I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
How do you unwind after a long day?
What’s your favorite way to relax quickly?
Today, Jay sits down with David Ko, the CEO of Calm and author of the groundbreaking book Recharge. Together, they unravel the complexities of stress, mental health, and how to create a fulfilling life in today’s fast-paced world.
David shares his personal journey, from navigating childhood stress to becoming a leader who champions mental wellness. He introduces the “battery analogy,” a simple yet profound way to gauge our mental and emotional energy levels. Drawing from his book, David explains how understanding and managing our “battery” can transform our approach to stress, productivity, and personal growth.
Jay and David discuss the power of presence, the necessity of balance, and how redefining stress—from harmful to helpful—can lead to resilience and growth. Their conversation dives deep into actionable strategies, such as creating rituals to recharge, fostering vulnerability at work, and redefining leadership to prioritize mental health.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Recognize When You Need to Recharge
How to Foster Vulnerability in Leadership
How to Balance Good Stress and Bad Stress
How to Build a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace
How to Take Breaks for Better Productivity
How to Identify and Remove Stress-Inducing Triggers
Recharge your mind, body, and spirit—not just to keep going, but to thrive with purpose and joy. Prioritize yourself, because when you’re recharged, you’re unstoppable.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:10 What’s Something You’re not Calm About?
03:31 How's Your Battery?
05:42 The Four Battery Zones
10:59 The Importance of Recharging
14:24 Vulnerability in Leadership
18:37 Good Stress vs Bad Stress
25:25 Mental Health in the Workplace
28:56 Listen and Become More Purposeful
28:57 How to Take Care of Your Team
30:44 Supporting Employees’ Mental Health
38:10 Tools for Managing Burnout
44:19 How Do You Deal with Stress?
52:02 Put Your Focus on Healthy Stress
53:27 Daily Practices for Recharging
01:01:42 What is a Quality Decision?
01:07:08 David on Final Five
01:14:90 Is Your Battery Full?
Episode Resources:
David Ko | Instagram
David Ko | LinkedIn
Calm | Website
Calm | Instagram
Calm | Facebook
Calm | X
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What in your day makes you happiest?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Today, Jay sits down with the iconic rapper, multi-platinum artist, and entrepreneur Wiz Khalifa. The episode explores Wiz’s journey from navigating the challenges of his youth in Pittsburgh to becoming one of the most recognizable names in the music industry. Throughout their conversation, Wiz shares profound insights into his personal growth, family values, and the discipline behind his success.
Wiz reflects on his early days, including the loss of a record deal and the resilience it took to rebuild his career. He discusses his evolution as an artist and individual, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, patience, and staying true to oneself. The conversation also dives into the balance between his professional life and personal responsibilities, particularly as a father. Wiz talks about raising his 11-year-old son, Sebastian, and his new daughter, Cadence, shedding light on how fatherhood has deepened his perspective on life and masculinity.
Jay and Wiz also explore deeper topics like handling grief, cultivating self-discipline, and the nuanced concept of masculinity in today’s world. Wiz’s candid anecdotes, whether about quitting alcohol, building financial literacy, or practicing MMA for mental clarity, inspire listeners to live authentically, embrace personal growth, and focus on what truly matters.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Rebuild Confidence After a Setback
How to Balance Personal Life and Career Successfully
How to Find Gratitude in Everyday Moments
How to Stay Calm Under Pressure
How to Teach Discipline and Politeness to Kids
How to Manage Money as a Creative Professional
How to Stay Authentic in the Spotlight
Every setback is an opportunity to rebuild stronger, and every triumph is a chance to inspire others. Prioritize what matters, whether it’s your personal growth, the relationships you cherish, or the values you stand for.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
04:15 Navigating Fame As A Star
09:18 The Craziest Fan Interactions
10:07 Family Matters The Most
11:49 Dealing With Grief
13:04 Seeking Family Support
13:54 Finding Balance In Grief
14:50 Life Before Fame And Success
16:47 What's It Like To Lose A Record Deal?
17:15 Confidence In The Face Adversity
18:37 Advice To Younger Self
19:22 Driven Goals And Compulsion
20:50 Being Contented With What You Have
21:30 What's The Hardest Conversation You Have Ever Had?
24:40 Building Connections With Your Audience
25:50 Ever Caught Anything Crazy On Camera?
26:45 Then VS Now Journey With Other Stars
29:13 Advice For Up And Coming Artists
32:11 How Far Do You Plan Your Goals?
32:49 Best Moves In Money Management
35:58 Dumbest Thing I Have Ever Bought
36:35 Best Investment I Have Ever Made
38:20 Relationship With God
40:30 Moving Around In My Childhood
41:58 How My Childhood Experiences Has Impacted Me
44:48 How My Views On Fatherhood Has Changed
50:17 How I Take Control Of My Career As An Artist
54:17 What I Learnt From My Mom
55:31 Something People Should Know About Me
1:00 How Working Out Helped Me
1:02 My Advice For Men Who Want To Get Into Health And Fitness
1:03 My Perspective On Masculinity
1:08 My Take On MMA And Martial Arts
1:12:09 How I View My New Album And Most Viewed Video
1:16:22 My Motivation To Go Sober From Alcohol
1:18:01 First Thing I Do Before I Go To Bed
1:18:32 Wiz on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Wiz Khalifa | Website
Wiz Khalifa | Instagram
Wiz Khalifa | TikTok
Wiz Khalifa | YouTube
Wiz Khalifa | Facebook
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What does a "rich life" mean to you?
Do you focus more on what you have or what you lack?
Today, Jay will redefine what it truly means to live a "rich life." While society often equates wealth with material possessions and financial success, Jay challenges this narrow definition and explores how richness can also encompass time, energy, relationships, and inner fulfillment.
Drawing on personal experiences, historical insights, and anecdotes from his conversations with inspiring figures like Kobe Bryant and Tom Hanks, Jay illustrates how people can find peace and purpose by focusing on what genuinely matters. He also addresses the pitfalls of tying happiness solely to financial success, emphasizing that it’s not money itself but our mindset—whether driven by envy, ego, or gratitude—that shapes our sense of abundance.
Jay further unpacks our personal definitions of wealth. Are we in a season of prioritizing career growth, family, love, or personal development? He explores how life’s richness comes from aligning with our true values and fully embracing the priorities that resonate most in each phase of life, without guilt or external judgment.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Define Your Rich Life
How to Shift to an Abundance Mindset
How to Find Purpose Beyond Money
How to Focus Your Energy for Growth
How to Live Authentically and Fully
Richness isn’t about how much you have but how deeply you experience life. Prioritize what matters, invest your energy where it counts, and trust that each step you take toward alignment with your values brings you closer to a truly abundant existence.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:39 How Do You Define Wealth?
06:59 What You Do Becomes Your Identity
10:26 How to Create a Rich, Abundant Mindset?
11:46 The Difference Between Resume and Eulogy Virtues
17:01 How Do You Spend Your Time and Energy?
19:46 Looking at Richness Beyond Money
22:47 The Five Regrets of the Dying
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What’s the first step to making money with no savings?
How do you choose which opportunities to start with?
Today, Jay sits down with Codie Sanchez, author of “Main Street Millionaire”. Codie is a powerhouse entrepreneur, investor, and the mind behind Contrarian Thinking, a platform dedicated to empowering people to build real wealth through unconventional investments and small business ownership. Codie’s journey is anything but typical: she went from a middle-class background to finance jobs at Goldman Sachs and Vanguard, then pivoted into journalism, and finally found her calling by building wealth through owning small businesses.
Codie breaks down the idea that you don’t need groundbreaking ideas or tons of cash to get started, just a willingness to look beyond the obvious. From laundromats to vending machines, she explains how these “boring” businesses can actually be gold mines, offering steady and substantial returns that often get overlooked in today’s flashy, social media-driven vision of success.
Together, Jay and Codie dive into practical steps for starting your journey in business ownership. They discuss the essentials, how to make deals, manage risk, and recognize the right opportunities. Along the way, they debunk the myth that you need to be rich or have a finance degree to succeed. Instead, they focus on the importance of learning the language of money, cultivating grit, and keeping a curious mindset.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Take Control of Your Financial Future
How to Start Building Wealth Without a Big Idea
How to Identify Profitable Small Businesses
How to Build a Strong Relationship with Money
How to Turn Curiosity into Cash
How to Leverage Ownership for Financial Freedom
How to Find Under-the-Radar Investment Opportunities
You have the ability to create meaningful change, not only for yourself but for those around you, by building something that truly matters. Keep moving forward, and believe that financial freedom is within your reach.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:57 What Makes Rich People Rich?
04:40 The Reason Why People Don’t Talk About Money
06:30 Where Are We At Financially?
09:50 Misconceptions About What Makes Money
13:00 4-Step Process to Consistently Make Money
14:47 Academic Skills Don’t Translate to a Stable Career
17:44 Do You Need Money to Make Money?
23:06 The Key to Wealth is Taking Risks
26:48 We Can All Get Rich Together
32:52 Focus on the Foundation, not Tactics
35:28 You’ll Make Less Money if You Think You Will
36:57 Learn To Ask the Right Questions
43:57 The Best Mentorship Advice
49:06 You Can Make Money From Anything
52:33 The Richest People Started Small
54:19 What Core Business Skills You Should Invest In
01:00:16 Recognize Your Value to Get Better Deals
01:10:21 Every Business has a Value
01:13:49 Are You Bad at Math
01:17:47 Codie on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Codie Sanchez | Website
Codie Sanchez | YouTube
Codie Sanchez | Instagram
Codie Sanchez | Facebook
Codie Sanchez | TikTok
Codie Sanchez | LinkedIn
Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses
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What makes you feel confident about yourself?
How do you build your confidence when it’s low?
Today, Jay discusses a topic that's all too familiar - the constant barrage of unrealistic beauty standards. He challenges the notion of a singular "most beautiful woman in the world" and explores how societal expectations and media influence our perception of beauty.
Jay breaks down the historical and cultural factors that shape beauty standards, from the ancient Greek ideals of symmetry and proportion to the modern-day obsession with youth and perfection. He highlights the role of social media in perpetuating unrealistic beauty ideals and encourages listeners to question these norms and embrace their individuality.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Embrace Individuality
How to Build Self-Love
How to Set Boundaries
How to Appreciate Uniqueness
How to Practice Mindfulness
By understanding the forces that shape our perception of beauty and cultivating self-love, we can live authentic, fulfilling lives. Remember, true beauty radiates from within.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:21 Different Ways We Think About Beauty
07:32 Definition of Beauty Through History
13:49 Beauty Standards of the West
16:11 What Do We Believe to be Beautiful About Ourselves?
17:05 3 Ways to Build Self Love
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What triggers envy for you?
How do you turn envy into action?
Today, in this eye-opening episode, Jay Jay sits down with the legendary Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist, educator, and bestselling author. This conversation has been in the making for years, and it’s packed with deep insights on human development, identity, and how ancient wisdom ties into today’s challenges.
One of the standout moments is when Jordan talks about his upcoming book, We Who Wrestle With God. He takes listeners through the timeless stories of the Old Testament, explaining how they provide profound lessons on values, integrity, and personal growth. He also talks about the importance of always telling the truth and viewing life as an exploration of what’s possible.
Jay and Jordan discuss how easy it is for people to get trapped in “false adventures”—chasing immediate gratification or quick fixes that ultimately don’t fulfill. Jordan reminds us that real growth involves shedding old parts of ourselves to move forward and align with bigger, long-term goals.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Build a Life of Integrity
How to Turn Failure into Learning Opportunities
How to Stay True to Long-Term Goals
How to Practice Gratitude Daily
How to Recognize and Avoid Short-Sighted Decisions
How to Align Your Actions with Your Purpose
How to Balance Ambition and Ethical Living
This conversation highlights the power of facing challenges, learning from experiences, and staying aligned with long-term goals.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
1:24 How Technology Exacerbates Manipulation
08:13 Escaping A Limited Reality
09:41 Addressing Problems At The Root
13:55 The Effectiveness of Psychotherapy on Psychopaths
18:17 The Mindset of Predatory Psychopaths
21:03 Tips for Women to Protect Themselves from Manipulative People
24:16 PTSD And Its Impact
27:17 How Stories Shape Our Identity
37:06 Why Self-Consciousness Leads to Misery
40:03 The Difference Between Seeing and Thinking
47:54 The Importance of Long-Term Vision
52:56 The Dangers of Envy
55:28 Strategies to Overcome Envy
59:57 The Role of Pride and Arrogance in Personal Growth
01:05:14 The Art of Understanding Through Listening
01:09:04 Avoiding the Weaponization of Truth
01:10:45 How Short-Term Gratification Derails Progress
01:13:11 Setting Standards With Encouragement
01:16:31 Sources Of Hope Today
01:26:02 Jordan On Final 5
Episode Resources:
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Website
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | YouTube
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Instagram
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Facebook
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | TikTok
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What drains your energy the most?
How do you deal with toxic behaviors?
Today, Jay tackles a topic we can all relate to – dealing with those challenging family members and coworkers who add a little extra stress to our lives, especially as the holiday season rolls around. If you’re already bracing yourself for gatherings with people who seem to bring more tension than joy, Jay’s got you covered. He dives into why certain people fall into negative or toxic patterns, breaking down types like the pessimist, the complainer, the eternal victim, the energy drainer, and the “just good enough” person. Jay’s perspective sheds light on how these behaviors aren’t really who they are at their core but are often habits born from past hurts or unmet needs.
Jay doesn’t just stop at explaining, though – he shares some really practical, relatable tips on how to navigate these tough dynamics without letting them throw you off balance. He talks about ways to respond with empathy, set emotional boundaries, and even gently redirect conversations when they start to drag you down.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Handle Toxic Family Members at Gatherings
How to Protect Your Peace Around Negative People
How to Set Boundaries with Draining Coworkers
How to Turn Negative Conversations Around
How to Recognize Negative Patterns in Loved Ones
How to Stop Taking Toxic Comments Personally
You can’t always change someone else’s behavior, but you can protect your own joy and keep a positive outlook. So, as you head into those family gatherings or work meetings, just remember to stay grounded and prioritize your well-being – you deserve it!
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:24 How Do You Deal with Toxic People?
03:26 What Makes a Person Negative or Toxic?
04:34 Type 1: The Pessimist
06:06 Type 2: The Complainer
08:05 Type 3: The Eternal Victim
10:19 Type 4: The “Just Good Enough”
13:19 Some Toxic Behavior is Meant to Protect You
15:13 Tips and Strategies to Deal with Toxicity
17:12 Tip 1: Try to Understand Their Story
19:01 Tip 2: The Negativity Begins with Themselves
22:47 Tip 3: Respond with a Reflective Remark
24:05 Tip 4: Create Distance and Boundaries
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Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?
Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships?
Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners.
Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles.
As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
How to Practice Wise Compassion
How to Break Negative Patterns
How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships
How to Prioritize Clear Communication
How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls
How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience
Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?
05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters
08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time
13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship
17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate
21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?
24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?
28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires
31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate
35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story
37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries
42:36 We All Want to Be Liked
45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet
49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time
52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating
57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping
01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?
01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages
01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?
01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue
01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt
01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner?
Episode Resources:
Lori Gottlieb | YouTube
Lori Gottlieb | Instagram
Lori Gottlieb | Website
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time?
What’s one way you avoid distractions?
Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier.
Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Slow Down for Better Productivity
How to Stay Present in Conversations
How to Find Calm by Unplugging
How to Build Stronger Focus Habits
How to Reclaim Your Attention
By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted?
04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus
06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask
09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress
11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique
13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times
15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone
20:34 #4: Finish What You Start
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How do you handle negative self-talk?
What helps you overcome self-doubt?
Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded Keys SoulCare, a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image.
Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career.
Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Embrace Your True Self
How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear
How to Find Confidence Within Yourself
How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity
How to Discover Your Inner Strength
How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care
How to Be Kind to Yourself
How to Trust Your Own Choices
The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self?
05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself
09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious
13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today?
15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself
19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin
26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself
32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps
36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner?
38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship
45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow
47:51 The Love for Crystals
51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself
57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better?
01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude
01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen
01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children
01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway
01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision
01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success?
01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five
Episode Resources:
Alicia Keys | Website
Alicia Keys | YouTube
Alicia Keys | Instagram
Alicia Keys | Facebook
Alicia Keys | TikTok
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Are you open to just being friends with an ex?
Do you think they want the same kind of friendship?
Today, Jay’s diving into a question we've all probably wrestled with at some point: can you really stay friends with an ex? He kicks things off by laying down some ground rules, pointing out that not every ex is friendship material, especially if there was any toxicity or harm in the relationship. For those open to trying a platonic bond post-breakup, he highlights the real-life complexities and the level of emotional maturity it takes to make it work.
Jay also brings in some interesting science, sharing that studies show people stay connected with their exes for reasons like security, convenience, keeping things civil, or even unresolved feelings. But each of these reasons can get messy, and Jay explains that often, the urge to stay friends might have more to do with wanting a sense of safety or familiarity than with genuine friendship.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Decide if an Ex Deserves Friendship
How to Set Boundaries with an Ex
How to Manage Shared Friends Post-Breakup
How to Avoid Using Friendship to Win Them Back
How to Avoid Hurting Your Ex Twice
Sometimes, the boldest and most courageous thing you can do is to walk away, taking the lessons with you and leaving the rest behind. Focus on what makes you feel good and helps you build the life you truly want.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:52 Not Every Ex Deserves Friendship
04:36 Four Core Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes
09:30 Four Ways to Know Being Friends with an Ex Won’t Work
13:52 How to Start Being Friends with an Ex?
18:33 Friends and Family Can be Casualties of a Breakup
21:41 Establish New Rules of Engagement
22:50 Consider the Welfare of Children
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