Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened without support. Today on the podcast, writing teacher and coach Mara Eller, MA, Type 4 (4-7 pairing), gives us that support as she shows us how at the right time and with the right support, we can relive some of those stories in a supportive context where we are safe, and as well as move past these hurts with wisdom and integration. Mara also shares beautiful strategies for narrative writing from her class called, Unearthing Beauty that she shares about on the podcast as well today and invites you to join her there as well for an even deeper dive! Join us on the slow and careful yet empowering walk through the hardest peaks and valleys of your story with a shifting, empowering process today right here.

Mara Eller is a teacher, writer, editor, and coach with a passion for transforming pain into purpose through the power of story. Her signature writing program, Unearthing Beauty, teaches students a repeatable process for unearthing a fuller picture of who they are and claiming authorship over their lives, while also producing a polished personal essay. Grab a free exercise to find the heart of your story at maraeller.com/heartofyourstory.

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Today in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual exploitation in relationships and around the world. We have a leading world expert with us to talk about it today, Exodus Cry founder, filmmaker, and artist, Benjamin Nolot (Enneagram 4), who shares the mission and issues involved on all sides of sex trafficking and exploitation, from pornography to sex trafficking. Make sure you tune in as we break down understanding of cycles of disempowerment, why people get caught up in these cycles, and most of all, work together to bring awareness and abolish sex trafficking, porn use, and other disempowering and unhealthy ushame-and-power-based sexual practices and to protect our next generation from being exposed and exploited as well.

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Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma and StoryWork therapist Adam Young, (The Place We Find Ourselves podcast) Enneagram 8 (8-9 pairing), encourages us to do exactly that - sit in the hard and allow yourself time and attention to what's holding you back from thriving so you can heal together with support. This is a must-listen episode as we examine his journey on this, why many people ignore their own issues in favor of helping others with theirs, and what we must do to truly find health and healing from our past.

Deep dive with Adam Young and his therapy and trauma tips with conversations on his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves: https://open.spotify.com/show/36bU2hcguX97EDOi9Ja0tQ

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Every couple desperately needs to know how to repair, yet few know the steps for doing so. Finding one another after a conflict is hard, since couples typically either self-protect by imploding while still hurt or by lashing out. Today Christa educates you on one-to-one tactics you can use to bring life back into the relationship. In today's E + M episode, individuals get the chance to get those tangible steps, both in general and type by type. Tune in to this must-listen episode and save it again for a time of conflict, too!

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It's one thing to be vulnerable by choice and quite another to find yourself unwittingly so. Today, we discuss the healthiest ways to share our human vulnerabilities with expert Raleigh Sadler, Enneagram Type 6 (The MercyCast ) in a rich conversation on what vulnerability is and how hard it is to be vulnerable in relationships, especially when we've been burned or haven't known how to navigate sensitive terrain. Here you'll find tips for when to lean in, when to set some distance, and when rest is needed after a vulnerable event. We also specifically give tips for men seeking a culture of healthy vulnerability, since there are often extra layers of barriers here. Lastly and most urgently, we touch on some of the most vulnerable populations out there as Raleigh's outreach largely surrounds the most vulnerable in our population, sex trafficking victims, with his world outreach, Let My People Go.

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When spouses don't align on their deepest core values, it's hard to get along and yet many spouses find it hard to articulate what those core values even are for them. Today Christa walked you through a few simple exercises to get in touch with the values inside of you so you can live most authentically as yourself, and also learn to appreciate those values your spouse brings to the table, disparate though they may be. Listen right here on this brand new mini-episode just for you as you align with yourself and one another again or for the very first time! Values List: https://emeriti.usc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Values-list-Brene-Brown.pdf

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When heartbreak happens, you're not alone. Yet often our first human instincts involve shutting down fast and then isolating ourselves, spilling grief into unhealthy corners such as overworking, overly seeking commendation, or just disconnecting from God and others in our lament. Today we talk with author and poet Tanner Olson, Type 3 (3-5 pairing), @Written to Speak about instead bringing these laments into the light. Tanner takes us on a deep dive into his experience of finding the light of Christ even in the darkness of life's unexpected twists and turns, including unexplained infertility. Whatever your experience of uncertainty in the midst of waiting or grief, don't miss this episode that also includes a conversation about Tanner's marriage and pairing, encouraging tips for you, and even a live reading of one of his poems from his acclaimed book, "Walk a Little Slower," as you too find your most authentic ways to share and bring light to the darkness.

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Each of us has emotional parts of ourselves that are difficult to access - we are busy and survival does not allow for constant and deep self-attunement. Today, in this powerful E + M mini-episode, Christa welcomes you to find your healthiest rhythms with yourself as we walk through several simple self-attunement exercises as you welcome a new season. Here we invite you to deeper emotional practices and margin to bring you more in touch with yourself and the ways you’ll need to balance and truly thrive this season. Here's the Refresh Prayer Cycle from the episode also: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Bkbqhm8IV2xq7_Lplydz8sPCS0B6MZM2H-eZYkSoPIQ/edit?usp=drive_link

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Eighty percent of adults say they want to write a book, but getting started can be intimidating. How does one even go about starting? How do you get an agent, and what are the first steps? Can you get help in the process? Today in this fascinating episode of the E + M pod, we're answering all these questions and so many more about the steps to making your writing dreams come true right here on today's show. And to help you truly thrive in the process, we're joined by none other than best-selling authors Ariel Curry, Type 9 and Liz Morrow, Type 5 as they walk us through their brand-new best-selling book Hungry Authors: The Indispensable Guide to Planning, Writing, and Publishing a Nonfiction Book, a book that Publishers Weekly boasts, "Aspiring authors will want to study this." Join us as we walk through ALL the biggest roadblocks for writing you'll need. You can also get a copy of Ariel and Liz's book at all major retailers as well as here at Amazon https://a.co/d/fhQ3XwV, and don't forget to leave a review! for their book as well!

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It’s hard to be brave to step into our calling sometimes, especially if there's fear that God won’t show up for us. When we have heroes in real life or from our ancient narratives alike, we can be assured that we have a heritage of faith, tenacity, and even wins of epic proportions. Today we are joined by exemplary scholar, Dr. Sandra Richter, PhD, Harvard-trained biblical scholar and The Robert H. Gundry Chair of Biblical Studies at Westmont College to walk us through the captivating story of Deborah of the Old Testament in her new Bible study series by the same name. Join us for an exhilarating conversation about a woman and a people group who put everything into their dreams, even though they had only the smallest chance of victory as you join us and step more confidently into your dreams as well.

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After the honeymoon years, it's easy to miss one another and see one another as enemies in relationship versus fighting for one another's dreams and aligning together. Lauren Handel Zander, Enneagram 8w7, helps you see things differently and then to find the life you're intentionally seeking together. Lauren, the developer of the highly esteemed Handel Method is an author and an international corporate consulting and private coach, empowering many public and private clients (Dr. Mark Hyman, Hugh Jackman, Destiny's Child Michelle Williams), professors, politicians, award-winning artists, and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her method has been taught at MIT, Stanford University, NYU, and in the New York City Public School System. Lauren has also led seminars and conferences all over the world and has contributed to the New York Times, Forbes, Self, Women's Health, Vogue, Marie Claire, Elle, and the Huffington Post.

Read Lauren's book here! https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Its-You-Crap-Fears/dp/0316318663

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