It Starts With Attraction

Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement & Relationships

Revealing secrets on how to become the most attractive you can be Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually (or as us insiders call it...the PIES). Listen to weekly episodes. Join a course or get more info at www.piesuniversity.com.

  • 37 minutes 16 seconds
    The Surprising Connection Between Creativity and Intelligence

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    In this episode we talk with Dr. Rex Jung about the differences in creativity and intelligence and how you can work your brain to be more creative!

    Discover how engaging in creative activities might be the key to alleviating stress and enhancing personal growth. We explore the stages of creative cognition, demonstrating how a playful mind state can lead to innovation and a sense of flow. We'll discuss the empowering impact of creativity on mental health, relationships, and personal development. From spontaneous moments of inspiration while jogging to the communal joys of dance, these experiences not only enrich our lives but also foster deeper connections and a truer understanding of ourselves.

    Today's Guest: Dr. Rex Jung
    Rex Jung is an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico, a research scientist at the Mind Research Network, and a practicing clinical neuropsychologist in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He studies both brain disease and what the brain does well—a field of research known as "positive neuroscience."

    His research is designed to relate behavioral measures, including intelligence, personality, and creativity, to brain function and structure in healthy, neurological, and psychiatric subjects. He has published research articles across a wide range of disciplines, including traumatic brain injury, lupus, schizophrenia, intelligence, and creativity.

    Rex was the President (2019-2021) of the International Society for Intelligence Research (ISIR).

    Visit Dr. Jung's website here: https://www.rexjung.com/

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    19 November 2024, 6:00 am
  • 58 minutes 2 seconds
    The Secret To Mindset Transformation

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    Discover the power of mindset transformation in this inspiring interview with Dr. Josh Axe. After facing a life-altering health crisis, Dr. Axe shares how changing his mindset played a critical role in his recovery and personal growth. From practical strategies like the A, B, C, D, E method for overcoming limiting beliefs to the importance of faith, hope, and gratitude, this conversation is packed with actionable insights to help you transform your life.


    Learn how your thoughts impact your health, relationships, and overall well-being, and why spiritual and emotional health are just as vital as physical health. Whether you’re looking to overcome obstacles, heal from past wounds, or achieve your goals, this episode will show you how to shift your mindset and create a vision for a better future.


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    If you’re ready to take control of your thoughts and unlock the best version of yourself, this episode is a must-listen

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    12 November 2024, 6:00 am
  • 22 minutes 19 seconds
    The True Measure of Success

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    Plenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The research shows there are four primary outcomes in attachment theory, but the only positive one is secure attachment. Secure attachment means that the child will believe that mom and dad will always be there when they need them.

    There are seven characteristics of strong families, the most important being quantity of time, not quality. The question is, what is most important to you? Financial stability is vital for any family, but is there a way to balance your work and family life?

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    5 November 2024, 6:00 am
  • 22 minutes 28 seconds
    How and Why You Should Do Your Own Research

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    What if you could unlock the secrets to reading scholarly research articles as easily as a captivating novel? This episode promises just that, equipping you with the skills to discern credible academic work from unreliable sources. Discover how to utilize tools like Google Scholar to access the wealth of knowledge hidden within peer-reviewed studies without spending a dime. We break down the anatomy of research articles, shedding light on how to efficiently navigate sections like the abstract, methods, and results, ensuring you're armed with the critical thinking necessary to interpret scientific evidence accurately.

    Embark on a journey through the complex world of research methodologies, where we unravel the distinctions between qualitative and quantitative studies. Gain insight into why understanding the methods section is vital for grasping the validity of a study’s findings. With practical examples, we illustrate how to interpret graphical data and comprehend the importance of statistical terms like "significant difference." By connecting findings back to their hypotheses, we underscore the transformative power of effective discussions and conclusions in contributing to scientific fields and identifying areas ripe for future exploration.

    Elevate your research article reading game by setting clear objectives and appreciating the nuances of academic inquiry. We share strategies for sifting through multiple articles to develop a well-rounded perspective, urging you to challenge sensational headlines and seek out original research for a more accurate understanding of complex topics. With stories from dissertation experiences, this episode aims to inspire a lifelong love of learning, encouraging you to question, verify, and explore the depths of scholarly discovery. Stay curious and empowered on this enlightening research journey.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    29 October 2024, 2:00 am
  • 40 minutes 25 seconds
    The Secret to LIVING Your FAITH Out Loud

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    This episode was recorded in 2022

    What happens when a teenage mother becomes a Christian influencer, inspiring women worldwide? Join us for a compelling conversation with Yasmine Williams-Woods as she shares her remarkable journey from becoming a mother at 14 in a small Alabama town to becoming a beacon of hope through faith and biblical truths. Yasmine's story is a testament to the power of resilience and unwavering love, as she opens up about her upbringing by her single mother and her unexpected path into the digital world. Her experiences illuminate the challenges of balancing faith with marriage and motherhood, offering practical insights on integrating spirituality into everyday life.

    Explore the intricate dance of building relationships with those who hold different beliefs while maintaining a strong faith identity. Yasmine delves into the art of embodying faith through actions, highlighting the power of spiritual attraction over mere words. She shares her thoughts on humility and submission to God, and how these elements can attract others to faith in subtle, yet profound ways. Through honest reflections, Yasmine encourages openness and genuine connection, even when past religious experiences may have left wounds.

    As we wrap up, Yasmine invites us into her personal journey of faith growth, sharing her love for impactful faith-based literature and projects aimed at empowering mothers. Her recommendations, including titles by Mike Todd and Priscilla Shirer, along with her passion for biblical books like 1 and 2 Samuel, offer a roadmap for those seeking spiritual enrichment. Yasmine's journey is a call to courageously live out love in our relationships, urging listeners to reflect on their own path and commitment to God's purpose. Whether through her devotional projects or her presence on social media, Yasmine exemplifies living a life of faith in today's world.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    22 October 2024, 5:00 am
  • 16 minutes 7 seconds
    How Ignoring Time Together Can Destroy Your Marriage

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    Could the secret to a thriving marriage lie in the simple act of intentionally spending time together? Join me and my husband, Rob, as we recount our own experiences of navigating the demanding world of military life while keeping our relationship a top priority. We share candid stories and insights, emphasizing the importance of consciously setting aside time for each other amidst the chaos of family and work commitments. Discover how neglecting these moments can lead to a loss of intimacy and even jeopardize family dynamics, offering a cautionary tale to those who may be caught up in the whirlwind of everyday life.

    In this episode, we uncover simple yet powerful techniques for rekindling intimacy and passion through spending time with your partner. From morning coffee chats to 15-minute daily check-ins, these seemingly small gestures can make all the difference. We also discuss the balance between nurturing your relationship and spending time as a family, highlighting the need to keep these interactions separate and distinct. The message is clear: be proactive, take ownership, and prioritize these moments to ensure your marriage not only survives but thrives in the face of life's pressures. Whether you're juggling hectic schedules or just looking to strengthen your bond, tune in for practical advice and inspiration to enrich your relationship.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    15 October 2024, 5:00 am
  • 36 minutes 16 seconds
    Are You PROTEIN Deficient Without Even Knowing It?

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    Discover how much protein you truly need for optimal health and why animal protein is often heralded as the go-to source for essential amino acids. We'll tackle the everyday obstacles of meeting protein requirements, particularly when dining out, and share a compelling study that pits high-protein snacks against their high-fat counterparts in the battle of satiety.

    Ready to transform your body composition and boost your weight loss efforts? You'll find the answers in our exploration of protein's powerful impact on fat loss and muscle development. We dissect fascinating research that highlights the benefits of a protein-rich diet, showcasing how it not only helps shed fat but also supports lean body mass retention in older adults. Practical tips on daily protein intake will guide you in achieving a higher resting metabolic rate and a more effective path to reaching your fitness goals.

    Gain insights into the strategic timing and tracking of protein intake. Our discussion covers the pros and cons of varying sources like soy and meat, with a focus on the practicality of spreading protein consumption throughout the day to enhance muscle protein synthesis. We emphasize the significance of regular strength training and the mindful monitoring of dietary habits, offering a tried-and-true approach to improving your nutrition. Whether you're a fitness enthusiast or just getting started, this episode provides the tools you need to optimize your diet and fuel your health journey.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    8 October 2024, 5:00 am
  • 7 minutes 18 seconds
    Navigating Intimacy And Passion For A More Fulfilling Marriage

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    Ever wondered why some relationships thrive in emotional closeness while others struggle to maintain even a semblance of connection? Discover the intricate dynamics of the "Triangulation of Love," where intimacy, passion, and commitment play pivotal roles. Through personal stories, we'll unravel the complexities of intimacy and how disparities between partners can lead to misunderstandings and long-term impacts, especially when one feels criticized or rejected early on. We tackle how these differences manifest across various relationships—be it romantic, familial, or platonic—and explore the underlying reasons for these gaps.

    Join us for practical advice and heartfelt anecdotes aimed at nurturing intimacy and ensuring it's a reciprocal journey. We highlight the significance of recognizing when your partner might be holding back and how to gently open lines of communication. By sharing relatable scenarios, from sports rivalries to drink preferences, we encourage listeners to reflect on their own relationships and embrace open dialogue. Tune in to gain fresh perspectives on fostering deeper connections and cultivating a safe environment for emotional vulnerability.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    4 October 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 45 minutes 23 seconds
    Accepting Each Other Changed Our Marriage COMPLETELY

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    Have you ever felt superior to your partner or viewed them through a critical lens because of their struggles? This episode could reshape your perspective. Today, I'm joined by my wonderful husband, Rob! We begin by unpacking the profound importance of true acceptance in marriages, sharing a poignant story of a friend's failing marriage to illustrate the corrosive effects of seeing a partner as "sick" or lesser. Through this narrative, we emphasize the necessity of meeting your spouse where they are and fostering a relationship built on equality and mutual respect.

    Next, we delve into the insidious nature of contempt and how it can dismantle the foundation of any relationship. We'll walk you through real-life scenarios where partners viewed each other as fundamentally flawed, leading to the erosion of respect and emotional distancing. By discussing the impacts of perceived intelligence and educational disparities, we reveal how overcoming these superiority complexes can pave the way for personal growth and healthier future relationships.

    Finally, we explore the bridge to full acceptance, drawing on insights from experts like Dr. Joe Beam and Dr. John Gottman. From navigating high-stress environments to rebuilding trust after deceit, we share our personal journey and highlight the gradual yet essential process of achieving mutual acceptance. We'll also touch on the critical role of intimacy in relationships, using the Triangulation of Love model to dissect how intimacy, commitment, and passion interconnect. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, we offer a roadmap to fostering a strong, enduring marriage. Join us as we share our experiences and insights to help you navigate the complexities of acceptance in your relationships.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    1 October 2024, 5:00 am
  • 7 minutes 12 seconds
    Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage?

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    The full episode releases on October 1st!

    Does contempt silently poison your relationship? Discover how a sense of superiority and lack of respect can erode intimacy and trust in marriages. My husband, Rob, and I share powerful stories of couples who faced these challenges and transformed their relationships through acceptance and understanding. Through real-life examples, including our own early struggles with acceptance, we reveal how recognizing and embracing your partner's flaws can pave the way to a healthier, more loving connection.

    Join us for a compelling discussion on the importance of seeing your spouse as an equally flawed human and the profound impact this perspective shift can have. From dealing with mental health issues to learning to cherish each other's differences, we offer valuable insights and personal anecdotes that highlight the importance of acceptance in maintaining a strong, compassionate relationship. Tune in to learn how to build a more genuine connection with your partner and heal the wounds that contempt may have caused.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    27 September 2024, 5:00 am
  • 37 minutes 52 seconds
    Marriage Therapist Reveals How To Have More Fulfilling Sex

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    This episode was recorded in 2022.

    Unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling marriage with the insights of Dr. Corey Allan, a marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of "Naked Marriage: Uncovering Who You Are and Who You Can Be Together." Dr. Allan shares compelling research on the impact of religiosity on marital and sexual satisfaction, revealing how higher levels of religious dogma correlate with lower sexual satisfaction. Learn why open conversations about sex—even before tying the knot—are vital for overcoming shame and guilt from upbringings, and how these dialogues can pave the way for stronger relationships.

    Ever wondered why desire differences create friction in marriages? This episode sheds light on this often-taboo topic. Dr. Allan and I dig deep into how communication issues in relationships frequently extend to the bedroom, affecting both high and low desire partners. We challenge the stigma around lower desire and offer actionable strategies to better understand and respond to each other's needs. Discover how foreplay and connection can go beyond physical touch, and how reevaluating the quality of sexual experiences can help mitigate feelings of rejection and frustration.

    Looking to reignite the spark in your relationship? Dr. Allan offers practical advice on rebuilding intimacy and connection through honesty, emotional regulation, and leadership. We discuss a real-life story about a couple struggling with financial transparency and emphasize the importance of self-regulation in fostering trust. Learn how introducing novelty and spontaneity can enhance sexual intimacy and why staying present and attuned to your partner can lead to more fulfilling experiences. Don't miss the exploration of personal growth within marriage, as Dr. Allan shares insights from his book and podcast, "Sexy Marriage Radio," and highlights resources available through his online practice.

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    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

    🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com
    📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes
    👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

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    24 September 2024, 5:00 am
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