The Hook Up
triple j
The Hook Up is the Sex-Ed you wish you’d had. Nat Tencic talks all things sex, love and relationships, and hangs out with a team of experts who delve into their love lives and answer all your sexy questions.
- 8 minutes 21 secondsOur Heated Rivalry Summers
We're back!!! Dee and Pip yap about their summers. Guess who was sick and who partied non stop. They also debrief Heated Rivalry and let you know what's coming up this year with The Hook Up.
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
20 January 2026, 4:00 am - 41 minutes 39 secondsICYMI: Should We Be Worried About The Rise Of AI Relationships?
ICYMI: Whether it’s for friendship, therapy or sexual and romantic relationships, AI companions are becoming way more normalised. So what does this mean for the way we relate and date people irl? We investigate the rise of AI relationships and hear how you’re using it in your own love lives.
CW: discussion of mental health and suicide
SHOW NOTES:
Mental health and AI companions
Reddit - My Husband Wants To Open Our Marriage To His AI Girlfriend https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1ltm60b/aio_my_35f_husband_36m_wants_to_open_our_marriage/
Can ChatBots Substitute Real Human Romance?
NY Times podcast - She Fell In Love With ChatGPT https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tXmc_cYW9Y
14 Year Old Boy Takes His Life After AI Chatbot Encourages Him
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2024/oct/23/character-ai-chatbot-sewell-setzer-death
AI Companion inciting Sexual violence, abuse, terror attacks
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
12 January 2026, 7:00 pm - 34 minutes 51 secondsICYMI: I Think I Want To Go To Therapy, What Next?
ICYMI: If you’re not feeling great mentally, or you want to work through some things, or you’ve just gone through a big life event - you might be thinking about getting some professional help.
Starting therapy can feel super overwhelming if you’ve never done it before, so in this ep we chat to clinical psychologist Dr Jarrod White about everything you need to know about going to therapy for the first time.
SHOW NOTES:
Dr Jarrod White - Beyond Therapy Room
The Body Keeps The Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk
The Courage To Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
Lost Connections - Johann Hari
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
5 January 2026, 7:00 pm - 44 minutes 7 secondsICYMI: How To Actually Have A Good Threesome
Keen to have a threesome for the first time but duno how to go about it?
Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee about all the different ways you can have a threeway.
SHOW NOTES:
How Are You Having Threesomes? VOD: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7El-yUPxPMw&t=3s
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
29 December 2025, 8:00 pm - 4 minutes 48 secondsICYMI: Is Getting Back With Your Ex Worth It?
So you wanna get back with your ex. It’s a pretty universal experience and you told us heaps of reasons why you tried to rekindle the relationship - whether it’s emotional dependency, needing closure or the whole “it’ll be different this time!”. We hear your stories from when it’s worked, when it hasn’t, and if there’s a formula to getting it right.
SHOW NOTES:
Should You Get Back With Your Ex or Move On?: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/getting-back-together-with-ex-break-up-move-on-liz-neal/105749268
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
22 December 2025, 8:00 pm - 34 minutes 33 secondsICYMI: When Family Messes With Your Love Life
Have you ever dated someone who's family was too involved, or a bit too close? Whether it’s your own or your partners - we hear how families with no boundaries, cultural/religious differences, and mummy’s boys/daddy’s girls have messed with your love life.
SHOW NOTES:
An Expert’s Advice For Dealing With Toxic Families: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/families-no-boundaries-toxic-relationships-dr-lillian-nejad/105154746
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
15 December 2025, 7:00 pm - 44 minutes 20 secondsThe Biggest Moments In Dating, Sex And Relationships This Year
We’re coming to the end of a massive year covering all things love, sex, dating and relationships here on The Hook Up. From the male loneliness epidemic and the rise of AI relationships, to the rise of ENM, performative males, fake doms and boyfriends being embarrassing - we recap all the trends in news and pop culture that got you talking, plus hear your fav eps from 2025!
SHOW NOTES:
Hack story on AI Relationship study on relationships
https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/ai-chatbots-accelerating-loneliness-epidemic/105931188
Is Being A Pick Me Or Performative Male Problematic?
How To Actually Have A Good Threesome
Do I Have A Sex/Porn Addiction?
How Often Should I Be Having Sex?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQ35yOTAfyo&list=PLFqO_oqoHHMzFwCWPXOj6CDpOdG3eS8cE&index=9
How To Deal With Mismatched Libido
Is Everyone ENM Now?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9L7gf5TR5Q
How To Do Non-Monogamy Ethically
Why Are There So Many Fake Doms?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngg8KHqrSgo
Period Farts, Cum Headaches & The Science Of Kinks w/ Dr Eva
Science Of Squirting And How To Do It
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
8 December 2025, 7:00 pm - 24 minutes 30 secondsHow To Tell Your Friend You Don’t Like Their Partner
If your friend is dating someone that sucks, or is downright toxic - what’s the best way to let them know? In this ep, you’ll hear from psychologist Liz Neal about how to tell someone you love that you don’t like their partner and what to do if your friend pushes you away.
SHOW NOTES:
1800 Respect: 1800 737 732
Liz Neal Website: https://www.elizabethneal.com.au/
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
4 December 2025, 1:30 am - 43 minutes 59 secondsShould You Tell Your Friend Their Partner Is Shit?
We’ve all had a friend who’s dated someone you don’t like - but is it ever your place to say something? We find out whether you should tell them (early? When you’re asked? Or not at all??), find the difference between not liking their partner vs they’re bad for your friend and why you reckon it’s important to stick around even if your friend's got rose coloured glasses on.
SHOW NOTES:
Lifeline: 13 11 14
1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
1 December 2025, 7:30 pm - 32 minutes 5 secondsWhy We Should Normalise Sex Toys With Partners
Sex toys are an amazing way to explore pleasure and discover your sexuality - but there’s still a lot of stigma, especially when bringing them into partnered sex or if you struggle to climax without one. We chat to sex educator Georgia Grace about how to work through any internalised toy shame, and how to introduce them if you (or your partner) feel awkward.
Note: we experienced some technical issues during this recording which have impacted audio quality, but feel the chat too good not to share!
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
27 November 2025, 2:00 am - 46 minutes 5 secondsShould We All Be Using Sex Toys?
Sex toys have become more accessible and normalised than ever before, but are they making your love life better? From vibrators, dildos and fleshlights to floggers, whips and gags, we hear how you’re using them with partners, we unpack vibrator shame, and discuss how the sexual wellness trend is packaging products and pleasure.
SHOW NOTES:
Men are buying more sex toys:
Sexual wellness industry stats:
https://www.fortunebusinessinsights.com/sexual-wellness-products-market-110030
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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