For years women and people with eggs have been told they have a ‘biological clock’ when it comes to their fertility, but how true is that really? And does sperm have the same ‘clock’? In this ep, Dee chats to associate professor Dr Theresa Larkin on the latest research on infertility and why it’s been so gendered. 

SHOW NOTES:

Yes, men have a biological clock too. But it’s not just age that affects male fertility

What’s the difference between sperm and semen? And can pre-ejaculate get you pregnant?

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

triple j's award winning and most complained about show is back for another round of The Hook Up Live at Melbourne International Comedy Festival! Dee and Pip hit the stage with comedians Lou Wall, Fergus Neal, Lara Ricote, Sophie Duker, and Dave Woodhead to hear their most cooked sex and dating stories, play games and give you some personalised advice on your dating dilemmas from the best in the biz* (*us, duh).

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Moving in with a partner is usually considered the ‘next step’. But how do you know when you’re both ready? Because in our last ep we heard it can make or break a relationship. So in this episode we get all the advice you need from couples therapist and sexologist Isiah McKimmie on everything you need to know if you’re thinking about living together. 

SHOW NOTES:

MOVING IN VODCAST: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEdz1wajEnM&list=PLFqO_oqoHHMzFwCWPXOj6CDpOdG3eS8cE

Isiah McKimmie Website: https://isiah-mckimmie.com/

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Shacking up with your lover can be so exciting and a real milestone for a relationship, dialling up the intimacy and creating a solid foundation for the future. But sometimes it can reveal parts of a person that you never knew existed - creating tension or sapping the romance out of the relationship, and fast-tracking a break up. We find out how it’s gone for you! 

SHOW NOTES:Co-habitation relationship stats in Australia: https://aifs.gov.au/all-research/research-reports/couple-relationships-australia-today

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

She’s ‘Australia’s First Ever Attractive Comedian’ but she’s never been in love before. In this ep, Elouise Eftos chats about the male gaze, female sexuality, heterofatalism, hook up culture and how she feels about never having a serious relationship before. 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

For some of us, being friends with an ex is a sign of emotional maturity. But for others, it’s a warning sign that there might still be feelings, or that it’s an unnecessary (or even disrespectful) relationship to keep. We hear you think and get your advice on how to do it right. 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Ever been mentally turned on but your body isn't responding? Or maybe your body is turned on but your mind isn’t? That's arousal non-concordance, and it's way more common than you think. In this ep, Dee speaks to psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee about why it happens, how it can impact consent and how to handle it.

SHOW NOTES:

Laura Lee Website - https://www.lauralee.com.au/

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Do you think humans are biologically wired for one partner? Or have we been socially conditioned into monogamy? We deep dive into the science and history of human relationships to figure out whether pairing with one person for life is our natural state of being, or if we’re actually biologically predisposed to be non-monogamous.

SHOW NOTES:

Our biology wants us untethered. So why does society place so much emphasis on monogamy?:

https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-barash-why-humans-choose-monogamy-20160320-story.html

Monogamous Animal Study - where humans rank:

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2025/dec/10/humans-rank-among-leading-monogamous-mammals-study-finds

PODCAST: Science Vs - True Love: Is Monogamy Unnatural? 

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1gm9BvCWsHhXN2erbvNXiv

PODCAST: Lives Well Lived w/ Anna Machin: Monogamy Is Unnatural

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3WyhifKm70RhzlLUChN8S3

BOOK: Esther Perel - Mating In Captivity

BOOK: Sex At Dawn - Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

BOOK: Eve: How the Female Body Drove 200 Million Years of Human Evolution - Cat Bohannon 

VIDEO: Helen Fisher + Chris Ryan + Esther Perel

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jMji-YE1qVA

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Louis Theroux’s new Netflix doco Inside the Manosphere has everyone talking. So in this episode, Dee chats with men’s violence prevention advocate and educator Tarang Chawla about his reaction to the film, why so many young men and boys are drawn to manosphere influencers, and the real-world impacts this content is having.

SHOW NOTES:

Inside The Manosphere - https://www.netflix.com/au/title/81920687

Tarang Chawla - https://tarangchawla.com/

1800 Respect (1800 737 732): national domestic family and sexual violence counselling hotline.

Mensline Australia (1300 78 99 78): counselling support for men with concerns about mental health, relationships, anger management, family violence (using and experiencing), stress, and suicidal thoughts.

13YARN (13 92 76): 24/7 culturally safe crisis support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people.

Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636): 24/7 support for anxiety and depression.

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Sometimes our mates do or say things that are a turn off - but unlike a relationship, sometimes we let them slide. In this episode we find out your friendship icks, and debate whether we should hold friends to the same standard that we hold our relationships to.

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? When writer Chanté Joseph asked that question in Vogue last year, she broke the internet. It pissed a lot of people off, but it also made a lot of single women finally feel validated. So why did it strike such a nerve? Dee Salmin asks Chanté what she really meant, what she thinks about heterosexuality in 2026, and whether engagements and marriage are embarrassing too. 

SHOW NOTES:

Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? Article: https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.