Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

The show about emotional and verbal abuse, psychological abuse, narcissistic abuse, toxic behavior, poisonous communication, and manipulation

  • 24 minutes 34 seconds
    When the emotional abuser reaches back out after they've healed and changed

    When the emotional abuser apologizes and tries to make amends with their ex-partner after they've done a lot of personal growth and development, should they expect a response from their ex? Is that expecting too much? Or is it time for all to move on and start anew?

    25 April 2024, 11:34 pm
  • 28 minutes 47 seconds
    Time with yourself is not only necessary, its required

    You give, you adapt, and you change who you are almost to your very core... to what end? When you are overly compassionate to others, you might actually be taking away from yourself. This is as harmful to your mind as a lack of sleep is to your body. 

    15 April 2024, 11:53 pm
  • 19 minutes 31 seconds
    Emotionally abusive behavior is also physically painful

    Victims of emotional abuse can experience physical pain from all the trauma, potentially leading to increased tolerance and resilience of harm. They can gradually lose their identity due to the abuser’s actions, becoming a shell of their former selves. 

    27 March 2024, 8:27 pm
  • 22 minutes
    When the good you do for them leads nowhere

    Some emotionally abusive people don't change, no matter how much the victim of their hurtful behavior changes for them. Is there ever a point where they will be the person you want them to be? Or does anything you do really matter at all? 

    22 March 2024, 12:38 am
  • 23 minutes 1 second
    A clever manipulation tactic that makes you believe you are the problem

    There's a clever manipulation that can happen in some emotionally abusive relationships. It starts with superficial kindness and vague promises and leads to blameshifting and avoiding true accountability. This very subtle form of gaslighting will drive you crazy. I'll share with you how to spot it. 

    2 March 2024, 12:31 am
  • 28 minutes 18 seconds
    When you think you're strong enough to get back into the difficult relationship

    When you reach your breaking point with someone, you might make the decision to leave. During that time, you can regain your confidence and feel your power again. You might even decide to give the relationship a second chance, knowing that if you see any warning signs, you can address them right away. 

    That is until you are once again coerced into staying in a situation that seems destined to go down the exact same path as before. Now what?  

    22 February 2024, 9:48 pm
  • 25 minutes 27 seconds
    How emotional abuse can enter your life like an infection

    Sometimes, you can't see the red flags before you're hurt. Emotional abuse can be like an infection that enters your body. You may not know it's there until a lot of time has passed, and you've invested a lot into the relationship.

    In this episode, I share how emotional abuse acts like an infection entering your body and mind and help you understand the environment in which such an emotional infection thrives. 

    14 February 2024, 3:35 pm
  • 32 minutes 44 seconds
    If you don't know your limits, you wont have any

    It can be hard to draw a line in a toxic relationship. Don't make your emotional resilience a prison of your own making. Your personal boundaries are there for a reason. Often, the only way things will change is if you do something because they won't 

    5 January 2024, 12:35 am
  • 35 minutes 25 seconds
    When they go silent and emotionally disconnect from you

    When the emotionally abusive person goes silent in order to make you feel guilty and give them the attention they want, do they have a deeper motive of self-preservation? When abusers use silence to control you, there's a lot going on under the hood. In this episode, I share my personal history of using the silent treatment to control the people I claimed to love. 

    29 November 2023, 2:41 am
  • 36 minutes 56 seconds
    Should you give in to their perception of you?

    Some people are so wrapped up in their need to control you that they completely overlook your worth and importance. They can be so busy keeping you focused on yourself and everything you're doing "wrong," that you might actually start to believe what they're saying about you. 

    23 November 2023, 12:43 am
  • 31 minutes 53 seconds
    Their past trauma and abuse isn't the immediate issue in the relationship

    The emotionally abusive person can have a traumatic past. Their abusive behaviors can have an abusive origin. Is it better to help them address their past to stop their behaviors toward you? It's an important question that you should definitely want to know the answer to. 

    3 November 2023, 12:03 am
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