I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture.

And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space.

And thus, a funeral for twitter.

In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving.

You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Black Twitter: A People’s History (hulu docuseries)

Extremely Online by Taylor Lorenz

So You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson

JAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You:

Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden

Ep. 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!)

Ep. 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)

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When the world feels hard, and our lives feel loud, it can be difficult to find equilibrium. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practices in various areas of my life that make me feel a little more like myself, a little more like a human, a little more sane and calm.

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With less than two months left in 2024, I'm sharing ten questions that will help you finish the year strong. We're talking achievable goals, mantras, connecting with others, and lingering decisions that need to be made. These questions will give you clarity for the weeks ahead and and let you set intentions for how you want to feel and who you want to be at the end of 2024.

As always, you can take these questions to your journal for introspection and growth, or use them as conversation starters with friends and family.

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BONUS: How To Decorate For The Seasons Without Buying More Stuff ( Conversation with Myquillyn Smith, The Nester)

Other Year-end Questions Episodes:

• Ep. 45: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2019
• Ep. 95: 10 Questions To Ask Yourself at the End of the Year 2020
• Ep. 148: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2021
• Ep. 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2023

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Reading is always the best form of therapy, distraction, entertainment, and education. And in this episode we talk about titles that serve all of those purposes.

Sophie Hudson (aka Boo Mama) is the co-host of The Big Boo Cast and she's also the author of seven books, including her latest A Fine Sight To See. She is always so fun to talk to and we had a blast talking about how long we've known each other, where we first met, how we both feel strongly about women in leadership, and, of course, the best books that we've read lately.

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As usual, my book selections were all of the place. And as a former English teacher, Sophie recommended all kinds of books to make us feel and think.

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Sophie’s picks:

• Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelly Van Pelt
• I Cheerfully Refuse by Leif Enger
• The Kingdom, The Power and The Glory: American Evangelicals in An Age of Extremism by Tim Alberta
• The Barn by Wright Thompson

Laura’s picks:

• The Wedding People by Alison Espach
• All Fours by Miranda July
• The Quiet Damage: QAnon and the Destruction of the American Family by Jesselyn Cook
• I'm Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reed

Other books mentioned:

• The Friendship Factor by Alan Loy McGinnis
• The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
• Tom Lake by Ann Patchett
• Sandwich by Catherine Newman 
• Peace Like a River by Leif Enger
• No One Belongs Here More than You: Stories by Miranda July
• Jesus and John Wayne By Kristin Kobes Du Mez
• Pappyland by Wright Thompson
• Dispatches from Pluto by Richard Grant
• Same As It Ever Was by Claire Lombardo
• Heavy by Kiese Laymon
• Long Division by Kiese Laymon

Also Mentioned:

The Popcast with Knox and Jamie

Me and You and Everyone We Know (movie)

Melanie Shankle, the Big Mama Blog

Episode 239: Horror for Beginners (with Meredith Monday Schwartz)

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I want you to go on a girls trip in 2025. I want it to be a priority. But if you've never been on a girls trip - or it's been a long time - the logistics can be daunting. So I'm helping you out! In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts and tips on:

• Deciding the vibe
• Choosing the guests
• Where to go
• Where to stay
• What to eat
• What to do
• How to document
• Providing fun extras

...and more. You will leave this episode excited to plan your own little getaway, whether it's a staycation with one friend or a milestone trip with a group.

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Ep 240: Favorite Things Fall 2024

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Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

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Lori Zuker Briller co-founded a staffing and recruitment agency almost 20 years ago, and in the last few years she's noticed a concerning trend among the young people who are applying for positions in various industries: a decline in professionalism, a lack of understanding of the job market and job search processes, and an overall deterioration in etiquette.

As a mom of two daughters herself, Lori set out to create something that would help teenagers get back to the basics of professionalism and prepare for the adult world.

In this conversation, Lori and I discuss how we got here as a society (hint: Covid, a more casual culture, and a change in modern communication styles) and just a few things we can teach our teenagers to set themselves up for success.

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Bosses Are Firing Gen Z Grads Just Months After Hiring Them (Fortune)

Why So Many Companies Are Firing Gen Z Employees (Inc.)

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My favorite things for the Fall of 2024 include a bra, a neck alignment thing-y, a documentary, a book, what's making me feel pretty, and two unexpected events that turned out to be some of my favorite moments of the year (so far).

We share our Favorite Things around here because a) it's fun b) it forces us to notice our life and c) it serves as a gratitude list of sorts.

BONUS: this episode also contains a dozen recommendations from fellow listeners and members of the SECRET STUFF community.

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MENTIONED BY LAURA in this episode:

Recent Girl's Trip posts HERE and HERE

Under Outfit bra

Meeting Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey story HERE

A Woman of Independent Means by Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey

Neck alignment thing-y

“Nothin’ But a Good Time” on Paramount Plus

1000 Words: A Writer's Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round by Jami Attenberg

Emma J. Shipley wallpaper

LISTENER VOICES Recommendations:

Prequel Lucent-C Vitamin C Serum

Nuuly Clothing rentals

Lost Man’s Lane by Scott Carson

ma:nyo Pure Facial Cleansing Oil

Aveeno Protect + Hydrate Body Sunscreen

Senté Even Tone Mineral Sunscreen

Skylight Calendar and App

Starling House by Alix E. Harrow

ILIA Balmy Tint Hydrating Lip Balm

Substack

Five-Senses Journal by Gretchen Rubin

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It's October! I'm joined on this episode by my friend and co-host of the Currently Reading podcast Meredith Monday Schwartz, to talk about why we read (and love) books in the horror genre and to give you a pile of recommendations for this spooky season.

This is a conversation for longtime horror readers AND for those who are horror-curious. We cover everything from why escaping into scary stories HELPS our anxiety (yes, really), to how we believe horror books are often tackling some of the most important cultural topics.

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Laura’s Spooky Books:

• We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson
• Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia
• The Need by Helen Phillips
• How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix (Mutual pick for Laura and Meredith)

Meredith’s Spooky Books:

• Diavola by Jennifer Thorne
• We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer
• I’m Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reid

Scary Story Beginnings:

• Nancy Drew Series by Carolyn Keene
• The Amityville Horror by Jay Anson
• Stephen King
• Christopher Pike
• VC Andrews
• My Sweet Audrina by V.C. Andrews

Horror Books Laura Always Talks About:

• Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant
• The Passage by Justin Cronin
• The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones
• Tender is the Flesh by Agustina Bazterrica

Meredith’s Rurther Reading Recs:

• Devolution by Max Brooks
• FantasticLand by Mike Bockoven
• The Troop by Nick Cutter
• Amazon Original Stories Creature Feature Collection

Laura’s TBR recs:

• The Reformatory by Tananarive Due
• The House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski

Books Also Mentioned:

• I’ll be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara (The scariest book Meredith has ever read)
• The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard
• The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson
• Lottery and Other Stories by Shirley Jackson
• The Final Girl Support Group by Grady Hendrix
• The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix
• Sandwich by Catherine Newman
• 101 Horror Books to Read Before You’re Murdered by Sadie Hartmann

Also Mentioned:

• Talking Scared Podcast
• Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read + What To Skip)
• Storygraph (for tracking books and checking trigger warnings)
• Sadie Hartmann @mother.horror on Instagram

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Back in February, during a casual, late night conversation, my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) asked me a question that completely that changed my year.

The answer to a question I had never thought about came to me with such clarity. And since her question (and my answer) was about the Big Picture plan for my life, it only felt appropriate to ask Kendra to talk through it all with me here on the show.

Kendra Adachi's new book is called The Plan: Manage Your Time Like A Lazy Genius and it's out everywhere on October 8, 2024.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Episode 51: How to Create and Structure a Business Peer Group (with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Episode 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy Genius

Episode 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

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This episode is for anyone who has looked at a photo of themselves and wondered if that's what they really look like. Professional photographer Jess Koehler is my guest today as we talk through all the hangups that keep us from taking, sharing, or displaying photos of ourselves, and how we can overcome them.

This is not a typical "tips and tricks" episode (although we do weave tangible and emotional tips throughout). Jess and I are talking about WHY we should document ourselves, maybe even on our hardest days. We're talking about the benefits of having professional photos taken when our camera phones have become so advanced. And, yes, we're sharing all kinds of logistics on taking photos, from finding a professional photographer to using your Apple Watch as a selfie timer.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture?

Fleabag: A Love Story (BONUS episode with Sueann Fortener)

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Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't

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This is the latest episode in the ONE THING series, where I host conversations with interesting people and ask them the ONE THING they would tell you.

You might know Joy Cho as the bright, stylish, happy face and founder of Oh Joy!, a lifestyle brand with millions of followers and whose products and designs have appeared in Target, Petco, House Beautiful (to name a few) and in collaborations with Keds, Casetify, Calpak (and more).

But even with a soaring career, Joy experienced a midlife crisis after a hard season in her family and a series of professional setbacks. She tried all the things you're supposed to when you're struggling: therapy, a life coach, but there was really ONE THING that pulled her out of a long funk.

In our conversation, Joy and I talk about how I fanned out on her not once but twice, how an outfit can change the way you move through the day, and why it helps to remember what we loved to do when we were kids.

I knew Joy would bring wisdom and insight to the show, and of course she over delivered.

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Find all of Joy Cho's books here

Creative, Inc. (published 2010)

Blog, Inc. (published 2012)

Joy's mental-health-focused Substack

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