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When you’ve been betrayed, it can be instinctive to distance yourself from sexuality altogether.

But what we need most in the aftermath of betrayal is deeper strength within ourselves, and this internal strength is developed by coming to peace with ourselves, including our bodies and our sexual nature.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Ashlyn Mitchell of the This Is Ashlynn podcast to discuss the obstacles and anxieties that many women face as they move forward in the aftermath of betrayal and what resources are available to them as they do the difficult work of understanding and reclaiming their relationship to themselves and their sexuality.

You can watch the recording of this episode HERE. 

**Join us for the Enhancing Sexual Intimacy Webinar -- click HERE for ticket information**

During this Q&A Discussion, Dr. Jennifer addresses questions from her audience about various issues related to low sexual desire (particularly in men). She highlights the importance of understanding the biological, psychological, and relational factors that impact sexual desire and offers input on how couples can address their sexual anxieties and improve their sexual dynamic. If you would like to learn more about how to address the difficulties in your sexual relationship, consider enrolling in the Enhancing Sexual Intimacy course or joining us for the upcoming Enhancing Sexual Intimacy webinar.

You can watch the recording of this discussion HERE.

The ability to self-author is a crucial developmental milestone—one that many adults struggle to achieve. To self-author is to develop an inner moral compass. It is to develop the self-trust that can guide us in making principled, honest choices in the face of life’s challenges without dependency on others to tell us who to be or what is true. 

The ability to self-author is important in being able to create solid, close relationships.  And because it matters for our happiness, it is especially important for parents to foster this ability in their teenagers. 

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Christi Davis [host of the “Liking the People You Love” podcast] to explore how parents can support teens through their turbulent transition into adulthood. They discuss how parents can create thoughtful, value-based guidelines around sexuality—particularly on topics like modesty and masturbation—that prioritize the child’s well-being. And how parents can foster their teen’s ability to make self-directed decisions driven by their highest values rather than fear, shame, or conformity.

Our bodies are incredibly wise.

Our limbic system in particular is very effective at keeping us safe from immediate danger. But while this protective mechanism serves an important purpose, it can also create lasting challenges when it remains vigilant and intrusive long after the real danger has passed.

For those who have experienced sexual trauma, a common and intuitive response is to distance ourselves from sexuality or even shut it down entirely to protect against further harm. While this reaction is understandable, it can create a deep disconnection from a core part of who we are. This disconnection not only disrupts our sense of peace and ease in our own bodies, it can also impact our capacity for intimacy–both emotional and sexual.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers audience questions about the impact of sexual trauma on relationships and well-being. She explores the body’s self-protective response, the impact on our sense of self, and how those who have experienced trauma can move toward healing.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

"Living at the Bottom of the Ocean" [Dr. Schnarch's final manuscript]
* The Body Keeps the Score
* Brain Talk
* Subscribe to Room for Two!

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**Join us on Friday, November 15th at 11 AM MT for a FREE Facebook Live on Sexuality After Trauma | Click HERE to Reserve Your Spot!**

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jen Banks and Sarah Ziroll of The Best Birth Podcast to discuss the impact that pregnancy and postpartum can have on sexual desire and intimacy. This period of intense emotional and physical transition can often be challenging, but Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches how with self-regulation, compassion, and understanding couples can actually use this period as an opportunity to grow closer together.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* The importance of self-compassion

* What resentment is trying to teach us

* Body image during pregnancy

You can watch the recording of this conversation on our YouTube channel HERE.

When you or your loved ones' relationship to faith shifts, it can feel as though the world is collapsing beneath you.

Because, in a very real sense, it is. 

When we are early in our development (which most of us are) our primary concern is feeling a sense of safety and then belonging in our social groups. So when our thinking no longer aligns with our faith community (or family, or spouse), it pushes on the very question of who we are and whether or not we still belong in our group.

These are uncomfortable questions but ones that are fundamental to our moral and spiritual growth.

When we are courageous enough to sort out our own relationship with faith and God we can forge a better internal compass and a deeper relationship to our own integrity. It is in our willingness to live honestly, even when we risk disappointing others, that we can develop a faith robust enough to withstand the complexities of living and loving in an imperfect world.

During this hopeful discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addressed questions from her audience about faith development, how to find peace when our thinking doesn't align with our group, and how our understanding of faith and relationship to spirituality can change over the course of a lifetime.

You can watch the recording of this discussion HERE.

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This week, we are rereleasing one of our most popular episodes of all time! In the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Steve and James of the Unashamed Unafraid Podcast for a deep dive into the complexities of relationships, particularly those in which there has been dishonesty or infidelity in the past.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Dishonesty in marriage

* Rebuilding trust after betrayal

* Understanding compulsive sexual behavior

* Honesty and accountability in relationships

* Male sexuality 

* The problem with perfectionism

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Dr. Finlayson-Fife was invited by Mormon Women for Ethical Government (MWEG) to speak on how we can maintain hope and foster healthy relationships during a time of deep political polarization.

In the presentation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses how we can bridge divides with those who think differently by showing genuine care, listening with humility, and seeking to understand others' experiences, using their perspectives to broaden our own.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife emphasizes that, while we cannot make people think the way we think, we CAN care about each other despite our differences. This connection not only expands our own understanding, but strengthens our ability to work to solve our shared challenges, which is key to thriving in our families, communities, and society

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When we get married, most of us imagine a life full of connection and companionship. But when you feel overlooked, unchosen, or disappointed by how your spouse shows up emotionally or sexually, marriage can start to feel lonely and isolating.

In this hour-long Q&A session, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers questions from those feeling unchosen, isolated, and disconnected in their most important relationship. 

Listen in as Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers the following:

* Is loneliness a normal part of marriage?

* What are reasonable expectations for emotional connection with a spouse?

* How can I create more connection when my spouse doesn’t make any efforts?

* Can an "okay" marriage ever become a passionate one?

* What can I do if I feel unseen, unliked, unappreciated, and unchosen in my marriage?

You can watch the recording of this Q&A session HERE. 

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Too often, we enter marriage with expectations of what it will provide for us, without fully understanding the promise we are actually making—to love someone who is dramatically different from us.

When we first fall in love, this seems easy enough, but as we face the difficulties that come when two individuals start the real work of creating a life together, resentment, anger, and even hostility can creep in.

In this NEW episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On! podcast to answer the question of what it means to really cherish a spouse. Dr. Finlayson-Fife's answer leads to a beautiful discussion on the importance of gratitude, what love is and what it is not, and the impact that deliberate cherishing has in our lives and in our relationships. The episode offers practical advice on how to live in gratitude, be more present in relationships, and navigate conflicts with integrity and love. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

• The difference between needing, wanting, and cherishing a spouse
• How marriage reveals our own immaturities 
• Why cherishing requires courage
• How to move beyond feelings of resentment and entitlement 
• What it means to actively choose your partner 

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rachel Nielson of the 3 in 30 podcast to discuss three actionable takeaways to help couples become better partners and strengthen their marriages. The discussion covers the important role of self-confrontation in happy relationships, the importance of staying kind and constructive when facing disappointments and differences, and the vital role that sexuality plays in a marital partnership.

Whether you’re struggling in your relationship or simply looking to deepen your connection with your partner, this episode offers valuable perspectives that, when applied, will make a meaningful impact on the way you show up in your marriage.

This powerful conversation just skims the surface on how couples can create a more honest and loving relationship, for a deeper dive, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Strengthening Your Relationship course. Or, better yet, join us for our upcoming couples' retreat!