In this episode, Anne Bland discusses the 4B movement from South Korea that focuses on autonomy, self-respect, and self-empowerment. The 4B movement stands for four ‘no’s: no marriage, no childbirth, no dating, and no sexual relationships with men until women have the same rights and opportunities as men. But this isn’t just about saying ‘no’; it’s about saying ‘yes’ to living life on one’s own terms, creating space for true happiness, liberation, and fulfilment. After the presidential elections, 4B (and 5B, 6B and 7B) movement has gained momentum in the USA where women's sexual health rights are in jeopardy. Anne explores how the 4B movement’s message of radical autonomy aligns with Selfishly Happy Revolution and how reclaiming pleasure can become a powerful, positive force.

Anne explains what it means to embrace autonomy and pleasure in a world that often prioritises economic productivity and performance over self-care and conformity over individuality. Drawing on concepts from Tantra and therapeutic self-empowerment, this episode speaks to anyone ready to embrace a life that aligns with their deepest values, regardless of gender.

What’s Covered in This Episode?

1. Understanding the 4B Movement: Its origins, principles, and what it represents for self-empowerment.
2. Moving Beyond the Dominance Model: How societal "dominance model" coined by Dr Riane Eisler impacts personal autonomy and the relevance of challenging it today.
3. Selfishly Happy Revolution: Why autonomy and pleasure are empowering choices that can redefine well-being.
4. Concrete Steps to Embrace Autonomy: Practical ways to bring autonomy and pleasure into everyday life, including:

• Rethinking consumer habits and addressing the pink tax

• Supporting women-owned businesses

• Reclaiming pleasure and self-connection as paths to well-being

5. Three Transformative Practices: Grounding Breath, Heart-Centred Visualisation, and Emotion-Naming Body Scan to help listeners reconnect with themselves and process emotions in a healthy, empowered way.

Key Takeaways

• The 4B movement isn’t about rejecting relationships but about prioritising self-respect, well-being, and authentic connection for a period of time.

• Embracing autonomy and pleasure allows each person to break free from societal expectations that don’t align with their true values.

• Simple practices can help reconnect with oneself, redefine relationships, and find greater happiness and fulfilment.

Call to Action

Anne encourages listeners to reflect on where they might be saying ‘yes’ out of obligation rather than joy. Could you start choosing what brings happiness and peace instead? This episode guides listeners in taking concrete steps toward a life that’s Selfishly Happy: avoid the "pink tax", support women- and ethnic minority-owned businesses, and celebratete pleasure as a path to well-being.

Connect with Anne

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Redefining Erectile Dysfunction with Tantra on Our 50th Episode!

In this milestone 50th episode of Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others, Anne Bland celebrates the shared journey and dives deep into erectile dysfunction, or as she reframes it, “flexible erection.” Rather than focusing on performance, this episode invites us to explore ED from a Tantra-inspired perspective that emphasises connection, presence, and mindful intimacy.

Episode Highlights

Reflecting on 50 Episodes

Anne Bland shares the story of the podcast’s growth, inspired by listener feedback and a vision to destigmatise and enrich conversations around Tantra, intimacy, and personal growth.

Rethinking Erectile Dysfunction

Discover how ED, often seen as a “dysfunction,” can instead be viewed as an invitation to deeper connection. Anne offers a fresh perspective, steering away from performance pressure towards intimacy that isn’t defined by traditional markers of success.

A Personal Listener Story

Anne reads a heartfelt listener email that beautifully captures how Tantra has transformed one man’s intimate life, showcasing the power of holistic practices.

Invitations to Pleasure Quests

Anne’s new eight-week courses, “Pleasure Quests,” one for men and one for women, are designed to support a deeper journey into self-pleasure, connection, and vitality and build on her eBook "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools". Founding members will enjoy a special rate as they join an intimate first cohort for this experience.

Whether you experience ED, know someone who does, or want to deepen your understanding of holistic intimacy, this episode offers invaluable insights. Join Anne as she redefines male and female experiences of arousal, expands the conversation around masculinity, and introduces gentle yet powerful Tantric tools for embracing a full-body approach to pleasure.

What You Can Do Next?

• Join the Female Pleasure Quest: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/female-pleasure-quest-payment-form and the Male Pleasure Quest: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/male-pleasure-quest-payment-form as a founding member for special price

• Download the “Pleasure is Your Birthright” ebook: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright

• Leave a review to share your favourite episode or moment from the podcast!

Anne would love to hear from you! What’s been your favourite insight so far? Let her know via social media or email, and stay tuned as she continues delivering this podcast for the next 50 episodes.

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In this episode, Anne Bland tackles premature ejaculation (PE) from a fresh and compassionate perspective. Rather than focusing on the problem, she explores how Tantra offers a path to deeper connection, sexual mastery, and prolonged pleasure. Learn how to harmonize your sexual energy, dismantle common myths about PE, and move from performance anxiety to authentic, empowered intimacy.

Key Topics Covered:

- Reframing Premature Ejaculation: Anne introduces a new term, "Harmonised Pleasure," to shift the focus from performance to pleasure, aligning with the principles of Tantra.

- Causes of PE: A deep dive into the psychological and biological factors that can lead to PE, including anxiety, stress, hormonal imbalances, and physical illness.

- Tantric Techniques for Sexual Mastery: Discover practical tools like breathwork, mindful touch, and the stop-start method to help manage sexual energy and prolong pleasure.

- 7 Holistic Sex Tools: Insights from Anne's eBook, Pleasure Is Your Birthright, that you can use to enhance your sexual experiences, including intention, breath, and energy awareness.

- Tantric Affirmations for Confidence such as: "In this moment, I honour my body, my energy, and my pleasure. I am whole, I am empowered, and I am in harmony with myself and my partner."

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In today's episode, a young listener shares her struggles with modern dating and the pressure to move too quickly into sex. Anne Bland discusses how Tantra can help create deeper connections through practices that encourage intimacy beyond just the physical. Techniques such as conscious communication, mindful touch, and shared activities build emotional bonds.

Introduction to Requested Men’s Sexual Problems Series: This episode also serves as an introduction to the upcoming episodes focusing on men’s sexual problems. Anne will explore how Tantra can address these issues in future episodes, offering practical advice and holistic approaches to help men overcome common challenges.

What You Can Do?

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In this Midsummer episode, Anne Bland explores the magic and sensuality of Midsummer. Drawing from recent listener feedback on polyamory and swinging, Anne delves into the pressures and misconceptions surrounding these practices and offers practical advice for groups, couples and singles. Celebrate the beauty of Midsummer with rituals, solo, couple or group practices, and mindful connections that honour your sensuality, and erotism in a way that feels aligned with you, and fosters emotional wholeness. Rituals, erotic practices, creative processes and meditations are all part of this significant time of the year wherever you are in the world. Happy Juhannus!

If you have any questions or topics you’d like us to cover in future episodes, please reach out to Anne at annebland (at) selfishlyhappyyou.com or send a voice message through SpeakPipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/SelfishlyHappy

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In this PART 2, Anne Bland discusses what according to her experience are the emotional and energetic dynamics in non-monogamous, one-night stands, and even in some Tantric relationships from the women's perspectives. To make her point, Anne uses stereotypes. However, every person and relationship is unique and requires a tailored approach. Anne emphasises discernment and invites listeners to join her on the podcast to discuss their points of view. Anne finishes with potential solutions and coping strategies.

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PART 1. There is an interesting phenomena that Anne Bland has noticed recently in such an extend that she felt it required, not just one, but two part episode. In the dating world that encourages one-night stands, Tantric circles, ethical non-monogamous, and polyamory situations, Anne has learned that women can feel broken. In this 2-part episode, she discusses how the pressures of "being empowered in sex and sexuality" - which in so many words means casual sex - can lead women to feel disconnected and guilty, and many have used the phrase: "Am I somehow broken...?"

The female biochemistry, especially the "happy hormones" kick in after sex more than in male bodies and can make women less ablet o detach emotionally. Anne also discusses how Tantra explains this through Yin and Yang, the opposite energy poles, in male and female bodies and how it can cause women to feel these unnecessary negative emotions.

If you feel like this or have any questions please contact Anne below.

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We haven't been taught about relationships and how to become happy in couplehood. There isn't an MBA for Relationships - and there really should be. Sometimes it is just about learning the tools and having a roadmap to co-create a beautiful, loving, healing, and sexy relationship. Anne Bland shares her experience from her Tantric retreat for couples and celebrates the conscious coupling where partners can grow and heal far better than when alone, proving that both parties are willing to do the work. Relationships are big trigger points that bring light to the shadow parts that were established due to childhood unmet needs. Becoming self-aware of these and having support is the first step in having great relationships. Safety is paramount in any relationship and if you do not feel safe at all levels, please reach out for help and make sure you are safe.

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Anne Bland says a quick hello from her Tantric retreat in France. The Art of Connection is a retreat for couples taking place in a Château. Anne is going to be back with a longer episode next week.

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In this episode, Anne Bland shares her take on myths and truths about Tantra and intimate relationships. Myth number 1: Tantra Is Just About Sex. Myth number 2: Great Relationships Don't Require Effort. Myth number 3: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Sex are a Taboo. The truths according to Anne behind these myths are Truth number 1: Tantra as a Path to Self-Discovery and Connection. Truth number 2: The Value of Work and Play in Relationships. Truth number 3: Embracing Pleasure as Natural and Healthy. As always, Anne invites the listeners to feel into what their truths are and welcomes listeners to share the myths and stories with her by email or on Instagram messaging.

Special announcements:

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When desire is unmet what happens to the relationship? Does it end or is it doomed for a lifelong disconnection? Anne Bland shares two stories, one from a woman who is ready to divorce for lack of coital orgasms, and one from a man who is fed up with just pleasuring his wife. Both are ready to leave as their sexual desires are not met. Sometimes separation is the best and the success in relationships cannot be measured by its longevity. But sometimes, they can be turned around. Anne invites couples to reconnect and find intimacy through Tantric practices and conscious communication.

To book and learn more about the Couples Tantric Session online with Anne, please email [email protected]. The session is 2.5 hours and is tailored to your needs. The cost is 289 €.

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