In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration.

We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics.

Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and a commitment to learning from each other to foster a vibrant and fulfilling marriage.

On the Xtended Version ...

As we head into 2025, there are several truisms we look at that will help us all be better in life and marriage.

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In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography.

We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires.

Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and the choices made in the context of marriage, while also addressing the challenges posed by societal norms and personal desires.

On the Xtended Version ...

There is a difference between cutting someone off in family relationships vs walking away from them. 

What is this difference you say?

Listen to find out.

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In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame.

We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the interpretations of lust within a faith context, advocating for a more nuanced approach to sexual education.

We explore some common misinterpretations of biblical passages regarding lust, the biological responses to beauty, and the importance of self-awareness in navigating desires. Our dialogue emphasizes the shift from viewing lust negatively to recognizing it as a natural human experience that can lead to deeper emotional connections, especially in marriage. We also touch on the idea of healthy lust and the ongoing journey of intimacy and growth in long-term relationships.

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This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault.

A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on?

A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again.

On the Xtended Version ...

A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn’t know what would liven up her sex life.

What can she do?

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This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships.

The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories.

We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual relationships with empathy and openness, highlighting the journey of healing and connection between spouses.

Takeaways

Relationships are constantly evolving and require adaptation.
Communication is key in navigating sexual intimacy.
Past trauma can significantly impact present relationships.
It's important to approach intimacy with empathy and understanding.
Presence and engagement matter more than technique in intimacy.
Self-image issues can affect sexual confidence and performance.
Creating a comfortable environment can enhance intimacy.
Learning about each other's bodies is a continuous journey.
Facing past traumas can lead to healing in relationships.
The willingness to confront challenges can strengthen partnerships.
On the Xtended Version ...

Pam and I cover an email from a husband who misses the sex they had before his wife went through menopause.

Enjoy the show!

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In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates. 

We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things together.

We emphasize the significance of communication and intentionality in nurturing a healthy marriage.

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Takeaways

Communication is key to improving intimacy in relationships.
Couples often need resources to enhance their intimate lives.
Spicing things up shows your partner they are important.
The box provides a framework for couples to explore intimacy.
It's important to make intimacy a priority in marriage.
The scenarios in the box allow for flexibility and personalization.
On the Xtended Version ...

Pam and I talk through the differences between a goal of desire for sex vs desire during sex.

What does this actually mean?

Listen to find out.

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Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences.

She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement.

We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with innate qualities to enhance intimacy and emotional connection in relationships.

Plus our discussion highlights practical strategies for couples to cultivate these qualities and improve their sexual experiences.

Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://emilyjamea.com/

Takeaways

Flow state is a state of total absorption and focus during sexual experiences.
Sensuality involves fully inhabiting the body and engaging the senses.
Curiosity is essential for keeping the erotic experience alive in long-term relationships.
Adaptability is necessary to navigate changes in sexual dynamics over time.
Vulnerability allows for deeper emotional connections during intimacy.
Attunement is crucial for synchronizing partners' experiences in the bedroom.
Prioritizing sex is important for maintaining a healthy relationship.
Trying new things together can reignite passion and excitement.
Emotional connection is vital for a fulfilling sexual experience.
Co-regulation of arousal can enhance pleasure and intimacy.

On the Xtended Version ...

Dr Emily and I go through the research she conducted to write this book. What surprised her? What's the biggest takeaway? And more.

Enjoy the show!

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In this milestone 700th episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we reflect on the journey of the podcast, celebrating its impact on relationships and personal growth.

Join us as we share listener voicemails and highlight key takeaways from our years of experience on the show. 

Plus, we explore the act of the hug from behind. Is it ever non-sexual? 

Enjoy the show!

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In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships.

We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression.

Our conversation also goes through strategies for recognizing and managing regression, the impact of intimacy on emotional states, and the importance of self-soothing and increasing one's buoyancy to navigate life's challenges effectively.

Connect more with Dr Dave here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/davemjenkins/

Takeaways

Regression is a brain state, not just an emotion.
We all experience regression, regardless of intelligence.
Regression can be contagious in relationships.
Understanding regression helps in managing emotional responses.
The Mariana Trench metaphor illustrates the depths of regression.
Intimacy can trigger regression due to vulnerability.
Self-soothing is essential for managing regression.
Recognizing regression in oneself and others is crucial.
Feelings are important and should not be ignored.
Increasing buoyancy requires intentional strategies.

On the Xtended Version ...

Pam and I go through a story that depicts more about the tensions of differentiation in relationships.

Enjoy the show!

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In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages.

We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own growth to foster a better partnership.

Our conversation also touches on the significance of emotional connections and the fleeting nature of material success in achieving true happiness. 

There is an importance of empowerment in marriage, emphasizing that individuals should focus on self-improvement rather than solely relying on their partners. We believe that most marriage problems are fixable with the right tools and mindset, and hope to encourage couples to engage in meaningful communication and self-discovery.

Learn more about Casey and Meygan at their site - https://marriage365.com

Takeaways

People desire healthy marriages but often lack a plan.
Many couples are winging it and using hope as a strategy.
Loneliness in marriage can lead to a ticking time bomb.
Society's portrayal of marriage creates unrealistic expectations.
Happiness is often sought in external factors rather than within.
Self-reflection is crucial for personal and relational growth.
Healthy relationships are built on emotional connections.
Couples often put their relationships on pause during busy seasons.
True happiness comes from meaningful connections with others. It's about the couple working on the marriage together.
Marriages are about working on yourself.
Your marriage is working on you more than you ever could on it.
Nothing that matters in life is a quick fix.
Most marriage problems are fixable.
Curiosity unlocks conversations within a relationship.

Enjoy the show!

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In this episode, we get a little personal and  discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining a strong marriage amidst life's transitions and pressures.

Things like moving homes, managing family responsibilities, and the emotional weight that comes with it.

We emphasize the importance of connection, communication, and understanding each other's needs to navigate these challenges effectively.

Plus offer practical strategies for you to stay engaged and connected, highlighting the significance of intentionality in your relationship.

Takeaways

Life transitions can disrupt routines and relationships.
Maintaining connection is crucial for relationship health.
Understanding individual needs helps in navigating stress.
Intentionality in relationships fosters deeper connections.
Communication is key to understanding each other's perspectives.
Couples should prioritize time together amidst busy schedules.
Emotional awareness impacts how we interact with partners.
Scheduling regular check-ins can enhance relationship dynamics.
Small gestures can significantly strengthen connections.
Engaging with community can provide additional support.
On the Xtended Version ...

We share a visual framework that can be used to look how well you are functioning (or not). This can help not only you but your marriage and your family!

Enjoy the show!

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