solutions

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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People with a tough childhood often have a buffet full of negative beliefs that they tell themselves every day.

That can make our lives pretty hard.

But, luckily, sometimes just being reminded to specific positive beliefs, is enough to wake us up from the illusion we’re living.

This is why I created this list of 99 positive beliefs, that can shake you up and remind you, that life is beautiful, and that you are worthy and lovable.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

1:30 99 Positive Beliefs

09:48 Final Thoughts

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My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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Do you feel, think, and behave the same way around other people as you do when you are alone?

Or do you feel the need to pretend, to play a role and act very differently than normal?

This behavior could be a result of toxic shame, that may hold back your true authentic self and chains you to an exhausting role-play you have to perform on a daily basis.

Especially insecurely attached people and CPTSD survivors are often affected by toxic shame.

But, they are often not aware, that they behave out of a shame-bound self and identity.

This is why, in today’s episode, we will explore and understand what toxic shame actually is.

I will share 5 typical signs of toxic shame with you.

And in the end, I will give you a 3-step solution plan on how you can finally break that cycle of toxic shame and start healing your wounds.

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Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher

Heidie Priebe: https://www.youtube.com/@heidipriebe1

Toxic Shame Persona by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=OGEV5odgbyj0G-KT

Re-Regulation Tools Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw?si=miV_L3NIbbTqXHsU

Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=b1RNIGTpEuCQlrJf

Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=tFtBoRjvXRPBAhRl

Codependency Episode: https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=vljpHGm7mCtcN6Xj

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:41 What Is Shame?

04:18 What Is Toxic Shame?

15:56 Toxic Shame And The Central Nervous System

18:55 5 Signs That You Suffer From Toxic Shame

19:29 Sign 1: You Regularly Lose The Connection With Yourself

21:55 Sign 2: You Avoid Close Relationships

22:27 Sign 3: You Often React Defensive & Guarded

25:15 Sign 4: You Are Confusing Between Your True And Your Persona Self

26:47 Sign 5: You Have Addictive Behaviors

28:08 How To Break The Cycle

34:38 Final Thoughts

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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The need to be alone is felt by many of us.

But is it because there are suddenly a lot of introverts among us?

Or is it because many of us use isolation to cope with our distrust in other people and the world?

In other words: Isn’t isolation just another sign of a learned avoidant attachment style?

In today’s episode, I’d like to find that out.

So we compare avoidance and introversion

I talk you through 5 signs it’s actually avoidance, not introversion

And in the end, we look for an answer to the question, if we NEED or more LIKE to be alone and what we can do about it.

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Shadow Work Episode: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I?si=zwGwdZGhOBD_SIk4

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

The Muse Article: https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-scientific-answer-that-explains-why-introverts-need-and-cherish-their-space

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:31 Introversion

02:30 Avoidance

04:33 The Need To Be Alone

11:15 Do Introverts Need Alone Time?

15:12 Sign 1: You Believe That People & Relationships Mean Pain

17:37 Sign 2: Other People Trigger You Emotionally

18:21 Sign 3: You Can’t Set Healthy Boundaries

19:26 Sign 4: You Are A Self- Or Autoregulator

20:31 Sign 5: You Feel Panic If There Is No Place To Withdraw

20:59 Solutions

23:26 Final Thoughts

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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A member of our community recently did a post on our skool platform asking if Low Level Dysregulation exists and what you can do to re-regulate.

Well, there are mild, moderate and severe forms of dysregulation and there are thousands of re-regulation tools, skills and resources.

BUT, not all Re-Regulation tools work for everyone.

So, in today’s video, I tried to summarize and rank 12 groups of effective re-regulation tools, skills & resources, that I tried myself during therapy and/or researched in the past years.

I will rank them using a tierlist from S for super to F for fail, having the goal in mind to stop or reduce acute dysregulation as an effect of complex trauma or neurodivergence.

And in the end of the video I will crown one as the best tool and one as the worst of worst according to that goal.

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CPTSD Treatments Tier List: https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws?si=d3FWuAPcaTaAmAMk

Self-Administered EMDR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DALbwI7m1vM&t=218s

Self-Hypnosis By Andrew Major: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewmajor-strongerminds

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:15 The Tierlist Explained

02:06 Criteria

02:52 What Is Dysregulation?

04:36 Skill 1: Feeling And Touching

06:05 Skill 2: Mind Skills

07:29 Skill 3: Bilateral Skills

09:29 Skill 4: Seeing

11:03 Skill 5: Listening

13:13 Skill 6: Smelling

14:25 Skill 7: Sense Of Balance

15:33 Skill 8: Pain

18:37 Skill 9: Social Skills

21:42 Skill 10: Tasting And Eating

23:27 Skill 11: Movement

26:06 Skill 12: Soft Skills

27:58 The Best And The Worst Tool

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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“Noone understands me..”

“I can’t trust anyone!”

“Isolation feels safe.”

I read a ton of core beliefs like these on YouTube.

Many times, those are a direct result of a shattered childhood.

But often people have no clue how much these core beliefs hold them back from recovering their early trauma.

This is why today I made a list of 7 of the most common core beliefs that hinder your CPTSD healing journey.

We also discuss what you can do if you feel that you have such core beliefs

And in the end talk about how to break them to get a new, more positive set of core beliefs and finally embrace your full potential for healing.

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Tim Fletcher Model: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOQTfqUdypc

Episode CPTSD & Isolation: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=D3z3LChESNRIov1P

Episode 4 Attachment Styles: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=TaOdW7rQyPXeh-1S

Episode Fear of Commitment: https://youtu.be/Xf1iuvoO0lM?si=7h5urduKZ7mMgW_T

Episode Shadow Work: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:59 Why Can Core Beliefs Hinder Your Healing Journey?

05:34 Where Do Unfavorable Core Beliefs Come From?

08:13 Belief 1: Other People Only Love Me, If…

11:10 Belief 2: I Am Bad/Wrong/Not Ok.

14:39 Belief 3: Isolation Is Safe.

17:37 Belief 4: A Harmonious Relationship Is A Secure (Good) Relationship

22:46 Belief 5: Other People Don’t See/Hear Me

24:53 Belief 6: Other People Demand From Me

27:13 Belief 7: I Shouldn’t Do/Feel/Need…

30:00 Contrary Positive Core Beliefs

36: 21 Final Thoughts

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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Are you struggling with the same recurring triggers in your relationships for years?

You feel that your partner is not showing their emotions and is holding back, or your partner is too close and doesn't have their own social life.

Now, in order to fix this, have you seen couples counselor after couples counselor and yet hardly make any progress?

Well, then classical therapy is probably not the solution to your problems.

But, there is an alternative, which I see popping up more and more often. And it’s called shadow work.

Today, I will show you why classic couples counselling is 1) not the right approach for many people who have those conflicts. And 2) is often not even promoting healing of attachment problems.

Today's episode is like peeling an onion.

We will slowly bring the blind spots of anxious and avoidant attachment to light.

And in the end, you will be left with a clear understanding of the core, which displays the actual patterns that are the hidden cause of your triggers.

► Links and Resources:

4 Attachment Styles: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=3srOnSywlQezz1uF

Shadow Work on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/Jung/comments/gnoo76/the_opposite_of_the_shadow/

The Pleasure Principle: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pleasure_principle_(psychology)

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:45 Why Are Anxious And Avoidant Attachment Styles So Problematic?

06:45 What Is Shadow Work?

13:04 The Anxious Shadow

14:55 The Avoidant Shadow

19:03 Why Do Anxiously And Avoidant Attached People Attract Each Other?

32:18 Shadow Work To Heal

39:30 Solutions To Start Healing Now

40:49 Final Thoughts

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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There are a ton of treatments, therapies, techniques and eventual solutions for healing early trauma.

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So, in today’s video, I tried to analyze and rank 15 popular CPTSD treatments & solutions, that I tried myself and/or researched in the past years.

I will rank them using a tier list from S for super to F for fail, having the goal in mind to achieve the MOST EFFECTIVE long term trauma recovery.

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EMDR & PTSD Article: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5623122/

EMDR on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/14won79/what_are_the_most_effective_types_of_therapy_for/

Self-Administered EMDR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DALbwI7m1vM&t=218s

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

Psilocybin & PTSD: https://med.nyu.edu/departments-institutes/population-health/divisions-sections-centers/medical-ethics/education/high-school-bioethics-project/learning-scenarios/ptsd-treatment-psychedelics

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:02 The Tierlist Explained

02:10 Ranking-Criteria

03:57 Top Down & Bottom Up Strategies Explained

06:01 Psychoanalytic Therapy

08:36 Cognitive Therapy

11:49 Classic Talk Therapy

13:59 EMDR

17:24 Hypnotherapy & Self Hypnosis

26:08 Somatic Therapy

29:15 Exposure Therapy

33:04 Systemic Therapy

36:36 Safe Community & Relationships

40:08 Art And Music (Therapy)

44:08 Writing And Journaling Techniques

47:44 Re-Regulation Skills & Resources

50:16 MBSR (Mindful Based Stress Reduction)

52:17 Psychedelics

55:03 Medication & Prescription Drugs

57:26 The Best And Worst Treatment

► Reach Out To Me :)

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.