Do you struggle with "checking in" with your partner? Maybe you've tried to initiate the convo and they give you nothing back? 

We chat to couples therapist Liz Neal to find out how to take the pressure off and navigate those vulnerable conversations - and how to start making check ins a regular thing in your relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

Gottman couples cards

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Sometimes it’s a good idea to suss how your partner is feeling about your relationship, reflect on the good and bad, and talk about the future. In this episode, we hear how you do relationship check ins - how often you do them, what you ask and how it's impacted your relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

2 Be Better Podcast  Check In Questions

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you've ever been curious about sex parties/bathhouse/saunas/events but you're a bit intimidated or don't even know where to start — we find out everything you need to know with sex event curator Paisley Heart.

SHOW NOTES: 

@paisleyheart_

@rave.temple 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Are you having quickies or spending hours having sex? And is there a perfect sweet spot for how long the sesh should last?

SHOW NOTES:

The Conversation study on average length of sex

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Intimacy with your partner is super important to have but it’s also easy to lose if you don’t make the effort. We get advice from a sex and relationship therapist on what she reckons is the most important type of intimacy, and how to get it back if you’ve lost that spark. 

SHOW NOTES: Aleks Trkulja - sex, relationships and body image therapist and founder of The Pleasure Centre

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Intimacy is SO different for everyone so it’s kinda hard to describe - from light touches and vulnerable conversations to cooking together and slow dancing in the kitchen, we hear all the ways you love to be intimate with someone.

SHOW NOTES:

5 Types Of Intimacy

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Whether it’s getting wet, maintaining an erection, the pressure to perform and orgasm, being intimate can make you feel super vulnerable and can bring some deep rooted anxieties to the surface. We chat to Dr Nicole Cain, an expert in trauma-informed clinical psychology, about why panic can manifest, how to spot the warning signs and how to manage it.

SHOW NOTES:

Instagram: Dr Nicole Cain

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you’re spiralling after a break up, you’ll probs hear someone insist “you just need to be single for a while!!!” People love to hand out this advice - but why is it good to be alone for a bit? We get your tips on how to decenter relationships and fully embrace being single w/ special cohost Louis Hanson.

SHOW NOTES:

Resources for decentering relationships

Tiktok: TherapyJeff

Book: All About Love - Bell Hooks

Podcast: Jillian On Love by Jillian Turecki

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Does a good relationship take hard work or should it be easy? Well… it’s complicated. We chat to sex and relationship therapist Isiah McKimmie to find out how to strike the balance, and how to clock the signs that you should let go.

SHOW NOTES:

Gottman Institute on "perpetual problems"

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When people say “good relationships take hard work”, do you agree? Or do you think if you’re with the right person, it should be easy breezy smooth sailing? We hear all your takes with special co-host Hannah Ferguson.

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

It’s one of the most common STIs that often goes undetected for years - so whether you’re casually dating or in a long term relationship, how do you bring it up with a partner? We get sex coach Georgia Grace’s advice on how to have that conversation. 

SHOW NOTES:

Pod ep: Everyone Has Herpes*

BONUS: how getting herpes can change your life for the better

Herpes support group: Herpes support group via Comfortable In My Skin

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.