In this eye-opening episode, Idit Sharoni, licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in affair recovery, dives into one of the most common mistakes couples make after infidelity: postponing the healing process.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that time alone will heal the wounds of betrayal, but the truth is, avoiding the hard work of healing can leave lasting scars on your relationship. From lingering pain and resentment to recurring trust issues, skipping this crucial step can silently erode your connection over time.

In this episode, Idit explores why healing after infidelity is non-negotiable, the hidden costs of avoidance, and how to take meaningful steps toward rebuilding trust and intimacy. Whether you’re in the early stages of recovery or feeling stuck in a “good enough” relationship, this episode offers hope, clarity, and actionable advice to help you move forward.

• What the “stabilization trap” is and how it can keep couples stuck after infidelity.
• The long-term risks of postponing healing, including unresolved pain, resentment, and recurring infidelity.
• Why time alone doesn’t heal wounds—intentional effort does.
• How to rebuild trust and connection through open communication and shared goals.
• Actionable steps to start the healing process and prevent future issues.
• Common fears about healing after infidelity and how to overcome them.

• Couples who’ve chosen to stay together after infidelity but feel stuck in their healing journey.
• Hurt partners struggling with lingering pain or trust issues.
• Unfaithful partners looking to understand how to rebuild trust and connection.
• Anyone curious about the process of affair recovery and how to create a stronger, healthier relationship.

• Time doesn’t heal all wounds—effort does. Healing requires intentional action and commitment from both partners.
• Avoiding healing has hidden costs. Lingering pain, resentment, and a lack of trust can quietly damage your relationship over time.
• Rebuilding trust is possible. Open communication, emotional processing, and a shared vision for the future are key to creating a stronger relationship.

• Ready to take the next step? Check out my affair recovery program, It’s Okay to Stay and book a free consultation. Check it here: Affair Recovery Program
• Missed Episode 80: “How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity”? Listen here: Episode 80
• Curious about Episode 78: “Can Conventional Couples Therapy Help you Heal from Infidelity”? Catch up here: Episode 78
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Are you struggling to heal after an affair when your partner isn’t fully remorseful? Join us for this eye-opening episode of "Relationships Uncomplicated," where host Idit Sharoni, LMFT, along with experts Dr. Yael Haklai-Neagu and Ana De la Cruz, delves into whether couples can recover from infidelity without genuine remorse from the unfaithful partner. Can a relationship truly heal under these conditions? Tune in to find out!

In this episode, we discuss:

• The crucial role of remorse in the healing process
• Strategies for dealing with partial or absent remorse
• Real-life examples and metaphors that illustrate the complexities of infidelity and remorse
• How to create a roadmap to healing even in challenging situations

Don't miss this engaging and insightful conversation that could transform your understanding of infidelity recovery.

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🎙️ Welcome to Episode 82 of the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast! In this episode, titled "Overcoming Biases in Infidelity Recovery," host Idit Sharoni, LMFT delves into a topic that's often overlooked but profoundly impactful: the biases surrounding infidelity.

💔 Infidelity doesn't just shake the foundation of relationships—it's the aftermath, the fallout, and the biases that can color our perceptions and decisions. Join Idit as she explores this complex issue with therapist Alana Tokayer, MS, who brings a unique perspective gained from working closely with couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity.

🔍 Together, they uncover societal norms, personal experiences, and therapist biases that shape our understanding of infidelity and its aftermath. Discover why biases towards leaving or staying after infidelity exist, and learn valuable insights into advocating for yourself, whether with friends, family, or therapists, as you navigate the complexities of healing after betrayal.

🍵 Grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and tune in to this enlightening conversation on bias in the aftermath of infidelity. Don't forget to subscribe to the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast for more insightful discussions on relationships and healing.

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• Infidelity Recovery Program: https://relationshipexpertsonline.com/affair-recovery-program
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• Affair Recovery Website: https://relationshipexpertsonline.com
• Main website: www.relationshipexperts.com
• Show notes: https://relationshipexpertsonline.com/surviving-infidelity-overcoming-bias-in-the-aftermath

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In this episode of the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast, host and affair recovery expert Idit Sharoni, LMFT delves into the intricate process of navigating healing when both partners have been unfaithful.

Titled "A Guide to Joint Recovery When Infidelity Strikes Both Ways," Idit explores the complexities of mutual infidelity, where betrayal isn't confined to one side. Drawing from her experience as an affair recovery expert, she shares insights on how couples can overcome this challenging situation and rebuild their relationship.

Through compassionate storytelling and practical advice, Idit highlights the unique opportunities for growth and healing that arise from shared experiences of betrayal. Join her as she empowers listeners to navigate the aftermath of mutual infidelity with resilience, empathy, and hope.

If you and your partner are navigating the challenging journey of affair recovery, understanding how to rebuild trust after infidelity is crucial. In this episode, we delve into the intricate process of earning back trust that has been lost in a relationship.

Join us as we explore the evolution of the concepts of blind trust versus open-eyed trust, drawing from experiences working with couples healing from infidelity. Our discussion takes a unique turn as we question the commonly used term "rebuilding trust" and introduce a more nuanced perspective inspired by an enlightening article by trust expert Rachel Botsman.

To shed light on this profound shift in perspective, we are joined by Dr. Yael Haklai-Neagu, one of our lead therapists at Relationship Experts. Together, we unravel the differences between rebuilding and earning trust in the aftermath of infidelity.

We draw insights from Botsman's groundbreaking ideas, emphasizing the importance of collaboration in the trust dynamic. Dr. Yael shares her thoughts on the critical roles of the Trust Giver (the hurt partner) and the Trust Receiver (the unfaithful partner) in the healing process.

The discussion extends to the obstacles that can hinder trust-building, such as entitlement and unyielding rejection. We explore the delicate balance required from both partners, acknowledging the collaborative effort needed for genuine healing.

Central to our conversation is the distinction between trust as a belief and trust as behavior. We explore actionable tips on how the unfaithful partner can act in trustworthy ways, including transparency, accountability, and consistency.

The episode concludes with practical do's and don'ts for couples seeking to earn trust after infidelity, emphasizing the importance of allowing trust to be earned and acting in consistent, intentional, and trustworthy ways.

Whether you're in the midst of affair recovery or seeking insights into trust dynamics, this episode provides valuable guidance on the journey to rebuilding and earning trust. Join us as we navigate the complexities of trust in the aftermath of infidelity and offer practical steps for couples looking to heal and move forward.

[Listen to the full episode on the podcast for a deeper exploration of trust dynamics and actionable tips for affair recovery, or read the full blog post.]

In this intriguing podcast episode, the topic of love and betrayal takes center stage, prompting us to explore the complex dynamics that arise when the people we cherish deeply hurt us.

Idit Sharoni hosts her team of experts in order to shed a light on this topic. She begins with asking Alana Tokayer, a Marriage & Family Therapist and Program Specialist to describe what she notices with couples in the aftermath of infidelity grappling with this question. Alana sets the stage by highlighting the profound impact of betrayal when it comes from someone we consider our best friend, our everything.

As a therapist, Alana has witnessed couples grappling with the aftermath of infidelity, and the burning question always lingers: "How can someone who loves me betray me?" This inquiry lies at the heart of the episode, as it dives into the intricacies of understanding the coexistence of love and betrayal in modern relationships.

Alana is joined by a team of experts, including Yael Haklai-Neagu and Ana De la Cruz, both licensed Marriage & Family Therapists specializing in relationships and affair recovery. Together, they shed light on how partners can make sense of the painful dilemma caused by infidelity.

Throughout the episode, the team offers valuable insights and tips for coping with this conundrum, emphasizing the importance of questioning assumptions and challenging thought patterns that hinder healing. They discuss how love and betrayal can coexist, urging listeners to reconsider their perceptions of loyalty and love.

The episode concludes with three practical tips for healing after infidelity, shared by Alana, Ana, and Yael. These tips emphasize the significance of intentionality, open-mindedness, and reframing one's perspective to navigate the challenging journey of rebuilding trust and love after betrayal.

Listeners are left with a thought-provoking exploration of the complex interplay between love and betrayal in relationships. The episode encourages us to reevaluate our beliefs about loyalty, love, and the potential for healing and growth after experiencing infidelity. If you're seeking guidance on affair recovery or intrigued by the intricate dynamics of love and betrayal, this podcast episode promises valuable insights and a deeper understanding of these complex emotions.

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Have you wondered whether conventional couples therapy can help you heal from infidelity? Is it effective for infidelity recovery?

Do you want helpful options in the aftermath of infidelity or an affair recovery?

You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there to truly educate struggling couples. Though it seems that conventional or traditional couples therapy is the only way to go, there are more options to explore. Let’s discuss your infidelity recovery choices here in this episode.

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You don’t want to miss this article. In fact, I can’t believe we haven’t talked about this  before. Why? Because this topic is too important to skip. What I’m about to share with you has a way of hiding in the shadows of too many relationships…

First, you probably know that infidelity happens for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it has to do with the relationship, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it’s a combination of both. What you might not know is that, in the majority of cases, there is a “silent killer” lurking between partners for months, even years before infidelity ever happens. 

It’s called conflict avoidance.

How does something this destructive go undetected? Because it feels natural, even good at times. Yet, it has the power to gradually and quietly disconnect partners completely.

Fortunately, your relationship is not at the unavoidable mercy of this hidden relationship problem. I’m here to help you understand what conflict avoidance is, what it does, and how you can stop it. 

Listen to this episode to learn more.

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We are very excited and thankful to interview psychotherapist and hypnotherapist Douglas Flemons, Ph.D., LMFT. Both Yael (my co-host for this episode) and I, having had the opportunity to learn from him in different capacities, greatly appreciated Dr. Flemons’s willingness to meet with us and share his valuable message.

We discuss hypnotherapy, what it is, how it helps our clients, and how change can happen effortlessly.

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Links mentioned in this episode:

The Heart and Mind of Hypnotherapy: Inviting Connection, Inventing Change - Dr. Flemons recent book

Infidelity Recovery Free 45-min Consultation

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression.

Idit & Terry discuss therapy in the aftermath of infidelity and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships. 

This is part 2 of 2 parts. 

Link to show notes

Link to the book

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression.

Idit & Terry discuss relationships, individualism, couples therapy, and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships. 

This is part 1 of 2 parts. 

Link to show notes

Link to the book