Casey Donatello is a married, non-monogamous author and podcast host who embraces the Hotwife lifestyle. She is passionate about supporting others on their journey to becoming more confident and unapologetic in their lives and their sexual choices. In today’s episode, she shares her process of recognizing and pursuing a relationship dynamic and sexual lifestyle that she finds most fulfilling. We also discuss how she found a partner who aligned with her vision for life and sex and how they deal with jealousy, communication, and rule-setting as they cultivate partner-sharing experiences. Casey also offers practical wisdom on entering the Hotwife lifestyle, pleasing your partner orally, and embracing all aspects of yourself through nudism, content creation, and fulfilling sexual encounters. Tune in to hear all this and more from today’s candid and sexually empowered guest!
Key Points From This Episode:
• An overview of Casey Donatello and her introduction to the Hotwife lifestyle.
• Her relationship journey leading up to her current marriage.
• Jealousy in the Hotwife lifestyle and how her dates are structured.
• Rule-setting and the feedback process.
• Tips for those looking to pursue a Hotwife lifestyle.
• Why it’s essential to share your sexual aspirations with a potential partner.
• Casey’s opinion on how to give your partner a good blow job!
• Advice for finding the confidence to talk dirty.
• Our guest weighs in on whether or not size matters.
• Advice for building confidence while riding your man.
• Why Casey doesn’t edit any of her content.
• How public nudism has supported Casey to find body confidence.
• Tips for women who are hoping to squirt.
• Casey’s complex journey into the lifestyle.
• The story behind Casey’s four books.
Quotes:
“[Hotwifing] is completely different than a regular threesome. Sometimes, it’s hard for people to understand how three people isn’t always the same equation. But it really isn’t.” [0:05:50]
“It’s like putting your relationship in a pressure cooker when you invite other people into your bed.” [0:08:26]
“There’s no right or wrong to what you are interested in. It’s just that you and your partner [have to] agree on it.” [0:19:06]
“A lot of times, people don’t want to talk about sex when they’re having sex, but that’s the best time.” [0:30:53]
“If you absolutely hate something or it hurts you, speak up! Don’t let somebody hurt your body because you don’t want to hurt their feelings.” [0:31:22]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Casey Donatello — https://caseydonatello.com/
Casey Donatello on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/caseydonatello.official/
Casey Donatello on X — https://twitter.com/hotwifelife869/
In Bed Podcast — https://caseydonatello.com/in-bed-podcast/
In Bed with Strangers — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CQT1R15/
Scarlet Surrenders — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09PYX8DQB/
Scarlet Swings Higher — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RZVKQ3M/
Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter
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#31 How To Fix A Sexless Marriage & Reignite Fiery Passion with Laurie Watson https://badgirlsbible.com/31-how-to-fix-a-sexless-marriage-reignite-fiery-passion-with-laurie-watson
#34 The Secret To Reaching Orgasm During Sex with Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. https://badgirlsbible.com/34-the-secret-to-reaching-orgasm-during-sex-with-laurie-mintz-ph-d
#29 Experience Squirting Orgasms with Female Orgasm Expert, Jason Julius https://badgirlsbible.com/29-squirting-orgasms-real-foreplay-and-how-guys-can-last-longer-with-female-ejaculation-expert-jason-julius
What if your past didn’t have to dictate your future?
Esin Pinarli is a human behavior specialist offering psychotherapy to couples, using the Imago and Gottman methods in conjunction with emotional-focused therapy. She joins us to share her perspective on the deep-rooted beliefs behind our actions and reactions within the context of relationships.
We touch on how trauma affects us all, and common actions that trigger a trauma response within relationships. Tune in to hear how the support of a therapist can help everyone to unpack the experiences behind their trauma, how the four attachment styles impact our relationships, and how the pandemic has changed the way in which we relate to one another.
Esin also explains the role of our nervous system in creating connection and attachment, common reasons why couples become dissatisfied with their sex lives, and much more.
Key Points From This Episode:
• An introduction to Esin Pinarli’s counseling practice.
• Unpacking the buzzword, ‘trauma’, and how it affects all of us.
• Common actions that trigger a trauma response.
• The role of negativity bias.
• Advice for those seeking to address their trauma.
• How a therapist can support people as they unpack the experiences behind their trauma.
• The four attachment styles and how they impact our relationships.
• What the collective trauma of the pandemic has done to the state of attachment.
• Differentiating between introversion and the avoidant personality type.
• How codependency fits into attachment styles.
• Your nervous system’s role in creating connection and attachment.
• Why couples become dissatisfied with their sex lives.
• What effective communication might look like.
• Cultivating ‘the space between’ where intimacy exists within relationships.
• Simple solutions for the process addiction that comes from porn usage.
Quotes:
“People always think they have to qualify for trauma. Everybody has had a certain level of embedded trauma.” — Esin Pinarli [0:02:41]
“We should always be doing the work. There are just so many things in our subconscious that we are not aware of.” — Esin Pinarli [0:10:33]
“A therapist is somebody who will help you to make sense of what’s inside of you, and to untangle and unprocess that trauma so that it doesn’t dictate your future.” — Esin Pinarli [0:11:37]
“If you don’t have enough rupture and repair, you always end up feeling disconnected from your partner.” — Esin Pinarli [0:42:15]
“Not only do we have a dance with our romantic partners, a cadence and a rhythm, but there’s a space between us that is where the intimacy is.” — Esin Pinarli [0:43:13]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Esin Pinarli on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/esinpinarli_lcsw/
Esin Pinarli on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/esin-pinarli-73ab1722/
Eternal Wellness Counseling — https://www.eternalwellnesscounseling.com/
Codependent No More — https://www.amazon.com/Melody-Beattie-Codependent-Controlling-Yourself/dp/B004R125R4/
Bad Girls Bible Sex Tips Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter
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#31 How To Fix A Sexless Marriage & Reignite Fiery Passion with Laurie Watson https://badgirlsbible.com/31-how-to-fix-a-sexless-marriage-reignite-fiery-passion-with-laurie-watson
#34 The Secret To Reaching Orgasm During Sex with Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. https://badgirlsbible.com/34-the-secret-to-reaching-orgasm-during-sex-with-laurie-mintz-ph-d
#29 Experience Squirting Orgasms with Female Orgasm Expert, Jason Julius https://badgirlsbible.com/29-squirting-orgasms-real-foreplay-and-how-guys-can-last-longer-with-female-ejaculation-expert-jason-julius
Today on the podcast we welcome Caitlin and Michael Doemner, authors of Sex Every Day, who are sharing with us some hands-on tips for enjoying sexual intimacy on a daily basis, regardless of busy schedules, kids and periods.
They talk about their three-step strategy for practicing frequent intimacy, including how you can communicate your sexual desires in a fun way and what you can do to ensure that both you and your partner are always satisfied. Before you think all of this is unattainable for you as a parent of young kids, hang on a minute! They have four kids of their own and advise you on overcoming the logistics of having regular sex with a house full of small children.
Key Points From This Episode
Tweetables
“It's really hard to be angry with somebody when you're laying full body contact naked with them and in bed.” [0:04:49]
“The intimacy and the passion, it doesn’t have to be intercourse …there's a lot of different ways that we can please our partners.” [0:19:45]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode
Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter
Sex Every Day: How to Prioritize Pleasure in your Marriage — http://www.lulu.com/shop/michael-and-caitlin-doemner/sex-every-day-how-to-prioritize-pleasure-in-your-marriage/hardcover/product-23974387.html
The Five Love Languages on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X
Pussy: A Reclamation on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Pussy-Reclamation-Regena-Thomashauer/dp/1401950264/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=pussy%3A+a+reclamation&qid=1555401985&s=books&sr=1-1-fkmrnull
Sex Every Day Website — https://www.sexeverydaybook.com/homepage25989259
Sex Every Day on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/QuotidianCoitus/
On the show today we welcome Dan and Dawn Williams, master-slave couple, kink enthusiasts podcast hosts and authors of the new book Living M/S! Our guests unpack their own experiences of discovering their submissive and dominant sides and how they found each other and each other's limits.
They explain some basics about the master-slave dynamic and how it fits into the broader world of BDSM and kink play. They explain the important role of trust and the things that are pivotal in making a relationship like theirs work. We talk a bit about the events, parties and activities which they enjoy and Dan and Dawn are so open and honest, explaining the erotic nature of their lives.
The conversation also covers, shame, abusive relationships and how sharing stories, using cards and watching porn can help certain couples.
Key Points From This Episode
Tweetables
“In our case, it happens to be a male led relationship where I happen to be in charge. What that means is that I take responsibility for everything in the relationship.” [0:03:45]
“If something needs to be addressed, it’s addressed head on instead of sideways. It’s a very authentic relationship where we’ve decided, what do we want this relationship to be.” [0:11:05]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode
Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter
Erotic Awakening Podcast — http://www.eroticawakening.com
Dan and Dawn Email — [email protected].
Living MS — https://www.amazon.com/Living-Masters-slaves-Their-Relationships/dp/1610981952/
The Kink Starter — http://www.eroticawakening.com/kinkstarter/
Today on the Bad Girl's Bible we a joined by a very special listener named Jaime, who is here to tell us about how her and her husband turned their marriage around after some very tough times. Early into their new marriage, Jaime's husband started to experience some pretty serious health challenges and after his diagnosis and medical prescriptions became increasingly moody and difficult to be around.
This, in conjunction with Jaime's own health and anxiety issues, led to a very difficult time, emotionally and in the bedroom. It took a few drastic changes that happened around the time of a mortal scare for her husband to take the relationship back to a healthy place and into territory that Jaime never even dreamed of. Jaime takes us through their complete history, early dates and the proposal before getting into the troubled period.
She talks about how different things are now and the difference in connection she feels when they make love. For all this and much more, be sure to join us today!
Key Points From This Episode
“That’s how he is now, he brushes off all the little things and doesn’t let him bother anymore.” — Jaime [0:15:30]
“Sometimes it does take something life altering to make you decide that it’s time to change how you live your life and the way you treat other people.” — Jaime [0:16:58]
Today on The Bad Girls Bible Podcast we are joined by small-town girl, Jenny, who shares with us about growing up in a poor family with parents who did not always get along, moving around frequently and how she and her husband first met.
Jenny talks about their secret relationship, moving in together, how he convinced her to get married after all and the challenges of raising their kids together. The unexpected death of a loved one caused a massive rift in their relationship, however, and her life started slowly spiraling out of control.
Not being able to openly mourn her loss, Jenny went into a major depression during which she behaved in erratic ways that threatened her life and that brought even greater discord in her marriage. She tells of the regrets she has, how she has learned to cope with her loss and what she advises every listener to hold onto in such difficult circumstances. Don’t miss out on this very moving conversation!
Key Points From This Episode:
Tweetables:
“I went into a major depression; a clinical depression, anxiety, and I was just locking myself away. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to go to work.” — Jenny [0:17:05]
“He just stopped caring and he said he just started picturing me dead already and that he had thought of what he was going to say at the funeral and stuff. He just kind of wrote me off already.” — Jenny [0:18:55]
On the show today we’re talking to someone who has suffered immense emotional trauma but who has come out the other side stronger, wiser and ready to love again. Our guest really inspires those who have been through divorce, a partner’s infidelity, miscarriage or have been dealt an unfair hand, sharing openly about her two failed marriages, suffering multiple miscarriages and discovering her husband’s affair while pregnant in their first year of marriage.
To add to our guest’s array of disappointments, she poignantly tells us about the letter that ended her second marriage and which left her devastated and alone. Having a partner abandon her after what she believed to have been twelve wonderful years, she had to work through the difficult circumstances all on her own, including managing the business they owned together, while he effectively disappeared for weeks.
She talks about struggling with feelings of guilt and not being enough, and how therapy and support from friends and family restored her hope of finding love again. For more about how this woman conquered the many obstacles in her life, don’t miss out on this episode of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast!
Key Points From This Episode:
Tweetables:
“I thought, hang on a minute, I’m pregnant, we’re in our first year of marriage and you are cheating on me? I was really devastated.” — Susan [0:15:56]
“I felt like he was my soul mate, that’s why it was just so soul-destroying when he left me in the manner that he left me.” — Susan [0:24:01]
“I’m a hopeless romantic, I believe in love still, so, I’m willing to put myself out there.” — Susan [0:31:40]
On today’s show we welcome Lee, who is here to tell us her personal story and how her husband cheating on her boosted her libido due to a phenomenon called hysterical bonding. Hysterical bonding is a term which hasn't been studied extensively yet. However, it's a phenomenon that many people can relate to.
It describes what happens when someone is cheated on by their partner, or is broken up with, and they want to do anything to win back their ex's affections. It sounds counter-intuitive and paradoxical, but that's because there are many different emotions at play. We’re discussing her marriage of 24 years, how she found out that her husband had been cheating on her and what led her to sticking around and wanting to rebuild the relationship. To hear more about Lee’s story, stay tuned!
Key Points From This Episode:
Tweetables:
“Our first several years of marriage were, I mean, I wouldn’t say perfect because I don’t think there’s a thing as perfect but I was very happy and I felt like he was too.” — Lee [0:09:51]
“I was keeping him satisfied, the problem was, you know, I think he was not happy with the fact that he wasn’t able to satisfy me.” — Lee [0:15:37]
“How can I be just totally heartbroken, devastated and at the same time want my husband?” — Lee [0:29:55]
On the show today we welcome Geanni, who is here to tell us all about her personal story and how she found out that her husband had got another woman pregnant while they were still married. This sort of situation is understandably distressing, but Geannie has a great perspective on it and offers amazing advice and insight that she has learned along the way. She gives us some of the backstory of how her and her husband got together and the marriage before explaining the period in which the infidelity came to light. She talks about her commitment to the marriage and how they actually managed to get over the issue for a period before the relationship ended. She also goes into her feelings on their relationship currently, how they share a child and the parenting process for her. For all of this and a fascinating interview from Geannie, be sure to tune in!
Key Points From This Episode“We started dating early in 2006 and that was my senior year in high school. It was his junior year in high school. We were married in October of 2007.” — Geannie [0:03:32]
“I just kept digging until I found something and so when I accused him, when I finally went to him, he denied it.” — Geannie [0:08:30]
Links Mentioned in Today’s EpisodeBad Girls Bible — https://badgirlsbible.com
Welcome back to another episode of The Bad Girls Bible Podcast. Today on the show, we are joined by Alaina Schwartz to talk about her marriage of 17 and a half years and her subsequent divorce. Alaina grew up on long island in New York in a family of staunch disciplinarians that was incredibly emotionally dysfunctional, emotionally violent and sometimes even physically so. After high school, Alaina moved away to New York where she went to law school, and eventually was a lawyer in the music industry for almost 18 years. Today she is a successful transformational mindset and business coach, who teaches her clients the same mindset tools that radically changed her life. In this episode we talk about everything from how her husband was incredibly romantic at first, how she started to realize something wasn’t quite right in her relationship, how she earned more than him, and also how she stayed positive since divorcing him. So for an incredibly honest, and insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode.
Key Points From This Episode“I was determined to try to make it work every day I was there and every day I was rejected by him.” — @alaina_s7 [0:25:25]
“There was no doubt that I thought we were going to be together forever that we would figure out a way to make that work.” — @alaina_s7 [0:26:26]
“There can be multiple people that are really good for us in our lives at different times in our lives, depending on how we grow.” — @alaina_s7 [0:26:46]
Links Mentioned in Today’s EpisodeAlaina Schwartz — https://alainaschwartz.com/
Alaina on Twitter — https://twitter.com/alaina_s7
On today’s show we welcome Dr. Lori Brotto, a Professor in the department for Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of British Columbia and the Canada Research Chair in Women’s Sexual Health.
Lori has also the author of the book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire. In this episode we are discussing sexual desire, and how a low desire or lack of interest in sex is by far the most common sexual concern, not only in women but in men as well. Many people struggle for different reasons, both psychologically and socially. Lori helps us today to uncover those struggles and those reasons and step beyond our negative beliefs to reignite our sexual desires through mindfulness. For an incredibly insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode!
Key Points From This Episode:
Tweetables:
“Low desire or lack of interest in sex is by far the most common sexual concern, not only in women but in men as well.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:04:01]
“Negative beliefs in the brain can also stimulate certain brain path ways that interfere with desire and arousal.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:11:21]
“Pretty much anything that impacts hormones has the potential to impact sexual response.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:14:35]
“If you are going to have sex, you may as well show up for it.” — @DrLoriBrotto [0:27:30]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Dr. Lori Brotto — http://www.loribrotto.com/
Dr. Lori on Twitter — https://twitter.com/DrLoriBrotto
Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire — https://www.amazon.com/Better-Sex-Through-Mindfulness-Cultivate/dp/1771642351/
University of British Columbia — https://brottolab.med.ubc.ca/about/dr-lori-brotto/
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