In this conversation, Monique Koven and Trauma Expert Dr. Aimie delve into the complexities of trauma healing, emphasizing the importance of understanding the body's role in processing trauma. They discuss the necessity of completing trauma responses, the significance of creating a sense of safety, and the journey from safety to aliveness. The conversation highlights the essential sequence in trauma healing, the role of support, and the importance of building new neural pathways for lasting change. Dr. Aimie's next Foundational Journey course begins Oct. 8.2024 . Link Below

takeaways

• Healing trauma requires a thoughtful and intentional approach.
• The body holds trauma, and understanding its needs is crucial.
• Completing trauma responses is essential for recovery.
• Understanding the three states of the nervous system is vital for healing.
• Creating a felt sense of safety is the first step in trauma recovery.
• The journey from safety to aliveness is a key aspect of healing.
• Building new neural pathways is necessary for lasting change.
• Support from others can enhance the healing process.
• Tools and skills for self-regulation empower individuals in their healing journey

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In this beautiful conversation, Monique Koven and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz delve into the complexities of trauma, resilience, and healing. They explore the nuances of complex trauma, the importance of therapy, and the power of community support in overcoming adversity. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, they highlight the journey of self-discovery and the significance of finding beauty in the midst of hardship. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and the gradual process of thawing from trauma, ultimately leading to post-traumatic growth.

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In this conversation, Monique Koven and Dr. Aimie Apigian discuss the topic of overwhelm and how it relates to trauma and our nervous system. They explore the concept of overwhelm as a trauma response and the ways in which our body tries to protect us from it. They also discuss the role of parts work in addressing overwhelm and how to work with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts. Aimie emphasizes the importance of collaboration and building trust with these parts. They also touch on the integration of biology, somatic work, and parts work in the healing journey

takeaways

• Overwhelm is a trauma response that is different for trauma survivors compared to those who do not have a history of trauma.
• Our body remembers past experiences of overwhelm and tries to protect us from experiencing it again.
• Parts work is a tool for addressing overwhelm and involves working with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts.
• Collaboration and building trust with these parts is essential in the healing process.
• The integration of biology, somatic work, and parts work is important in addressing overwhelm and building a foundation of regulation.

Aimie Apigian, MD, MS, MPH, is a Board-Certified Preventive Medicine physician with a Masters in Biochemistry and a Masters in Public Health.  She is an author, speaker and founder of Trauma Healing Accelerated, LLC and Family Challenge Camps, and host of Bio-Optimize Summit. She now has founded Trauma Healing Accelerated to bring information and personal empowerment through online courses.  She hosts summits on how to optimize the biology in those who want the next level to their health and performance. She has an active medical practice in California in Addiction Medicine and Concierge Functional Medicine.Aimie has a number of certifications in various trauma therapies including Instinctual Trauma Response Model (an art trauma therapy), Somatic Experiencing (developed by Dr. Peter Levine), and NeuroAffective Touch (Dr. Aline LaPierre). Dr. Aimie enjoys bridging the gap between what she sees happening in these trauma therapies and a person’s biology and nervous system.

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In this second conversation, Host Monique Koven and psychologist and author Dr. Lindsay Gibson discuss emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, such as egocentrism and poor empathy, and how it can manifest in various relationships. They also discuss the continuum of emotional maturity and the role of hope in dealing with emotionally immature individuals.  Dr. Gibson offers insights into the experiences of those raised by emotionally immature parents and offers strategies for navigating relationships with emotionally immature people. She also shares information about her books on the topic.

takeaways:
Emotional immaturity can manifest in various relationships, including parent-child relationships, romantic relationships, and friendships.

• Emotional immaturity is characterized by egocentrism and poor empathy, where individuals prioritize their own needs and emotions over others.
• Emotional maturity is a continuum, and individuals can exhibit emotional immaturity in certain areas while being mature in others.
• Hope is important in dealing with emotionally immature individuals, but it is also important to recognize and set boundaries to protect oneself.
• Those raised by emotionally immature parents may have developed skills in caretaking and empathy, but it is important for them to prioritize their own needs and establish healthy boundaries in relationships.
• Listening to one's body and recognizing how relationships make them feel can help identify emotionally draining or unhealthy dynamics.

Dr. Lindsay C Gibson's Books 
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
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Disentangling From Emotionally Immature People 
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You cannot to heal from Trauma until you gently learn to become friends with your nervous system. May survivors have adapted to trauma by shutting down or disconnecting from their feelings and sensations.This makes sense when you live in a dangerous and threatening environment. However the patterns of disconnection remain long after the trauma is over. 

 Welcome to a brand new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. In this first healing trauma conversation, host Monique Koven and Trauma expert Deb Dana discuss the Polyvagal theory and trauma healing. They emphasize the importance of understanding the nervous system and how it shapes our experiences. They highlight the need to start making the nervous system a friend, rather than trying to solve problems without considering its role. They discuss the concept of glimmers, which are small moments of safety and regulation that can reshape the nervous system. Glimmers are seen as a way to build capacity for processing trauma and unresolved experiences..

The polyvagal theory is a foundational concept in understanding trauma and the nervous system.It is important to recognize and appreciate the wisdom of the nervous system and its survival responses. Befriending the nervous system and working with it can lead to a sense of safety and regulation. Glimmers, small moments of safety and regulation, can reshape the nervous system and build capacity for processing trauma.

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This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the chance to meet you. The details and zoom link will be found in the in the next podcast episode. I look forward to meeting you! In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host & trauma therapist Dr. Mark McNear interviews trauma therapist and author Sam Jolen. They discuss the importance of addressing sexual trauma and the challenges survivors face in opening up about their experiences. Sam shares his own journey of healing and how therapy helped him connect with his story. They also explore the concept of trauma and the role of play in the healing process. Sam emphasizes the importance of kindness and self-compassion in the journey of healing from trauma.TakeawaysSexual trauma survivors often hold their trauma as shame and may struggle to open up about their experiences.Therapy can provide a safe space for survivors to connect with their stories and begin the healing process.Trauma is a wound that overwhelms with negative felt experience and lacks a source of love or comfort.Play can be a healing tool that allows survivors to reconnect with joy and pleasure.Kindness and self-compassion are essential in the journey of healing from trauma. You can watch this as a video podcast on Spotify or on youtube https://youtu.be/-mOc-mApHOoSam's website https://www.samjolman.com/Dr. Mark McNear's Website https://markmcnear.com/Support:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast  Websitehttps://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/

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In this conversation, Monique interviews Heather Stringer, a licensed therapist, about her work with trauma and rituals. Heather shares her experience of using rituals as a form of processing trauma and making it known and significant. She describes a ritual she created for a woman who was reclaiming her femininity and how it helped her embody a new story. Heather emphasizes the importance of involving the body in the healing process and the power of community in supporting and witnessing the ritual. She also discusses the possibility of conducting rituals online and the significance of incorporating simple rituals into daily life.Keywordstrauma, rituals, processing, significance, embodiment, community, healing, online, daily lifeTakeaways

• Rituals can be a powerful tool for processing trauma and making it known and significant.
• Involving the body in the healing process is essential, as trauma is a full-body experience.
• Community support and witnessing are crucial in the ritual process.
• Rituals can be conducted online, allowing for participation from different locations.
• Simple rituals can be incorporated into daily life to bring meaning and intentionality.

• Conducting Rituals Online
• The Power of Embodiment in Healing

• "We're capable of entering into the really dark places and calling forth our goodness and our glory."
• "Ritual interrupts old stories and patterns, allowing for new possibilities."
• "Rituals provide a tangible reminder of who we are and what we have overcome."
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This healing conversation delves into the author's book, 'It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping,' and explores themes of family, trauma and transformation. Lisa Jo shares her emotional response to the book and engages in a deep discussion about her personal journey and the impact of generational trauma. The conversation offers insights into the complexity of parent-child relationships, and the potential for healing and transformation. 

Takeaways

• The power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformation
• The complexity of parent-child relationships and the potential for repair and growth
• The impact of generational trauma and the importance of self-reflection and change
• The emotional response to the author's book and the deep connection it fosters with readersThe power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformation

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In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors and the role of framing our emotions in a healthy way. Overall, the conversation highlights the practices of naming, awareness, framing, and braving as essential tools for emotional well-being.Key words emotions, naming, order, relief, self-compassion, curiosity, pausing, reflecting, trauma, healing, framing, braving, emotional. The conversation is based on themes in Alision’s new book “ I Shouldn’t Feel This Way.” Takeaways Acknowledging and embracing our emotions is important for our emotional well-being. Naming our emotions brings order and relief to our inner world. Self-compassion and curiosity are key in dealing with our emotions. Pausing and reflecting before taking action allows for wiser decision-making. The healing journey of trauma survivors involves learning to name and honor their emotions. Framing our emotions in a healthy way helps us understand and respond to them effectively. Braving involves taking action based on our emotional awareness and understanding. Embracing Our Emotions: The Key to Emotional Well-being Healing Trauma: Learning to Name and Honor Our Emotions "I shouldn't feel this way has become for me a little bit of a, oh, I feel something. I feel something I don't want to feel." "The truth sets us free. This is what I feel. I'm not gaslighting myself. I'm not trying to dupe myself into not feeling what I really feel." "Numbing is to try to keep those emotions outside of our conscious awareness. Naming is bringing them up into the surface and looking at them."Dr. Alison Cook's Website & Resources dralisoncook.com

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With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz.In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of attachment and how our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self. The conversation highlights the healing potential of acknowledging and validating our feelings and offering love and compassion to ourselves.

Keywords

Mother's Day, trauma, emotions, self-compassion, attachment Mother's Day can bring up a range of complex emotions for individuals with trauma, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. It is important to practice self-compassion and attend to the sacred wounds of the past. Our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self and can lead to feelings of responsibility and confusion. Acknowledging and validating our feelings is essential for healing and creating space for self-love and compassion. Attachment plays a significant role in our relationship with our mothers and our ability to offer love and compassion to ourselves. The Range of Emotions on Mother's Day Practicing Self-Compassion and Healing Sacred Wounds "Mother's Day is approaching, we start to feel this almost as countdown of a complexity of feelings."

 "We learn to push down our authentic feelings because somebody else gave us this message that they couldn't handle our feelings."

 "What is true for you is welcome here now."Grateful for Dr. Arielle Schwartz enormous contribution to the work of Trauma Recovery and Healing. 

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This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest. Taken from her podcast description

'Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunderstood. In today’s episode, Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares her powerful story of healing from trauma. There is absolute gold in this episode for everyone."

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