Shownotes

• Why pure play is so important in healing

• The importance of trusting the pace of your body

• A simple practice to make emotions conscious

• Why relational wounding is healed in relationship

• How to access your partner’s deepest magic

• What you can do to become more magnetic

Bio

Starielle Hope is a relationship and intimacy coach who specializes in working with people who have found success in their careers, but struggle to find the same success in relationships.

She grew up in a constant state of loneliness that she thought was normal because it was all she had ever known. After feeling terribly isolated because connecting with others didn’t come naturally to her, she experienced a wakeup call in her early 20s when I learned that, not only was this not normal, but she could actually learn how to connect more deeply with others just as she could learn any other skill. So she set out to reverse engineer connection and intimacy for herself. 

Along the way, she discovered that she has a unique talent for taking abstract emotional concepts and breaking them down into tangible, step-by-step processes that those who are more comfortable in their logical/rational minds (like Starielle) can understand and adopt.

Learning how to connect more deeply with others has improved her happiness and well-being more than anything else she’s ever done, and she absolutely loves sharing what she’s learned along the way.

Starielle has been doing this work for over a decade now and loves every minute of it. She currently shares the knowledge she’s gathered through one-on-one coaching and online courses and will be publishing her first book later this year.

Discover more of Starielle’s work and connect with her on her website.

Timestamps

00:02:01 - Guest introduction

00:03:55 - How Layla and Starielle first met

00:08:30 - Starielle shares a powerful example of magnetism from Layla’s birthday

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00:10:28 - Why pure play is so important in healing

00:11:34 - Starielle shares about her personal growth path

00:13:05 - True play is the opposite of trauma

00:18:13 - Feeling your feelings allows you to sparkle

00:23:24 - The importance of trusting the pace of your body

00:23:49 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:28:14 - Starielle shares a simple practice to make emotions conscious

00:34:00 - Relational wounding is healed in relationship

00:37:37 - 3 stages of dependence

00:43:11 - How to access your partner’s deepest magic

00:44:10 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:45:19 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:46:30 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:49:13 - The different energies of anger

00:52:43 - Men are meant to be warriors

00:56:20 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

00:59:52 -  Why reading women’s signals is so important for men

01:05:50 - One of the biggest issues Starielle sees with men

01:09:15 - What you can do to become more magnetic

01:11:36 - Starielle shares her experience in VITA™ Coaching

01:15:10 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why spiritual connection and ritual are vital for full wellness

• The importance of connecting to your own personal root lineages

• How to honor your inner High Priestess

• The true source of the witch wound

• Why your High Priestess initiation is a spiral journey, not a destination

• How to know if you're operating from true love or delusion

Bio

Elayne Kalila Doughty, MA, MFT, is an ordained priestess and focalizer of the 13 Moon Mystery School and Rosa Mystica Mystery School. She’s been on a path of passionate service for the past thirty years, inspiring women around the world to unleash their leadership gifts and step into their full potential.  

She is the Dean and Founder of the Priestess Presence School of the Sacred Arts and + Temple which serves a sisterhood of over 100K women around the world. She trains, initiates and ordains women as modern day priestesses, ceremonialists and powerful feminine leaders in all walks of life and professions. She specializes in helping women tap into their deepest wisdom, enabling them to harness their own transformational power to be more effective and whole in every aspect of their lives.

She is the best selling co-author of The Sacred Call of the Ancient Priestess, and author of The Magdalene Rose Oracle. She is the host of The Red Podcast: A Place for Bold Inspired, Outrageously Courageous & Just a Tad Bit Naughty Women Leaders To Gather… to talk about all the things that are most important in our lives!

Timestamps

00:01:53 - Guest introduction

00:05:07 - Elayne Kalila takes listeners into the inner world of the High Priestess

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00:08:24 - What are the faces of the goddess?

00:10:40 - Layla and Elayne Kalila explore the opening scene of Wonderwoman

00:13:50 - Why spiritual connection and ritual are vital for full wellness

00:16:13 - The specific position High Priestesses held in their cultures

00:20:42 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:24:33 - The importance of connecting to your own personal root lineages

00:28:06 - Exploring the source of the witch wound

00:32:13 - Elayne Kalila’s theory on women in menopause

00:36:00 - How Layla used meditation as a liferaft for working with terror

00:41:21 - Unlocking your High Priestess initiation is a spiral journey, not a destination

00:44:03 - What exactly is the sisterhood wound?

00:47:37 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:48:47 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:49:54 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:52:09 - The pathway of love

00:54:57 - Elayne Kalila shares the power of one of her Ayahuasca journeys

00:57:00 - Love is not one thing, it’s many things

01:02:55 - How do you know if you're operating from true love or delusion?

01:08:29 - Elayne Kalila and Layla drink SEX MAGIC™

01:09:48 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:16:43 - Elayne Kalila explores Mary Magdalene’s lineage vs the Magdalene collective consciousness

01:23:21 - How do you not get caught in your story as a High Priestess?

01:26:05 - How to honor your inner High Priestess

01:28:55 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How Laurie stayed available to love as she aged

• Why Laurie and Michael believe couples are an endangered species

• The core teachings Laurie has learned from Tantra

• How Tantra gives you hotter sex AND deeper truth

• Exactly what an RBDSMT conversation is and how it can serve you

• How to practice consent in a sexy way

Bio

Laurie Handlers is the author of 2 international bestselling books, Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy and Sex & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age. She empowers people to fall deeply in love with themselves and their partners. An expert in the fields of sexuality, intimacy and relationships, Laurie has taught transformational workshops on topics ranging from releasing past emotional trauma, fearless communication and sacred sexuality since 1978.

Michael Gibson is a Certified Sex and Happiness Coach, the co-founder of the Academy for Men and creator of the Extraordinary Lovers Experience; a program that guides couples into long lasting conscious-relating to deepen intimacy, communication and connection. His Academy for Men’s Coaching Program trains men in the skills of presence, communication and exquisite touch, focusing on intimacy, pleasure and healing. Michael is known for the quote, “Consent: don’t have sex without it!”

Partners Michael and Laurie have also created an online community called Laurie Handlers' Inner Circle that serves its members through podcast interviews, online courses and monthly live calls, and offer relationship coaching, workshops and retreats on Extraordinary Love.

Timestamps

00:01:36 - Guest introduction

00:03:26 - The story of how Laurie and Michael met

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00:07:40 - How Laurie stayed available to love as she aged

00:09:20 - Why older people need boundaries in a different way than younger people

00:12:45 - What allowed Michael to say yes to Laurie changing his life

00:15:21 - The stories women tell themselves that block them from opportunity

00:17:18 - Michael proposes to Laurie in a 5-star Port-a-Potty

00:18:45 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:23:04 - What made Michael cry at his own wedding

00:25:30 - There is no expiration date on your highest dreams

00:27:44 - Why Laurie and Michael believe couples are an endangered species

00:31:18 - When Laurie knew she didn’t want to be in an open relationship any longer

00:35:28 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:36:37 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:37:49 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:40:12 - Laurie shares her experience teaching sexuality in the 70’s

00:44:38 - The core teachings Laurie has learned from Tantra

00:48:49 - The Tantric tools Laurie has seen help other women and herself the most

00:54:06 - Layla talks about the foundational philosophy of Tantra

00:58:54 - Michael explains the saying “Welcome to your life”

01:01:55 - Tantra gives you hotter sex AND deeper truth

01:02:49 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:04:16 - How to practice consent in a sexy way

01:06:53 - Consent is the gift of choice

01:09:50 - Michael explains what an RBDSMT conversation is

01:13:04 - How Laurie and Michael’s RBDSMT conversation began

01:17:33 - The one thing Michael wants men to know

01:20:59 - Laurie’s top advice for women

01:23:54 - Michael and Laurie’s message to couples

01:27:32 - The Return to Love Game

01:29:28 - Conclusion

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Shownotes

• Why it’s so important to break the rules

• How Gala actively chose to make her life her masterpiece

• Layla’s definition of full spectrum self-love

• Why overthinking sucks the magic out of life

• The number one thing people want to manifest

• A powerful guided EFT tapping exercise 

Bio

Gala Darling has been revolutionizing the self-help space for close to two decades. Teaching EFT tapping through her unique spiritual pop star lens, she’s helped hundreds of thousands of people step onto a path of emotional healing, radical self-love and expansive living. 

Originally from New Zealand, Gala is the bestselling author of Radical Self-Love: A Guide To Loving Yourself And Living Your Dreams, and Magnetic Mindset: How To Make Love To The Universe And Manifest Anything. She is a TED speaker, has taught at NYU, been featured in every major publication that counts from Vogue to the New York Times and worked with celebrity clients like Rainn Wilson and the original Girlboss, Sophia Amoruso.

Gala believes deeply that pleasure is your birthright, that the process of becoming your future self should be a joyful one and that feeling good is your job!

Click here to join Gala on the Vortex Vision YouTube channel and download the Vortex app here. 

Timestamps

00:01:56 - Guest introduction

00:03:54 - Why it’s so important to break the rules

00:06:09 - There are no awards for following the rules

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00:07:47 - Gala actively chose to make her life her masterpiece

00:09:56 - How nervousness and excitement about the future integrate 

00:13:32 - The importance of experimenting with your personal style

00:16:35 - No one’s choices come from radical self love 100% of the time

00:18:21 - Layla explains full spectrum self-love

00:21:45 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:24:44 - Why overthinking sucks the magic out of life

00:25:48 - Gala shares her love story

00:30:21 - The core belief that changed the dating game for Gala

00:38:26 - An exploration of self-sourcing for women

00:41:58 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:43:08 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:44:18 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:45:47 - Layla and Gala drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:47:23 - Why Gala went to Europe for her 40th birthday

00:51:06 - The number one thing people want to manifest

00:56:50 - Gala guides listeners through a powerful EFT tapping exercise 

01:00:02 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:02:15 - The science behind EFT tapping

01:05:56 - Gala shares how we manifest with two hands

01:07:18 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• What it feels like in the body when you’re holding trauma

• Exactly what an angergasm is

• Why emotional liberation is about being able to see yourself in your pain

• The importance of presence in trauma healing

• A simple practice for containing emotions and pain

• Foundational steps for emotional liberation

Bio

Formally, Cory Scott is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), a EMDRIA certified Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) therapist, a licensed yoga teacher (RYT-500) and a VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coach and senior teacher.

As a trauma integration coach, she specializes in supporting highly successful people to resolve lingering trauma patterns that have kept them stuck. She helps them to integrate their experiences, harness their strength and live into freedom and expansion beyond their wildest dreams. 

Cory’s coaching draws on her extensive experience working with clients and her deep knowledge of trauma, somatics and interpersonal neurobiology. She combines energetic and embodiment practices, along with rewiring and integration tools to unwind trauma responses and re-create a strong, stable, balanced internal ecology. 

Along with her private client work, Cory also teaches part-time for VITA™ Coaching and provides professional consultation to coaches and therapists.

She lives on a 78-acre farm in the mountains of southern Appalachia with her partner of 19 years, their two beautiful children, an old dog, a young dog and a clowder of cats. In addition to her extensive studies, she has gained much of her integrated and embodied wisdom from her own journey of deep trauma healing and personal transformation.

To learn more about Cory’s work and connect with her, ⁠click here⁠ to visit her website.

Timestamps

00:01:43 - Guest introduction

00:03:38 - Cory’s perspective on trauma healing

00:05:14 - What it feels like in the body when you’re holding trauma

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00:09:06 - What can stabilization after trauma healing look like?

00:11:47 - Layla shares one of the few regrets she has in life

00:14:44 - Why anger is the same energy as passion

00:16:37 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification⁠ 

00:20:33 - The importance of safety in the trauma world

00:27:22 - It’s possible to experience pleasure and joy in the height of shame and anger

00:29:07 - Layla explains exactly what an angergasm is

00:34:18 - Discover ⁠MOOD™ Sexy Supplements⁠

00:35:27 - Get Layla’s free ⁠Orgasmic Breathwork Practice⁠ for deeper pleasure

00:36:36 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with ⁠Men’s Sexual Mastery⁠

00:43:04 - Layla explains how she’s working through relational shame

00:47:56 - Cory shares her personal journey through trauma

00:55:15 - Emotional liberation is about being able to see yourself in your pain

00:59:18 - When to go into safety and calm vs feeling your emotions

01:02:04 - Why presence is so important for trauma healing

01:02:48 - Cory shares a simple practice for containing emotions and pain

01:06:50 - Foundational steps for emotional liberation

01:14:07 - “⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching⁠ is for the leaders of our world”

01:19:23 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• What early partnership was like for Lorin

• Why the feminine must risk everything for devotion

• How sacred sexuality starts outside of the bedroom

• The truth about escaping your deepest pain

• What it looks like for a man to stand in his power

• Practical places spiritual men can be found

Bio

Lorin Krenn is an internationally sought after teacher, coach, author and hypnotherapist with a mission to help you create the relationship you want. He has worked with countless clients all over the world, including star performance coaches and highly successful CEOs. 

Lorin is the author of Understand Women Better and Love, Relationships & Awakening. He is known for his deep and powerful, yet relatable and highly practical style of teaching and for his down-to-earth approach to relationships.

What matters the most to Lorin is practice and direct experience, which is why he trained with exceptionally experienced coaches and teachers to ensure he had a strong and solid foundation before he began teaching. He immerses himself day in and day out, not only doing the deep inner work in his own marriage and spiritual practice, but also working with groups and 1:1 clients to ensure he always stays in practice. 

Lorin’s focus is always on the root cause, or the ‘core’ as he likes to put it, of any relationship challenge, giving his work an intensity and edge that allow for powerful, rapid growth and incredible breakthroughs. 

Lorin’s greatest joy comes from witnessing others experience profound inner shifts and transformations, allowing them to create the life and relationships they truly want. 

Listen to The Lorin Krenn Podcast by clicking here and learn more about his upcoming workshops, programs, and trainings here. Discover Lorin’s most exclusive coaching offer here and find all the details on his books by clicking here.

Timestamps

00:01:48 - Guest introduction

00:03:52 - Layla shares a deeply impactful reading of Lorin’s

00:05:46 - What early partnership was like for Lorin 

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00:09:41 - What it means for a man to make a woman his path

00:12:26 - How patriarchy broke men’s ability to know their own true mission

00:16:08 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:19:30 - How a second chance can shift everything

00:22:33 - Men know if you are a partner they can fully devote to

00:26:29 - Every man who chooses relationships out of integrity will go through deep loneliness

00:31:38 - The feminine has to learn to risk everything for devotion to the highest love

00:36:05 - How a man’s wounding can prevent him from trusting the feminine

00:38:18 - What it looks like for a man to stand in his power from a grounded place

00:38:50 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:40:00 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:41:44 - What polarity actually means to Lorin

00:47:58 - Layla explains how she experiences and views polarity

00:50:40 - There is just no way around the most painful work

00:53:34 - Unlock the most incredible sex with the FREE Epic Sex Guide

00:57:10 - Why you cannot escape your pain in devotional love

01:00:52 - A deep, sincere vow to the universe will never go unmet

01:02:41 - How sacred sexuality starts outside of the bedroom

01:09:27 - Lorin calls out one of the biggest sexuality myths in the universe

01:14:17 - What a woman can do to meet a conscious man

01:20:55 - A man’s spiritual expression can be completely different than a woman’s

01:25:21 - Spiritual men are found in places where they can serve a deep mission

01:27:17 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How BDSM can be the secret to liberation

• What allows humiliation to have an erotic aspect

• The reason a man’s first job is to contain a woman

• Why surrendering the ego and sexuality go hand-in-hand

• What led Om to his professional journey with BDSM

• The difference between boundaries and control

• Why Tantra and BDSM are often taught together 

Bio 

Om Rupani is the author of ⁠Prerequisites to Ecstasy⁠ and has been teaching man-woman relating, sensuality, Tantra & BDSM for over 15 years through both in-person and online workshops worldwide.

His passion is to help men & women create thriving, functional and erotically vibrant relationships through his online courses.

⁠Creating The Dominant Man⁠ is designed to help the modern man come into fuller embodiment of his masculinity, dominance and his leadership — both in the world and in his relationships with women.

And ⁠What Men Want: A Course For Women⁠, which gives the modern woman a template for how she might create a passionate and harmonious relationship with the man who is ready and trained to lead, cherish and adore her.

Om deeply believes that a thriving erotic life needs to be at the center of a happy man-woman dynamic, and he believes we should investigate and embody our Eros in all its nuance and expression. He offers a robust training in the erotic arts, ⁠BDSM Fundamentals And Scene Play Training⁠, which he feels all human beings on the planet should take.

Timestamps

From 1:09:25 to 1:10:35 MOOD ad - 1:10

00:00:29 - Guest introduction

00:03:17 - Om describes what containment actually means

00:07:13 - What Layla has wished for from past partners

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00:10:45 - The importance of addressing upset in a contained state

00:13:25 - What brought Om to his professional journey in BDSM

00:14:20 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:18:19 - The biological vulnerability of women

00:20:17 - Om explains what “bad containment” looks like

00:24:24 - What men have lost in the modern world

00:29:15 - Why niceness in a man doesn’t contain a woman

00:33:12 - Om believes men need to reclaim in wolf in them

00:35:32 - The difference between boundaries and control

00:36:08 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass and Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:41:39 - Coming home to your own safety as a woman

00:44:26 - What is a bratty submissive?

00:50:16 - The bitter pill Layla has had to swallow in her healing

00:54:17 - What does it look like to move out of pain and into devotion?

00:63:01 - How fundamental distrust of men keeps women from healthy relationships

01:09:25 - Discover MOOD Sexy Supplements

01:11:03 - Why Tantra and BDSM are often taught together 

01:15:19 - No one gets a free pass on dealing with their worthiness

01:20:28 - The truth about why a dom can hold safe space for you

01:28:27 - Why surrendering the ego and sexuality go hand-in-hand

01:33:12 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Marina’s experience with her first full-body orgasm

• How to create sexuality driven by the desire of your heart

• Marina’s “bottom up” approach to healing

• A starter practice for sexual trauma healing

• Why so many people don’t feel satisfied during sex

• How to expand your pleasure capacity

• A powerful practice for accessing deep states of pleasure

• Marina’s experience in the VITA™ Coaching Certification

Bio

Marina Nabão is a Somatic Trauma Healer, Embodiment Coach and body enthusiast who is a deep believer in the wisdom and healing power of our bodies. She is passionate about all the ways we are able to integrate mind-body-spirituality consciously and lovingly, allowing us to thrive.

Marina supports people who are trapped in the chains of past trauma and have a deep desire to reclaim their sovereign power, inner freedom and erotic aliveness through her Somatic Healing and Coaching. This is a deeply transformative experience for Leaders and Care Providers of all sorts. She weaves Deep Energy Alchemy, Somatic Experiencing®, Breath Coaching, Non-Violent Communication and the deep wisdom of shamanic and indigenous traditions such as Taoism, Tantra, Spiritism Mediumship and Afro-Brazilian spirituality.

Marina grew up in Brazil and now lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, CA, with her husband and their rescue dog, Jessie.

Discover more at marinanabao.com and follow Marina on IG @marinanabao

Timestamps

00:01:33 - Guest introduction

00:03:50 - Marina’s introduction to Tantra during her corporate days

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00:09:21 - How to have the most magnificent experience with breathwork

00:15:05 - Marina’s experience with her first full-body orgasm

00:16:58 - How Marina met her now-husband

00:20:23 - How to create sexuality driven by the desire of your heart

00:22:56 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:29:11 - All sexuality truly starts in the heart 

00:33:16 - Marina shares about the “bottom up” approach to healing

00:34:16 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:35:36 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork practice for deeper pleasure

00:36:39 - Heal sexually and relationally with your partner in The Tantric Mastermind

00:38:00 - Layla and Marina drink MOOD Sexy Supplements

00:47:10 - Layla’s first experience with somatic exercises

00:53:22 - Marina shares a good starter practice for sexual trauma healing

00:58:16 - How to emphasize your body’s comfort for safety

01:02:35 - A practice for accessing deep states of pleasure

01:06:11 - Why so many people don’t feel satisfied during sex

01:11:33 - How to expand your pleasure capacity

01:18:02 - Marina’s experience in the VITA™ Coaching Certification

01:25:00 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How worshiping the Goddess forces you into a path of surrender

• How Layla and Dr. Kavitha both fell on their faces as spiritual teachers

• Following what’s true for you, instead of what you prefer

• How the 3 types of hangups we experience as humans lead us to a spiritual path

• Surrendering everything you think you want to unlock pleasure in what you have

• How to follow the right-handed path of Sri Vidya (and still have fun ;)

Bio

Dr. Kavitha Chinnaiyan is a practicing cardiologist and Professor of Medicine with more than a hundred peer-reviewed publications, and an International educator in the fields of cardiac imaging, preventive cardiology, and heart disease in women. She is the author of The Heart of Wellness, Shakti Rising, Glorious Alchemy: Living the Lalitā Sahasranāma, and Fractals of Reality: Living the Śrīcakra, a Tantric initiate and adept, and the founder of Svatantra Institute and The Renegade Method™. She strives to integrate spirituality and science to guide others in self-development, professional development, resilience, productivity, wellness, and burnout by weaving together the sciences of modern medicine, wellness, nutrition, longevity, nonduality, Yoga, Tantra, Ayurveda, Vedanta, and the science of happiness. She leads retreats, workshops and pilgrimages to sacred sites, and is an artist and musician.

Timestamps

00:01:30 - Guest introduction

00:01:50 - Dr. Kavitha shares how the Sri Vidya tradition is different from others

00:09:01 - Layla explains what she loves about the Sri Vidya tradition

00:15:23 - How being grounded in tranquility allows you to enjoy your suffering

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00:17:49 - Layla’s perspective on the right and left-handed paths

00:27:18 - The power of duality in connection with life

00:34:56 - Following what’s true, instead of following what you prefer

00:40:11 - The 3 types of hangups we experience as humans

00:50:29 - Dr. Kavitha defines liberation

01:01:19 - How to surrender everything you think you’re going to get from life

01:08:31 - Absolute independence is everything

01:16:23 - Layla’s humbling journey through her relational trauma

01;26:07 - What is actually true?

01:35:49 - We respond to others’ vibes and energy

01:45:39 - A deeply powerful moment Layla recently experienced

01:50:22 - Conclusion

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Shownotes

• How Barbara paved the way for Layla to be her sexual self

• Why truly meeting yourself means meeting God

• Divine masculine and divine feminine as an invitation to play your identity

• Creating systemic change through becoming softer and more inclusive

• The ways Tantra makes hard change feel easier and safer

• The top places people find ecstasy in life that isn’t sex or orgasm

• A step-by-step teaching of one of Barbara’s favorite breathwork techniques

Bio

Barbara Carrellas is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She’s the author of Urban Tantra – the world’s first LGBTQ+-inclusive Tantric sex book, Ecstasy is Necessary and Luxurious Loving. 

Her books, workshops and lectures are an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all genders and sexual preferences to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment. 

Urban Tantra® is an international community, a philosophy, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice that supports both personal and professional goals. Barbara is also the founder of the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program, a comprehensive training program in the practice and application of conscious sexuality and the co-founder of Erotic Awakening, a pioneering series of workshops focusing on the physical, spiritual and healing powers of sex. 

Timestamps

00:01:17 - Guest introduction

00:01:50 - Layla’s first introduction to Barbara when she was an undergrad at Stanford

00:03:47 - How Barbara paved the way for Layla to be her sexual self

00:05:26 - How the AIDS epidemic in NYC introduced Barbara to Tantra

00:07:10 - Tantra is so much bigger than just sex

00:10:14 - The real reason Barbara started studying Tantra

00:14:10 - Bringing powerful healing neo-Tantric practices to gay men with AIDS

00:16:11 - Layla shares how Tantra supported one of the hardest experiences of her life

00:17:14 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:21:46 - Meeting yourself in the intensity means meeting God

00:25:19 - How Tantra became so heteronormative

00:28:04 - Your invitation into the VITA™ Coaching Certification

00:31:44 - How divine masculine and divine feminine are an invitation to play your identity

00:37:16 - Creating systemic change through becoming softer and more inclusive

00:41:20 - How is Tantra best helpful for the gender and sex minority?

00:45:59 - Tantra makes change feel easier and safer

00:52:15 - The universal desire to find “something more”

00:56:02 - Layla and Barbara drink MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

10:00:54 - Where people find ecstasy in life that isn’t sex or orgasm

01:02:10 - Barbara teaches one of her favorite breathwork techniques

01:05:00 - One of Barbara’s weirdest Tantric experiences

01:09:24 - Where to find Barbara’s work

01:11:10 - Conclusion

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Shownotes

• Why breasts are so important in sexuality

• What a breast massage actually is and how to give yourself one

• Bibi’s journey from Wall Street to Sex Witch

• The importance of finding your spiritual center

• How to appreciate the moments of stillness in sex and in life

• What a peak climax is and why we perceive intensity as pleasure

• How to redirect your energy to change how you experience life

• Why working with the breasts facilitates deeper sexual energy

• The power of breast work to heal heartbreak, grief and sadness

• Bibi guides listeners through a powerful breast massage practice

Bio

Bibi is VITA™ certified Sex, Love and Relationship coach, certified Erotic Blueprint coach, holistic sexuality international speaker and energetic lovemaking guide. 

She has presented her trailblazing, disruptive approach to sexuality throughout the world, having made appearances at events like Mindvalley Summit A-Fest, Summit LA, YPO and EO forums, and been featured in publications like Vogue, Elle Magazine, Marie Claire and Conde Nast.

Her heart-opening and taboo-crushing courses create powerful spaces for conversation and plant seeds for exploration of conscious sexuality. Through her offerings of online courses, group workshops, speaking engagements, lectures and one-on-one work, in both English and Spanish, she has reached over 150,000 people. 

Bibi serves clients from around the world, both single individuals and loving couples, in their journeys to transformation.

Timestamp

00:01:21 - Guest introduction

00:02:28 - Bibi manifested her appearance on This Tantric Life using Sex Magic

00:03:55 - Why breasts are the most undervalued gateway to female sexuality

00:04:45 - How Bibi went from communist Poland to Wallstreet to Sex Witch

00:09:06 - Bibi’s experience with reaching her darkest, lowest point

00:11:15 - Bibi’s first experience of sexual awakening

00:14:34 - Sign up for Layla’s email list at LaylaMartin.com

00:16:40 - The energetic orgasm is a universal human ability

00:18:25 - How one of Layla’s clients went from skeptical to sexual awakening

00:21:43 - Once you find yourself, even simple moments can be delightful

00:23:20 - What it means to appreciate the values of sex

00:25:30 - The power of welcoming an orgasm instead of chasing it

00:26:50 - Your invitation into VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 

00:32:47 - Pleasure is optional but it’s also a choice

00:33:28 - Layla demonstrates how pleasure happens internally

00:36:50 - Bibi talks about having full body orgasms live onstage

00:37:59 - Layla and Bibi drink MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:40:25 - The Goddess wants you to have both your desires and grit

00:42:24 - Bibi tries MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:44:29 - Why breasts are so important in sexuality

00:48:47 - Bibi wants to make “boob love” more common than boob jobs

00:52:22 - How unexpressed grief and sadness actually leads to performing during sex

00:57:25 - Bibi leads listeners through a guided breast massage practice

01:04:45 - How breast massage can change your relationship to your body and yourself

01:06:45 - The art of having a breast orgasm

01:08:47 - Creating a blended pleasure experience with your breasts

01:09:20 - Bibi’s experience with the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

01:14:08 - The level of responsibility a sacred sexuality teacher holds

01:18:16 - Conclusion