Have you ever struggled with guilt or shame?

Why do you think self-forgiveness is so hard?

Today, Jay sits down with the incredibly talented and resilient Jelly Roll, a Grammy-nominated Nashville native who has captured hearts with his raw, soulful music. Rising from a troubled past marked by addiction, incarceration, and personal struggles, Jelly Roll has turned his life around through music, earning widespread acclaim for his deeply emotional lyrics and raw storytelling. With a top-three debut on the Billboard 200 and multiple awards to his name, His music resonates with those facing hardship, offering a message of hope, redemption, and healing.

Jelly Roll shares his powerful journey from a turbulent past—marked by addiction, incarceration, and emotional struggles—to becoming one of the most celebrated figures in country music today. Together, they explore topics like the impact of childhood trauma, battling demons, overcoming addiction, and the importance of love and healing in personal transformation.

Jelly Roll opens up about his rise to success, reflecting on how music has been a healing force not only for him but for the countless fans who resonate with his lyrics. From finding solace in Jay Shetty’s book Think Like a Monk during a dark time in his life to creating music that speaks directly to those who feel unseen, Jelly Roll's story is one of redemption, hope, and purpose.

In this interview, you'll learn

How to find purpose in your struggles

How to forgive yourself for past mistakes

How to overcome addiction through accountability

How to turn negative experiences into positive impact

How to create emotional resilience in tough times

How to find peace in moments of darkness

No matter where you are right now, it’s never too late to rewrite your story and create a life filled with meaning and growth. Keep pushing forward, and believe in your ability to rise. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 04:24 Rediscovering Purpose After Struggles
• 07:26 Coping with the Loss of a Father
• 10:34 How His Mother Sparked His Musical Journey
• 14:48 The Impact of Deep-Rooted Insecurities
• 17:25 Embracing Accountability for Personal Growth
• 19:51 The Barriers to Self-Forgiveness
• 21:08 Reflections on His Fifteen-Year-Old Self
• 24:26 Life Behind Bars as a Juvenile
• 28:47 The Fine Line Between Accountability and Self-Sabotage
• 32:56 Developing Emotional Awareness and Growth
• 37:21 The Reality of Food Addiction
• 40:34 Breaking the Chains of Addiction
• 42:22 Finding Someone Who Sees Your True Worth
• 49:45 Why Asking for Help Shows Strength, Not Weakness
• 54:12 Bringing Hope and Uplifting Spirits Through Prison Performances
• 01:02:13 Addressing Drug Addiction in His Congressional Speech
• 01:08:50 Understanding the True Victims of Drug Abuse
• 01:11:31 Breaking Free from Generational Curses
• 01:18:23 The Profound Impact of Music on His Life
• 01:25:57 Healing the Inner Child Through Faith
• 01:31:14 A Heartfelt Letter from His Brother 
• 01:35:36 Fast Five with Jelly Roll  

Episode Resources:

• Jelly Roll | Website
• Jelly Roll | Instagram
• Jelly Roll | Facebook
• Jelly Roll | YouTube
• Jelly Roll | TikTok

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Have you ever struggled to change a habit?

Do you think forcing someone to change ever works?

Today, Jay dives deep into one of the most frequently asked questions: Can people really change? Drawing from a mix of personal stories, scientific research, and spiritual wisdom, Jay sheds light on the complexities of human behavior, how change unfolds, and why it can often seem so elusive.

One of the key insights Jay offers is the distinction between acknowledgment and accountability. Many people acknowledge they need to change, but accountability—taking full responsibility for how their actions impact others and making a concrete plan to improve—is much harder to achieve. Without this deeper level of self-awareness and commitment, lasting change remains out of reach.

Jay provides practical advice for those navigating relationships with people who seem resistant to change. He outlines key signs to look for that indicate someone is truly ready to change, including self-awareness, accountability, and a genuine desire to improve. He also stresses the importance of patience and empathy, reminding listeners that change is often a gradual process, filled with setbacks and oscillations between old and new behaviors.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to encourage change without forcing it

How to help someone become self-aware

How to support someone’s change process

How to communicate about change in relationships

How to accept that change must come from within

Patience, empathy, and an understanding of the complexities of human behavior are key to supporting both ourselves and others in the pursuit of meaningful evolution. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:37 Is There Someone In Your Life You Wish Would Change?

04:24 Core Personality Traits Are Difficult to Change

07:46 Signs that Someone is Likely to Change

08:25 #1: They Take Accountability and Has Self-Awareness

10:18 #2: They Must Have the Motivation to Change

14:19 Change Doesn’t Happen Right Away

16:59 Signs that Someone is Changing

18:57 How a Community Can Trigger Change

21:30 How Do You Start a Healthy Conversation with Your Partner?

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Why are you blocking yourself from love?

What’s holding you back from attracting love?

Today, let's welcome once again Jay's good friend Dr Joe Dispenza - a New York Times best-selling author, researcher, lecturer, and corporate consultant, Dr Joe Dispenza has developed a practical formula to help people transform their lives. Dr Joe’s mission unifies complex branches of science in an approachable way – focused on proven research, “Stories of Transformation” testimonials, and the scientific data behind spontaneous remissions. 

Joe discusses his groundbreaking work on how individuals can transform their lives by tapping into the power of their thoughts and emotions. The conversation is centered around how stress, survival instincts, and subconscious beliefs block us from manifesting love and positive changes in our lives, the importance of shifting from a reactive, stress-driven state to a heart-centered, creative one, and “becoming” the person you want to be by aligning thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with the future you desire, rather than the past you want to leave behind. 

Jay and Joe discuss the mechanisms that prevent people from opening their hearts to love, focusing on how the survival mechanisms of the brain and body condition us to relive past traumas and fears. According to Joe, many people are trapped in a cycle of stress that keeps them disconnected from their true potential. He emphasizes the power of daily practices like meditation and emotional regulation to rewire the brain, shift belief systems, and attract the love and life one desires.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to attract love by practicing joy and gratitude

How to rewire your brain by visualizing your desired future

How to heal emotionally with daily meditation

How to manifest change by aligning thoughts, emotions, and behaviors

How to replace resentment with positive emotions through practice

How to stop survival mode by regulating your emotions

By shifting from a state of stress and survival to one of creation and love, we can not only heal from past traumas but also attract the relationships and experiences we truly desire. The key lies in aligning our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors with the future we wish to create. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:35 What’s Really Blocking You from Manifesting Love?
• 07:42 Why Becoming the Person You Want to Attract Is Key
• 14:40 How to Reignite Your Belief in Love After Heartbreak
• 20:08 The Role of Past Experiences in Shaping Your Beliefs
• 28:40 Healing Starts with Reminding Yourself to Change
• 33:18 True Transformation Begins When You Believe in Possibility
• 37:27 The Power of Being Present to Absorb Life-Changing Information
• 42:04 How Long Does It Really Take to Rewire a Belief?
• 46:18 How Meditation and Protein Boost Your Immunity
• 51:18 Science Proves the Limitless Potential of the Human Mind
• 57:52 How Collective Consciousness Can Transform Your Life
• 01:08:38 How Stress Disconnects You from Your True Self

Episode Resources:

• Dr Joe Dispenza | Website
• Dr Joe Dispenza | Instagram
• Dr Joe Dispenza | Facebook
• Dr Joe Dispenza | YouTube
• Dr Joe Dispenza | Books

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How do you usually react when you're angry?

Have you ever regretted saying something in the heat of the moment?

Today, Jay talks about the transformative power of the "90-Second Rule," a life-changing technique that can help you choose your response in moments of intense emotion. Have you ever acted in the heat of the moment and later regretted it? Jay explores how 90 seconds can be the difference between reacting impulsively and responding with intention.

Inspired by Viktor Frankl's quote, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space," Jay unpacks the concept that this small window of time holds the key to our growth, freedom, and ability to create better outcomes in our lives. He shares personal stories, practical tips, and scientific insights to help you harness the power of this technique, including deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, and ways to recognize and label your emotions.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to control your emotions in stressful moments

How to apply the 90-second rule to avoid impulsive reactions

How to recognize and label your emotions accurately

How to practice mindfulness in moments of frustration

How to take a 90-second break to reset your mindset

By allowing yourself those 90 seconds to breathe, reflect, and choose your response, you create the space to align with your values and intentions.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:17 It’s About How You Respond to Situations

06:27 The 90-Second Rule

11:55 #1: Set a Timer

13:05 #2: Do an Internal Weather Report

13:47 #3: Check-in with Your Body

18:01 Sadness Last Longer than Other Emotions

20:53 We Repeat What We Reward 

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What part of your past self do you feel most attached to?

What fears are holding you back from embracing who you are now?

On this extremely special episode of On Purpose, Jay sits down with global music sensation and dear friend, Shawn Mendes. Shawn  is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter known for his soulful voice and heartfelt lyrics. The two go in deep to Shawn’s newest album ‘Shawn.’ Shawn is an advocate for mental health awareness, openly sharing his personal struggles with anxiety and self-discovery. 

For the first time, Shawn opens up about his struggles with anxiety and the difficult decision to cancel his world tour to focus on his mental health, sharing the weight of that moment and the liberating journey of prioritizing his well-being. He reflects on the challenges of growing up in the spotlight, the pressures of maintaining perfection, and how therapy, friendships, and embracing vulnerability helped him find balance and peace.

Shawn and Jay explore themes of love, relationships, and the intricacies of navigating public life while protecting private emotions. With heartfelt honesty, Shawn shares how he’s learned to diversify his life beyond music and embrace all forms of love, not just romantic, but the love that comes from connection and support from those around him.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to prioritize mental health

How to embrace vulnerability

How to let go of perfectionism

How to accept love and support

How to build emotional resilience

How to be honest in relationships

Remember, the hardest decisions often lead to the most meaningful transformations. Take care of yourself, lean on those around you, and trust that, with time, you will find your way to peace and authenticity.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:54 Clubhouse Studio’s Significance (Where the interview takes place!) 
• 05:51 The Struggle of Asking for Help When Making Hard Life Decisions 
• 07:48 Why Shawn Canceled His Tour
• 12:48 Tough Choices and Growth
• 15:10 Breakdowns Leading to Breakthroughs
• 17:09 Finding Shawns Own Authenticity in Music
• 21:08 The Power of Vulnerability and Expressing Emotional Truth 
• 23:50 Letting Go of Ego to Heal
• 26:52 Learning to Accept Yourself Through Therapy
• 28:42 The Hardest Internal Question to Face
• 30:47 The Power of Listening Without Judgment
• 32:51 Learning How to Face Pain Instead of Running From It
• 38:18 Finding Emotional Balance of Extreme Emotions
• 40:00 Shawn Opens up About Grief and Guilt Over a Lost Friend
• 51:10 Healing Through Art and Music
• 55:26 Questioning ‘Forever’ in Love
• 59:09 Maintaining Love Under Pressure
• 01:02:16 The Importance of Over-Communication in Relationships 
• 01:03:50 Why Partnership is More Than Just Love
• 01:07:27 How to Be Open to Love that is Not Just Romantic 
• 01:13:38 How to Avoid Focusing on the Highs
• 01:15:45 Trusting Your Inner Voice and Learn How to Listen to Your Intuition 
• 01:18:36 How to Surrender to Life Unfolding Naturally Without Forcing It 
• 01:21:59 Surprise Note from Shawn’s Sister 
• 01:33:09 Final Five with Shawn

Episode Resources:

• Shawn Mendes | Website
• Shawn Mendes | Instagram
• Shawn Mendes | Facebook
• Shawn Mendes | TikTok
• Shawn Mendes | YouTube 
• Shawn Mendes | LinkedIn
• Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body

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Who in your life challenges you the most?

Who sees more potential in you than you do?

Today, Jay unpacks the powerful idea that everyone we meet serves a distinct purpose in our lives, acting as mirrors, windows, or doors. Inspired by a concept shared by TikTok creators Kim Peretz and Stale Hope, Jay talks about how different people reflect our flaws, show us glimpses of our potential, and open new pathways to growth.

Jay explores the idea that some people mirror back our darkest and most uncomfortable traits, offering us valuable opportunities for self-awareness and growth. He emphasizes the challenge of accepting lessons from those we may not want to listen to, reminding us that the message is often more important than the messenger.

He introduces the concept of doors and keys—those who open paths and unlock parts of ourselves in the most perfect way. He discusses the importance of gratitude and recognizing the people who have helped us move forward, even if we may have forgotten them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to accept difficult truths about yourself

How to recognize the people who reflect your potential

How to stay open to advice even when it’s hard to hear

How to appreciate the role others play in your personal journey

How to stay curious about what others see in you

As you navigate your journey, remember that every person you encounter has something to teach you, whether they act as a mirror, window, door, or key. You're not alone on this path.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:12 The Mirror, Window, and Door of Our Life

03:12 People Mirror Back to Us Our Flaws

11:14 People Are Like Windows, They See More Potential in You

18:07 Some People Open a Door or Path for Us

19:33 Some People Are Keys, They Unlock Parts for Us

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How do you usually handle stress in your life?

Have you ever tried anything to boost your dopamine levels?

Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University, known for his insightful work on brain development, neuroplasticity, and the intricate connection between the brain and body. Together, they discuss the neuroscience of friendship, exploring how our deep-rooted need for safety and acceptance plays a pivotal role in our social interactions. They unravel the paradox of modern society, where people feel emotionally distant despite increasing online connections and followers.

Dr. Huberman highlights how our brain circuitry, which governs social bonding and connectedness, is tightly linked to our need for predictability and safety. He breaks down how these fundamental needs influence our relationships, both in early development and throughout adulthood, and how understanding these mechanisms can help combat the loneliness epidemic many experience today.

Jay and Andrew discuss practical tools like sending a simple daily “good morning” text, which may seem trivial but has profound implications for maintaining connection and combating feelings of isolation. They also explore the value of doing hard things, such as cold plunges and structured routines, which anchor our physiology and create a sense of predictability, crucial for mental resilience and creativity.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Build Predictability in Relationships

How to Activate Bonding Circuits in the Brain

How to Build Trust Through Consistency

How to Combat Loneliness with Regular Check-Ins

How to Ask Meaningful Questions to Deepen Relationships

How to Build a Reliable Circle of Friends

How to Balance Stress with Breathing Techniques

By embracing small yet powerful habits, we not only improve our own lives but also create a ripple effect of positive connection in the lives of those around us. Now is the time to prioritize real, human connection—and in doing so, enrich every aspect of your life.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 04:06 Safety and Acceptance
• 19:12 Healthy Friendships
• 29:39 Predictability
• 38:15 Breathing Protocol
• 51:32 Body Still, Mind Active
• 01:02:15 Tenacity and Willpower
• 01:13:06 Walls of Adrenaline
• 01:18:21 Limiting Cynicism
• 01:24:54 You Can’t Control Everything
• 01:34:29 The Human Narrative
• 01:43:15 Be Yourself 

Episode Resources:

• Andrew Huberman | Website
• Andrew Huberman | Instagram
• Andrew Huberman | Facebook
• Andrew Huberman | TikTok
• Andrew Huberman | YouTube 
• Andrew Huberman | LinkedIn
• Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body

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Are you feeling burnt out from dating lately?

Do you feel like you're repeating the same mistakes in dating?

Today, Jay talks about why dating burnout is a common and natural response to repeated disappointments, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating apps. He notes that most respondents feel disconnected, disillusioned, and emotionally drained, which leads to frustration and reluctance to continue dating.

It is important to accept and acknowledge feelings of burnout. Jay explains that a vital first step in overcoming this is to reframe expectations and approach dating with a healthier mindset. Dating is like applying for a job, where the process may involve multiple attempts and disappointments, but persistence is key. To avoid personalizing every rejection, focus on their self-worth, be kinder to themselves, and build resilience throughout the dating journey.

Jay highlights the importance of identifying and aligning with core values, explaining that these are the foundation for long-term relationship success. 

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Overcome Dating Burnout

How to Spot Red Flags Early

How to Build Resilience in Dating

How to Align with Your Core Values

How to Reframe Rejection Positively

By approaching dating with less pressure, identifying red flags early, and giving second chances, you can create healthier, more meaningful connections while avoiding emotional exhaustion.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:44 Are You Dealing with Dating Burnout?

05:43 Approach Dating with Higher Resilience

08:10 Four Red Flags of Poor Communication

11:39 Attraction is Beyond What You See

13:08 The Pressure to Present Yourself in a Certain Way

18:04 Focus on Having One Conversation at a Time

22:39 Why Do We Get Bored When Dating?

23:54 3 Strategies to Successful Dating

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What would you tell your 14-year-old self?

How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice?

Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world.

Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings.

Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose

How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control

How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose

How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures

How to Align Your Career with Personal Values

How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood

Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.  

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent?
• 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set?
• 10:54 Love What You’re Doing
• 18:59 Stuck in Life
• 22:06 Trust the Process
• 26:04 Patience
• 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences
• 33:35 What Difference Are You Making?
• 35:57 Raise a Reader
• 40:14 What Are You Struggling With?
• 45:00 General Parenting Tip
• 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love
• 58:50 Do What’s Important to You
• 01:02:04 What is at Stake?
• 01:06:03 Comparison Game
• 01:09:36 Dad Guilt
• 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent
• 01:19:11 This Stops with Me     

Episode Resources:

• Ryan Holiday | Website
• Ryan Holiday | Instagram
• Ryan Holiday | Facebook
• Ryan Holiday | TikTok
• Ryan Holiday | YouTube 
• Ryan Holiday | LinkedIn
• The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids

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Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip?

What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone?

Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life. 

Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Expand Your Worldview 

How to Boost Self-Reliance

How to Connect with New People and Cultures

How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel

Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip?

04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself

11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence

13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview 

16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance

19:49 #5: Master Your Mind

21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction

23:09 #7: Vigilance

24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People

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What are your emotional needs?

How do you communicate them clearly?

Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically.

Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to recognize trauma bonds

How to break the cycle of reactivity

How to set healthy boundaries

How to cultivate self-awareness

How to develop emotional resilience

How to foster a growth mindset in relationships

Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:44 You Create Change
• 06:58 Toxic Family Members
• 11:21 Change is Voluntary
• 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions
• 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships
• 22:58 The Unmet Needs
• 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others
• 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos
• 38:18 Is It Genuine Love?
• 41:55 Panic Attack
• 48:54 Chronic Illness
• 53:54 Countering Beliefs
• 57:17 Physiological Shifts
• 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond?
• 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity
• 01:06:24 Inner Child Work
• 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically

Episode Resources:

• Nicole LePera | Website
• Nicole LePera | Instagram
• Nicole LePera | Facebook
• Nicole LePera | TikTok
• Nicole LePera | YouTube 
• Nicole LePera | LinkedIn
• How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
• How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

Special thank you to Kajabi. Visit: https://kajabi.com/JayShetty

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