One of the books that has made the biggest impression on me in the last few years is The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. I have talked about this book EVERYWHERE and insisted that even people who do not self-identify as "perfectionists" would get something out of it.
So you can imagine that I was thrilled with the Secret Stuff members chose TPGTLC as a book club pick and I was doubly thrilled when author Katherine Morgan Schafler agreed to attend our regular monthly book club meeting to discuss it.
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This episode is a replay of our book club discussion that was held over zoom, where Katherine and I held a great conversation about some of the major points of the book (including the five different types of "perfectionists"), and then Secret Stuff members got to ask her questions.
I loved our conversation so much that I wanted everyone to hear it (and to read the book!). If you like these types of book club meetings, consider joining the Secret Stuff Book Club for 2025. We always have the best meetings with thoughtful conversations.
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The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (also one of my favorite books of all time)
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I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture.
And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space.
And thus, a funeral for twitter.
In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving.
You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Black Twitter: A People’s History (hulu docuseries)
Extremely Online by Taylor Lorenz
So You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson
JAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You:
Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden
Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!)
Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)
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When the world feels hard, and our lives feel loud, it can be difficult to find equilibrium. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practices in various areas of my life that make me feel a little more like myself, a little more like a human, a little more sane and calm.
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With less than two months left in 2024, I'm sharing ten questions that will help you finish the year strong. We're talking achievable goals, mantras, connecting with others, and lingering decisions that need to be made. These questions will give you clarity for the weeks ahead and and let you set intentions for how you want to feel and who you want to be at the end of 2024.
As always, you can take these questions to your journal for introspection and growth, or use them as conversation starters with friends and family.
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Reading is always the best form of therapy, distraction, entertainment, and education. And in this episode we talk about titles that serve all of those purposes.
Sophie Hudson (aka Boo Mama) is the co-host of The Big Boo Cast and she's also the author of seven books, including her latest A Fine Sight To See. She is always so fun to talk to and we had a blast talking about how long we've known each other, where we first met, how we both feel strongly about women in leadership, and, of course, the best books that we've read lately.
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As usual, my book selections were all of the place. And as a former English teacher, Sophie recommended all kinds of books to make us feel and think.
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Sophie’s picks:
Laura’s picks:
Other books mentioned:
Also Mentioned:
The Popcast with Knox and Jamie
Me and You and Everyone We Know (movie)
Melanie Shankle, the Big Mama Blog
Episode 239: Horror for Beginners (with Meredith Monday Schwartz)
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I want you to go on a girls trip in 2025. I want it to be a priority. But if you've never been on a girls trip - or it's been a long time - the logistics can be daunting. So I'm helping you out! In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts and tips on:
...and more. You will leave this episode excited to plan your own little getaway, whether it's a staycation with one friend or a milestone trip with a group.
MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep 240: Favorite Things Fall 2024
Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine
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Lori Zuker Briller co-founded a staffing and recruitment agency almost 20 years ago, and in the last few years she's noticed a concerning trend among the young people who are applying for positions in various industries: a decline in professionalism, a lack of understanding of the job market and job search processes, and an overall deterioration in etiquette.
As a mom of two daughters herself, Lori set out to create something that would help teenagers get back to the basics of professionalism and prepare for the adult world.
In this conversation, Lori and I discuss how we got here as a society (hint: Covid, a more casual culture, and a change in modern communication styles) and just a few things we can teach our teenagers to set themselves up for success.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Bosses Are Firing Gen Z Grads Just Months After Hiring Them (Fortune)
Why So Many Companies Are Firing Gen Z Employees (Inc.)
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My favorite things for the Fall of 2024 include a bra, a neck alignment thing-y, a documentary, a book, what's making me feel pretty, and two unexpected events that turned out to be some of my favorite moments of the year (so far).
We share our Favorite Things around here because a) it's fun b) it forces us to notice our life and c) it serves as a gratitude list of sorts.
BONUS: this episode also contains a dozen recommendations from fellow listeners and members of the SECRET STUFF community.
Share YOUR favorite things by making a list, posting on social media, or texting a friend. (Or all three!)
MENTIONED BY LAURA in this episode:
Recent Girl's Trip posts HERE and HERE
Meeting Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey story HERE
A Woman of Independent Means by Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey
“Nothin’ But a Good Time” on Paramount Plus
1000 Words: A Writer's Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round by Jami Attenberg
LISTENER VOICES Recommendations:
Prequel Lucent-C Vitamin C Serum
Nuuly Clothing rentals
Lost Man’s Lane by Scott Carson
ma:nyo Pure Facial Cleansing Oil
Aveeno Protect + Hydrate Body Sunscreen
Senté Even Tone Mineral Sunscreen
Skylight Calendar and App
Starling House by Alix E. Harrow
ILIA Balmy Tint Hydrating Lip Balm
Five-Senses Journal by Gretchen Rubin
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It's October! I'm joined on this episode by my friend and co-host of the Currently Reading podcast Meredith Monday Schwartz, to talk about why we read (and love) books in the horror genre and to give you a pile of recommendations for this spooky season.
This is a conversation for longtime horror readers AND for those who are horror-curious. We cover everything from why escaping into scary stories HELPS our anxiety (yes, really), to how we believe horror books are often tackling some of the most important cultural topics.
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Horror Books Laura Always Talks About:
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Back in February, during a casual, late night conversation, my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) asked me a question that completely that changed my year.
The answer to a question I had never thought about came to me with such clarity. And since her question (and my answer) was about the Big Picture plan for my life, it only felt appropriate to ask Kendra to talk through it all with me here on the show.
Kendra Adachi's new book is called The Plan: Manage Your Time Like A Lazy Genius and it's out everywhere on October 8, 2024.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Episode 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy Genius
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This episode is for anyone who has looked at a photo of themselves and wondered if that's what they really look like. Professional photographer Jess Koehler is my guest today as we talk through all the hangups that keep us from taking, sharing, or displaying photos of ourselves, and how we can overcome them.
This is not a typical "tips and tricks" episode (although we do weave tangible and emotional tips throughout). Jess and I are talking about WHY we should document ourselves, maybe even on our hardest days. We're talking about the benefits of having professional photos taken when our camera phones have become so advanced. And, yes, we're sharing all kinds of logistics on taking photos, from finding a professional photographer to using your Apple Watch as a selfie timer.
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MENTIONED in this episode:
Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture?
Fleabag: A Love Story (BONUS episode with Sueann Fortener)
RELATED:
Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't
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