The Alli Worthington Show

The Alli Worthington Show

Alli Worthington

35 minutes 20 seconds

Navigating Friendships in the Digital Age with Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston
Join us today for an engaging talk with Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston, recognized experts on friendships. They share their wisdom on navigating the highs and lows of relationships, recognizing toxic behaviors, and fostering healthier connections. Known for their popular Sister, I Am with You page, and their bestseller, Amy and Jess provide practical advice to enrich your social life in our latest discussion.

In their latest book, Here For It (the GOOD, the BAD, and the QUESO): The How-To Guide for Deepening Your Friendships and Doing Life Together, they offer strategies to strengthen bonds and highlight the importance of love and open communication in friendships. Our conversation covers essential tips on dealing with common friendship challenges and taking the initiative to form new relationships. Tune in for their expert advice on improving and deepening your friendships.

Join Amy, Jess, and I as we talk about:
- 5:58 video Red flags for toxic friendships
- 17:22 video Common friendship challenges
- 21:47 video The importance of going for it when making friends
- 23:18 video Amy’s & Jess’ best friendship advice
Favorite quotes:
- 9:22 video - “If there aren’t any friends in your life right now that are life-giving then take that energy for meeting and investing in new people.”
- 9:59 video - “To develop good and deep friendships with anyone is going to take time.”
- 19:45 video - “Go into difficult conversations like Ted Lasso. Be curious and don’t assume you know what their motive is.”
- 22:48 video - “You have the magic and the power. You just have to believe it and go out there, live your life, and go after what you want. If a friendship is something that you want, go after it. Don’t waste wishing someone else would do these things that you are capable of doing.”
- 24:14 video - “It is actually a gift when you reach out to someone and pursue them in friendship whether they receive the gift and whether they have time for the gift or not.”
Coaching this week:

Use Self-Awareness to Take Action (39:15 video)

In coaching this week, I share how self-awareness alone won't lead to progress; it must be combined with action to achieve goals and gain momentum. To move forward, you can identify one manageable step you can take toward your objectives, initiating a vital shift from insight to real change.

Recommendation: (43:00 video)

This week, I share a must-read book about maximizing longevity for your overall health and wellness.

Links to great things we discussed:
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xo,

Alli
29 April 2024, 10:00 am
48 minutes 27 seconds

Navigating Faith Through Uncertain Times with Sarah Bessey
This episode shares a great conversation with one of my favorite writers in the whole world, Sarah Bessey. Today, we are diving into an important topic that I don't think gets covered enough: what do you do when you feel like you're in the wilderness of your faith. If you're struggling with doubts about your faith, or supporting someone who is, you're not alone. Sarah's wisdom, empathy, and thoughtfulness are going to be a blessing to you like it has been to me.

Sarah Bessey has authored or edited five books, including the New York Times bestseller A Rhythm of Prayer. She also leads Evolving Faith, a conference and online community for people who are reimagining their faith with hope. In her new book, Field Notes for the Wilderness: Practices for an Evolving Faith, Sarah becomes a shepherd for our curiosity, giving us a table for our questions, tools to cultivate what we crave, and a blessing for what was, even as we leave it behind.

Join Sarah and I as we talk about:
- Examining our faith
- What it means to be in a season of reimagining our faith
- When you are going through a season in the wilderness
- Healing through hard hurtful situations
- Learning what you are for and how to love the world
Favorite quotes:
- “You can’t wander away from God’s love. You can get a few things wrong and still enjoy the goodness and friendship of God. This is not a thing that is jeopardy.” (18:15)
- “In the midst of all of that, you can’t outwander God and you can’t run away from the run of God. That is still the thing that is holding everything including the wilderness inside you.” (20:56)
- “It is not enough to just be against things. I need to begin to name what I am for.” (21:52)
- “One of the other ones that was really important for me was learning how to love the world again.” (23:04)
- “God is hiding in plain sight in our everyday walking around lives.” (24:00)
Coaching this week: Cultivate Self-Awareness This week in coaching, I discussed how Self-awareness means paying attention to our feelings and reactions, especially in stressful situations. By noticing where we feel tension in our bodies and understanding our wants and needs, we can learn to respond to challenges with more wisdom and grace instead of numbing out and leading ourselves to burnout.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
22 April 2024, 10:00 am
43 minutes 38 seconds

Tired of Being Tired: Finding Rest in a Busy World with Jess Connolly
You are in the right place today if you are tired. I mean... Who isn’t tired, right? I'm so excited to talk about ways to beat exhaustion in today's hectic world. My guest, Jess Connolly, wrote the book Tired of Being Tired: Receive God's Realistic Rest for Your Soul-Deep Exhaustion, and she's here to help us tackle this common struggle. Jess challenges the idea that we need permission to rest and stresses the importance of protecting our peace for lasting well-being.

Our conversation will dive into the myths that keep us from resting and provide practical steps for change. I'm eager to learn how to manage exhaustion and create sustainable rest through small, daily shifts.

Join Jess and I as we talk about:
- What can we do about our exhaustion and tiredness
- Lies we have been taught that keep us from resting
- We don’t need permission to rest
- Protecting our peace
- Small daily shifts for sustainable rest
Favorite quotes:
- (8:55 Audio) - “I don’t know many women in varying life stages who aren’t tired. If they have small kids, they are tired; if they are empty nesters, they are tired; if they are in a season of building their career, they are tired. The college girls I know are tired. There is a collective issue.”
- (10:48 Audio) - “We believe all kinds of broken things about our fatigue and so our beliefs really have to change first.
- (14:29 Audio) - “Rest is also a commandment. In the actual commandments, He has given us this commandment to rest our bodies not because He wants it from us, not because He wants us to perform, but because He loves us and wants it for us.”
- (20:40 Audio)—“We always gravitate towards the big sweeping changes, but I would massively encourage people to start with the small stuff; it gives you the bravery for the big stuff.”
Coaching this week: What is Self-Awareness & Why You Should Care About It (34:57 audio)

In coaching today, we talk about how goal setting often neglects the essential first step of self-awareness. By observing our bodies, thoughts, and emotions without judgment, we gain valuable insights into our triggers and patterns, allowing us to set goals that align with our true needs and create effective strategies to overcome challenges.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
15 April 2024, 10:00 am
31 minutes 43 seconds

Hard Questions of Faith: Wrestling with Doubt and Belief with J.D. Greear
Today's show welcomes the insightful J.D. Greear, a pastor, author, and podcast host. We'll explore challenging faith questions that many grapple with or may encounter when interacting with others. This episode promises to be concise yet impactful for anyone seeking answers or desiring to support loved ones on their spiritual journey.

J.D. Greear's book, 12 Truths & a Lie: Answers to Life's Biggest Questions, guides our discussion. We'll address prevalent lies we may believe, how God transforms doubt, the reasons behind suffering, unanswered prayers, and the persistent struggle with anxiety despite faith.

Join J.D. and I as we talk about:
- The big lie we believe
- God can use our doubts
- If God is in control, why is there suffering
- Why isn’t God answering my prayers
- If I am a believer, why do I still struggle with anxiety
Favorite quotes:
- (4:08)- “The majority of our Bible is written by people who are in a season of doubt whether we are talking about the Old Testament or New Testament.”
- (5:03)- “Doubt is often divinely used as a way of drawing you deeper into who God is and the majesty and mystery of who he is.”
- (10:59) - “One of the things you find is when you are praying you are praying to a God who is not only infinite in power and infinite in love. He is also infinite in wisdom.”
- (11:44)—“Sometimes, He says be persistent and keep asking and knocking, but sometimes, He says he heard you. He is always answering, but the answer right now is: I know more than you, and I am going to do something better than what you’re asking.”
Coaching this week: (21:14)

Simple Things That Give You the Most ROI

Today in coaching, I share a list of easy-to-do things that can have a huge impact on your daily life. Small, consistent changes can bring amazing results over time, and I challenge you to choose a few simple habits from my list to improve your health, relationships, and future.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
8 April 2024, 10:00 am
33 minutes 1 second

Marriage and Happiness: What the Latest Research Shows with Brad Wilcox
Today's show is part of the insightful "Society Check-In" mini-series. This episode is all about understanding what's happening in our culture, how we should educate ourselves, and how that knowledge translates to effective leadership everywhere, from the workplace to our own families.

This episode is a must-share! I'm joined by expert Brad Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project, to talk about the research on families and marriage. His new book, Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization, explains how the current erosion of strong families is at the root of many of our society's problems, and it traces this decline back to anti-family influences in entertainment, politics, media, education, and big business.

Join Brad and I as we talk about:
- What types of people are the happiest
- How marriage affects our happiness
- Four groups that are forging strong marriages
- Ways our community can support struggling marriages
- The family first model
- Teaching our kids the success sequence
Favorite quotes:
- 9:27 audio - “There are four groups today, Asian Americans, religious Americans, college-educated Americans, and conservative Americans who are more likely to be married today and either more likely to be happily married or stably married.”
- 10:18 audio - “For most couples, especially those with kids, having a reliable breadwinner in the picture is key.”
- 15:26 audio- “Serving others and being there for others actually makes us happier.”
- 16:57 audio - “In general, we see that both men and women who are married parents are the happiest Americans today and that is because our kids bring us not just stress and drama but also a lot of meaning and joy.”
- 18:25 audio - “For young adults who do those three things, get a high school degree, are working, and get married their odds of being poor as they head into their late 20s and 30s are just 3 and their odds of being in the middle class or higher are 86%.”
- 22:04 audio - “Couples that are embedded in a church community or some kind of synagogue or temple are more likely to avoid divorce because they are surrounded by people who tend to prioritize marriage and family.”
Coaching this week: How to Make Progress (Audio 23:47)

In today’s coaching session, I talked about how necessary it is to take a small step forward, even without perfect clarity. What will inaction cost you? I also discussed some quick ways to commit to taking action—God will guide you as you go.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)xo,

Alli
1 April 2024, 10:00 am
30 minutes 11 seconds

The Toxicity of Luxury Beliefs with Rob Henderson
Today's show is part of our two-episode "Society Check-In" mini-series. We'll dive into current societal trends with the help of experts and researchers, exploring essential knowledge and necessary actions. I'm thrilled to welcome Rob Henderson to the show. His upcoming book and unique societal insights, including the groundbreaking concept of "luxury beliefs", make him a vital voice for parents seeking to understand current cultural messaging.

Rob Henderson boasts an impressive background, including service in the US Air Force and degrees from Yale and Cambridge. His writing has graced publications like the New York Times and Wall Street Journal. Henderson's debut book, Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class explores his experiences in foster care, military service, education at elite universities, and the development of the "luxury beliefs" concept. This concept examines how ideas held by the upper class may inadvertently harm those less privileged.

Join Rob and I as we talk about:
- What are luxury beliefs
- How luxury beliefs affect our society
- Recommendation for working through luxury beliefs
Favorite quotes:

(Audio 9:13)- “Luxury beliefs are ideas and opinions that confer status on the upper class while inflicting costs on the lower classes. A core feature of a luxury belief is that the believer is sheltered from the consequences of his or her beliefs.”

(Audio 13:39) “The vast majority of Americans in general regardless of income were very much opposed to defund policies but the elites in many cities were in favor of it and as a result, there were defund policies in many cities in the country. Homicide rates increased and violent crime rates increased, and the targets were primarily

(Audio 14:03)- “Compared to a middle-class American, Americans in the lowest income category are 7 times more likely to be victims of robbery and aggravated assault, 20 times more likely to be victims of sexual assault, and far more likely to be victims of homicide.”

Coaching this week: Creating vs. Allowing (24:59 audio)

This week's coaching helps you take charge! We'll explore how you can reframe situations to see if you're shaping your reality or passively accepting it. Plus, you'll get a simple trick for reframing your perspective, all while partnering with your faith.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
25 March 2024, 10:00 am
38 minutes 28 seconds

How to Identify Safe People, Not Numbing Out, and Untangling Emotions with Jennie Allen
Welcome to the show! Today, I'm thrilled to be joined by Jennie Allen, founder of IF: Gathering, bestselling author, and host of the Made for This podcast. We're diving into the heart of emotional health as Jennie shares insights from her new book, "Untangle Your Emotions: Naming What You Feel and Knowing What to Do About It." Both Jennie and I experienced strong emotional reactions to the pandemic, and we'll discuss how we've invested in our well-being since then.

Together, we'll explore the purpose of our emotions and healthy ways to process them. We'll discuss how the pandemic impacted our emotional health, strategies for overcoming numbing behaviors, and the vital role of community in healing. Jennie will emphasize that our emotions don't have to be frightening, and she'll help us identify safe individuals with whom to share our emotional journeys. Get ready for an empowering and insightful conversation!

Join Jennie and I as we talk about:
- The purpose of our emotions and how to deal with them in a healthy way
- How the pandemic affected our emotional health
- What to do when you catch yourself numbing out
- The importance of not being alone and having a community for our healing
- Our emotions don’t have to be scary
- Identifying safe people to share our emotions with
Favorite quotes:

(8:17 Audio) - “Emotions are very valid. They are telling us something. They are signals and can be very trustworthy at times.”

(8:41 Audio) - “Emotions are good. They are not bad, and they are not neutral. They are good gifts from God given to us to process a very messy world, to connect us to God in a deeper way, and to connect us to each other in a deeper way. “

(20:46 Audio) - “As you begin to heal these parts of you that need healing, which God can do and you can do best in community with other people, it really does change everything.”

(25:47 Audio) - “We all know that emotions can drive us off a cliff so there have to be choices around them. You can’t just feel it. You have to decide what am I going to do about this feeling.”

(28:55 Audio) - “You just have to have a few people that commit to each other and decide to do this life together.”

Coaching this week:

The Real Truth About Confidence (32:57 Audio)

In coaching this week, I shared that confidence isn't built through wishful thinking; it comes from taking consistent action and celebrating your successes. With each challenge you overcome, you become stronger, more adaptable, and capable of achieving even greater things.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
18 March 2024, 10:00 am
40 minutes 4 seconds

How to Make Big Decisions with Emily P. Freeman
Welcome to the show! If you're struggling with big decisions, you're in the right place. Today, I'm thrilled to have my long-time friend, Emily P. Freeman. She's a bestselling author and creator of The Next Right Thing podcast, and her wisdom on decision-making is incredible. Today, we are tackling how to make big decisions in life, and I think you’ll love it!

Emily P. Freeman is a bestselling author of five books. As a spiritual director, workshop leader, and host of The Next Right Thing podcast, her most important work is to help create soul space and offer spiritual companionship and discernment for anyone struggling with decision fatigue.

Emily's new book, How to Walk Into a Room, is about knowing when to stick with a situation and when it's time to move on. It's a guide for living a life where you thrive, not just get by. Let's dive in!

Join Emily and I as we talk about:
- (11:50 audio )The difference between readiness and timeliness, finding clarity for when it’s time to go, but you don’t feel ready
- (13:00 audio) Questions to ask when discerning if it is time to stay or go
- (17:05 audio) Using the point-and-call system for clarity
- (22:49 audio) Discerning the difference between true peace and discomfort avoidance
- (27:00 audio) Walking out of a room and into something new
- (31:50) Being your own friend
Favorite quotes:

(8:04) - “There are a lot of us who have found ourselves in a lot of rooms. Many of those rooms we have prayed for, longed for, and fought really hard to get into. And then something shifts. Maybe something shifts in the room or something shifts in us. It doesn’t have to mean something went wrong. It just means something has changed or is changing.”

(12:10) - “A lot of the tension we have when it comes to deciding to leave or stay it’s because readiness and timeliness don’t line up. So we have to make decisions the best we can with the information we currently have with where we are right now about what is my next right thing here.”

(15:57) - “Just because it is not the right room for me anymore doesn’t mean I chose wrong in the first place and doesn’t mean I made a big mistake. It just means I am growing, and changing, and life is different now.”

(21:59) - “When you leave a room you don’t walk into nothing. Something new is always waiting. And you don’t walk alone, God always goes with you.”

(22:22) - “It can be so scary to change your mind, to change your place, or change your way of being in a space but it is a healthy human rhythm.”

Coaching this week: Taking Risks (34:06)

This week, I urge you to take action on your dreams and goals because staying stagnant is the true risk in life. Don't be afraid of failure; use it as a stepping stone and keep pushing forward to live a full and vibrant life.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
11 March 2024, 10:00 am
36 minutes 41 seconds

How Your Boundaries Can Lead to Blessings with Sara Hagerty
Welcome to the show today! I am so happy you are here. We are in our “Living Well” series talking about all aspects of living well, and staying emotionally and spiritually healthy, no matter what craziness the world serves up.

Today Sarah Hagerty is joining us to talk about the unexpected gift of limitations. Now you know me, Enneagram seven, more is always better, but I feel this topic, the gift of our limitations so deeply because it's how God develops us so often and how he points us to where he wants us to focus in life. Sarah is absolutely brilliant and you are going to love her.

Sara Hagerty is a bestselling author and Jesus follower. She has written four books, including her most recent release, The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries

As a writer, speaker, and mother of seven, Sara Hagerty knows what limitations feel like. Yet she has also seen how the boundaries of our life circumstances can bring about growth and satisfaction we'd never experience otherwise.

Join Sara and I as we talk about:
- How our limitations can be blessings
- Identifying and grieving our limitations
- How to surrender to our limitations in a healthy way
- The effects of social media on our emotional health
- How to live in the boundaries God has given us in a healthy way
Favorite quotes:

7:10: “Comparison puts us constantly noticing our limitations against someone else who doesn’t have them.”

8:39: “There are all different flavors that women experience, but the reality is every day we wake up to our limitations.”

11:03: “We often don’t actually name our limitations, so there is an ache underneath our limits that needs to be grieved with God. But we live at such a surface level where we don’t name our limits, so we can’t grieve them. “

14:11: “There is something significant about noticing ourselves because then we can actually have something we can bring to God.”

23:29: “The “sigh of life” is surrender and a sigh that comes after the grief of our limitations.”

Coaching this week:

How to Deal with Toxic People (29:21 Audio)

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
4 March 2024, 11:00 am
44 minutes 25 seconds

The Truth About Navigating Changes in Life with Andi Andrew
Today, we are going to learn from my friend, Andi Andrew. She will help us understand how to face change bravely, navigate it properly, and come through stronger on the other side.

Andi Andrew hosts the Coffee with Andi podcast and has written four books: She Is Free, Fake or Follower, and Friendship--It's Complicated. She is a heartfelt preacher who loves to see the reality of the gospel worked out in everyday lives.

In this episode, Andi shares insights from her new book, Braving Change: Release the Past, Welcome Growth, and Trust Where God is Leading You, and teaches us that Change is a powerful teacher, shaping and molding us more into the likeness of Christ as we let it do its work.

Join Andi and I as we talk about:
- Why Andi wrote her new book about change
- Grief with change
- Moving through change in a healthy way
- How to move forward after grieving
- Developing a game plan for recovery after change
Favorite quotes:

17:47 - “There is a reason why the mourning process in the Bible was so wild and why they would put sackcloth and ashes and wail and mourn. They knew they needed to move it out of their bodies so that they could move forward in life.”

25:05 - “Even taking those little moments that seem impractical like, I don’t have time for this right now. Just let yourself cry for a few minutes and then move on.”

23:08 - “For any of us that are navigating anything, any new strategy for your future, your life, or your job, you need a game plan to recover from loss and to recover from the shifts and changes you just walked through.”

35:53 - “Just slow yourself down, stop grasping, and ask the Lord what do I need and God what do you want to give me? I know that if you ask the Lord, He will actually tell you, show you, and remind you in Scripture. But then don’t just hear him, do it!”

Coaching this week:

How to Increase Your Odds for Success in Life (37:49)

We already know to stay close to Jesus and to not self sabotage. But, today, I want to share the secret of how to increase your chances of good things to happen for you.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
26 February 2024, 11:00 am
35 minutes 45 seconds

The Truth About Starting and Scaling Your Business with Ryan Deiss
This week, I talk to Ryan Deiss about how to start and scale your business. Ryan is a serial entrepreneur, author, and investor. He is the Founder and CEO of The Scalable Company, DigitalMarketer.com, and a Founding Partner at Scalable Equity.

Ryan shares insights from his new book, Get Scalable: The Operating System Your Business Needs to Boost Sales, Increase Profits, and Run Without You, about building a business that thrives without your constant input.

Join Ryan and I as we talk about:
- Different ways we self-sabotage and why
- Adopting a position of service
- Three myths of starting a small business
- Trends in business - What’s working and what’s not working
- What is the Founder’s Curse, and how does it negatively affect our business
- First steps for scaling your business
Favorite quotes:

6:42 - “You can start a company. It can fail. That doesn’t make you a failure. You can just do another one.”

6:59 - “Don’t worry about your logo or all this other stuff, just go sell somebody something.”

7:35 - “The beautiful thing about business is you have the opportunity to self-sabotage at multiple points along the way.”

9:34 - “Adopt the position of service, and above all else, stop defining your business based on the products you sell or how you sell them. Define your business based on the people you serve.”

12:09 - “You don’t need a bunch of money to get started. You don’t really even need a product to get started, and you don’t need a brand to get started.”

25:36 - “We don’t start with our goals. We don’t start by documenting everything. We start by visualizing the value creation process then you can do all the other stuff.”

Coaching this week: When to Make Your First Hire (31:49)

I share my easy process to help you know when to make that first hire. Here’s a hint: it has to do with your time and your money and how much of each you currently have.

Links to great things we discussed:
Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli
19 February 2024, 11:00 am
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