Our children's reactions are often NOT logical. Their outbursts of emotion sometimes seem ridiculous and outsized, and when we try to "talk some sense into them," it usually makes everything worse. Before we know it, we find ourselves yelling and reacting with big anger, and the whole family spirals into a swamp of dysregulation. 

Can you relate? 🫣

Believe me, I've been there, and if you have too, you are going to love today's episode with a neurobiological researcher, Dr. Dan Siegel, who explains the brain science behind why children react the way that they do and how understanding the structures and functions of the human brain can help us to become more patient and ultimately effective parents.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. 

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Do you enjoy traveling, but financial constraints prevent you from visiting some places on your bucket list? If this sounds like you, I’d like to share a strategy I recently learned about: traveling using credit card points.

By making a few minor adjustments to the credit cards we use and when, we've earned enough points to fund a vacation for our family of four at no cost! (And that’s without going into debt or carrying a balance!)

I learned how to do this from my guest on today’s podcast, Amber Paul. She joins me to share awesome tips, including a simple swap that can earn you five free tickets to Europe (instead of one), the best credit cards to add to your wallet, and how to meet the minimum spending requirements without spending any more money than you usually would! 

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Radical gratitude is a powerful practice to help you through difficult times.

But if you’re in the thick of difficult times (which I know many of you are!), you might be tempted to click away right now. And I get why. ❤️‍🩹

When things are hard, it can often feel impossible to feel gratitude. In fact, during our most trying times, it can even feel insulting if someone suggests that we focus on gratitude! Who wants to be grateful when everything seems overwhelming, difficult, and maybe even hopeless and dark? The suggestion to “look on the bright side” or “find the silver lining” can feel invalidating and dismissive of our deep pain. 

If this sounds familiar, I send you my deepest love and empathy, and I hope today’s interview on radical gratitude with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi resonates with you. 

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Brooke Romney is the queen of modern manners for teens. 

If you missed it, our last episode was an interview I did with Brooke about friendship problems in the teen years. I hope her words in that interview resonated with you like they did with me. 

This episode is a little bonus addition where I asked Brooke to share three mini conversations we can have with our teens to help them get better at friendships. (Because, let’s face it, most teens need some help learning how to be a good friend! Does anyone else feel like they have a toddler again? 🥴)

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens

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Teenage friendship problems weigh heavily on us moms. 💔

Do you have a teenager who’s struggling with friends? It hurts the mama heart, doesn’t it? 

October was Teen Month here on 3 in 30, but I decided to extend that one more week to include one of my favorite resources for advice on raising teenagers: Brooke Romney. 

I asked Brooke to talk with us about how to help support our teens when they’re coming up against problems with friends. And let’s face it, friendship problems are a universal teenage experience at some point or another. 

I hope you find Brooke's advice as helpful and wise as I have!

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Modern Manners for Teens by Brooke Romney

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Do You Even Know Me? Family Game by Brooke Romney 

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396: How to Help Your Teen Live a Better Story

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Does holiday stress ever take the joy out of the holiday season for you? 

It's November 1st, friends, which, for many of you, might mean that you've officially switched from harvest mode to full-on holiday mode. 

And with that switch, you might also feel the beginnings of holiday stress. 😵‍💫

With that in mind, I invited a special guest to do a bonus episode with me. I interviewed my cousin, Dr. Amber Price. Amber is hear to teach us research-based ways to avoid the holiday stress. You will love what she has to say!

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Coming-of-age celebrations are a powerful tool to use when raising teenagers. 

If you’re not sure what a coming-of-age celebration is, you are in for a treat! A coming-of-age celebration is a special occasion where you invite all of the important people in your teen's life to come together, celebrate your teen, and offer words of wisdom. 

My son Noah turned 13 this past summer, and we hosted one of these celebrations. It was an incredible experience for him.

In today's episode, Jennifer Brimhall gives us 3 reasons why we should hold these coming-of-celebrations for our teens.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Announcement: 

Parenting Teens Playlist

Related Episodes: 

211: Raising Independent Teens and Tweens // Amy and Margaret from What Fresh Hell Podcast

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Do you have a teenager who is struggling, floundering, or fighting with you constantly? My older sister Sarah had a few rough years in high school. My parents worried about her a lot.

But then, Sarah found a new story - a story where she knew she was playing an important and meaningful role. She didn’t want to return to her cliché story of struggling teenager rebellion. She wanted to be and do something better.

Listen to hear how you can help your teen find and live a better story.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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I recently taught a free masterclass all about mom rage. Toward the beginning of the class, I asked the women in attendance to share something that makes them feel angry on a regular basis. One mom shared: “Feeling rejected by my teen who wants nothing to do with me. This is not the mother-daughter relationship I envisioned.” 💔

This comment stopped my breath for a second. How painful for this mom! No wonder she feels angry about it a lot. I'm guessing she feels a lot of other things, too: sadness, despair, loneliness … I’m guessing she feels tired! Tired of the disconnection with her daughter, tired of the feelings of failure, tired of the nagging and conflict in her home. 

And I'm also guessing she's not alone in all these feelings. Parenting a teenager can feel exhausting, grueling, and just plain hard! 

If you can relate, today’s conversation with Andee Martineau is for you.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Protecting my kids from the dangers in the online world is a high priority for me. My son is 13, and I’m still holding off giving him a phone, even though he insists he’s the only one in eighth grade who doesn’t have one. 

(And I want to say here that it's okay if you have a different view on what's best for your child, so no judgment on when you decide to make a phone available to them!!) 

When he does get a phone in the next year or two, he will definitely have limits and filters to help him navigate his phone safely. But unfortunately, we all know that even the most adept filters and limits aren’t foolproof. In fact, the best internet filter of all will come from Noah! The only way I can fully protect him from online danger is to help him develop his own internal filter.  

My guest, Emily Jones, is a writer, speaker, author, and mother of 5. She and her husband Dave co-founded Family Tech University, which is a movement dedicated to helping parents prepare their children for today's tech in new and powerful ways. Emily shares with us today how to help our kids use technology wisely as they develop their own internal filters.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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Are you feeling out of your depth as you navigate the teen years? My son, Noah, just turned 13, and I have noticed a definite shift in some of the dynamics of our relationship. That's why I'm so grateful for experts who can help me!  

Amie Anger is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and mom of 6 kids ranging from 11-18 years old. She has a Bachelor's in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and two years of post-graduate fellowship training at the Yale Child Study Center through the Yale School of Medicine. Amie has been a private practice clinician specializing in child and family counseling for the past 17 years.

Listen in to hear Amie's 3 takeaways for how to enjoy these tricky teen years!

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney

358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli

367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel's Dad!)

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