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I’ve never released an episode like this before. Today, you’re going to hear the first-hand story of one of my private coaching clients, Melissa. Melissa has generously agreed to talk intimately about our six months working together as she worked to overcome the shame, heartbreak and pain of being the “other woman” in a man’s affair for almost 30 years.

Here, she details her remarkable healing and transformation during our time working together. I don’t use the word “transformation” often…but Melissa has undergone a complete energetic and physical shift...you’ll hear it in her voice.

I’m so excited for you to hear Melissa’s story, and to inspire you that this inner work is for anyone ready to rediscover your true, powerful self. If you’d like to work with me one-on-one, apply here and let’s get started!

In this episode, Melissa and I talk about:

-Why Melissa contacted me about coaching

-Being the “other” in a cheating relationship

-Melissa’s breaking point

-How to heal from infidelity

-Jealousy in a cheating relationship

-Wanting to be chosen in a relationship

-Choosing yourself before choosing them

-Overcoming shame and guilt

-Embodying personal development and integrating what you’ve learned

-Nervous system regulation

My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram.

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The balance of personal growth and contributing to a thriving romantic relationship is all about being comfortable in your own skin, without seeking external validation, yet embracing our innate need for connection. It’s independence and interdependence…but not co-dependence. 

I’m such a believer in this that I co-wrote an entire book about it called “You Grow Me” (link to buy below). 

This episode is a cross-podcast with Lisa Carpenter’s “Full Frontal Living” podcast (find it here). Lisa is a remarkable coach who helped me through one of the most challenging periods of my life (I tell that story in this episode). Here, we focus on creating safety within oneself -  reconnecting with the body, nervous system regulation and the massive importance of personal responsibility within a relationship.

In this episode, Lisa and I talk about:

• Creating safety within: the foundation of self-connection
• Self-discovery and healing from trauma
• The impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships
• Navigating jealousy and building trust
• The gender gap in personal development
• Detachment 
• Why a healthy relationship can be as confronting as a traumatic one
• Learning to listen to your intuition
• The presence of exes in a new relationship
• The grief of finally getting what you want
• Jealousy in a relationship
• Taking personal responsibility for everything in your relationship

My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).

CONNECT WITH EMILY

WOMEN’S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here 

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

CONNECT WITH LISA

Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/

Podcast: Full Frontal Living

REFERENCES

Episode 389 | LIFE IS FULL OF UNCERTAINTY, BUT YOU’RE GONNA BE OK WITH LISA CARPENTER

Kelly Gardner on Instagram

When it comes to our personal growth and development, many people get caught in a trap of “doing” instead of “being.” Doing is when we learn the things, do the homework, and then force our actions based on doing exactly what we think we’re expected to…even if it feels inauthentic.  

But in order for the work to actually work, we have to embody it. We have to literally BE it. And to do that, we have to lean as hard as possible into our most authentic self.

Today we’re breaking down how to tell the difference between “doing” and “being” and the incredible rewards we attract - relationships, opportunities etc. - that come as a result of the innate magnetic nature of being the truest version of ourselves.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• The difference between doing and being
• Why so many people struggle with doing instead of being
• How to attract the right relationships and opportunities
• How our energy affects our communication
• Living life to the fullest
• Accepting exactly where you are right now
• Why authenticity is so attractive
• An exercise to pinpoint where you feel most alive

If you want to work with me to get to your point of “being” opposed to “doing” I have private 1-1 coaching spaces available to focus on this very subject. I’ve worked with a number of women lately on unleashing their own authenticity and the breakthroughs have been life-changing. Email me [email protected] or DM me on Instagram here and I’d love to get started!

CONNECT WITH EMILY

WOMEN’S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here 

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

REFERENCES

Episode 339 | How To Become Wildly Magnetic

When we talk about how safe and secure we feel with someone we’re in a relationship with - romantic or other - we’re talking about emotional intimacy. It’s that deep connection we create and maintain with the truest version of both they and ourselves.

Today, I'm going to list 16 surprising signs of true emotional intimacy. Surprising because they involve levels of both strength and vulnerability that aren’t often covered in the usual curriculum of personal development.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• How to stay connected to yourself
• The importance of honesty, no matter how painful it is
• Asking for your needs to be met
• Asking for help
• Accepting yourself at your worst
• How to practice presence
• Setting boundaries in every relationship
• Caring for your partner's wounds
• Pushing your emotional range

My new book is officially out! It’s called “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast). It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).

CONNECT WITH EMILY

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

REFERENCES

Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship

Episode 385 | How Much Do You Value Yourself?

Episode 390 | My New Book “You Grow Me” Is Out Today! (Free Preview Of Chapter 1)

Episode 391 | Repairing Conflict In Your Relationship With Kelly Gardner 

Conflict is going to happen in a healthy relationship. And more often than not, conflict starts with something laughably small - from doing dishes, to making food, and even how to decoratively light a podcast. But underneath the menial cause of conflict always lies a much deeper need that isn’t being met. 

I’m joined on this episode by my partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men’s Group Facilitator, and as you’ll hear, we couldn't even record this podcast without a small conflict of our own. Yes, it was something super small (how to decoratively light this episode for video) which we playfully recount, but then take you through our thorough resolution and beautiful potential of the conflict repair process. 

Kelly and I also have spots open now for 2-on-2 Couples Coaching (apply here). These sessions are focused on breaking down walls, solidifying your relationship foundation, improving your sex life and designing the most supportive, fulfilling and loving relationship. 

In this episode, Kelly and I talk about:

• Why conflict is so often over small things
• One partner taking leadership on certain things in a relationship
• Compassionate communication
• Assuming positive intent in others
• Trusting your partner through conflict
• Expressing your needs and asking for your needs to be met
• How to fully resolve a conflict in a relationship
• The repair process of conflict
• Discovering breakthroughs through conflict
• The essential elements of repairing conflict in a relationship
• How conflict is an opportunity to deepen your relationship

Also, my new book is officially out! It’s called “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast). It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).

CONNECT WITH EMILY

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER

Website: https://www.kellygardner.com 

Instagram @iamkellygardner

FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner 

REFERENCES

Episode 377 | Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story With Kelly Gardner

Episode 384 | Captain Save-A-Hoe & Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships

Episode 359 | Building A Community Of Better & More Present Fathers With Kelly Gardner

Today, I am so thrilled to announce the release of my first book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-authored with my dear friend, Dr. Jade Teta. It's all about creating growth-oriented relationships, rather than getting caught in the trap of “you complete me” and relying on other people, particularly our romantic partners, to fulfill our needs and happiness.

This book leaves the bulls**t Hollywood love stories, Rom Coms, and Disney nonsense where they belong - in fantasy land - and instead lays out how to create a relationship where you can show up more confidently as your authentic self, which allows you BOTH to feel more deeply connected to each other.

As a gift to you, I’m releasing Chapter 1 FREE in this podcast episode (links below to purchase). I sincerely hope “You Grow Me” helps you completely reframe the way you look at relationships - with both others and with yourself. 

Please let me know what you think! I’d love your feedback on the book, please email or DM me with your thoughts and takeaways. And thank you so much for all your support throughout this podcast - “Your Grow Me” would never have happened without it! (PS: check out Episode 373 for a behind-the-scenes recollection of the frenetic, hilarious, and exhausting story of how we wrote this entire book in just 9 days).

BUY THE BOOK

On Amazon:  “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection”

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COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

CONNECT WITH DR. JADE TETA

Website: https://www.jadeteta.com/ 

“Next Level Human” Podcast

Jade Teta on Instagram

Jade’s FREE Book Course

Fear is basically uncertainty. It’s having no idea or proof of our own capability to handle the unknown. So how do we learn to overcome fear and simply trust ourselves that we have everything we need to handle any uncertainty?

That’s where coaches like Lisa Carpenter come in.

Lisa Carpenter is a remarkable coach who has changed my life in so many ways. She's the host of the Full Frontal Living podcast and has worked with thousands of people - seeing their depths, bringing out their best and helping them truly live to their full potential. Today we’re going deep on how to channel our innate gifts and abilities to handle whatever fear comes our way, while embracing uncertainty as a beautiful chance to grow.

In this episode, Lisa and I are talking about:

• Learning to accept compliments and praise
• Why anxiety shows up in our lives
• Noticing your own red flag behaviours
• How to avoid procrastinating and avoiding tasks
• Learning to listen to and interpret emotions
• How to learn to trust ourselves
• Integrating what we’ve learned
• Expanding our capacity for discomfort
• The difference between openness and vulnerability
• Integrity: showing up as the same person online and offline
• The value of sharing openly in inspiring and serving others
• Navigating uncertainty and embracing discomfort
• The importance of authenticity and real connections
• Embracing change and making conscious choices

I’d love to know where you are on your journey to building self-trust. Where are you getting stuck? Please reach out (contacts below) and I'd love to talk more about this subject with you. And thanks to Lisa for inviting me on her Full Frontal Living Podcast episode 253 - you can listen to that episode right here. 

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COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP: “Grown Ass Woman Era” info here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

CONNECT WITH LISA

Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/

Podcast: Full Frontal Living

Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl

When we overthink our emotions, we under-feel them. This can have major consequences on both our relationships and our personal growth. Too often when faced with a negative or traumatic emotion, we intellectualize how we are feeling instead of allowing ourselves to accept, allow and feel it. 

And by suppressing the bad stuff, we fail to fully learn how to feel the good stuff - the spectrum of emotions are what make up the beautiful, complete human experience. 

This episode will teach you three simple, but necessary steps to begin practicing feeling instead of thinking when it comes to emotions. These are required if we want to have healthier and more meaningful connections with others and ourselves.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• Understanding the intellectualization of feelings
• Why we tend to think more about emotions than simply feel them
• How we interpret the same words differently based on our emotional state
• The importance of communicating how you’re feeling to your partner 
• Telling ourselves negative stories that skew our actual feelings
• Why we avoid accepting and facing our emotions
• Consequences of analyzing our feelings vs feeling them
• Communicating your emotions instead of venting your frustrations
• 3 practical steps to connect with your emotions
• Embracing the full range of human experience

Is learning to feel emotions more deeply a challenge you’re working on? If this is something you’d love to talk more about, please reach out to me directly (contacts below) and I’d love to dive in with you personally.  

CONNECT WITH EMILY

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP (starts Jan 25, 2024): “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

DM on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

Email: [email protected] 

REFERENCES

Episode 371 | Lessons On Learning How To Receive Love In A Healthy Relationship

Something new on the Room To Grow™ podcast for 2024: allowing you into some of my real life, unedited coaching calls with clients. We all share the same challenges and questions in our relationships, and my hope is that by inviting you into these incredible sessions, you’ll find answers and inspiration to integrate into your own situation.

It’s also a taste of the incredible successes we can have together, so please reach out if this is the kind of work you’re finally ready to say F**K YES to (contacts below).

This coaching call features Kelly, who, after breaking up with her partner, realized he was in fact the one, she just had too many self-protections activated from past relationship trauma. This is often what happens when our walls keep real love stranded on the outside, never allowed to penetrate. If you’re having trouble breaking down your own walls to allow love in, this session is definitely for you. (A huge thank you to Kelly for openly sharing and inspiring others with this breakthrough).  

In this coaching call, Kelly and I discuss:

• Challenging the label of a “relationship”
• Codependency in a marriage vs healthy relationship
• Establishing and managing expectations in a relationship
• Why commitment doesn’t have to feel like shackles
• Knocking down emotional walls allowing love to enter
• Feeling safe letting someone into a relationship with you
• Learning to trust yourself
• How to overcome fear of communicating openly with your partner
• The difference between selfish vs. self-preserving
• How healthy relationships force us to come out of hiding
• Exercise: listing the fears you have in this relationship and coaching yourself through each

If you’d like to address a current challenge on the podcast, you can apply to be featured here. You can also apply for couples coaching on the podcast here. Or check the details below on the different ways we can work together. And as always, please reach out anytime with your takeaways or topic ideas for the podcast - I’d love to chat!

CONNECT WITH EMILY

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP (starts Jan 25, 2024): “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

DM on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

Email: [email protected]    

It’s time to start fighting unreasonably hard for the life you want. I want this first episode of the New Year to remind you that waiting for things to feel easier, clearer and less scary are preventing you from taking the first messy, but critical steps in the right direction. 

Even if you don’t have the end figured out, sitting around hoping everything will eventually manifest itself isn’t doing anything.

I’m also sharing a couple new announcements for the Room To Grow™ podcast, news about my forthcoming book, and my 2024 Words of the Year - an annual practice that helps me stay undeniably committed to a particular goal, while helping make those big, hard decisions much easier. Try it for yourself!

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• Why trying to manifest everything won’t work
• Redefining the stories we tell ourselves
• Taking action, even without the full plan in place
• Fearing the unknown and searching for safety
• How to manage fear and uncertainty
• How to avoid self-judgment
• Why we fear our own success
• How to build trust in ourselves
• An exercise for centering yourself and shifting your energy in the moment

I say this every year, but this podcast is one of my favourite things I do as a Human Connection Coach. I absolutely love hearing from you on how these topics show up in your life and am always open to talking more about these and other topics you want to hear more about. Please email me or DM me on Instagram anytime!

CONNECT WITH EMILY

COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here)

WOMEN’S GROUP (starts Jan 25, 2024): “Grown Ass Woman Era” apply here

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

DM on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

Email: [email protected]      

REFERENCES

Episode 351 | Answering The Call Of What Life Is Asking Of You: Lessons & Reflections For A New Year

Episode 195 | The Crushing Fears Of Both Failure & Success

The most dangerous thing you can possess is self worth. Because from self worth comes freedom and empowerment to choose exactly what and who you want in your life. But because we live in a world that teaches us to look outside of ourselves for validation, accolades, approval, self-worth can be a major struggle.

But when we stop auditioning for the approval of others and instead go inward and trust our own worth, it gives us the confidence to state our value to others. 

This episode is all about stepping into your power and learning to ignore the junk that robs us of seeing our own self worth. It includes questions to ask yourself to establish how highly you truly value yourself.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• Stepping fully into your power: trusting instincts and intuition, learning to like you body, owning your sexuality
• Not letting others determine our value
• Why we often lower our self-worth as a defense mechanism
• The role of self-worth in relationships
• Fear of disappointment and its impact on self-worth
• Difference between compromise and self-betrayal
• The power of choosing yourself first in your relationship
• Not allowing past mistakes to define who you are becoming
• The freedom that comes from putting yourself first
• Choosing someone because you want them, not because you need them

If worked your ass of and want to join other women in truly stepping into your full and absolute unworldly power, I have a brand new women’s group forthcoming called “Grown Ass Women Era” ...because it's damn time! Email me or DM me if you're interested or want to know more (IG: @emilygoughcoach)

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**APPLY FOR COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner**

Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together

Get Your Free Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here

Join Emily’s email list here

Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

Email: [email protected]     

REFERENCES

Episode 270 | Cultivating A Deep Sense Of Self Worth

Episode 377 | Hope After Heartbreak: Our Love Story With Kelly Gardner

Episode 384 | Captain Save-A-Hoe & Queen Change-A-Dick: Lifelong Patterns That Harm Our Relationships

Episode 352 | The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up On Us