What does the research show when it comes to relationships with big age gaps? How likely are they to be successful? And when is an age gap problematic? 

Professor of Psychology from Deakin University Gery Karantzas weighs in on the age gap debate in dating.

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Bimini’s legacy started on season 2 of UK Drag Race, throwing them into the limelight to figure out fame, their sexuality and how to express their punk and politics through drag. We caught up with the dancing DJing vegan diva to chat about their journey with being non-binary, believing the universe has a plan and rant about queer trauma on screen.

SHOW NOTES:

Bimini’s tiktok

Bimini’s new song - Take It All

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! 

Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.

Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! 

Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.

SHOW NOTES:

Personal Development School Attachment Quiz

Personal Development School YouTube

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

How to deal with sexual harassment in the dms? Well comedian and podcaster Chloe Maddren decided to make money off of it. We chat to her about how she got back at trolls with her OnlyFans and hear her hot take on how sex positivity may have gone too far. 

Content warning: this episode discusses sexual assault, trauma, and sexual harassment. 

SHOW NOTES:

Chloe Maddren Instagram

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, from settling for the slow burn to how to listen to your partner, not react.

SHOW NOTES:

TherapyJeff on tiktok

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Ever fantasised about someone else other than your partner? Did you feel guilty about it? From replaying hot memories with your ex, to exploring your sexuality - we hear who/what you’re thinking about and whether you reckon it’s a red flag in a relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

ABC article on fantasising

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Almost one quarter of people aged 18 to 24 feel anxious or embarrassed about the way their vulva looks. But Ellie Sedgwick is on a mission to change that. She’s spent the past seven years photographing over 500 different vulvas - celebrating vulva diversity, challenging unrealistic beauty standards and encouraging people to feel more comfortable in their skin. 

SHOW NOTES:

• Comfortable In My Skin
• Labiaplasty research 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Is age just a number? Or does it get icky if the gap is too big? We hear from you about your experience dating older / younger - from the positives like having better sex to the challenges like navigating different life stages and realising when the power dynamic is off. 

SHOW NOTES:

(If the ep brought up anything for you) Lifeline: 13 11 14

Dee’s article on age gaps in relationships

Deakin University study - Does age difference in relationships matter?

Study on men being attracted to women in their 20s regardless of their own age

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Ever wondered what cum is actually made of? Or the science behind an erection? Why do wet dreams happen? What are the chances of pre-cum getting someone pregnant? 

Dr Theresa Larkin has everything you need to know about sperm, semen, erections and ejaculations.

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Have you kept photos, jewellery, tshirts, presents, sentimental stuff or nudes from your ex?

We debate what’s ok or not ok to hold onto after a break up. 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Do you struggle with "checking in" with your partner? Maybe you've tried to initiate the convo and they give you nothing back? 

We chat to couples therapist Liz Neal to find out how to take the pressure off and navigate those vulnerable conversations - and how to start making check ins a regular thing in your relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

Gottman couples cards

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.