Friendship Therapy

Emma Reed Turrell

Hello! We’re Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed-Turrell. And for over 20 years, we’ve been best friends. Elizabeth is a broadcaster and author. Emma is a psychotherapist. Best Friend Therapy is where we chat about what’s on our minds to get deeper in our...

  • 24 minutes 3 seconds
    S1, Ep 12 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Modern Partnerships - making the unknowns, known
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, and our last episode of season one! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guests, Victoria and Helen.

    Having met (and bonded over their shared love of musical theatre) at a time when many of their peers were meeting 'the one,' Victoria and Helen joined Emma on the podcast to talk about finding a life partner in a friend, the lack of representation of platonic relationships in the media, and the challenges that they have faced as two heterosexual women who have found a soulmate in each other.

    In this bitesize episode, Emma reflects on the blind spots that she often sees in romantic relationships and explores some of the themes that came up in her conversation with Victoria and Helen, drawing on her 15 years of experience as a psychotherapist to answer some of the bigger questions when it comes to modern partnerships. Why is society still failing to recognise the significance and value of friendships? Does longevity equal success when it comes to relationships? And how can we create space in our relationships to allow each other to grow, develop, evolve and change? 


    Find out what you might be missing: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/454959/what-am-i-missing-by-turrell-emma-reed/9780241624982

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    12 July 2024, 12:00 am
  • 47 minutes 37 seconds
    S1, Ep 11 Friendship Therapy: Friends as Soulmates - friendships that don’t fit into a box
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens.

    In the final full episode of season one (don't worry, there's still Friday's bitesize episode to come!), Emma chats to Helen, 29, and Victoria, 32, about the value of friendships compared to romantic relationships, finding your life partner within a platonic relationship, and why some partnerships simply can't be categorised - but that doesn't mean that they are any less valid or important.

    Helen and Victoria, both working as teachers, met at a musical theatre society when they were in their late twenties and early thirties - a crucial time during which many of their peers were meeting 'the one' and building a life with a romantic partner. Meanwhile, Helen and Victoria found in each other a platonic soulmate, a life partner with whom they could share all the domesticities of daily life, and connect with deeply on an emotional level too. By society's standards, Helen and Victoria's relationship is very much outside of the norm, and they simply can't and won't fit neatly into a box that is recognisable, or even acceptable, to the people around them.

    In this episode, Helen and Victoria share their experience of finding a soulmate in a friend, the radical acceptance and permission to be themselves that they bring to each other's lives, and their frustration at the way society has failed to recognise the significance and value of platonic relationships. Emma also reflects on a deeply meaningful platonic relationship in her own life, and identifies a potential blind spot that we could all overcome.

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    8 July 2024, 12:01 am
  • 18 minutes 34 seconds
    S1, Ep 10 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Compound Loss - how fear, hope, love and sadness can co-exist
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest, Rachel.

    On Monday's episode, Rachel bravely opened up about the loss of her father two years ago. It was a bereavement that, in her words, 'shone a light' on the friends who were willing to get in the trenches with her, and those who couldn't meet her where she was.

    For Rachel, the death of her dad signified the end of an incredibly difficult six months since his re-diagnosis, during which she had to contend with the inevitable arrival of her very worst fear, and the loss of the hope that she had been holding on to since she was a 12 year old girl making wishes on birthday candles. The losses that Rachel had experienced since she was a child gave her a sense of vigilance that stayed with her into adulthood, causing her to feel fearful of change, particularly within her friendship groups.

    In this bitesize episode, Emma explores where Rachel's fear of loss and endings originates from and how it is showing up in her friendships now, with the help of the blind spot profiles in her latest book, What am I Missing? Emma also explains the concept of 'compound loss' in therapy and how we can begin to navigate it, and why fear, hope, love and sadness exist most productively when we allow them to co-exist.

    Find out more about the blind spot profiles: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/454959/what-am-i-missing-by-turrell-emma-reed/9780241624982

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    5 July 2024, 12:01 am
  • 40 minutes 42 seconds
    S1, Ep 9 Friendship Therapy: Grief and Friendship - hope, grief, loss and navigating change in friendship
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma chats to 28-year-old Rachel about intertwining our identity with our friendships, the process of 'trimming' friends over time as we grow and age, and how the turbulence and loss of our teens and twenties can affect our friendships.

    Rachel very sadly lost her dad when she was 26, and as an only child, she found the process of grieving incredibly isolating and lonely. It wasn't the first time she had gone through turbulence and change in her home life; Rachel's dad was first diagnosed with cancer when she was just 12 years old, and when she was 16, her parents separated. Without a sibling who she could share the loss with, Rachel's friends stepped in to hold her hand in the trenches of grief and help her navigate some of the most challenging moments in her life.

    In this episode, Rachel speaks so honestly and candidly about grief, loss and hope, the parental role that she played in her friendship groups and how that changed and evolved over time, leaning into reciprocity in relationships, and navigating the fear of loss as our lives and friendships take on a different trajectory.

    Learn more about the blind spots in Emma's new book, What am I Missing?: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/454959/what-am-i-missing-by-turrell-emma-reed/9780241624982

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    1 July 2024, 12:00 am
  • 19 minutes 33 seconds
    S1, Ep 8 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Child Ego State - the adapted child and the free rebellious child
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest, Jemima.

    Jemima joined us to talk about her experience of being diagnosied with dyspraxia when she was just six years old, and the impact that neurodivergence has had on her life and friendships. We heard about the remedial classes that she was put through, the hours spent throwing and catching balls in her back garden, the extra effort that she had to put in to try to fit in with the other children; all of which led her to resent her diagnosis. Later, in adulthood, Jemima found herself rejecting the idea of being 'parented' by her friends, having already spent almost her entire life being told what her limits were and what she definitely couldn't do because she is neurodivergent.

    In this bitesize episode, Emma returns to Eric Berne's parent, adult, child model in transactional analysis, exploring how the different facets of the parent and child ego states might be showing up in Jemima's friendships and in her own internal processes.

    Eric Berne's parent, adult, child theory: https://www.simplypsychology.org/transactional-analysis-eric-berne.html

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    28 June 2024, 12:01 am
  • 39 minutes 39 seconds
    S1, Ep 7 Friendship Therapy: Neurodiversity in Friendship - a unique perspective on dyspraxia and how it can impact friendship
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma chats to Jemima, who reached out to Emma to talk about the impact that neurodivergence has had on her friendships.

    Diagnosed at just six years old, dyspraxia has affected every aspect of Jemima's life since she was a small child, from being put into remedial classes at school, to throwing and catching balls with her brother so she could be more like the other children. Jemima's family just wanted to keep her safe from a world that didn't necessarily understand her, but Jemima wanted to reject her dyspraxia diagnosis altogether. Now, as a woman in her forties, she has come to learn a lot about herself and the way she exists in the world as a neurodiverse woman with her own unique experiences in life and in friendship.

    In this episode, Jemima generously shares how she navigates friendship and dyspraxia. We hear about her experience of being neurodivergent in a world that doesn't always celebrate difference, struggling with burnout and feelings of rejection and abandonment, and through it all, the unwavering support, love and encouragement that her friends and family have shown her.

    Jemima's story reminds us that when we mess up, as we inevitably will, having grace for ourselves and for our friends can be an incredibly powerful metric of friendship.

    To find out more about Eric Berne's Parent, Adult, Child theory, click here:  https://www.simplypsychology.org/transactional-analysis-eric-berne.html

    Information on dyspraxia from the NHS website: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/developmental-coordination-disorder-dyspraxia-in-adults/

    Exceptional Individuals - https://exceptionalindividuals.com/

    Some book recommendations from Jemima:

    The Lion Who Wanted to Love - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lion-Who-Wanted-Love/dp/1860399134/ref=asc_df_1860399134/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=697208928393&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=9929041182393392105&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9046002&hvtargid=pla-537898099083&psc=1&mcid=36f7310928af3f02b640a4340b0442d0&th=1&psc=1&gad_source=1

    Autism in Heels - https://booksplea.se/autism-in-heels-the-untold-story-of-a-female-life-on-the-spectrum-by-jennifer-cook-otoole/?setCurrencyId=1&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqanE7ZXbhgMVspVQBh3j_QLDEAQYASABEgL6MfD_BwE

    Rhinocorn Rules - https://www.theworks.co.uk/p/picture-books/rhinocorn-rules/WKS_9780008617103.html?gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIyLf5iZbbhgMVw4hQBh2_rAo8EAQYASABEgJYv_D_BwE

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    24 June 2024, 12:00 am
  • 15 minutes 25 seconds
    S1, Ep 6 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Friendship Reminiscences - are we filling in the wrong blanks?
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest.

    This week, Emma met Charlotte, whose fear of losing a treasured childhood friend has her questioning how to keep the spark alive in long-term friendships. When Charlotte and her friend see each other, they can pick right up where they left off: but are they spending too much time down memory lane, rather than updating their friendship into the present?

    In this bitesize episode, Emma digs deeper into the impact of nostalgia in long-term friendships, how our childhood friends are caretakers for past versions of ourselves, and why passivity or non-confrontation in friendship break-ups can cause us to reinforce our blind spots and fill in the wrong blanks.

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    21 June 2024, 12:00 am
  • 39 minutes 24 seconds
    S1, Ep 5 Friendship Therapy: Rekindling Friendship - how updating our friendships can keep the spark alive
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma chats to 32-year-old Charlotte about how to keep the spark alive in long-term friendships.

    In this episode, Charlotte opens up about her fear of a childhood friendship 'fizzling out' as they both move into different phases of life and embrace new friendships. She describes how even though their opportunities for connection have lessened over the years, she and this long-term friend can pick up right where they left off when they do see each other, often spending their time together reminiscing about their shared past rather than bringing their friendship into the present.

    Emma and Charlotte discuss the role that our childhood friends play in being caretakers of our past selves, passivity and lack of clarity in friendship break-ups, how to allocate our friendship energy, and why avoiding confrontation or not updating our friendships into 2024 often causes us to fill in the wrong blanks or reinforce limiting beliefs about ourselves.

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    17 June 2024, 12:00 am
  • 21 minutes 50 seconds
    S1, Ep 4 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: The Nursing Triad - friends as co-parents
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest.

    This week, Emma met another Emma, a psychotherapist who found herself questioning her place in her childhood friendship group after becoming a mother at 19, going through a divorce in her thirties and persuing a new career as a therapist later in life.

    In this bitesize episode, Emma takes us through the Nursing Triad, healthy first order symbiosis and Eric Berne's Parent, Adult Child ego states theory within Transactional Analysis, and how Emma's friends played a practical and emotional co-parent role in Emma's life as she navigated becoming a mother when she was still a child herself.

    Emma also reflects on Emma's therapy journey, her growing curiosity and defiance against decades-old patterns, and how she found herself challenging the boundaries and renegotiating her friendships to find out if she could be accepted unconditionally.

    To find out more about Eric Berne's Parent, Adult, Child theory, click here:  https://www.simplypsychology.org/transactional-analysis-eric-berne.html

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    14 June 2024, 12:00 am
  • 41 minutes 29 seconds
    S1, Ep 3 Friendship Therapy: Lifting Lids - how therapy can change our friendship dynamics
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, a brand new podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma speaks to fellow psychotherapist, also called Emma.

    Emma became a mother at 19 and subsequently went through a divorce in her thirties, eventually finding herself in training to become a psychotherapist much later in life than her peers. Through it all, her close-knit group of childhood friends were a guiding light for her - becoming not just a support system, but a partner who showed up for Emma and her daughter practically and emotionally.
     
    The friendship dynamic shifted when Emma started having therapy as part of her training, encouraging her to seek authenticity in herself and in her friendships. She found herself wanting to lift lids and have difficult conversations with these childhood friends, seeking to understand them better and make sense of her role in their lives.
     
    In this episode, Emma and Emma discuss the impact that therapy can have on our relationships, how to navigate changing dynamics and different life stages, why it’s okay to live with discomfort in our friendships, and how we can sometimes leave the lids where they are and trust that our friends want the best for us.

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    10 June 2024, 12:00 am
  • 11 minutes 51 seconds
    S1, Ep 2 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Yin and Yang - balance, unconditional acceptance and safety in friendship
    Welcome back to Friendship Therapy and our first bitesize episode, where Emma shares her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guests, Janine and Julia.

    In this bitesize episode, Emma dives into the concept of yin and yang, a term that Janine and Julia use to describe themselves and their friendship. Emma explains how the contrasting dots of colour in the yin and yang symbol represent the need for chaos and control to exist harmoniously, and how this concept can help us to identify what we might need more of in our own lives.

    Emma also encourages us to think about what we can and want to offer in friendship, why we don't have to tick every single box on someone else's friendship application form, and how our childhood friendships can be updated and nurtured to reflect who we are in the present.

    If you’d like to apply to appear on the podcast in season two, please click the link below to fill out the form:   

    https://forms.gle/owsfs6DVxVdTMFo46  

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    Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.

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    Social media:  

    Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

    Friendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypod

    Email: [email protected]
    7 June 2024, 12:00 am
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