Today’s new OMM is one i’ve recorded in response to this email i got – and her request for an ass-kicking!

penpal Dusquene (day 123) sent me this: “I’m sober, but my emotions are all over the map. Really strong shit. Really strong. It’s been a bit hard to keep Wolfie at bay I will also confess that I’ve not been using my support tools. I told myself I’m too tired … So if you want to kick me in the ass — give me Toughlove — you can. I’m just being honest.

… My brain is taking off and won’t stop. I usually drank when this happened. Wolfie tells me that I can’t stand the feelings, that it will always be this way so why not open that bottle?!?  Not doing it but damn this is hard…

I’m not gonna lie, I still have a fantasy sitting down in a nice restaurant or comfy space, and being able to totally enjoy one glass of something. Not going to work, but that still there. And I hate Wolfie for that thought. Hate him.

And then the thoughts about “what’s wrong with me”?  Seriously. I’m supposed to embrace this choice positively, but I’m not there. All I see is deprivation … My rational mind can’t grasp this. It should be open and shut. Yet I still desire that liquid that is poison. For me.

Not drinking today. But I’m raw. Oooffff”

[and when you listen to the OMM, you’ll hear what i have to say!]

hugs, belle xo

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my penpal Karensoffthesauce sent me this on her day 33: “I got a little frustrated today. You sent an email out today about someone feeling left out and they were on day 66. She was fighting with Wolfie regarding the nice day and everyone was on the patio drinking, etc. She has exactly the double time that I do. And she still has to deal with Wolfie. I was really hoping it would get a lot better by then. I know everyone is different, but man, it’s tough.”

So this OMM is my reply to Karensoffthesauce. about what she’s looking for, and how to get it let me know what you think.

hugs, belle xo

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Once you’ve had a small period of time sober, even a few weeks, something happens in your head. And if you DO relapse again, you’ll realize something about your sobriety that you didn’t think was possible.

hugs, belle xo

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Do you ask your over-drinking husband if you should quit drinking? Or your best-drinking friends? Do you take a poll to see what other people think you should do? Should they even get a vote?

hugs, belle xo

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A said that her life was boring now that she’s sober. though she also admitted that when drinking, that was boring, too …  new omm for you today!

hugs, belle xo

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E sent me this: “I do the ‘tomorrow’ thing, every day, and it is exhausting.”

And this new OMM #392 is my reply, here’s what i think about waiting until tomorrow.

hugs, belle xo

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I received these emails:

N: “Honestly Belle:  I want to [sign up for sober coaching].  My head tells me it’s too expensive – I am going through a divorce and in the red every month.  I also buy alcohol, not every day but enough to make that number make no sense.  I wish I understood it better.”

K: “It’s the money. I don’t have any. I’m going through a divorce and I lost my job. I live alone and I don’t have any family in my country, so I don’t have any support. That’s all it is x”

and this new OMM is my reply …

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“i want to learn to be sober, but i want to drink at the same time.” there are other coaches who talk about this – about drinking and learning and drinking and learning and eventually give up the alcohol – it doesn’t happen that way. ever. alcohol hijacks our ability to learn new things. i don’t see growth happening until the behaviour is removed.

this omm is extracted from a longer podcast called “Learning to Deal with Emotions” (it’s episode 458 for podcast subscribers). i have a tip for you. if you add yourself to the podcast subscriber list today, this full-length audio about emotions (22 minutes long) will be the first audio you receive. This audio covers things I’ve learned in coaching that I haven’t talked about like this before. If you wait even 24 hrs to sign up to be a podcast subscriber, though, this will not be first audio and you’ll miss this one. So hop over here right now > www.audiosober.com.

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omm390.archiveofanger > if you have an archive of anger, then your anger will squirt out in the most inappropriate ways. and then you’re mad at people who have done nothing, because it’s triggered some original archived anger…

[This audio clip is extracted from the archived podcast #396 – Anger & Grief > https://gumroad.com/l/sp389]

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omm389.superhighway > if you’re newly sober, then it’s like you’re a little chick, walking around in tall grass. you are walking in a new place, unsure where to go. And all the while you are RIGHT beside a superhighway of booze that threatens to squish you. How do you move away from what you know, into the tall (new) grass?
this one-minute audio message is extracted from a longer podcast episode called “423: Self-Care vs. Self-Indulgence”.

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