When fear, anger, and disconnection enter a relationship, it’s easy to slip into control, self-protection, or power struggles. In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney answer live audience questions from the KYLO Show Tour and talk about the battle to stay connected even when emotions run high. They share personal stories about rebuilding trust in marriage, navigating conflict with respect, and overcoming deception in relationships. If you want to create a culture of love, accountability, and healthy communication, this episode is packed with practical wisdom and encouragement.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How to stay courageous when building trust in a wounded relationship.

• Why connection—not control—should be your goal in conflict.

• Practical ways to manage fear and anger without damaging connection.

• How to recognize and respond to deception without breaking relationship.

• Why feedback, accountability, and a listening posture protect healthy connection.

Key Takeaways:

• Connection heals fear: Staying connected in the middle of conflict is more powerful than rushing to fix or control the situation.

• Courage builds trust: Committing to connection, even when you feel hurt or scared, transforms relationships over time.

• Self-awareness is key: Recognizing your own fear, anger, or self-justification is critical to building safe, lasting connection.

• Feedback protects growth: Inviting honest feedback and staying accountable to others helps you stay out of deception and isolation.

Join the Conversation:

Where have you experienced the power of connection in the middle of conflict? We’d love to hear your story! Share with us on social media, leave a review, or send us a message.

Stay Connected:

Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
Instagram: @brittneyserpell

We’re back with part two of The KYLO Show live from our tour stop in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho! While Brittney was still down for the count with the flu (we missed her!), our good friend and Resolute Church pastor Katie Ann Browning returns to co-host alongside Danny.

This episode goes deep into the heart of parenting teens without power struggles, shame, or fear. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, powerless, or unsure how to parent in a way that cultivates connection without losing authority—this one’s for you.

We also explore how healing our own shame is essential to raising emotionally healthy kids—and how to stay anchored in love, even when your kid says, "You suck."

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why connection—not control—is your superpower in parenting

• How to handle disrespect and scary behavior without losing your peace

• Tools for breaking power struggle cycles with your kids

• Why your own healing journey is crucial to raising whole, healthy children

• The role of shame, and how it sabotages both parenting and marriage

Key Takeaways

• Fear fuels control. When we’re disconnected from our kids, fear takes over—and controlling them becomes our default.

• Connection is the goal, not control. Staying relationally connected through conflict is more powerful than punishment.

• You’re not powerless. You don’t control your child—but you do control access, resources, and your response.

• Shame blocks love. If you struggle to receive love or extend it, shame is likely at the root. Do the inner work—it’s the best gift you can give your family.

• Repetition builds character. Inner healing matters, but tools and practice are what carry you through real-life conflict.

Practical Parenting Tools Mentioned

• Use phrases like “I know,” “Probably so,” and “Nice try” to avoid power struggles

• Establish connection before correction

• Practice calm, confident boundaries with natural consequences

• Stay close in the middle of scary choices to build long-term trust

• Do the inner healing work to break shame cycles before they get passed down

Books Referenced

• Loving Your Kids on Purpose by Danny Silk

• Imperfect Parenting by Brittney Serpell

• Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk

• Unpunishable by Danny Silk

• The Way of the Dragon Slayer by Danny Silk

Stay Connected

Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com

Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose

Instagram: @brittneyserpell

We’re taking The KYLO Show on the road! This special episode is the first in our KYLO Show Live tour, recorded in front of a live audience in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. While Brittney was unable to make the first stop due to illness, our incredible friend Katie Ann Browning, pastor of Resolute Church, stepped in to join Danny on stage.

This episode is packed with raw and powerful conversations about what it truly means to protect and love your spouse. Danny shares personal stories of learning how to be a protector in his marriage, navigating the pull of self-preservation, and stepping into courage instead of fear. From breaking free from shame cycles to embracing the power of love languages, this episode will challenge and encourage you in your relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What it really means to be a protector in marriage.
• How to overcome self-preservation and step into courageous love.
• Why shame blocks connection—and how to break free from it.
• The impact of love languages and how to pour into your spouse even when it feels unnatural.
• How small, intentional shifts in your mindset can transform your marriage.

 

Key Takeaways:

• Love requires courage: Confidence in love comes after stepping into courage, not before.
• Self-preservation destroys connection: Protecting yourself instead of your spouse creates distance in relationships.
• Breaking shame cycles is essential: If you struggle to receive love, it’s time to examine where shame might be at play.
• Love languages require intentionality: Even if a love language doesn’t come naturally to you, choosing to invest in your spouse’s needs builds a stronger marriage.

We love hearing from you! What resonated with you from this episode? How have you seen courage and protection play a role in your marriage? Share your thoughts with us on social media, leave a review, or send us a message!

Stay Connected:

• Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
• Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
• Instagram: @brittneyserpell

Feedback—it’s one of the most powerful tools for personal and relational growth, yet it can also feel uncomfortable, intimidating, and even scary. In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney dive deep into the importance of feedback, why it’s essential for building trust, and how both giving and receiving it can transform relationships. They share personal experiences, discuss the fears that often hold people back, and offer practical wisdom on how to cultivate a culture of honest, loving feedback in your life. If you want to grow in self-awareness, strengthen your connections, and create a thriving community, this episode is a must-listen.

 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why feedback is a key ingredient for maturity in relationships.
• The difference between healthy feedback and harmful criticism.
• How self-justification blocks growth and damages trust.
• The role of truth in building lasting, covenant relationships.
• Practical ways to invite and give feedback in a way that strengthens connection.

 

Key Takeaways:

• Mature love invites feedback: The healthiest relationships are built on truth and vulnerability, not avoidance or self-protection.
• Self-justification destroys trust: When we defend or dismiss feedback, we push people away and stunt our own growth.
• Courage is required: Both giving and receiving feedback require bravery, humility, and a commitment to relational health.
• Your community should be built on truth: The people you surround yourself with should be willing to exchange honest, respectful feedback.

 

Join the Conversation:

What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to giving or receiving feedback? Share your thoughts with us on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!

Stay Connected:

• Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
• Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
• Instagram: @brittneyserpell

What does it take to keep the flame alive in marriage? In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney dive into the key ingredients for maintaining connection, intimacy, and joy in your relationship. They explore the small habits that prevent disconnection from creeping in, the importance of prioritizing your spouse, and how to navigate the inevitable challenges that come with different seasons of marriage. If you want a thriving, passionate, and enduring relationship, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical tools to help you cultivate love that lasts.

 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why connection—not just romance—is the foundation of a thriving marriage.
• The small habits that prevent distance and disconnection from growing.
• How prioritizing your spouse impacts the long-term health of your marriage.
• The role of communication, forgiveness, and self-awareness in maintaining intimacy.
• Why enjoying your spouse is just as important as pursuing them.

 

Key Takeaways:

• Small disconnections grow into major issues: Addressing small moments of disconnection early prevents resentment and distance.
• Marriage evolves through seasons: Each phase of life brings new needs and adjustments—healthy couples adapt and grow together.
• Enjoyment is key: Thriving marriages are built on intentional connection, playfulness, and mutual appreciation.
• Communication is the lifeline: Learning to tell the truth, listen well, and respond with humility keeps your relationship strong.

 

Join the Conversation:

We’d love to hear your thoughts! What are your favorite ways to stay connected in marriage? Share your insights with us on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!

 

Stay Connected:

• Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
• Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
• Instagram: @brittneyserpell

Boundaries are one of the most challenging, yet essential, tools in relationships. In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney explore the concept of boundaries and how they protect what is valuable in our lives. From setting boundaries with strangers to navigating difficult situations in close relationships, they share practical wisdom and personal stories that illustrate why boundaries are vital for connection, growth, and thriving. If you’ve ever asked, “What do I do with mean people?”—this episode is for you.

 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why boundaries are essential for creating a thriving life and relationships.
• How to handle situations with difficult or mean people using boundaries.
• Real-life examples of setting boundaries with strangers, family, and spouses.
• The role of repentance in rebuilding trust and restoring connection.
• Practical tips for maintaining boundaries while keeping hope for reconciliation.

 

Key Takeaways:

• Boundaries protect what’s valuable: They safeguard your energy, time, and relationships.
• It’s about hope, not punishment: Boundaries should aim to restore and reconnect, not reject or punish.
• Repentance is crucial: Without repentance, moving forward in relationships is nearly impossible.
• Different relationships, different boundaries: Boundaries look different with strangers, coworkers, spouses, and children.

 

Join the Conversation:

We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share how this episode resonated with you, and let us know your biggest boundary-related questions. Leave a review or connect with us on social media to keep the conversation going.

 

Stay Connected:

• Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
• Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
• Instagram: @brittneyserpell

Episode Overview

The KYLO Show is back! In this highly anticipated relaunch episode, Danny and Brittney Silk share the story behind their recent break, offering a candid look at the reflections, lessons, and renewed energy that have fueled their return. Together, they dive into what’s next for the show, their commitment to strengthening connections, and how this fresh start aligns with their mission to cultivate thriving families and communities.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why Danny and Brittney decided to take a hiatus and what they discovered during that time.
• The vision behind this new chapter of The KYLO Show.
• How they plan to provide even more impactful tools and insights for building powerful relationships.
• A sneak peek at the exciting topics and content coming your way in future episodes.

Key Takeaways:

• Breaks can lead to breakthroughs: Hear how stepping back helped Danny and Brittney refocus on what truly matters.
• Connection remains at the core: The KYLO Show continues to prioritize fostering strong, healthy relationships.
• Get inspired for the journey ahead: Learn how the show’s fresh direction can empower you in your own relationships and leadership.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:12] Introduction: "We’re back, and here’s why we stepped away."
• [02:30] Behind the scenes: Reevaluating priorities and finding clarity.
• [08:45] The mission moving forward: Tools and insights to build thriving communities.
• [15:00] A glimpse into upcoming episodes and exciting plans.

Resources Mentioned:

• The KYLO Show Tour - Join us on tour!
• Keep Your Love On: Connection, Communication, and Boundaries – A foundational resource by Danny Silk.
• Loving on Purpose YouTube Channel – Subscribe for video episodes and additional content.

Join the Conversation:

We’d love to hear from you! Share your thoughts on this episode and what you’re most excited about for The KYLO Show. Connect with us on social media or leave a review on your favorite podcast platform to help others discover the show.

Stay Connected:

• Website: Loving on Purpose
• Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose @brittneyserpell

In this episode of The KYLO Show, we dive into practical ways to handle power struggles with children and discuss the fine line between discipline and punishment. We answer a listener's question about managing expectations and responsibilities in the home, offering insights on empowering kids to make better choices without resorting to control. Later, we tackle the challenges of maintaining healthy connections in the face of family conflicts. Learn how to keep your love on, protect your peace, and foster genuine relationships even when navigating tough family dynamics. Like, Subscribe, and download this podcast to hear more each week on how whole, healthy families are saving the world! This episode is sponsored by Pro- Life Coffee Roasters. Get 15% off by going to www.prolifecoffeeroasters.com/KYLO

In this episode of The KYLO Show, we address a listener's concern about guiding her 11-year-old grandson who struggles with expressing empathy and connection. We dive into practical advice on how to instill respect and self-control in children, particularly when dealing with challenging behaviors. Later, we explore the delicate process of sharing personal testimonies, such as overcoming addiction or infidelity, with your children before taking those stories public. Tune in for insightful discussions on fostering healthy communication within your family and the transformative power of sharing your story. Like, Subscribe, and download this podcast to hear more each week on how whole, healthy families are saving the world! This episode is sponsored by Pro- Life Coffee Roasters. Get 15% off by going to www.prolifecoffeeroasters.com/KYLO

How do you keep a team connected and engaged, especially when new members bring different experiences and expectations? In this episode of The KYLO Show, we dive into the challenges of maintaining a powerful team culture. Drawing on real-life examples and practical insights, we discuss strategies for ensuring every team member feels valued and connected while upholding the core principles that make your team strong. Whether you're leading a team or simply part of one, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you navigate the complexities of team dynamics and keep the momentum going. Like, Subscribe, and download this podcast to hear more each week on how whole, healthy families are saving the world! This episode is sponsored by Pro- Life Coffee Roasters. Get 15% off by going to www.prolifecoffeeroasters.com/KYLO

In this episode of The Kylo Show, we delve into the unique challenges of nurturing faith and self-esteem in pre-teens. Learn how to navigate the complexities of raising children in a mixed-belief household, foster genuine connections, and provide the emotional support they need. Join us for practical advice on building empathy, asking the right questions, and creating a loving environment that helps your pre-teens thrive.