Ask A Death Doula

Suzanne B. O'Brien RN

"Ask a Death Doula"is a free educational forum where patients, families and doulas can come and ask any question related to end of life and the Death Doula movement.

  • 30 minutes 1 second
    Celebrating National Caregiver Month and Why I Wrote THE GOOD DEATH BOOK
     

    Discover the secrets to balancing the demands of the "sandwich generation" and master the intricacies of end-of-life care with insights that could change your perspective forever.

    Host Suzanne O'Brien, a seasoned hospice and oncology nurse, shares wisdom from her book, "The Good Death," to help caregivers navigate the challenging landscape of caring for both aging parents and children while maintaining their own careers. Through enlightening discussions, we shine a light on the urgent need for support systems and the transformative power of education in reducing the fear surrounding death.

    Unravel the complexity of grief and understand how embracing death as a natural part of life can lead to healing. Suzanne shares heartening stories of individuals who have found peace and solace after loss, underscoring the role of resources like "The Good Death Book" in preparing families for the inevitable journey. As advancements in medicine extend life expectancy, families must equip themselves to ensure a dignified and supportive end-of-life experience for their loved ones. By fostering a collective approach to caregiving, we can prevent the responsibility from becoming an isolating burden.

    Join us in celebrating National Caregiver Month by acknowledging the tireless contributions of caregivers everywhere. Suzanne extends a heartfelt message of appreciation and highlights the importance of spreading awareness about the resources available to support those in caregiving roles. By challenging misconceptions and embracing meaningful end-of-life rituals, we can enrich our understanding of life and death, empowering caregivers and families to face these moments with dignity and meaning. Tune in for a conversation filled with compassion, dedication, and valuable life lessons.

     

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    We dive into:

    (00:02) - Supporting Caregivers in End-of-Life

    (07:23) - Navigating Grief and End-of-Life Care

    (19:41) - Embracing End-of-Life Rituals and Choices

    (28:02) - Celebrating National Caregiver Month

     

     

     

     

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    11 November 2024, 9:30 am
  • 27 minutes 34 seconds
    Surviving Hurricane Milton
     

    Can you find peace and purpose amidst the chaos of a hurricane?

    Join me on an emotional journey through the devastation of Hurricane Helene in St. Petersburg, Florida, where the bond with my loyal dog, Maple, and the lessons from those at life's end became my guiding lights. As another storm threatened, the urgent mission to protect Maple highlighted the profound connections we hold with our pets, even in the face of nature's fury. Reflecting on these experiences, I share insights on embracing gratitude and discovering unexpected gifts that arise from dire circumstances.

    Do end-of-life choices hold the key to combating climate change? I invite you to explore this question as I recount my transformative path to becoming a hospice nurse, driven by a deep sense of purpose. This episode uncovers the environmental impacts of traditional burial practices and presents sustainable alternatives like green burials and human composting, not only as eco-friendly solutions but as financially savvy choices. Introducing my new book, "The Good Death," I aim to empower you with knowledge on navigating end-of-life journeys with serenity and environmental consciousness, demonstrating the power of mindful presence and gratitude in both living and dying.

     

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    We dive into:

    (00:02) - Surviving Hurricane Milton

    (13:05) - Life's Purpose and Climate Change Action

     

     

     

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    4 November 2024, 9:30 am
  • 34 minutes 18 seconds
    The First Phase of End-of-Life and What You Can Do to Support a Dying Loved One

    What if we reimagined death not as a battle to fight, but as a sacred part of our life's journey?

    Join me, Suzanne O'Brien, as I share insights from my work as a hospice and oncology nurse, guiding you through the shock phase that follows a terminal diagnosis. This episode challenges the fears that often surround death, urging us to engage in honest conversations about end-of-life care. Discover practical tools to help you navigate this difficult terrain, ensuring that you and your loved ones are prepared for what lies ahead.

    In our conversation, we explore the transformative power of presence, compassion, and active listening. We highlight how choosing love and kindness can help distinguish between merely being alive and truly living. By focusing on what truly matters, from simple comforts like a favorite song to important decisions about care, we can help return a sense of control to those facing their final days. With an emphasis on safety and respect for personal wishes, we explore how to support loved ones with dignity and care.

    Finally, witness a touching story of a family's journey with their beloved grandmother that underscores the importance of trust and emotional presence. This episode not only illustrates how education and compassion can create positive end-of-life experiences but also introduces the Good Death Seminar Series. This unique opportunity offers guidance in facilitating a compassionate and memorable journey for your loved ones. Together, let's ensure everyone can experience a meaningful and dignified end-of-life journey.

     

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    We dive into:

    (00:02) Understanding the Shock Phase of End-of-Life
    (11:46) Empowering End-of-Life Conversations
    (17:32) Navigating End-of-Life Shock Phase
    (28:06) Creating Positive End-of-Life Experiences

     

     

     

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    28 October 2024, 9:30 am
  • 46 minutes 51 seconds
    How To Be A Confident Caregiver

    Unlock the secrets to becoming a confident caregiver and transform your approach to end-of-life planning.

    Today, we promise to equip you with the knowledge and insight necessary to navigate the intricate journey of supporting your aging loved ones. Through real-life stories and expert advice, we tackle the emotional and logistical challenges head-on, emphasizing the importance of planning ahead and making informed decisions. With an aging population that demands our attention, understanding the nuances of caregiving, including the pivotal role of death doulas, is more crucial than ever.

    Reflect on the myriad of options available for end-of-life care, from maintaining urban independence to exploring shared housing arrangements. We share personal anecdotes about the nature of family discussions surrounding future care preferences and the importance of facing these often difficult conversations with honesty and empathy. Join us as we contemplate living arrangements—whether it’s independent city living, family-supported granny pods, or reputable care facilities—highlighting the importance of tailoring decisions to match individual needs and values.

    Explore the realm of eco-friendly body disposition methods such as natural burials, water cremation, and human composting, and the positive impact these choices can have on the environment. We discuss the historical context and current implications of traditional burial practices, urging listeners to consider sustainable alternatives. By embracing these options, you can align your end-of-life plans with your personal and environmental values, ultimately fostering a respectful and meaningful farewell. Don't miss the opportunity to redefine your relationship with death, making it a sacred and natural part of life’s journey.

     

     

     

    We dive into:

    (00:03) Planning Ahead for End-of-Life Care
    (10:04) End-of-Life Care Planning and Options
    (20:32) Compassionate End-of-Life Care Planning
    (27:02) Expanding Options for End-of-Life Care
    (32:44) Green End-of-Life Options and Rituals
    (44:27) Free Confident Caregiver Course Offer

     

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    21 October 2024, 9:30 am
  • 25 minutes 21 seconds
    What is Hospice Care, What is Hospice Gap and How You Can Fill It

    What if our modern approach to hospice care is missing the mark on its original compassionate intent?

    Join us on this eye-opening journey through the rich history and transformative evolution of hospice care, from its heartfelt beginnings in the 1960s with Dame Cicely Saunders to its present-day challenges in the United States. We unover the pivotal moment when the Medicare hospice benefit of 1982 shifted the focus from non-profit, holistic care to the for-profit model, often compromising the essential values of time and empathy. As we navigate these changes, we shed light on the pressing need to restore the core principles of hospice to truly honor end-of-life experiences.

    Throughout this episode, we tackle the critical issue of the "hospice gap," highlighting the overwhelming burden on family caregivers and the systemic hurdles that contribute to inadequate end-of-life care. We explore how fear, delayed hospice engagement, and limited professional interaction leave families unsupported. To empower you, we share vital questions you should ask when selecting a hospice, emphasizing the importance of understanding the holistic nature of care and the role of family support. With resources from the Doula Givers Institute, we aim to equip you with the knowledge needed to revive the sacredness of life's final chapter.

     

     

     

     

    We dive into:

    (00:02) The Evolution of Hospice Care
    (08:16) Closing the Hospice Care Gap
    (17:14) Important Questions to Ask a Hospice

     

     

     

     

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    14 October 2024, 9:30 am
  • 29 minutes 21 seconds
    The History of Death and How it Became the #1 Fear in the World

    Why is our modern society so terrified of death, and how can this fear be transformed into a meaningful part of life?

    Join me, Suzanne O'Brien, as we unpack the deep-seated anxieties surrounding death and explore how these fears can lead to poor decisions and missed opportunities for those at the end of life. Drawing from my experiences as a hospice and oncology nurse, I reflect on how historical reverence for death contrasts sharply with our current culture of avoidance, urging a shift in perspective to embrace death as a natural milestone.

    Discover the profound lessons that death imparts and the importance of living each day to the fullest in the face of life's uncertainty. We discuss the complexities of extending human life and the significant challenges the medical community faces in end-of-life care. Through touching narratives, including poignant personal stories, I highlight the need for honest conversations about Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) orders and advocate for a cultural shift to see death as a human experience rather than merely a medical issue. These discussions underscore the urgency for compassionate and innovative solutions in end-of-life care.

    In our final segment, we reflect on the universal themes of connection, love, and the preciousness of time, illustrated through the emotional journey of Maureen, a 44-year-old woman with gallbladder cancer. Her story underscores the critical importance of human connections in the final moments and the power of compassionate care. I emphasize the necessity of open conversations and education to ensure positive end-of-life experiences, inviting you to join our Good Death Seminar Series to transform our collective approach to death with kindness and support. Your questions and comments are welcome for future episodes as we continue this vital dialogue.

     

     

     

     

    We dive into:

    (00:02) The Fear of Death (10:18) Reframing the Narrative of Death (19:17) Embracing the Transition of End (26:27) Reframing the End of Life

     

     

     

     

     

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    7 October 2024, 9:30 am
  • 27 minutes 49 seconds
    The Good Death Seminar Series Announced

    What if you could ensure a dignified, compassionate end-of-life experience for a loved one?

    Join us in this transformative episode of Ask a Deaf Doula as Suzanne O'Brien, former hospice and oncology nurse, introduces the groundbreaking Good Death Seminar Series. This six-month, entirely free program is designed to bridge critical gaps in hospice care by equipping families with essential knowledge and skills. Suzanne passionately discusses the current state of hospice care, stressing the urgent need for better family preparation and support. From historical perspectives on death to practical caregiving skills, this series promises to be an invaluable resource.

    Mark your calendars for key sessions that will reshape your approach to end-of-life care. Tune in on December 4th to explore defining quality of life and making informed medical choices, and on December 18th for nine must-answer questions to ensure a good death experience. Discover the importance of family conversations about end-of-life wishes on January 1st, and gain tools for navigating family disagreements on January 15th. Finally, on January 29th, we will discuss three common end-of-life phenomena reported globally. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to navigate the end-of-life journey with dignity and grace.

     

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    We dive into:

    (00:02) Good Death Seminar Series Announcement
    (14:17) End-of-Life Seminar Series Information

     

     

     

     

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    80-90% of a positive end of life depends on these two things:

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    30 September 2024, 9:30 am
  • 42 minutes 26 seconds
    How to Make a Death Doula Website

    Imagine facing the end of your life with a sense of peace and support.

    In this episode, Suzanne O'Brien shares her insights on creating an impactful and authentic death doula website that reflects your passion for end-of-life care. We explore user-friendly platforms like Squarespace and Wix, offering practical advice on presenting your services with clarity and genuineness. Discover how to use colors and images to resonate with your unique approach and learn about the necessity of proper training and resources to provide the highest level of service to patients and their families.

    Ever wondered about the crucial role of death doulas? Suzanne delves into the non-medical support they provide, encompassing emotional, physical, spiritual, and informational care. Reflect on your preparedness for end-of-life situations and listen to personal stories that highlight the importance of building trust through sharing credentials. We also discuss the comprehensive services offered by death doulas, from facilitating vital end-of-life conversations to creating vigil plans and offering spiritual support, demonstrating how they ensure a positive and comfortable end-of-life experience for everyone involved.

    Death doulas fill significant gaps left by traditional hospice care, providing extended, personalized support before, during, and after a loved one's death. Suzanne discusses the acceptance of doulas by the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization and the rigorous training they undergo. Learn about the affordability and availability of doula services, including teledoula support, and the importance of creating accessible end-of-life resources. Whether you're considering becoming a death doula or seeking support for a loved one, this episode offers valuable insights into the profound work of death doulas.

     

     

     

    We dive into:

    (00:00) Build Death Doula Website
    (08:35) Benefits and Importance of Death Doulas
    (13:46) Comprehensive Services of Death Doulas
    (26:57) Creating Free End-of-Life Resources
    (33:03) End-of-Life Doula Services and Support

     

     

     

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    23 September 2024, 9:30 am
  • 28 minutes 55 seconds
    3 Steps to Ensure a Positive Passing for You and Your Loved Ones

    What if you could transform the end-of-life experience into a holistic, human journey rather than a purely medical one?

    Join us as we explore the profound and often overlooked aspects of end-of-life care on this episode of "Ask a Death Doula." We’re breaking down the three phases of end-of-life, from initial comfort measures to the body's natural decline, and highlighting the critical role of proactive planning. Discover how you can enrich these final moments for your loved ones and yourself by embracing new, progressive choices that celebrate life and honor the environment.

    Understanding legal preparations is crucial, and this episode sheds light on the importance of advanced directives and POLST forms. Learn why these documents are vital for ensuring your wishes are respected by medical professionals and how they can prevent common pitfalls. We share real-life stories to illustrate the necessity of awareness and education about these forms, empowering you to make informed decisions. This chapter is a must-listen for anyone looking to navigate end-of-life care with confidence and clarity.

    We also take a heartfelt look at sustainable end-of-life options that go beyond traditional practices. Imagine the intimacy of home wakes, the eco-friendliness of natural burials, or the innovative choices of water cremation and human composting. These alternatives not only honor the deceased but also tread lightly on the planet and are often more financially viable. Host Suzanne O'Brien expresses her gratitude for your participation and encourages you to explore the free resources available at doulagivers.com. Prepare to transform your perspective on end-of-life care and make it a deeply meaningful experience.

     

     

     

    We dive into:

    (00:02) Navigating End of Life Care
    (06:49) End of Life Care Essentials
    (12:50) Understanding Advanced Directives and PULST Forms
    (17:48) Exploring Sustainable End-of-Life Options
    (27:02) Improving End of Life Care

     

     

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    16 September 2024, 9:30 am
  • 41 minutes 1 second
    A Heartbeat of Resilience: Peggy Lindsay's Journey from Crisis to Recovery

    What if a life-threatening health crisis could transform not just your body, but your spirit as well?

    Join us for an inspiring conversation with Peggy Lindsay, heart transplant survivor and author of "My Beat Goes On," as she recounts her extraordinary journey. Peggy opens up about her family's history of heart disease and the unexpected health scare at age 51 that led her to seek a second opinion, ultimately revealing the urgent need for a heart transplant. Her story underscores the power of proactive medical care and the compelling need for firsthand patient narratives, a gap she aims to fill through her book.

    Listen to Peggy's gripping account of her medical journey, where her healthcare surrogate battled to get her the advanced care she needed, leading to a timely diagnosis of cardiogenic shock. She shares the emotional crossroads between opting for hospice care and choosing the rigorous path to a heart transplant—a choice she made thanks to her daughter's unwavering support and the exceptional team at Tampa General. From navigating the trials of surgery and recovery to discussing the intriguing phenomena of cellular memory and heightened intuition, Peggy's story is a testament to resilience and the transformative power of modern medicine.

     

     

    We dive into:

    (12:34 - 13:31) The Importance of Having an Advocate
    (18:50 - 20:11) Life-Saving Transplant Journey
    (22:24 - 24:43) Life-Changing Organ Donation Offer
    (29:53 - 30:49) Visions of Deceased Loved Ones
    (32:42 - 33:48) Heart Transplant Connection and Donors
    (37:14 - 38:41) Seeking Health Opinions

     

     

     

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    80-90% of a positive end of life depends on these two things:

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    13 August 2024, 9:30 am
  • 31 minutes 45 seconds
    Death Doula Global Summit Speaker Spotlight: Adrian Allotey, Founder of You Are Not Alone Elder Care

    Death Doula Global Summit Speaker Spotlight: Adrian Allotey, Founder of You Are Not Alone Elder Care

    Ever wondered how we can transform the final stages of life into a sacred and beautiful experience?

    Join us as we sit down with Adrian Allotey, an empathetic end-of-life doula and elder companion, who shares her heartfelt journey of turning end-of-life care into a deeply human and spiritual endeavor. Adrian opens up about her personal regrets and the lack of support she felt during her grandmother's final moments, shedding light on the importance of emotional and spiritual care. She introduces her innovative methods, like "dress rehearsals" for families, aimed at making the last days less fearful and more comforting.

    As we navigate through the conversation, Adrian's insights reveal the transformative power of love, presence, and intuition in end-of-life care. From the challenges of raising awareness about the role of death doulas to the profound impact of COVID-19 on our collective understanding of life and death, this episode is a powerful reminder of our shared humanity. Adrian's touching stories, including the comfort found in physical closeness, music, and involving distant family members, underscore the holistic and compassionate approach that can help us rebuild a more united and empathetic world. Tune in for an episode filled with wisdom, kindness, and a hopeful vision for the future of end-of-life care.


     

    We dive into:

    (06:29 - 07:25) Dress Rehearsals in End-of-Life Care
    (12:45 - 14:31) Reflections on COVID and Self-Awareness
    (19:28 - 20:28) End of Life Comfort and Communication
    (28:17 - 29:15) Embracing Life Through Death

     

     

     

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    80-90% of a positive end of life depends on these two things:

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    More about what we do at Doulagivers Institute - Click here!

    6 August 2024, 9:30 am
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