When something really hard hits you around the holidays, you need both help and hope. Today’s mini-episode delivers both, and adds a spark of joy to ground you as many times as you need it as you reflect, heal, and honor the harder days and moments in your life and what they mean. Join Christa here for three important tips during or after a dark night of the soul. Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/L7wyHt8ORWo

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"The way to unity is not through uniformity, it is through understanding and loving the other." - Lore Ferguson Wilbert. Whether it’s your spouse, family member, or your neighbor, it’s not always easy loving someone with differences. Yet chemistry is not sameness, and today we are grateful to have Christianity Today book award author Lore Ferguson, 9 (9w8 and 6w5 pairing), Wilbert on the pod today to encourage us in a Christ-like loving of the other - whatever that means - in our lives. We also enjoy talking about Lore's beautiful book, The Understory as she helps us to see the parallels of Christian faith in the resilience and rootedness found in the minutiae and cycles of the natural world. May we truly find the courage to step into the community and love those who believe differently as we learn from Lore here on today's show. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NmkQQHVh-bI

More about Lore:

Lore Ferguson Wilbert is an award winning writer, thinker, learner, and author of the books, The Understory, A Curious Faith and Handle With Care. She has written for She Reads Truth, Christianity Today, and more, as well as her own site, lorewilbert.com. She has a Masters in Spiritual Formation and Leadership and loves to think and write about the intersection of human formation and the gritty stuff of earth. You can find Lore on Instagram @lorewilbert. She lives with her husband Nate and their pups, Harper and Rilke, in southeastern Pennsylvania. She really has read all the books on her shelves.

Find Lori’s community of Substack members over at: https://lorewilbert.com/

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The busy times over the holidays can truly take a person -- and a marriage -- down to an unhealthy level if they're not intentionally stepping into life with faithful steps. Don't miss this refreshing take on how the Enneagram Instincts/Desires can help you fall into rhythms of being present to rest, loving, and giving this season and beyond in this E + M Mini-Episode!

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The Three Desire: A Deeper Dive w/The Enneagram Instincts in Relationship is Here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/discovering-your-desires-together/p/the-three-desires-a-deeper-dive-wthe-enneagram-instincts-in-relationship

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Advent begins in the dark, and at this weary time of year, we truly need reminders of what we can hope for and how we can remain with one another, despite the hardest hurts that make us want to draw away. As we do so, we're joined by the exquisitely talented, award-winning writer and senior editor at Harper One, Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4 (4-8 pairing) as she talks about her new book that addresses finding light even after darkness, Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway. Today we get to process what Advent means as we enter the season, but moreover, we get to hear Stephanie‘s rich stories about the ways that she has encountered finiteness and loss and also opened herself up to joy even after harrowing experiences of both live births and pregnancy losses during the Advent season. During Advent and beyond, do not miss this journey of sharing our hopes and desires to cope after our losses. Join us for a beautiful and hope-filled episode right here. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZYIyTVmdx8k

More About Stephanie:

Stephanie Duncan Smith is a writer and senior editor at HarperOne who has spent her career developing award-winning and bestselling authors. She is the creator of Slant Letter, a bestselling Substack email newsletter for writers looking to deepen their craft and do it in style. Duncan Smith completed her master’s in theology at Western Theological Seminary, where she was the winner of the Frederick Buechner Prize for Excellence in Writing. She lives with her husband, Zach, a professor, and their two children in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania.

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Get Stephanie‘s brand new title here this Advent: Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway : https://a.co/d/f5w6z5Z

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Often couples have a mismatch in their sexual desire, and sometimes that desire is stronger in the females, not just the males, contrary to popular belief, and the reasons are complex, no matter the case for either spouse. Whatever your story is, today's episode reminds you of ways you can discuss and work through your mismatched sexual desire as you walk through through this busy season with beautiful connection as well. Also, make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our deals using the code HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com!

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Relational triggers only get worse when we're not aware of our focus of attention and blind spots. Today we're grateful to have world-renowned psychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel, MD, (Harvard Medical School, Author of the NYT Best-Selling The Whole Brained Child) on the Enneagram & Marriage podcast to help us process relational triggers of each type and how to create a healthy window of tolerance as we walk through the nine patterns of development today. Dr. Siegel, MD is one of the foremost experts on neurobiology in the world, including being the scientist who coined the terms, "window of tolerance," and "interpersonal neurobiology." His long-awaited newest book, "Personality and Wholeness in Therapy: Integrating 9 Patterns of Developmental Pathways in Clinical Practice" is a gift to therapists and lay scholars and listeners alike. Don't miss Dr. Dan Siegal's riveting research and practical tips for us all on the E + M pod today!

Daniel J. Siegel received his medical degree from Harvard University and completed his postgraduate medical education at UCLA with training in pediatrics and child, adolescent and adult psychiatry. He served as a National Institute of Mental Health Research Fellow at UCLA, studying family interactions with an emphasis on how attachment experiences influence emotions, behavior, autobiographical memory and narrative. Dr. Siegel, MD has lectured for the King of Thailand, Pope John Paul II, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Google University, and London’s Royal Society of Arts (RSA). He lives in Southern California with his family.

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Communication between partners can get very sticky around the holidays so today we’re taking some time to allow you a chance to refresh and review the best ways to communicate as partners of each type. It won’t be easy at times, but these E + M quick tips will help you to have a beautiful glow all season long. Listen now to add a little sparkle of kindness into your season! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/hzAwqYyn6DM

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We see others' shadows readily, but seeing and releasing our own shadows is where the real change begins, even as we learn to move beyond our protective but maladaptive shadow responses. Today we talk with master Enneagram teacher Leslie Hershberger about how to release your most polarizing dynamics as we walk through each and every personality type. This is a deeper dive Enneagram-specific master training you don’t want to miss! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/lNdEtSaf3Gc

Find Leslie's truly life-changing work and courses here: https://lesliehershberger.com/

More about Leslie:

Leslie has been working with the 3 centered Enneagram for over 20 years as a consultant, master teacher, coach, spiritual guide, facilitator and mentor. I am certified in the Narrative Tradition, certified in the Enneagram in Business, have served as a mentor for students and teachers in training, keynoted at conferences, have served on the board of the International Enneagram Association and I’m former editor of Nine Points Magazine, the online magazine of the IEA.

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With the holidays around the corner, it’s time to get refreshed and to get into better habit-building for you and your marriage and family. Today Christa takes you through five areas for better habit-building that you can work on individually or together with us! Take a moment to set some Atomic Habits around fitness, food, communication, marriage, and tech this season. Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/xCGF7tIgppo

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Modern-day kids have so much to contend with between technology, AI, and also just learning who they’re becoming as they rapidly change. As a parent, you want to give them great tools to learn about who they are and who they’re becoming and the Enneagram offers such a big help with this! Join us in a pivotal conversation about the Enneagram and kids right here! Whether you're trekking through this stage now or just want to have fun with us as you look out at what's on the horizon, your kids and you deserve the very best together as you help build their gifts with intention. To help you, we have Enneagram expert and teen expert Ainsley Britain (Wild Confidence Podcast), Enneagram 2 (2-3 Pairing), and author of the Enneagram For Teens as well as an afterword w/Hannah Hardin, Enneagram 4, an Enneagram teen talking with Christa about how the Enneagram will help you and your developing kids as well as some cautionary reminders! We even share together more intimately as well, with a few snippets from Christa’s mom's journal from when she was parenting Christa as a teen as well (post-audio episode only). This is a fun episode sprinkled with wisdom and encouragement for you and your future or current family and community! Don't miss it or Ainsley's awesome book for teens, their families, and their mentors! Watch YouTube! https://youtu.be/qjWL2kIJR48

Find Ainsey's Britain's website here: https://www.ainsleybritain.com/

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Find Ainsley on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ainsleyb/?hl=en and also at her podcast page here!

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Also mentioned on the podcast: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt https://a.co/d/fWuedCc

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Maintaining peace is hard on a week when the world feels a bit less stable during election week. Here are three tips for maintaining peace as you learn to focus on the here and on what you can do to take your peace back. Listen to this mini-episode here! Watch on YouTube here! https://youtu.be/cYNPrvfP9I0

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