The Imperfects

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

  • 1 hour 35 minutes
    Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues

    Its hard to imagine a life more remarkable, or as unique as that of Nathan Cavaleri.

    Nathan rose to fame as an 8 year old blues prodigy, regularly appearing on Aussie TV screens in the 90’s, but there is so much more to Nathan and his story than that. Whether it’s touring Australia with the likes of Jimmy Barnes; or touring America with blues Legend B.B. King; being signed to Michael Jackson’s label; or starring in a Baywatch spin off with David Hasselhoff; Nathan’s life from the outside, really does look perfect. However, as we all know, perfect isn't what this podcast is about.

    In this episode, Nathan talks about the challenges he has faced along the way. From his battle with Leukaemia as a child; to his overwhelming struggles with anxiety as an adult that resulted in him passing out on stage. Nathan is a wonderful person, a beautiful storyteller and he’s a real joy to listen to in this episode of the imperfects.


    To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/9XlJBw6fdq8 

    To see Nathan perform live & check out his tour dates follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Kgqz0x

    To book Nathan for speaking events, or exclusive performances, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44Z6IN0

    To follow Nathan on Twitch, where he live streams his creative process and regularly connects with  fans, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3yqDutY

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    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

     

     

     

     

     

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    26 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 18 minutes 9 seconds
    IMPERFIX: Believing Women with Tarang Chawla

    After his sister, Niki, was murdered by her ex-partner, Tarang Chawla made a decision - that he wouldn’t allow Niki to be remembered as just another statistic. Since then, Tarang has become an activist, working to reduce incidents of all forms of violence and abuse towards women in Australian.

    In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we reflect on a conversation we had with Tarang back in 2022. Here, Tarang discusses the importance of believing and supporting women when they disclose abuse, and understanding the role of power, control, and gender inequality in such scenarios. Tarang also emphasises the need to separate individuals from their potentially abusive behaviour, underscoring the collective responsibility of men in combating violence against women.

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    If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend calling the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

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    mperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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    24 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 58 minutes 8 seconds
    Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk

    Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.

    As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.

    In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.

    Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.

    To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l

    There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:

     

    🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

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    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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    19 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 10 minutes 57 seconds
    IMPERFIX: Dr. Kiran Martin - Leadership

    We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree.

    Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India.

    In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process.

    You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP.

    To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here https://link.chtbl.com/OjRxhECI

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    17 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 1 hour 11 minutes
    Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility

    All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related.

    Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle.

    When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen.

    In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more. 

    To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece

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    12 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 13 minutes 6 seconds
    IMPERFIX: Luke McGregor - Living With Anxiety

    In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we revisit our chat with Australian comedian Luke McGregor. Many of us live with Anxiety, Luke McGregor has for a lot of his life. For Luke, his anxiety became so overwhelming that it resulted in him having panic attacks on stage in front of audiences. In this clip Luke explains what anxiety looks like for him and what he now does to manage his anxiety, allowing him to continue to work and to get the most out of life.

    You can hear the original episode in full, with Luke McGregor, here https://link.chtbl.com/5Izyw-wD

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    10 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 1 hour 14 minutes
    James Clear - Down The Habit Hole

    Every Thursday over 3 million people want to hear what James Clear has to say. They do so in the form of his ‘3-2-1 newsletter’, one of most popular newsletters on the planet. In 2018 James Clear published his book Atomic Habits, a comprehensive, practical guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day. And that book has now sold over 15million copies. So you won’t be surprised to hear how excited we were to have Jame Clear as this weeks guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

    In this episode we learn about the importance of habits. Both the good and bad ones. We learn James’s four laws of behaviour change (make it obvious, make it attractive, make is easy, make it satisfying); the value of goals; we discuss Josh, Hugh and Ryan’s own personal history with habit setting; and how small incremental changes to your habits can set you on the path to achieving your goals and ultimately becoming the kind of person you would like to be.

    You can purchase James Clear’s best selling book - Atomic Habits here, https://bit.ly/3UKx0in.

    If you would like to subscribe to James’ 3-2-1 Newsletter, click here, https://bit.ly/44swR6o.

    And you can find James’ habit tracking app ‘Atoms’ here https://bit.ly/4b1Pq41

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    5 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 20 minutes 21 seconds
    IMPERFIX: Johann Hari & Josh Talk About Addiction

    In this episode of the IMPERFIX we revisit one of our many conversations with Johann Hari. However this IMPERFIX starts with Josh, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast, when he felt compelled to share a realisation, that he had been addicted to the internet for much of his life. Johann’s response was as always, heartfelt, engaging, hopeful and empowering. And we thought it was worth revisiting.

    You can hear the episode in full here. https://link.chtbl.com/iusc6YA6

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    3 May 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 1 hour 32 minutes
    Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong

    What would you do if a teacher said you couldn’t achieve your dreams because your hair and skin colour weren’t acceptable?

    When this became Pallavi Sharda’s reality she moved to India by herself and became the first Australian women to lead a Bollywood movie

    In this episode we meet Pallavi Sharda, a powerhouse actress, who grew up in Taylors Lakes, a suburban area in Melbourne’s west, who went on to not only clock Bollywood, but see tremendous success on screens in Australia, the UK and the US.

    Pallavi is a VERY impressive person, but she grew up believing that she needed to be exceptional in order to have value in Australia. From living with racism as a second generation immigrant, to navigating Bollywood as a foreigner, Pallavi has been on a search for belonging, carving out a place in the world for herself & all future generations of ‘multi-hyphenated’ Australians.

    To listen to the Audible Original podcast, Sleep Sound with Pallavi Sharda**,** follow this link: *https://bit.ly/4bhkeNV*

    To watch Pallavi in 'Wedding Season' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UBUdDh

    To watch Pallavi in the Australian series, 'The Twelve', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dins5j

    To watch Pallavi in 'The One' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UE4GhL

     

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    28 April 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 22 minutes 27 seconds
    IMPERFIX: How to Live Again, with Sam Willoughby.

    In this week’s ImperFIX, we revisit an episode from season 2 with Australian BMX racer, world champion and Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him a tetraplegic.

    In this snippet, we hear Sam describe the bike accident that lead to his injury and his incredible journey of recovery. Most importantly, he shares how meeting NASCAR crew chief, Booty Barker, inspired him to live life again.

    You can hear the full chat with Sam Willoughby here https://link.chtbl.com/GzlSMclz.

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    26 April 2024, 8:00 pm
  • 1 hour 1 minute
    Dr Emily - Joy Decision

    Have you ever felt so elated, that in that very moment, you felt yourself and the world around you were in perfect harmony? That feeling is joy! 

    But for many of us, ‘joy’ can seem elusive, almost impossible to experience, or an emotion that we feel we just don’t have time for. And for some of us, it may feel like we have lost the ability to experience joy altogether. 

    In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Em explores the experience of Joy. What is it and how we can tap into it. We learn how mobilising joy is and how infectious and connecting it can be. 

    Because as Dr Em explains, we are often surrounded by joy in our everyday lives,  but don’t pause long enough to see it. 

    This is an incredibly powerful, uplifting conversation, but it may be difficult to listen to if you're currently experiencing hardship or trauma. If you'd like to skip this one, we encourage you to come back when you're ready.

    To watch this episode on youtube follow this link: https://youtu.be/JPJ5UXm-5LI

    To listen to Gina Chick’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick.

    To hear Sean Turnell’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UaXmJ3

    To stream Inside Out on Disney+ follow this link https://bit.ly/49C7gc7

    To read the Betoota Advocate follow this link https://bit.ly/3JkO3kC, or you can read The Onion here https://bit.ly/3U1SUfg.

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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    21 April 2024, 8:00 pm
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