"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
Is it possible to grow while navigating a relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature person? Tony returns after a brief hiatus and answers this question as he dives into the themes of handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and personal growth. Tony discusses how life's unpredictable nature can disrupt plans, emphasizing the importance of acceptance and resilience. Tony explores the dynamics within relationships where one partner may suppress their feelings to appease the other, leading to a loss of self-identity. This episode highlights the difference between boundaries and ultimatums, underscores the importance of self-care, and encourages listeners to lean into discomfort to foster change and growth. It's a call to prioritize one’s well-being and establish healthier relationship dynamics.
00:00 Welcome Back & The Importance of Consistency
00:36 The Journey of Returning to Podcasting
01:01 The Therapeutic Value of Sharing Real-Life Experiences
01:23 Navigating Life's Unexpected Turns
01:55 Embracing Acceptance and Moving Forward
02:15 Understanding and Managing Big Feelings
05:18 The Challenge of Communicating Our True Feelings
10:16 The Impact of Family Dynamics on Emotional Development
15:24 Navigating Relationships with Emotionally Immature Partners
28:21 Setting Boundaries vs. Issuing Ultimatums
29:57 Concluding Thoughts on Discomfort and Growth
In the 7th installment of the "Death by a Thousand Cuts" series, Tony Overbay, LMFT, presents a compelling crossover episode between The Virtual Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism. This episode delves into the complex journey of healing and empowerment for individuals who have survived relationships characterized by emotional immaturity, narcissism, and controlling behavior. Through a blend of personal narratives and expert analysis, Tony shares the nuanced and significant harm inflicted by the 'Death by a Thousand Cuts' phenomenon—a metaphor highlighting the cumulative effect of repeated emotional injuries from narcissistic and emotionally immature partners.
Addressing key issues such as emotional abuse, coercive control, financial abuse, sexual abuse within the relationship, manipulation, boundaries vs. ultimatums, and the critical need for self-validation, Tony provides listeners with practical coping strategies. These strategies underscore the importance of self-reflection, seeking professional guidance, and engaging with supportive communities as vital steps in shedding the lingering effects of controlling relationships.
This episode aims to reassure listeners that they are not isolated in their experiences of unhealthy relationships. It also serves as a resource for those seeking to support family members entangled in abusive dynamics, offering insight into effective ways to provide meaningful support beyond mere words of encouragement. Tony seeks to empower listeners to recognize their inherent worth and foster healthy, mature connections by advocating for relationships grounded in respect and empathy.
00:00 Welcome to the Crossover Episode: Unpacking Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity
00:37 Why Today's Episode Matters: Exploring 'Death by a Thousand Cuts'
01:58 Moving Week and Virtual Client Opportunities
03:58 Understanding Emotional Cuts and Their Impact
05:58 The Challenge of Seeking Validation and Understanding
09:24 Creating Supportive Spaces for Emotional Growth
12:36 Diving into Real-Life Stories of Emotional Immaturity
23:49 The Frustrating Dynamics of Emotional Immaturity in Relationships
33:57 Navigating the Complexities of Emotional Immaturity and Narcissism
34:54 The Emotional Toll of Unvalidated Feelings
36:07 Navigating Emotional Safety in Relationships
36:19 The Subtle Manipulations of Emotional Abuse
37:00 Parenting Amidst Emotional Manipulation
38:29 Understanding the Impact of Emotional Abuse Through Stories
46:33 The Role of Pornography in Emotionally Immature Relationships
01:00:43 Financial Control and Emotional Abuse
01:07:45 Finding Healing and Empowerment
Part 2 of Tony’s dive into how narcissism and emotional immaturity contribute to the different attachment styles that we show up with in adulthood. Continuing to read from the article “Narcissistic Personality and Attachment,” https://www.attachmentproject.com/psychology/narcissistic-personality/ Tony delves into the significance of secure attachment and its impact on children's development and adult relationships. The discussion begins with a nostalgic look at the importance of having a supportive figure during childhood, highlighting how a 'superhero' figure can influence one's ability to trust and form healthy relationships. The conversation then transitions into how those without secure attachments in childhood might struggle with narcissistic traits or emotional immaturity in adulthood. Tony explores different attachment styles, including avoidant, anxious, and disorganized, and their connection to narcissistic behaviors and traits. By emphasizing the role of self-reflection, understanding intrinsic values, and committed action through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Tony offers a pathway toward overcoming challenges related to emotional immaturity and narcissism. The episode is a comprehensive look at how early attachment styles contribute to adult relationship dynamics, with insights on possible paths for healing and growth.
00:00 Introduction to the Episode
00:09 The Concept of a Superhero in Childhood
02:06 The Importance of Secure Attachment
02:36 The Role of Parents in Providing Secure Attachment
03:28 The Impact of Secure Attachment in Adult Relationships
05:08 The Power of Vulnerability in Relationships
05:53 Understanding Different Attachment Styles
08:33 The Journey of Emotional Growth and Awakening
15:51 The Connection Between Narcissism and Attachment Styles
16:29 The Impact of Overindulgence and Authoritarian Parenting on Narcissism
23:31 The Role of Abuse in the Development of Narcissism
29:39 The Complex Relationship Between Narcissism and Attachment Styles
30:45 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Vulnerable Narcissism
31:14 Real-Life Example: Jamie's Case
32:31 Disorganized Attachment Style and Vulnerable Narcissism
32:52 The Role of Approval Seeking and Fear in Narcissism
33:23 Exploring Treatment Approaches for Narcissism
33:43 Disorganized Attachment and Vulnerable Narcissism: Common Ground and Differences
36:26 Case Study: Jordan and Casey
38:23 Avoidant Attachment Style and the Grandiose Narcissist
39:49 Similarities and Differences between Avoidant Attachment and Grandiose Narcissism
50:52 Treatment Approaches for Narcissism and Emotional Maturity
52:22 Wrapping Up: The Complexities of Narcissism and Attachment Styles
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Tony Overbay, LMFT, discusses the misuse of self-help and philosophical principles by the narcissist and the emotionally immature. Tony uses Stoicism and the teachings of Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, and Seneca as a backdrop to show how seemingly safe topics like self-care, hobbies, and reasons to focus on the here and now can be weaponized and used as manipulation tactics by the emotionally immature and those who exhibit strong narcissistic traits and tendencies. Tony also provides examples of addressing these misinterpretations and outlines the importance of personal growth, self-reflection, and accepting one's imperfections to achieve a healthier mindset and better relationships.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:20 The Importance of Newsletters and Updates
00:39 Exploring Narcissistic Traits and Self-Help Books
01:42 The Power of Self-Reflection and Emotional Maturity
02:48 The Misuse of Self-Help Tools and Philosophies
03:24 The Dangers of Misinterpreting Therapeutic Advice
04:24 Exploring the Interactions of Narcissistic Traits with Philosophies
04:36 The Role of Stoicism in Self-Improvement
05:04 The Fine Line Between Self-Improvement and Weaponizing Teachings
06:15 The Power of Self-Confrontation and Growth
07:57 The Concept of Muse in Personal Growth
08:26 The Importance of Listening and Self-Improvement
14:15 The Role of Stoicism in Personal Growth
25:13 Embracing Imperfections and Learning from Mistakes
26:02 The Story of Epictetus and His Teachings
27:23 Applying Stoic Philosophy in Real Life: Chris and Morgan's Dance Lessons
28:48 The Dangers of Weaponizing Stoic Philosophy
31:16 The Wisdom of Marcus Aurelius and Letting Go of Unnecessary Opinions
39:35 Applying Marcus Aurelius' Advice in Relationships: Jordan and Alex's Story
41:58 Understanding and Navigating Emotional Immaturity and Narcissism
44:55 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Personal Growth
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And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
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Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Tony zooms in on emotional immaturity, grandiose and vulnerable narcissism, and how they affect relationships. He illustrates these concepts with hypothetical scenarios and emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between healthy ego and pathological defensive narcissism. He also briefly highlights how developing a healthy ego can contribute to personal growth and better relationships. Part two of this episode will dig deeper into the origin stories of narcissistic personality disorder and further explore the different attachment styles.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome to the Show
00:21 Understanding Emotional Immaturity and Narcissism
00:43 Exploring Attachment Styles and Narcissism
01:41 Real-Life Scenarios: Planning a Weekend Getaway
03:20 The Impact of Narcissism on Relationships
08:39 Introduction to Narcissism and Healthy Ego
12:28 Real-Life Scenarios: The Stay-at-Home Mom and the Emotionally Immature Husband
17:28 Healthy Ego vs Pathological Defensive Narcissism
22:16 Understanding the Healthy Ego
22:43 Pathological Defensive Narcissism
23:37 Personal Journey: From Software Marketing to Therapy
24:10 Finding Purpose and Building a Healthy Ego
25:40 Embracing Criticism and Personal Growth
27:06 The Role of Relationships in Personal Development
27:34 Reflecting on Past Experiences and Growth
30:44 Understanding Narcissism: Vulnerable and Grandiose
32:11 The Impact of Narcissism on Relationships
35:00 Differentiating Between Vulnerable Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity
44:31 Understanding the Origins of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
44:52 Closing Remarks and Preview of Part Two
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Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384
Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Tony discusses "Popcorn Moments" - those crucial instances where choosing not to react to narcissistic or emotionally immature behavior can be the most powerful response. This episode dives into how strategic non-engagement can be vital for personal growth and self-realization. Through listener emails and expert discussion, Tony sheds light on the significance of these moments in understanding and dealing with manipulative dynamics.
You will learn about the importance of recognizing gaslighting, the empowerment that comes from setting personal boundaries, and the liberating process of differentiation. Tony offers advice on how to turn potentially draining interactions into opportunities for learning autonomy and fostering emotional resilience.
Join Tony as he explores the transformative potential of observing rather than participating in the emotional chaos often presented by narcissists. Discover how creating "Popcorn Moments" can lead to a deeper understanding of yourself and help you navigate your way to people who can provide healthier relationship dynamics.
00:01 Introduction and Listener Emails
01:52 Understanding Narcissistic Traits and Emotional Immaturity
03:57 Personal Story: Emotional Growth and Consistency
11:06 Exploring Popcorn Moments and Gaslighting
13:00 Listener Poem and Reflection
18:12 Deep Dive into Popcorn Moments
20:20 Understanding Narcissistic Tactics
21:15 Recognizing Gaslighting and Manipulation
21:50 The Power of Popcorn Moments
22:17 Shifting Dynamics and Gaining Empowerment
22:40 The Importance of Boundaries and Self-Respect
23:10 Moving Forward and Beyond Narcissistic Games
23:54 The Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense
24:05 The Importance of Self-Care and Emotional Baseline
25:45 Understanding and Dealing with Gaslighting
27:06 Exiting Unproductive Conversations
28:03 Mastering the Art of Boundary Setting
30:32 The Myth of the Aha Moment
31:40 The Power of Popcorn Moments Revisited
34:36 The Power of Differentiation
36:09 The Role of Differentiation in the Five Foolproof Formulas
43:47 Conclusion: The Journey of Becoming Differentiated
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Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384
Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives into the hidden dynamics and assigned roles within dysfunctional and narcissistic family systems. The podcast outlines the roles of the Enabler, the Hero, the Scapegoat, the Lost Child, and the Mascot, all of whom are developed as coping mechanisms to manage family stress and chaos. Each role is reviewed in depth, including the implications for the individual's development, identity, and potential for later life challenges and relationships. The episode also emphasizes the importance of recognizing these roles, seeking therapeutic support, and redefining one's identity beyond these imposed familial expectations.
00:00 Introduction and Riddle
01:07 Understanding the Role You Play
01:15 Welcome to Episode 106: Uncovering Narcissistic Family Dynamics
01:42 The Concept of a Perfect Family
04:08 The Impact of Dysfunctional Families on Children
11:49 The Role of the Enabler in Dysfunctional Families
12:13 Denise's Story: A Case Study
15:22 Understanding Family Roles and Dynamics
16:19 The Enabler: A Deep Dive
21:07 The Concept of an Old Soul in Psychology
22:01 The Bittersweet Compliment: Acknowledging Resilience and Sacrifice
22:21 The Hero: The Lead Actor in a Dysfunctional Family
23:50 The Golden Child: The Hero's Struggle
27:01 The Scapegoat: The Misunderstood Hero
29:58 The Lost Child: The Unseen and Unheard
36:31 The Mascot: The Family's Beacon of Light and Laughter
39:02 Reflections: Understanding the Complex Roles in Dysfunctional Families
43:24 The Journey Towards Healing and Change
44:48 Conclusion: Transcending the Roles and Writing Your Own Narrative
Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384
Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Tony Overbay, LMFT, discusses the impact of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents on their children. Drawing from a personal letter sent in by a listener, as well as clinical cases and research, Tony explores the hallmarks of narcissistic and emotionally immature parenting and how these behaviors shape children's emotional development and future relationships. This episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and adjustment in parenting to break harmful patterns and create secure attachments.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:10 Understanding Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents
00:27 Promoting the Host's Other Platforms and Activities
01:22 Introducing the Concept of Narcissist Immunity
02:12 Personal Story of Dealing with Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents
03:09 The Impact of Narcissistic Immunity on Personal Relationships
04:54 The Role of Emotional Maturity in Parenting
12:32 Understanding the Difference Between Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents
18:33 Introducing Carl's Story: Growing Up with a Narcissistic Mother and Emotionally Immature Father
22:29 The Impact of Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Parents on Carl's Life
26:33 The Role of Memory and Confabulation in Narcissistic and Emotionally Immature Behavior
28:14 The Fear of Abandonment in Narcissistic Relationships
28:46 Understanding Carl's Story: A Case Study
29:34 The Impact of Parental Expectations on Children
29:42 The Role of Emotional Regulation in Parenting
30:22 The Journey to Self-Acceptance: Carl's Story
30:58 The Power of Whole Object Relations in Therapy
32:08 The Influence of Childhood Experiences on Career Choices
35:27 The Impact of Narcissistic Parents on Children
44:13 The Struggle to Love the Real Child: A Parent's Challenge
47:54 The Emotional Consequences of Unmet Expectations
52:26 The Role of Empathy in Parenting
53:24 The Importance of Healthy Relationship Patterns
56:08 Conclusion: The Journey to Secure Attachment
Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384
Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Tony tackles the topic of emotional whiplash in narcissistic relationships. He explores how people can feel loved and appreciated one moment and then demeaned and dismissed the next by a narcissistic partner, leading to confusion and emotional turmoil. Using the story of Sarah and Mike, he unpacks this unpredictable and damaging dynamic. Tony also explains concepts like whole object relations and object constancy and how they become compromised in emotionally immature relationships. He finally provides a broad range of personal experiences from his listeners, further illustrating the impact of emotional whiplash in people's lives.
00:00 Introduction and Topic Presentation
00:23 Understanding Emotional Whiplash
00:37 Real-Life Example: Sarah and Mike's Story
04:26 Concepts of Whole Object Relations and Object Constancy
05:32 Narcissistic Emotional Whiplash
06:14 Impact of Emotional Whiplash on Relationships
07:05 Understanding Mike's Emotional Immaturity
12:18 Sarah's Struggles and Emotional Whiplash
16:49 Real-Life Examples of Emotional Whiplash
36:50 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384
Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
If you say “it” the right way, will the narcissist ever get “it” whatever “it” is? Tony introduces his 'Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense,' which helps maintain emotional stability and a sense of self in challenging relationships. Tony also critically analyzes a passage from the book 'Rethinking Narcissism' by Dr. Craig Malkin, where he finds a logical inconsistency that might give false hope to 'pathologically kind persons' who constantly try to induce 'aha moments' in their narcissistic partners. He also highlights the concept of differentiation of self and its importance in maintaining one’s emotional stability and sense of self in the face of challenging dynamics in relationships with narcissistic individuals.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:45 Understanding the Impact of Stress on Physical Health
02:36 Upcoming Topics and Listener Engagement
05:23 Exploring the Concept of Narcissism
06:09 Dissecting a Book Passage on Narcissism
08:47 The Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense
15:52 Understanding Healthy Ego and Pathological Defensive Narcissism
17:07 Analyzing a Book on Narcissism
22:58 Contradictions in Narcissism Advice
24:53 Understanding the Power of Self-Blame
25:30 The Pathologically Kind Person and Their Burden of Responsibility
26:54 The Struggle for Control in Relationships
28:16 Personal Story: The Impact of Powerlessness
34:42 The Importance of Differentiation in Relationships
36:51 The Dangers of Emotional Inconsistency
40:06 The Reality of Expressing Feelings to a Narcissist
47:11 The Role of Differentiation in Dealing with Narcissists
54:24 Conclusion: Knowing When to Engage and When to Step Back
Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384
Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ
Tony unpacks the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissistic or emotionally immature individual. Addressing a listener's question, Tony delves into the nature of developing children, labeling them as 'little narcissists' due to their inherently self-centered perspective. Tony identifies this as a critical stage of normal human development and explains how these traits vary distinctively in the adult narcissist. He also shares his four-pillar framework for effective communication - assuming good intentions, avoiding declaring the other person wrong, asking questions before commenting, and leaning in and staying present. He demonstrates how these can be applied in co-parenting scenarios.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:17 Reflecting on the Past and Looking Forward
00:58 Discussing Parenting and Co-Parenting
01:37 Understanding the Impact of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist
02:06 Exploring the Concept of 'Little Narcissists'
02:46 Case Study: Sarah's Experience with Divorce
04:03 The Importance of Communication in Parenting
05:07 Understanding the Impact of Parental Decisions on Children
06:01 The Role of Therapy in Understanding Childhood Experiences
06:15 Understanding the Self-Centered Nature of Children
07:08 The Impact of Parental Divorce on Children
09:26 Navigating Parenting Challenges with a Difficult Partner
11:47 Understanding the Concept of 'Little Narcissists' in Parenting
14:59 The Difference Between Healthy Self-Care and Emotionally Immature Selfishness
25:34 Understanding Egosyntonic and Ego-Dystonic Concepts in Parenting
28:44 Understanding Egosyntonic Narcissism and Emotional Maturity
29:14 Co-parenting with a Narcissistic or Emotionally Immature Partner
29:27 The Importance of Fostering Healthy Development in Children
30:30 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation
31:41 Applying the Four Pillars in Different Contexts
35:27 The Role of the Four Pillars in Co-parenting
57:53 The Impact of the Four Pillars on Children
01:00:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch
And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App.
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