Bare Marriage

Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

58 minutes 59 seconds

Episode 263: Even After Everything—Loving Anyway, Despite the Risks
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Advent is normally a time of hopeful expectation. But what does it mean when our hopes have been dashed in the past? Stephanie Duncan Smith shares her stories of miscarriages and losses—as well as great celebrations, and what it means to embrace a life that is really messy. And we look at how we can celebrate the Incarnation by being Jesus’ hands and feet, seeing the work fighting sex trafficking that The Well House is doing. It’s the Christmas season, everyone!

Stocking Stuffers:

Check out our biblical womanhood line of merch, or our Prayer and Tent Pegs lines! They're wonderful with mugs, notebooks, stickers, tshirts and more!

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED
- Find Even After Everything
- Donate to The Well House
- Donate to the work we do! Help us meet our 2025 goals. Get a tax-deductible receipt for donations within the US
- Or, if you’d rather, join our Patreon and support us that way, while getting access to an exclusive Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
12 December 2024, 12:00 pm
1 hour 34 minutes

Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans
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Jimmy Evans started XO Marriage over 30 years ago, and his book Marriage on the Rock became a best-seller. He leads marriage conferences around the country. But for years he also Mark Driscoll on his leadership team. He got his start at Gateway Church under Robert Morris, who has been accused of grooming and sexually abusing a teen girl, starting when she was 12. And more recently audio of Evans’ bullying behavior has dropped. So let’s examine his book Marriage on the Rock—and we’ll find that he stresses one-sided sex as obligation; says dangerous things about abuse; and expects women to shoulder the mental and emotional load for the family.

Our Sponsor:

Ever, AJ: Uniquely crafted vegan leather Bible cases.
These Bible Cases are GORGEOUS and FUNCTIONAL! Use it as a traditional case, or you can also buy purses and wristlets. Makes a great gift too!

Stocking Stuffers:

Check out our biblical womanhood line of merch, or our Prayer and Tent Pegs lines! They're wonderful with mugs, notebooks, stickers, tshirts and more!

LINKS:

Get Our One Sheet Download of Marriage on the Rock

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED:
- The audio of Jimmy Evans’ bullying behavior in the Daystar meeting
- Evidence of Mark Driscoll being on the leadership team at XO Marriage
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
5 December 2024, 12:00 pm
1 hour 18 minutes

Episode 261: Her Rites: The 6 Rites of Passage in a Woman’s Life feat. Christy Bauman
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Ever feel like your body is a stranger to you? Like you’re plagued with insecurity, can’t find peace in your relationships? What if it’s because we’re running away from part of who we are, and we haven’t been able to honor who God made us to be? Christy Bauman, a licensed therapist, noticed in her counseling that her clients often didn’t have a clear identity or were able to articulate who they were. So she invites us on a journey of recovering rites of passage—where we honor sacred moments in our lives, honor our birthright, honor who God made us to be. We honor the good and the bad; we lament what is lost but we celebrate what we’ve achieved. And when we’re able to do these things, we can finally be comfortable in our own skin! Join us for this deep and personal conversation.

OUR SPONSOR:
Ever, AJ: Uniquely crafted vegan leather Bible cases. These Bible Cases are GORGEOUS and FUNCTIONAL! Use it as a traditional case, or you can also buy purses and wristlets. Makes a great gift too!

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
Things Mentioned in the Podcast:
- Christy Bauman’s book Her Rites
- Find Christy, her book, and the songs
- Great Sex Rescue is on for under $10 on Amazon right now! (who knows how long that will last?)
- Our peer reviewed article in the Sociology of Religion journal
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
27 November 2024, 12:00 pm
1 hour 11 minutes

Episode 260: Shame Must Switch Sides: It’s Not Shameful to NOT Want Pornified Sex
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Gisele Pelicot famously said that "shame must switch sides"--and I think that applies to the evangelical church! Over and over again over the last few years ,when male teachers have presented a pornified view of sex and women have said "no", women have been accused of being prudes. But it is okay to reject objectification. A close look at Josh Butler, Gary Thomas coercing women into sending nude photos, and more--all of whom called us ashamed of sex for saying no.
SPECIAL: The Great Sex Rescue is on major sale on Amazon right now! Get it here
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED:
- Ngina Otiende’s initial article about Gary Thomas
- Our review of Gary Thomas’ book Married Sex
- My original article about how Married Sex coerces nude photos
- Our podcast where we talked about Gisele Pelicot
- The Male Centric Sex podcast
- Theology in the Raw episode with Josh Butler
- Brett McCracken about Josh Butler
- Twitter thread with Gary Thomas
- Juli Slattery’s article quoting me
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
21 November 2024, 12:00 pm
1 hour 8 minutes

Episode 259: Avoiding Power Struggles with Your Kids (Plus are you an unintentionally permissive parent?)
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Do you find yourself in constant power struggles with your kids? Do you feel like your kids too often set the terms of their cooperation? Or are you worried that you are too hard and demanding on them?

Well today I talk with Wendy Snyder, a positive parenting coach, as we get into the nitty gritty of how to find that balance between being authoritarian and overly permissive. Cut the drama, cut the power struggles, and learn how to thrive as a family!

SIGN UP for our FREE Parenting Webinar with Wendy! The Compassionate Discipline Workshop, Tuesday November 19 at 1 pm EST!

THINGS MENTIONED
- Wendy's Website, Fresh Start Family
- Find Wendy on Instagram
- Listen to our last podcast with Wendy, Parenting without Yelling
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
14 November 2024, 12:00 pm
58 minutes 8 seconds

Episode 258: They’re Coming After Bluey Now? What’s Wrong with Involved Fathers?
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Why are writers for The Gospel Coalition coming after the dad in the cartoon series Bluey? He’s an involved dad who loves his kids. Why are they so offended? Rick Pidcock joins Rebecca and Connor Lindenbach for a deep dive—and then Rebecca and Connor talk more about our anemic view of fatherhood.

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
Things Mentioned
- Rick Pidcock’s article about coming after Bluey
- Jeremy Pryor’s article about Bluey turning fathers into mothers
- Rick Pidcock's blog
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
7 November 2024, 12:00 pm
1 hour 6 minutes

Episode 257: Little Girls in Church Parking Lots in BaptistLand
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Christa Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church to church for decades. When Christa’s daughter reached the same age Christa was when she was assaulted, she went public—and started the movement to push the SBC towards accountability for the sexual abuse crisis in their midst. She’s written a memoir called BaptistLand, and today we talk about Christa’s fight—and how SBC megachurch pastors today are still demonizing “little girls” rather than holding men accountable.

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

Pick up our Great Sex Rescue Tookit—to help start important conversations to those close to you

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
IMPORTANT LINKS:
- Christa Brown’s book BaptistLand
- Christa on Twitter
- Christa on Substack
- Read the Guideposts report
- The original Houston Chronicle article
- News article about the amicus brief filed by SBC entities AGAINST a sexual assault victim
- Josh Howerton sermon clip
- See the documentary For Our Daughters
- Follow the Sons of Patriarchy podcast about Doug Wilson on Spotify
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
31 October 2024, 11:00 am
1 hour 1 minute

Episode 256: How Should You Handle the Sex Talk with Your Kids?
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Talking to your kids about sex & puberty is awkward! And over the years the church has made some big mistakes. Today we talk about how to avoid the biggest ones--and some encouragement for how to do this with as little awkwardness as possible.

OUR SEX AND PUBERTY COURSE:

Check out our revamped version of The Whole Story--our sex and puberty course for parents to share with kids. It's video-based, and it makes covering all the info much easier. It's on sale until Monday, October 28 at midnight.

TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED:
- Our book She Deserves Better
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
24 October 2024, 11:00 am
1 hour 12 minutes

Episode 255: For Our Daughters—Plus Why Sex Abuse Scandals Keep Happening
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We aren’t going to fix the abuse crisis in the church until we deal with the underlying beliefs that actually enable abuse. Today Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins us to talk about her new documentary For Our Daughters, which shows how beliefs about gender, power and politics that are rampant in the church actually contribute to abuse. And Pastor Trey Ferguson joins us to comment on a recent article he wrote explaining how evangelicalism’s views of sex, which ignore intimacy, contribute to abuse too.
OUR SPONSOR:
Dr. Camden’s wonderful new book Recovering from Purity Culture launches this week! Learn the 5 myths of purity culture, how they affected you, and best of all—how to heal from them. Highly practical and insightful!
Plus Sheila wrote the foreword!
https://drcamden.com/book/

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED:
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
17 October 2024, 11:00 am
59 minutes 59 seconds

Episode 254: The 5 Myths of Purity Culture with Dr. Camden Morgante
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We know purity culture hurt so many of us. But how do we actually move on and recover from purity culture? Today Dr. Camden Morgante joins us to look at the 5 myths of purity culture, and how to heal and get to the other side!

OUR FREE WEBINAR!
Join Rebecca and me as we host Camden for a FREE webinar looking more into these myths, where we find them, and where we go from here! It'll be a super fun hour with some prizes, games, and lots of inside scoop!
Monday, October 14, 8 pm EST. Sign up here

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:
- Dr. Camden's book Recovering from Purity Culture
- Get Dr. Camden's pre-order bonuses!
- Follow Dr. Camden online
- Find Dr. Camden on Instagram
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
10 October 2024, 11:00 am
57 minutes 52 seconds

Episode 253: The 93% Myth: That Stat That Says Fathers Are More Important Than Mothers Is Made Up!
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Ever heard the stat from “a recent study” that found that, when a husband comes to Christ first, in 93% of cases the wife and kids follow, but when the wife comes to Christ first, it’s only 17%? Today Beth Allison Barr and Miranda Zapor Cruz, both academics looking into gender relations in church, join me to try to track down the source. Spoiler alert: People seem to have made this up about 30 years ago—and they keep quoting it! We look at what happens when churches assume this stat is true.
OUR SPONSOR
Ever, AJ: Uniquely crafted vegan leather Bible cases. These Bible Cases are GORGEOUS and FUNCTIONAL! Use it as a traditional case, or you can also buy purses and wristlets. Makes a great gift too!

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
THINGS MENTIONED:
ABOUT MIRANDA ZAPOR CRUZ:
- Find Miranda Zapor Cruz on Facebook
- Order her book Faithful Politics
ABOUT BETH ALLISON BARR:
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
3 October 2024, 11:00 am
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