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Hello lovely ones,
In this episode I invite you to listen to me prepare for an interview I did at Stylist Live about 5 Tips To Avoid burnout. To prepare for speaking gigs I download my thoughts into a voice note and then listen back to it, this helps me work out my key points. When I listened to the voice note I thought this would make a great podcast... so here we are!
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Please note this is a voice note I recorded for myself so there is background noise and its literally me speaking my thoughts.
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Hello and welcome to another episode of The Liberated Woman podcast.
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Today I'm exploring a topic that shows up for so many women, especially high-achieving, ambitious women who feel the pull toward growth and transformation. Today, I am exploring the deep roots of perfectionism, what drives it, why it’s so persistent, and how it affects us not only mentally but also physically and emotionally.
Perfectionism is a theme that I encounter constantly in my work, whether it’s within my membership community, my group coaching programmes, or my 1-2-1 client sessions. For many of us, the need to get things ‘just right’ can be a significant block, preventing us from reaching our true potential. Perfectionism holds us back, not just in the pursuit of our goals but in our ability to live authentically and experience real freedom.
In this episode, we’ll look at perfectionism not as a simple personality trait but as a coping mechanism, something deeply embedded in our psychology, our somatic experience, and even our neurobiology. I’ll share insights from my background in social work, my training in somatic coaching, and my passion for Polyvagal Theory to help illuminate the patterns behind perfectionism. We’ll also consider how societal conditioning, systemic pressures, and our own survival instincts make us feel that if we’re not perfect, we’re not enough.
As an intersectional feminist and advocate for women’s empowerment, I’m passionate about helping us break free from these patterns and reclaim our power.
Key discussion points:
What perfectionism really is:
Perfectionism is often viewed as a personality trait, but it goes much deeper. At its core, it’s a coping mechanism that protects us from feeling vulnerable or judged. It can even become a state of survival, where the nervous system adapts to high alert as a new “normal.” As I discuss, this survival mode can morph into a permanent state, affecting how we experience the world and navigate challenges.
The neurobiology and somatic impact of perfectionism:
Using insights from Polyvagal Theory, I explain how our nervous system influences our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Chronic perfectionism often means we are stuck in a cycle of fight, flight, or freeze, which can drain our energy and lead to exhaustion. When we’re in this state, our brains interpret even minor mistakes as threats to our safety, making the pursuit of “perfect” feel essential for survival. I discuss research showing how chronic anxiety impacts the body, keeping us in a hyper-alert state and creating symptoms that go far beyond mental strain.
Perfectionism, shame, and self-compassion:
Drawing on the work of Dr. Kristin Neff, we explore the connection between perfectionism and shame. Perfectionism often traps us in a cycle of feeling ‘not enough,’ where every mistake seems like a declaration of failure or inadequacy. Dr. Neff’s research on self-compassion offers an alternative to this harmful cycle, helping us see our worth beyond our achievements and freeing us from the armour of perfectionism.
Perfectionism as an ‘addiction’ to control:
Drawing from the work of Dr. Gabor Maté, I examine how perfectionism can resemble an addiction. It serves as a way to soothe stress and discomfort, but in reality, it keeps us stuck in a state of control that is ultimately limiting. Society teaches us to avoid discomfort and to ‘think positive,’ which can prevent us from developing the resilience to manage difficult emotions. As Dr. Maté explains, addiction is often a response to suffering, and perfectionism can function in much the same way.
Client Story:
I share the journey of a client who came to me wanting to expand her business but felt paralysed by perfectionism. In our work together, she realised that perfection was an illusion and began to embrace a more authentic, bold version of herself. She went from “Sandy at the start of Grease” to her true “Rizzo” self, taking meaningful action, embracing her strengths and imperfections, and experiencing significant growth in her business and personal life.
I’m challenging you to look beyond the surface and understand perfectionism at a deeper level, to see it not as ‘just the way I am’ but as something we can understand, unlearn, and replace with patterns that serve our growth and liberation.
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Welcome to another enlightening episode of The Liberated Woman Podcast! Today, I’m delighted to be joined by Effie Kli, a trauma specialist whose work in somatic trauma healing has profoundly impacted many lives.
Effie’s approach centres on helping people awaken from the spell of trauma so they can live with vitality rather than simply coping with life.
In this episode, we explore how trauma manifests in our bodies, the societal conditioning that leads to emotional neglect, and the importance of learning to be present with our somatic experiences.
Effie shares valuable insights into living vibrantly, even with unresolved issues, and offers practical advice on beginning the journey towards somatic healing. We also delve into the relationship between our connections with men and money, and how these often mirror each other in surprising ways.
Key Topics Discussed:
Quotes to Remember:
“Trauma decontextualised in a family looks like family traits. Trauma in a people looks like culture.” — Resmaa Menakem
“Your anxiety might be a sign that the environment you’re in is not the right one for you.” — Effie Klee
More about Effie Kli:
As a child, Effie believed she had the perfect childhood until a sudden family loss at age ten turned her life upside down. To cope with the trauma, she developed coping mechanisms like hypervigilance, perfectionism, and workaholism, mistaking them for her personality. For nearly two decades, she lived in survival mode without realising it.
It wasn’t until a period of high anxiety and panic attacks, despite her seemingly perfect life, that Effie began to question her reality. Diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder, she initially turned to medication, but when the anxiety returned, she sought deeper solutions. Discovering the concept of trauma, she realised her body was responding normally to past experiences.
Somatic healing transformed her life, leading her to train in somatic-based and trauma-informed modalities. Since then, Effie has helped hundreds of people through workshops, private sessions, and her 12-week signature programme, Healing Trauma Guided by the Body. Her passion lies in helping others trust their bodies, believe in their capacity to heal, and move from stuckness to vitality.
Connect with Effie Kli:
https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.educator/
Where to listen:
Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288
Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm?si=7bc28183530c42fc
Web Browser here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/podcast
Watch on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@Tamu.Thomas
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
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Ways to work with Tamu:
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Work with me here
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Welcome to The Liberated Woman Podcast! Today, I am overjoyed to be joined by the phenomenal EbonyJanice Moore.
It is an utter joy to be in conversation with one of the most impactful women I have experienced. EbonyJanice’s work has supported me in so many ways from her writing to her patreon and the content she shares on social media.
EbonyJanice is a brilliant thinker, writer, creative, and advocate for Black women’s sovereignty. In this episode, we explore the profound power of reclaiming our full selves, the wisdom of our ancestors, and the transformative nature of imagination.
Throughout our conversation, EbonyJanice shares her journey of self-sovereignty, emphasising the importance of rejecting societal expectations, particularly those imposed on Black women. We explore the concept of “mamification” and how it often limits Black women’s identities, and discuss how reconnecting with ancestral wisdom can guide us towards true liberation.
EbonyJanice also highlights the critical role of imagination in personal and collective freedom, urging us to “dream ourselves free.”
Key Takeaways:
Actionable Steps:
60-Second Stillness: Start with 60 seconds of stillness each day to connect with yourself. Gradually increase this time as you become more comfortable with the practice.
Integrity Work: Commit to being the authentic version of yourself, which is a powerful tool for personal and collective liberation.
Nurture Your Imagination: Dedicate time to daydream and explore your imagination. This can be a powerful source of creativity and solutions in your life.
Quote of the Episode:
“Actual you is going to open doors that fake you either could not have gotten through or could not sustain.” – EbonyJanice
More about EbonyJanice:
EbonyJanice is the founder and CEO of The Free People Project and The EbonyJanice Project. She has authored several books, including “All The Black Girls Are Activists: A Fourth Wave Womanist Pursuit Of Dreams As Radical Resistance.”
Her Spiritual Mentorship Program, entitled “Dream Yourself Free,” is designed to support Black Women to heal intergenerational wounds and prioritize pleasure.
Her talks embody a Hip Hop Womanist perspective. She is the visionary and creator of Black Girl Mixtape, a platform and safe think space that elevates the intellectual authority of Black Women.
She is the founder of the All The Black Girls Are Bestsellers Campaign, raising over a million dollars to mass purchase Black femme books with the goal of getting them on The New York Times Best Sellers List. This project endeavored to spend the bulk of these funds in small Black and Indie owned bookstores and gifted thousands of books to individuals and organizations nationwide. EbonyJanice earned her Bachelors in Cultural Anthropology and Political Science and a Masters of Arts in Social Change with a concentration in Spiritual Leadership, Womanist Theology, and Racial Justice.
Connect with EbonyJanice:
Purchase All The Black Girls Are Activists here https://bit.ly/4ebFVQV
Where to listen:
Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288
Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm?si=7bc28183530c42fc
Web Browser here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/podcast
Watch on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@Tamu.Thomas
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
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Ways to work with Tamu:
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Work with me here
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Welcome to another episode of The Liberated Woman Podcast! Today, I'm utterly delighted to have Diahann Holder, a leadership mentor and human design expert, joining us. Diahann is renowned for her radical self-ownership and ambition, making her a person I find captivating in a world where women are conditioned to downplay their strengths.
Diahann shares her transformative journey, which began with a debilitating autoimmune condition at age 20, leading her to explore human potential and align with her true self.
Our conversation explores radical self-responsibility, the mind-body connection, and the power of embracing one's authentic identity.
Diahann's insights on internal freedom, integrating feminine and masculine energies, and moving beyond fear states are profound. She discusses the importance of living in alignment with your authentic self to achieve holistic prosperity and joy.
Key Takeaways:
More about today’s guest:
Diahann is a Life Design & Leadership Coach helping new wave Leaders build true Prosperity & Flow in LIFE, CAREER and LOVE.
Renowned for her capacity to create powerful space for deep transformation, her in-person and virtual containers offer her clients space to be truly seen, empowered and to leverage their unique gifts in pursuit of their visions and goals.
In her private containers she works uniquely with personal design coding (Human Design and Gene Keys) to help unleash the purpose, potential and prosperity keys her clients are here to bring forward in life.
Though much of her work is steeped in 18yrs of western psychology and eastern esoteric training and initiation - what she offers is a grounded, no fluff fusion of practices to activate clients on every level.
Connect with Diahann:
https://www.instagram.com/diahannholder
21 Days of Brave: https://www.urbanavatars.com/21-DAYS-OF-BRAVE
Where to listen:
Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288
Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm?si=7bc28183530c42fc
Web Browser here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/podcast
Watch on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@Tamu.Thomas
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
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Ways to work with Tamu:
Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here
Work with me here
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Welcome back to another episode of The Liberated Woman Podcast with my very lovely guest, Sarah P. Corbett.
Not just any old Sarah Corbett, but Sarah P. Corbett. She is an award-winning activist, author, and ex-Ashoka Fellow, born into an activist family in Everton, one of the most deprived wards in the UK. Growing up in Everton, Sarah was deeply influenced by the social and economic challenges faced by her community.
This environment, marked by high unemployment, poor housing conditions, and limited access to resources, instilled in Sarah a strong sense of social justice and the importance of activism from a young age. Sarah is a professional campaigner, most recently with Oxfam, and has collaborated with illustrious names such as the Tate, the V&A Museum, and WWF.
Today, we dive into her journey and the concept of gentle activism through craftivism.
Key Discussion Points Gentle Activism and Craftivism:
Community and Support:
Challenges and Personal Reflections:
Personal Reflections:
Connect with Sarah:
www.instagram.com/sarahpcorbett
https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahpcorbett
Buy her book The Craftivist Collective Handbook here: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/the-craftivist-collective-handbook-sarah-p-corbett/7634546?ean=9781800182509
Where to listen:
Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288
Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm?si=7bc28183530c42fc
Web Browser here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/podcast
Watch on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@Tamu.Thomas
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas
Ways to work with Tamu:
Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much:
https://hayhs.com/wwwtm_pp_pb_az
Connect with me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/tamu.thomas/
Welcome to The Liberated Woman Podcast! This is a powerful conversation with The Sunday Times Bestselling author and multi-seven figure coach and mentor, Suzy Ashworth. Suzy is one of the most inspiring and influential women I know.
In this episode, Suzy shares her incredible journey to Infinite Receiving and becoming a prominent figure in the coaching industry. We explore the importance of operating from a place of love instead of fear, the significance of self-expression, and the courage it takes to break free from societal limitations to achieve true greatness.
Suzy discusses the challenges she faced and the transformations she experienced, offering profound insights into how to live a life of purpose and abundance.
We also explore the impact of societal conditioning on personal growth, the need for self-connection, and the importance of creating ‘white space’ for reflection and guidance.
Suzy emphasises the power of self-love and the importance of being devoted to one’s calling.
Key themes:
Operating from Love vs. Fear: The significance of choosing love over fear in personal and professional decisions.
Self-Expression: Encouraging listeners to trust their unique contributions and transmissions.
Liberation from Envy: How Suzy navigates others' projections and prioritises self-love.
Courage to Embrace Greatness: The necessity of letting go of good things to achieve true greatness.
More about Suzy:
Suzy Ashworth is a single mum of three children, high school dropout, author of Sunday Times bestselling book Infinite Receiving. Suzy is a success coach who has sold over £6m in revenue since 2020. She both certifies coaches helping them go from good to world class, alongside helping them to build business’ that change lives focusing on simple smart strategies, the energetics of business and high ticket selling. Her vision is to use the Infinite Receiving framework to help people be more of who they were put on this planet to be, creating more freedom, joy, abundance and peace, one Infinite Receiver at a time.
Her work has been featured in Forbes, Grazia, and The BBC.
Always open to the experiences life has to offer, Suzy's also lived in Mexico and Spain with her family, and is now based back in the UK.
Connect with Suzy:
https://www.instagram.com/suzy_ashworth/
Special Offer: Get a free copy of Infinite Receiving (just pay postage and packaging) and 21 days free access to her member site. Visit suzyashworth.com/book .
Where to listen:
Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288
Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm?si=7bc28183530c42fc
Web Browser here: https://www.livethreesixty.com/podcast
Watch on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@Tamu.Thomas
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas
Ways to work with Tamu:
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Work with me here
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Hello, lovely listeners! In this solo episode, I share my observations on the intersection of race and toxic productivity culture. As I've been promoting my book, "Women Who Work Too Much," I've noticed a lack of conversations about how this issue uniquely affects Black women and women of the global majority.
In this episode, I share my thoughts on:
I'm inviting more nuanced conversation about intersectionality and toxic productivity.
Mentioned Resources:
Harvard Business School research: https://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/confront-workplace-inequity-in-2023-dig-deep-build-bridges-take-collective-action
Blog post on Black women and autoimmune issues: https://fiercebymitu.com/wellness/science-women-of-color-anger-and-autoimmune-diseases/
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas
Ways to work with Tamu:
Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here
Work with me here
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Welcome to The Liberated Woman Podcast, today as you will hear or see I am full of glee as I am talking to my dear friend, Simone Heng. If you are listening you may be able to hear that I am smiling as I'm speaking. Simone is one of the most radiant, confident and caring women I know. She’s a powerful world renowned keynote speaker, human connection specialist and award winning author.
Simone shares her journey from broadcast media to becoming a human connection specialist. We discuss the importance of believing in yourself, the role of cultural conditioning, and how women are conditioned to be in competition with each other.
Simone highlights the transformation that occurs when we shift from competition to ambition, and how this allows us to support each other’s growth.
We also talk about the loneliness epidemic and how toxic productivity affects high-achieving women, emphasising the need for self-connection and authentic relationships.
Key Takeaways
More about Simone:
Simone Heng is a human connection specialist and former international broadcaster for, among others, Virgin Radio Dubai, HBO Asia, and CNBC. She is one of the youngest female Certified Speaking Professionals in the world.
As a speaker, Simone inspires people to connect in a world thirsty for connection. She has spoken to thousands, and often for Fortune 500 organisations. Her clients include Google, Meta, Amazon, ByteDance, KPMG, Spotify, Salesforce, SAP, Lucasfilm, and many more. As a champion of human connection, she has spoken at Harvard University, SXSW, TEDx and the United Nations. Simone and her work have been featured on CNN and in Forbes, SCMP, Vogue, Glamour, BBC Radio, Elle, and Harper’s Bazaar, among others.
Connect with Simone:
https://www.instagram.com/simoneheng/
Buy her book here [LINK]
Where to listen:
Apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-liberated-woman-podcast-with-tamu-thomas/id1355489288
Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rQFv1GcqBI6b9wy0qTFYm
Web Browser here: https://livethreesixty.podbean.com/
Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/UiUtwKhS9Vs
Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
Please do share on social media and tag me @tamu.thomas
Ways to work with Tamu:
Get your copy of Women Who Work Too Much here or here
Work with me here
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In this solo episode of The Liberated Woman podcast, I explore how a strong mindset can sometimes hinder growth aka 'fumble the bag' by making us hold on to outdated commitments.
I share insights from my journey of writing my book, emphasising the need to let go of the old to embrace new opportunities.
I discuss the importance of listening to our bodies, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritising personal fulfilment over perfection.
Key Points:Welcome back to another episode of The Liberated Woman podcast. Today, I'm excited to introduce you to the incredible Sara Dalrymple. We’re going to talk about sales as a powerful tool for liberation. Sara’s infectious energy and expertise are bound to inspire you, so get comfortable and prepare to be motivated. As a sales trainer and mentor, Sara empowers online business owners to promote their products and services authentically, ensuring business growth while maintaining integrity. She's also the author of the bestseller "More Sales Please," a comprehensive guide to mastering sales.
Sara shares her journey from a finance career in the city to photography and finally to sales mentorship. She emphasises the importance of believing in your product, as this fuels passionate and effective sales. The conversation also explores the distinctions between sales and marketing, highlighting their complementary roles in business success. Furthermore, Sara shares how business success can be leveraged to support social justice causes, illustrating the powerful impact of using business as a force for good.
Key Takeaways
More about Sara:
Sara Dalrymple is a sales expert and business strategist specialising in breaking down the steps to increasing sales in just 30 minutes a day.
Sara has 20 years of sales and marketing experience ranging from the small business community to multi-billion pound companies, and her practical sales advice, strategy and support has helped hundreds of creatives, coaches and consultants achieve long lasting success in their industries. Whatever stage of business you’re at, Sara will show you how to remove the guesswork and achieve consistent sales through confident, sleaze free promotion.
Connect with Sara:
https://www.instagram.com/saleswithsara/
More Sales Please: https://amzn.eu/d/23JKcxR
30 day sales challenge: https://saradalrymple.thrivecart.com/show-up-sell-more/
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Support:
Your support means the world to me and makes a huge difference to the impact of my work. In the spirit of community I’d be so grateful if you could subscribe wherever you listen to my podcast, leave a review (5 stars if you're moved to!).
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Ways to work with Tamu:
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Work with me here
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