This episode isn't about that Prince Harry memoir - no, this week on A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the concept of 'spares' in relationship. A 'spare' is much like a plastic bag drifting through the wind: having a back-up partner ready in case your plastic bag, well, breaks.

James and Dan are debating the ethics around 'spares' in relationships and also diving into the controversy surround the enhanced measures for straight men at The Last Dinner Party's concerts, an all-female rock band with a strong queer following, questioning whether these practices are justified or discriminatory.

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Do you know your shoe size? Well, before we start outrage... on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are tackling some of the top-tier stereotypes that are thrusted upon the community. After all, what do straight men and gay women have in common? Apparently they don't know their own shoe size!

Also on this weeks episode: When is it alright to share a bed with your friend? From the complexities of sharing beds with friends of the opposite set to tackling societal norms, James and Dan break through the patriarchy to once again put the world to rights.

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When it comes to the Drag world... you don't get much better than the current Queen of the Mothertucking World, Tia Kofi! Having recently won RuPaul's Drag Race: UK vs The World Tia has been using their reign to shine a spotlight on important matters - from LGBTQ+ rights to the queerest event of the year (other than Pride), the Eurovision Song Contest, where she hosted the Turquoise Carpet.

Tia joins James and Dan for an eye-opening conversation about the pressures of drag, how to overcome self-doubt, songwriting as a therapy and, of course, all things Drag Race.

Listen to Tia Kofi's podcast The Final FronTia wherever you get your podcasts: https://tiakofi.lnk.to/thefinalfrontia

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We're award winners! A Gay And A NonGay recently won the Independent Podcast Award for Best Sex, Love & Relationships and have been shortlisted at the British Podcast Awards!

In this weeks episode, James and Dan talk about the importance of awards and Dan tells a not-convoluted story about how he missed the awards!

Elsewhere in the episode, they talk about the idea of gay wrestling to determine sexual roles. From 'gay spacho' to 'horse fair', they tackle stereotypes and misconceptions surrounding common myths.

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Pubs, they're a British institution. But, in this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring the cultural differences between gay and nongay people when it comes to the drinking hole: cleanliness, atmosphere and even drinkware.

In non-drinking news, this week we're tackling the contentious phrase "fannying around" and learning and its offensive, historical context. Does the phrase need to (finally) pass away?

Plus, can you guess which country leads to a conversation about big dick energy? It's not the one you're thinking of!

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Have you ever put a traffic cone on your head? On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're starting off with a serious (not) debate about headwear, after a listener questioned if gay people participate in this holy ritual.

As the conversation turns more serious, James and Dan are discussing female and Queer aggression towards straight men and the use of comedy as a form of protest. When does it all go too far, and when is it completely justified?

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We are joined by a modern-day icon of the theatre world on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! Rob Madge first rose to prominence as a child actor, appearing in the West End productions of Mary Poppins and Oliver!. Rob gained mainstream popularity for the WhatsOnStage Award-winning and Olivier Award-nominated autobiographical show My Son's A Queer (But What Can You Do?) in 2023.

Rob joins James and Dan for a theatrical episode of the podcast - talking about the role of supportive families and communities for Queer performers, even through traumatic events such as when the Broadway run of Rob's show was cancelled. But, humour can be a great form of therapy, and Rob's new role in the play Buyer & Cellar is definitely that.

From the importance of advocacy and allyship - to the cultural phenomenon of Disney Adults - this week has it all...

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Why do gay people always bang on about being themselves... and then die their hair? Homophobia to one side - on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about how personal choices like hair styles and clothing can be used to reflect your true identity.

Also on this weeks podcast, we dive into gender neutral bathrooms and self-identification laws after a listener says that they feel unsafe in gender neutral spaces due to past traumas. Should safety concerns outweigh the needs of marginalised communities?

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We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay and this week we're diving into the world of relationships - and all of the complexities that can with them.

James and Dan talk about the stereotype of having (or being) a 'gay best friend'. What does it mean, and is it a bad thing? They also debate the idea of ownership between partners, and explore unconventional dating apps like Sniffies and the ethical issues surrounding them. It's all a changing landscape...

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Now that the Summer seems to be officially over (thanks, weather!), us here at A Gay And A NonGay HQ are reflecting on all it was, and all it could have been. Whilst Dan was flying between London and New York, James was at Edinburgh Festival with his new show. But you know what we all were doing? Reacting to Oasis' reunion!

Outside of our Champagne Brat summer discussion, James and Dan also discuss the phrase "fannying around" and explore its gendered connotations. It is just out of date... or also harmful?

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A Gay And A NonGay is officially back from the Summer break! And we're back with a bang as singer-songwriter GIRLI sits down with James & Dan to talk about the lesbian renaissance in pop culture.

We're diving into the history of the term 'lesbian' and the matriarchy, as well as the unique experience of being a Queer woman. Amongst that, the trio talk about the different ways that queer and straight men navigate societal expectations... and we get a sneak peek at GIRLI's upcoming projects and tour plans!

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