Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey .

This episode explores the difference between awareness and real change, healing alone versus healing in relationships, and how avoidance can masquerade as self-work. You’ll learn what “being ready to date” actually looks like, how to stop hiding behind healing, and how to build self-trust by responding differently when you’re triggered. If you struggle with anxious attachment, dating anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck despite therapy and self-work, this conversation will reframe how you approach dating, growth, and emotional safety moving forward.

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Chapters

00:00 Do You Need to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship?

01:45 Why Healing Feels Like It Disappears When You Start Dating

04:10 The Myth of Being “Healed Enough”

07:00 Healing Alone vs Healing in Relationships

10:10 Why Feeling Fine When Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Ready

13:15 Awareness vs Real Change in Dating Patterns

16:05 When “Working on Yourself” Is Actually Avoidance

19:05 What Being Ready to Date Really Means

22:10 Why Triggers Are Information, Not Failure

25:00 How Secure Relationships Are Actually Built

28:00 How to Build Self-Trust While Dating

31:10 Final Takeaway: You’re Not Broken, You’re Human
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Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what’s really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers.
We also get into emotional availability, communication during conflict, and how to create safety without overfunctioning. You’ll learn how to recognize your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and stop taking someone else’s regulation personally. Whether you’re dating or partnered, this conversation helps you understand connection with far more clarity.
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In this In The Trenches episode, we dig into the psychology of mixed signals, friendzones, breadcrumbing, and almost-relationships. From slow-burn connections that feel safe but confusing to flirty “friends” who keep you close for validation, we break down how to tell the difference between a secure slow build and self-friend-zoning. You’ll learn why some people want your emotional support without offering real intimacy, how to stop filling in the blanks with fantasy, and what mixed messages actually reveal about someone’s intentions.

We also get into situationships with no clarity, avoidant communication, and the ego-hit that keeps you hoping things will change. You’ll learn the markers of genuine interest vs passive connection, how to initiate the conversations that create clarity, and how to stop outsourcing your worth to inconsistency. If you’re stuck in limbo, questioning the dynamic, or tired of reading between the lines, this episode gives you the tools to see the pattern and choose what actually serves you.

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This episode breaks down why waiting for someone to come back feels so intoxicating — and why it keeps you stuck. We unpack the psychology behind ambiguous loss, ego-driven attachment, the fantasy loops your brain clings to, and the deeper wounds waiting protects you from. If you’re torn between “I hope they come back” and “God, I hope they don’t,” this will give you clarity you’ve never had.

You’ll learn how to tell the difference between missing them vs. missing the validation, why waiting functions as avoidance, what “they always come back” actually means, and the exact questions to ask yourself if they do reappear.

If you’re tired of living in the “maybe,” this episode will hit home.

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Getting over someone feels impossible when your mind keeps replaying the same moments on a loop. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down the difference between genuine emotional processing and rumination, explaining why your brain clings to old stories and how to finally create real movement instead of spiraling. If you’re tired of feeling stuck in your thoughts or carrying heartbreak into a new year, this episode is your reset point.

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In this episode, Sabrina explores the impact of shame on relationships and self-worth. She explains how shame rewires the brain, making us expect and even create rejection. Sabrina breaks down patterns like rejecting compliments and attracting emotionally unavailable people, while offering practical tools to release shame and rewire the nervous system.

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In this week’s episode, Sabrina dives deep into the cycle of self-blame and shame, exploring why your brain keeps holding onto guilt, even when you logically know it’s not your fault. She uncovers the neuroscience behind how blame and shame get wired into your brain and explains how to break free from this harmful loop. Sabrina shares personal stories of overcoming the blame cycle and walks you through the tools she uses to stop self-punishment, regain control, and practice self-compassion. Tune in to learn how to stop blaming yourself for things outside your control and start showing yourself the grace you deserve.

If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.

Your body just learned that fast feels safe.

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We’re back in the trenches. This episode, Ryan joins Sabrina in the studio to unpack YOUR questions including “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups to what happens when your nervous system won’t let you relax in a healthy relationship. They talk about what it actually means to trust yourself, why so many of us self-sabotage when things feel good, and how to stop creating stories in your head every time they don’t text you back for a day.

If you’ve ever said “I just feel blindsided,” or caught yourself scrolling back through screenshots trying to “decode” someone’s behavior… this one’s for you. Sabrina dives in on protest behavior, attachment styles, and that moment when you realize it’s not about them. It’s about your nervous system trying to protect you.

If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.

Your body just learned that fast feels safe.

The Art of Going Slow is my new 4-week live program starting November 20.
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In this week’s episode, Sabrina breaks down how attachment wounds can disguise themselves as “gut feelings” and why instinct often gets drowned out by anxious urgency. Sabrina walks through real examples as she uncovers how familiar patterns can trick your nervous system into calling danger “love,” and unpacks how old trauma keeps you choosing pain over safety. Sabrina shares the tools she uses to slow the spiral, track the truth, and retrain her intuition so it actually protects her instead of sabotaging her.

If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.

Your body just learned that fast feels safe.

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In this vulnerable and science-backed episode, Sabrina Zohar reveals a universal truth: everyone is struggling, and the people who seem to have it all figured out are just better at hiding it. She dismantles toxic positivity, explaining why fighting your emotions makes things worse and how acceptance can reduce their intensity by 50%. 

Sabrina provides practical tools like the "Paradox Prescription" for obsessive thoughts and the "72-Hour Reality Check" to identify trauma bonding. If you've ever felt alone in your pain, this is your powerful reminder that you are not broken—you are human. The cure isn't to stop struggling, but to stop hiding it.

Your brain can’t tell the difference between rejection and getting punched in the face.
That’s why when it takes them three hours to text back, your chest tightens.

Why your palms get sweaty after you triple-text and instantly regret it.
Why you tell yourself “I’m fine” but your body’s already spiraling.

You’re not dramatic.
You’re dysregulated.
Your nervous system is reacting to the possibility of loss the same way it would to actual danger.

If you’re ready to stop letting what happens on your phone decide how your day feels, join me on November 6th for a live masterclass: Texting Anxiety: How to Calm Your Body Before You Hit Send.

We’ll unpack what’s really happening in your brain and body when you text someone you like, and I’ll teach you tools to get grounded fast, even in the middle of a spiral.

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You don’t need to care less.
You just need new tools for what your body’s been trying to protect you from

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In this week’s episode, Sabrina breaks down what your texting patterns reveal about your attachment style and emotional triggers in dating and relationships. Through her own past text exchanges, she shares how anxious thoughts, people-pleasing, and over-explaining once shaped her dating behavior, and how she learned to regulate her emotions instead of spiraling when someone didn’t respond. Sabrina explores how rejection, ghosting, and unmet expectations often trace back to deeper wounds around self-worth and safety.

She also explains how healing doesn’t mean never feeling triggered; it means recognizing those triggers, staying grounded, and choosing not to self-abandon. If texting still sends you into a loop, this episode will help you understand why and how to finally break the cycle.

Ever felt that rush of panic when someone takes hours to text back?
The tight chest.
The spinning thoughts.
The sudden urge to delete your last three messages and throw your phone across the room.

That isn’t you being “crazy.”
That’s your nervous system reacting to what it thinks is danger.
Because your brain can’t tell the difference between rejection and getting punched in the face.

In this episode, we’re talking about texting anxiety, what’s really happening inside your body when you’re waiting, overanalyzing, or trying to say the “right” thing.

And if you’re ready to take this deeper, join me live on November 6th for my masterclass: Texting Anxiety: How to Calm Your Body Before You Hit Send.

You’ll learn how to work with your body instead of against it, and finally stop letting what happens on your phone control how you feel.

🎟️ Save your seat at https://masterclass.sabrinazohar.com

Because you don’t need to care less.
You just need the right tools to feel safe again.

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