In this podcast episode, Trina Glines discusses the importance of allowing wives to express their feelings and emotions without trying to fix them. She emphasizes the need for husbands to listen, understand, and validate their wives' feelings, rather than dismissing or minimizing them. Trina provides practical tips for husbands to support their wives emotionally, such as asking open-ended questions, maintaining eye contact, and providing feedback during conversations. She also highlights the importance of setting boundaries and finding a balance between sharing feelings and overwhelming the husband. Overall, the episode aims to help husbands create a supportive and understanding environment for their wives.

In this conversation, Trina Glines discusses how women can loose themselves after time in a relationship and family life. And what this looks like. She coined the term the intense woman, after going through her own journey to increase the happiness in her own marriage and life. She discovered the intense woman is created through misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and resentments. Women often compare themselves to the perfect version of themselves and expect their husbands to live up to that standard. However, men have a different language and way of thinking, which can lead to miscommunication and frustration. Trina emphasizes the importance of understanding and accepting these differences in order to have a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.

Trina Glines shares a hilarious and relatable story about dealing with a puppy mishap and how it taught her valuable lessons in marriage. She delves into the importance of listening, understanding, and validating your partner, offering practical tips to navigate everyday challenges. Tune in for a fun and insightful discussion on transforming communication in your relationship!

Here are six key points for using "Heard, Understood, and Validated" (HUV) as the way you listen:

1. Seek Full Attention: Before starting the conversation, ensure that the other person is fully available to listen. Politely ask if it’s a good time to talk and ensure they are not distracted.

2. Choosing to Listen, Understand, and Validate: Engage fully with the speaker by maintaining eye contact, nodding, and using verbal affirmations. Remember, this is not about fixing anything but being there for the person. Your role is to offer support and presence, not solutions.

3. Reflective Responses: Paraphrase or summarize what the speaker has said to ensure you have accurately heard their message. This shows that you are not only listening but also comprehending their words.

4. Empathy and Understanding: Express empathy by acknowledging the speaker’s feelings and experiences. Use phrases like “I understand how you feel” or “That sounds really challenging” to convey genuine understanding. It’s okay for a person to feel what they are feeling, and it’s the listener’s job to not fix or dismiss those feelings because they may be uncomfortable dealing with them.

5. Validation of Feelings: Validate the speaker’s emotions by affirming their right to feel the way they do. Clarify that validation does not mean agreement, but rather acknowledging their experience. Statements like “It’s okay to feel upset about this” or “Anyone would feel the same in your situation” can be very affirming without implying agreement.

6. Avoiding Judgment and Solutions: Focus on listening without immediately jumping to conclusions or offering solutions. Sometimes, simply being heard and validated is more important than finding a fix to the problem at hand.

These practices help create a supportive and trusting environment, fostering deeper connections and more meaningful communication.

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Welcome back to the podcast! I'm Trina Glines, and I'm thrilled to catch you up on everything that's been happening. After a brief hiatus due to some health challenges, I'm excited to reconnect and share new insights. During my time away, I've been deeply involved in one-on-one coaching, including coaching men, and I'm eager to launch a new men's program soon.

In this episode, I discuss the exciting updates coming to Taming Jane Academy and the reason behind renaming the podcast to "Love On Purpose." We'll dive into the concept of loving on purpose and what it means to take an intentional approach in your relationships.

We'll explore:

• The importance of focusing on your part in a partnership.
• Understanding that we have different love languages and how they impact your relationship.
• Practical tools and skills to apply immediately for greater peace and joy in your marriage.

Whether you're new to the podcast or a long-time listener, this episode is packed with valuable information to help you build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. Join me as we embark on this journey together, learning to love on purpose and create our happily ever after.

Tune in and start transforming your relationship today!

Did you know that "all the research agrees that a stable, loving relationship is the absolute cornerstone of human happiness and general well-being"? Dr. Sue Johnson (Love Sense) And did you know YOU ARE NORMAL if this doesn't naturally happen in your marriage?

None of us were taught all we need to know to create a secure attachment with our spouse. Do you even know what that means? For over 20 years I had no idea! I am SO GRATEFUL for the learning journey I have been on! It has changed my marriage! And what I have learned is it is a work in progress for us all! This is GOOD NEWS!

Today I share an interview with Geoff Steurer LMFT. He is trained and certified in Dr. Sue Johnson's couples therapy; Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Do yourself a favor, and listen to this interview! It is AMAZING! Most of us weren't given the tools to maneuver through this messy thing call marriage. But we can choose to LEARN tools!

That is how we will work on creating a secure bond with the person we have chosen to spend our life with! (I believe eternity) It is SO WORTH IT! 

Valentines Day is coming up! And did you know that Valentines is the most unliked holiday by husbands? There are often expectations they struggle to meet. Which leaves you disappointed and him asking, "why did I even try?" 

Birthday's, Anniversary's, and Holiday's can often bring on those unmet expectations! 

Today I want to set you up for success by setting your man up for success! I share what you can do to ensure you and your man have a successful celebration. 

Have you ever considered letting your man know what you would like on on these special days? Unfortunately ladies, we often fall to the thinking that if he really knows me and loves me he will know what I like. This is incorrect thinking. He can NOT read your mind. He works differently than you do. 

You sharing with him what makes you feel loved and adored on these special days sets him up to win, which means you win too!

"Some things in life can't be fixed. They can only be carried." Megan Divine

Some people say that life won't give you more than you can handle. I actually don't believe that fully. There have been lots of times that I've had things I couldn't handle on my own, and it took another to help me.

Have you ever struggled to know what to say or do for someone who is experiencing an incredible amount of suffering? Have you ever struggled to find the right words, or know how you can help?

Today I interview Todd Olson, an LCSW who shares with us the heart-wrenching experience individuals have when they lose a child.  He shares with us what we can do to comfort and love those who live this nightmare. He also shares with us what doesn't help. What not to say.

I felt what he shared is applicable to many situations that we might find ourselves in while trying to support others. He also validates what you are feeling if it's you experiencing the trauma. 

I want to thank Todd for sharing with us his own personal experience of losing his son, and what he has learned. I hope this interview will help us all to know how we can better support and love those who are suffering from a loss or an intense trial. 

To contact Todd Olson: https://www.lifestartherapy.com/

Marriage is different once you have kids, would you agree? Raising a family requires a lot of sacrifice from both husband and wife. But do we need to sacrifice our marriage relationship also? I don't believe we do.
It will be different than before children, but it can also be even better.

Our children will bring us our greatest joy and greatest challenges and frustrations. All the more reason to put your marriage at the top of your priorities so together you can enjoy the happy - joyful moments and hold each other up during the challenges times.

Today I share ideas on how you can nurture your marriage while raising your family. It is so important to remember that the two of you came first. Life and the kids will scream louder and demand more of your attention, but you can still give quality attention to your marriage.

As you keep nurturing this life long union (I believe eternity) you are giving your kids the greatest gift you will EVER give them - parents that love each other.

Sometimes we can find ourselves stuck in a rut. What we are doing isn't working, but we struggle to do anything different.

We often end up blaming others around us for our unhappiness or frustrations. When really we need to be taking a look on the inside.

Today on my podcast I share an interview with Ryan Michler. Through his own personal story, he learned the value of owning his own part.  

He shares, "Has your attitude or thought process or actions produced the desired outcome you want? If the answer is no, you probably ought to consider doing something a little different."

He now helps men do the same in their own lives. His story is inspiring for all. His passion to help others increase their happiness and success in their life is so needed today!

We each only have control over ourselves, but we have an incredible amount of influence on others.