“Pressure is a privelage.” ~Billie Jean King

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Does it ever feel like pressure is out to get you?

For years, experts in performance psychology have told us that pressure is the “enemy of success.”

It seems logical, right?

After all, under pressure, things can go sideways. Deadlines get blown. People choke. Sometimes, terrible things happen.

But here’s the twist: pressure isn’t the bad guy.

It can be one of your most unexpected allies—if you allow it.

Think about it: What’s a deadline, if not pressure’s way of snapping us out of procrastination and forcing us to get things done?

At the Olympics—where the stakes are enormous and the pressure is sky-high—not all athletes crumble; in every Olympics, world and Olympic records are set.

Why is that?

If pressure were truly the enemy of success, why are so many ‘successful’ people known for navigating pressure-filled waters?

Consider Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, or Nelson Mandela. Weren’t they immersed in some of the most pressure-packed circumstances imaginable?

Isn’t their heroism defined by how they navigated that pressure, rather than crumbled under it?

Here’s the truth: Pressure isn’t inherently good or bad—it’s neutral, precisely like the force of habit.Whether we like it or not, it’s not going away anytime soon.

Pressure was with you the day you were born, and it’s certain to be with you until your final breath.

Thus, it’s probably worth understanding it better.

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Turns out, there’s a simple mantra—a formula—for navigating pressure, and it’s detailed extensively in The Pressure Paradox®; it’s identified simply as “The 3 P’s.”

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What’s a Manifest?

While “manifest” can function as an adjective, it is most commonly used as a noun or verb.

As a noun: A manifest is the captain’s list—a detailed record of what’s being carried and delivered to a destination.

As a verb: To manifest refers to the act of turning goals, dreams, and ideals into physical reality.

In today’s Mind Bullet, we explore the common ground between these meanings.

It’s likely no coincidence that they share the same name. The concepts are inherently connected.

To manifest your goals (verb), it’s crucial to DOCUMENT your efforts—the process itself.

This is where many TikTok and Instagram "Gooroos" get it wrong. They promise you’ll manifest your dreams simply by visualizing, repeating mantras, and meditating.

What they often overlook is this fundamental truth:

Manifestation is a process of documentation.

Read that again.

To manifest effectively, you must track where you’re headed, what’s working, and what isn’t. You need to record your actions, behaviors, and habits. (Join the waitlist here.)

The act of documenting and tracking is the manifestation bridge—the critical link between a foggy, far-off dream and seeing it take shape in reality.Why Habit Tracking Changes Everything

All captains are required to carry a manifest:

It clarifies the mission: You can’t deliver what you can’t define.

It keeps you accountable: Progress is easier to measure when it’s written down.

It shows the path forward: If you get off course, the manifest reminds you where you’re going—and why.

In your life, tracking your habits is your personal manifest. Without it, you’re just guessing whether you’re moving in the right direction.

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“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” ~ Socrates

What are you building?

Wise words, right?

Let’s be honest—Socrates didn’t have to deal with email inboxes or social media.

Change was easier when your biggest distractions were donkeys.

Still, his message holds up.

If you’re tired of replaying your greatest bad habits hits… (Procrastination: The Remix, anyone?), it’s time to focus on building the new.

Key Ideas

Change is constant: Everything bound by time is changing—including you. Whether you like it or not, life keeps moving forward.

Let go of your EX—the past: Whether it’s a toxic habit, a dead-end goal, or your undying love for midnight ice cream binges, clinging to the old only makes it harder to build the new. The past is like that annoying ex—it’s not helping you grow, so why keep holding on?

Build, don’t battle: Ever tried arguing with yourself? It’s exhausting. Telling yourself you’ll “definitely start tomorrow” only to repeat the same old habits feels like shadowboxing your brain. Instead, channel that energy into ACTION. Dust off that dream—like writing that book you’ve been “starting” since 2012— take the first step.

Start small and keep it real: Plato said, "The beginning is the most important part of the work." Translation? S.T.A.R.T.—Simple. Today. Actions. Repeated. Tracked. Quit over-researching, overthinking, or waiting for the perfect moment. Just start—even if it’s messy.

Time is short: As Brian Tracy put it, “There’s never enough time to do everything, but there’s always enough time to do the most important things.” Stop waiting…

Today The Building Begins!

Build habits like a boss: Use the P.A.R.R. method—Plan, Act, Record, Reassess. You're a human, not a rodent stuck in a habit loop. (see below)

Listen while you build: Subscribe to the Habits 2 Goals podcast—it’s like having a coach in your pocket, but without the shouting.

Level up with accountability: Upgrade to a paid Annual Premium subscription and gain access to our upcoming Peer Accountability and Small Coaching group.

Go PRO: Enroll in the 8-Day Habit Mastery Workshop for on-demand, next-level habit and skill development. It’s structured, supportive, and (don’t worry) kale-free.

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“There is no success without hardship.” ~ Sophocles

Today’s Frequently Asked Friday (FAF): What’s the one ‘habit/skill/trait’ holding me back from living the life I desire?”

The Price of Admission

Steve Jobs often said that starting and running a business is “painful and difficult.”

Elon Musk? Same tune, different key.

These guys didn’t just waltz onto the stage of success—they slogged through the swamp of pain, discomfort, frustration, and failure.

Why?

Because success is never a gift; it’s the result of grit—a prize you wrestle from life as it growls at you.

Here’s a PAINFUL truth (again): nobody is born disciplined.

Not you, not me, not even that annoying friend who crushes marathons before breakfast.

Discipline is just a dressed-up way of saying, “I’ve become really good at tolerating pain without b******g too much.”

The best part? Discipline—tolerable pain—is a learnable skill, trait, and habit, no matter how much you currently enjoy hitting the snooze button.

Make Pain Your Frenemy

Pain doesn’t have to be your eternal arch-nemesis.

The Master Key: Begin with Pain Lite™

Nobody’s asking you to climb Everest in flip-flops. Heck, even David Goggins—yes, that David Goggins—was reportedly, in his own words, a “fat, lazy slob” before he turned his life around. Need proof? Look no further than the title of his bestselling book: “Can’t Hurt Me.”

Here’s the thing: Goggins didn’t wake up one day as the poster child for superhuman discipline. He developed it—one habit at a time, by embracing discomfort and leaning into pain.

P.A.R.R. Your Way to Glory

No, this isn’t a catchy new pirate slogan—it’s a simple, proven process to help you build the habit of discipline. Consider it your battle plan:

Plan: Outline your goal or habit. What are you aiming for?

Act: Take small, consistent steps forward. Start messy if you have to—just start.

Record: Track your progress, even if it feels tedious. Writing it down creates accountability.

Reassess: Reflect on what’s working and tweak as needed. Growth is a constant experiment.

P.A.R.R. Leverages Your Executive Brain—You Are Not a Rodent

Unlike rodents, you’re not stuck in a loop of pain-and-pleasure-based survival. You’re human, which means you have access to three incredible superpowers:

Choice: You decide what’s important and where to focus your energy.

Intention/Planning: You can anticipate challenges and create strategies to overcome them.

Reflection: You’re able to look back, evaluate, and adjust your approach for better results.

Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

By following The Habit Factor’s P.A.R.R. methodolgy, you can tap into your higher brain functions and break free from the automatic “pain-pleasure” cycle that drives most behavior.

So no—you don’t have to climb mountains barefoot or live like a Navy SEAL to embrace discipline.

Start small, embrace some discomfort.

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“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” ~ Stephen Covey

First Things First: A Football Story (Kind Of)

Picture this: it’s Sunday morning, and I’m getting some “very important work” done.

Deadlines, projects, emails—cue dramatic music—it’s all calling my name.

I’m laser-focused, in the zone.

Then, my wife comes skipping down the stairs (okay, not actually skipping):“It’s time to watch some football!”

Now, I’m not going to lie. My gut reaction? Football?! Really?!

I love football, but I knew I had to get caught up on these projects.

My inner voice insisted, “You don’t have time for this! You’ve got WORK to do!”

But then, after a poorly timed epiphany, I realized the irony. I had set out to write about “FIRST THINGS”—about putting priorities in order. Yet, saying no to football would make my wife unhappy.

Could I really write a productivity post about “first things” and then turn around and say, “No can do, wifey”?

Was I productive? Nope.

Was I effective? YES.

Did I make her happy? Yep.

And therein lies just one of the first lessons about FIRST THINGS.

Lessons in Priorities

People and Relationships > Projects and Things

Stephen Covey’s principle isn’t just about managing time; it’s about managing life—what matters most.

Few, if any, lie on their deathbed wishing they had answered more emails or finished more projects.

Almost everyone wishes they had spent more time with loved ones.

Watching football wasn’t really about the game. It was about showing my wife that she was a priority.

In the end, effectiveness always beats efficiency.

“Most people are busy, yet ineffective.”

I could’ve been “efficient,” said no, and powered through my work—but at what cost? An unhappy spouse?

True effectiveness came from trading productivity time for relationship time.

Maturity (and a few prior mistakes) are great teachers.

My younger self would’ve chosen work, believing it was the smart and responsible thing to do.

Older (and hopefully wiser) me has learned that success is less about checking boxes and more about making choices—and forging habits—that align with your values and your “ideal future.”

What Are Your First Things?

As Thanksgiving approaches, I’m reminded that gratitude and connection are our true FIRST THINGS.

Work will always be there. Time with loved ones? That’s fleeting.

One less Thanksgiving is being served up on Thursday!

So, take a moment to figure out your own “first things”—whether it’s family, friends, or simply being present.

Focus on what you value most—and be grateful for the real first things.

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“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” ~Bruce Lee

Napoleon Dynamite got it right!

Between you and your big, shiny goal is a gatekeeper.

Any clue?

It’s the difference between doing and dreaming.

It’s skills.

Do you possess, at a high level, the skills your goal requires?

Identify 3-5 of the key SKILLS that your goal demands, and list them.

Here’s the kicker: skills and habits arrive together, like Batman and Robin—like salt and pepper—one invariably brings the other.

Picture this: you want to write a book, run a marathon, or play the piano like a pro. Big dreams, to be sure.

However, without the requisite skills/habits, these dreams will remain dreams.

Is playing the piano a skill or a habit?

Drum roll please: It’s both!

Skills don’t just appear; they grow out of relentless, boring, intentional practice—repetition.

How does one intentionally cultivate habits and skills?

By following the P.A.R.R. method for habit development (published within The Habit Factor®). P.A.R.R. stands for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess.

Do you think this P.A.R.R. methodology sounds tedious?

You’re correct. It is.

It’s also where the rubber—your intention—meets the road—your actions.

It’s where progress, momentum, and ultimately greatness hide. Exhibit One: Steph Curry’s tedium. To him of course, it’s anything but tedious.

Steph teaches us that it’s the silent, stubborn act of showing up consistently, practicing that one shot or “kick” 10,000 times until you can do it in your sleep.

“You are rewarded in public for what you have intensely practiced and refined in private.” ~Tony Robbins

So, what’s it going to be?

Will you dream about your goals or practice them into existence?

Decide which skills/habits you need today to move closer to your most important goal.

Your future self is watching.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

Eager to put this into practice?

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Messy

Life can be a real, unpredictable mess at times.

There are things within our control—and way more beyond it. (See the Behavior Echo-System).

So, we tumble through life, tripping over our expectations, cursing when things don’t go our way, and thinking the universe owes us a smoother ride.

Here’s a quick story, courtesy of the NFL.

It’s halftime. The reporter is interviewing Mike Tomlin, the Pittsburgh Steelers' Super Bowl-winning head coach. “You’ve been inside the red zone a few times and come away with nothing but field goals. Isn’t that frustrating?”

His response: “It’s not frustrating, it’s football.”

Boom.

Without pause, Tomlin dropped a truth bomb that should be knitted on pillows worldwide.

Football comes with challenges built right in. As does life.

How many of us set ourselves up for disappointment, convinced life is supposed to be a never-ending merry-go-round of cotton candy and catchy music?

We have generations of ‘kids’ growing up (thanks to social media), floating along, expecting (happiness loop - prior episode), each day to be an easy ride.

The last time I checked, life wasn’t designed for ease and comfort - feel free to thank whatever gods you’d like for that.

The good-ish news is this; when we stop expecting ease, comfort, and smoothness, we’re braced for a bumpy ride.

When we train ourselves for difficulties, the difficulties become easier.

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“No person is free who cannot command themselves.” ~ Pythagoras

Welcome to NOvember

"Who Is In Control?"

This November, H2G - Habits 2 Goals challenges you to ask one crucial question:

Who is in control?

Discipline is a Habit

“Nobody is born disciplined. It’s something you cultivate.”

Discipline is not an inborn trait.

Like any habit, discipline is cultivated through practice, it’s a habit/skill anyone can develop over time. (see Behavior Echo-System 👇)

Self-Mastery and Freedom

True freedom results from self-mastery— to choose one’s response rather than reacting impulsively.

The decision to practice discipline leads to greater freedom and autonomy.

“The choice of discipline and diligence produces freedom."

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The Behavior Echo-System

Your behaviors don’t occur in a vacuum—they’re part of your “Behavior Echo-System.” Everyone has their own behavior echo-system – an interconnected set of influencers that includes one’s environment, thoughts (stories), and emotions.

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New Listener Reset: Habits & Goals Basics

Habits are NOT better than goals. Goals are not better than habits.

Understand the crucial role each play in your life and how each serve the other.

Heading into my summer hiatus, I’m leaving you with a handful of episodes to revisit and to help reset your habit tracking and goal journey.

HABITS:

"How Systems Help to Create Habits & Skills" - Discusses how systems can support habit formation.

"Discipline is a Habit" - Focuses on the role of discipline in habit building.

"Killing Negative Habits" - Offers insights into breaking bad habits using the 4 Ments!

"28 Days!" - Likely about the significance of the 28-day habit formation process.

"How to Create Any Habit" - Offers practical steps to start new habits.

"The Habit Factor: Starting Small" - Emphasizes the importance of starting small with habit formation to demonstrate self-efficacy and create momentum!

"Why Accountability Matters" - Explores the role of accountability in habit development. A tracking sheet, an accountability buddy; these are examples of environmental influencers that help to forge good, positive habits.

"Tracking Your Habits" - Discusses the importance of habit tracking in achieving goals. (See above ☝️ )

GOALS:

"Goals are Not Optional" - This episode discusses the critical nature of goal setting and why it's essential to have clear goals.

"The End is the Beginning" - This episode delves into the importance of knowing your desired outcome before setting your goals.

"2021 New Year Series: Do Not Pass Go!" - A motivational episode that emphasizes the importance of committing to your goals and tracking your habits.

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“Just when the catepillar thought the world was going to end, it became a butterfly.”

Metamorphosis

Change: one of life’s great constants.

For those between 45 and 60, life often brings significant challenges: marriages end, careers shift, personal identities and appearances evolve.

After decades of laying a foundation, it may feel like it’s slipping away...

Quantum physics offers a fascinating perspective on transformation. It suggests that multiple possibilities exist in any given moment and that our focus heavily influences which 'reality' unfolds.

When one chapter ends, the story can improve if we remain open to the same curiosity and optimism that served us initially.

Fear and resistance hold us back. Acceptance and equanimity serve times of change best.

“Faith alone defends. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”~ Helen Keller

Appreciate endings as gateways to new beginnings. See losses as lessons and challenges as stepping stones.

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“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” ~Abraham Lincoln

Failure Number 9

Lincoln’s quote ☝️ is a powerful and stark reminder that even the greatest among us stumble, fail, and fall flat on their faces.

Given enough time, as Ray Dalio puts it, “There are a whole host of ways that something will get you.” See image below…

This is where Lincoln’s example is proof positive that failure isn’t just a stepping stone to success; it’s an essential ingredient—a requirement.

In the realm of biophysics, there’s a concept known as the principle of maximum error*. It suggests that organisms, including humans, benefit from mistakes. It is through experimentation and failing that we learn, grow, and optimize ourselves.

Thus, Failure Number 9 or 18 or 72 isn’t a cause for despair but rather encouragement.

As long as you have the capacity to choose your response (see prior episode, Stimulus vs Response), and guide your behaviors toward your goals and ideals, you are on the path.

Sometimes when you are in a dark place you may feel you have been buried, when in fact you have been planted. ~ Christine Caine

Do your best to approach each setback as an opportunity to refine your approach, develop resilience, and discover new strengths.

Responding to failure is largely about finding a hopeful narrative. A H.E.R.O.’s narrative—one that is Hopeful, Empowering, Responsible, and Optimistic—even when the chapter you’re in feels like a tragedy.

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