Today, we are going back into Part Two of my Healing the Hustle framework and my upcoming book. We are focusing on understanding our personality type and how this plays into our Hustle… or not. A lot of this episode is about separating nurture from nature. Nurture is this world we live in and the outside influences and forces that help sharp who we are and how we behave Nature is who we are innately, the tendencies and personality we are born with.

This can all be a little confusing, so listen in as I break it down and explain!

Enjoy this second installment of the new mini-series about Part 2 of Healing the Hustle! And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

Thank you SO much for listening to the podcast!! As a thank you, here is a killer freebie for you!

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Be Unapologetically who you are!

Jessica

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Welcome back to the Front Seat Life podcast, I am Jessica Butts your host. We are diving into Part Two of my Healing the Hustle framework and my upcoming book. I’ve written about 70% of the book and today we are moving into “Understanding Your Hustle.” And today I’m going to read to you from the book and add in a few explanations and stories too. Including the one about how I got my tattoo!

It’s funny, when I was a therapist and now I am again, but when I was a therapist, I complained there were too many rules keeping me from being able to do the work I wanted to do. However, there was this ethical and legal boundary that kept my work at work and made boundaries easier. When I became a coach that boundary disappeared, and it was a problem I created.

And it was all based on my worth, or lack thereof. See, part of my hustle was people pleasing. And I’m guessing yours is as well. Women are natural caretakers due to both nature and nurture. It runs in our DNA. We over-give because we feel bad or that we aren’t doing enough, especially if they are giving us money to be their coach.

When I was on a vacation, like the one I took to Maui a few years ago, I was still answering Facebook or Instagram DMs, checking my email, even though I had put my ‘out of office’ on and even had a wonderful assistant covering me. I was constantly thinking about my clients, my team, my work. There’s also another big reason why I, and our type do this…

We get validation from being busy and feeling needed. And I have done so much more work on this since I’ve written this section in my book and with this episode I share some insights that might also resonate with you!

Enjoy this first installment of the new mini-series about Part 2 of Healing the Hustle! And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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Welcome back to the Front Seat Life podcast, I am Jessica Butts your host. I’m back on Maui and I could not be happier. We’re back for the third episode of a mini-series I’ve renamed How We Got Here and this is the Our Need to “Do” is a Trauma Response episode.

We have been talking about how we all got here, how we got to this place of hustling, your journey, my journey, sharing that, and giving you some tools. Our New World, which hit home with a lot of people. I heard from a lot of people about my saying, connection before capitalism, that seemed to really hit home with people.

And today is this Our Need to Do. Our need, specifically as women, and that this is our identity. This is a badge of honor. This somehow makes us better. And I’m here to tell you that I’m going through this as well.

So, I’ve been talking about nature and nurture and how our personality type absolutely plays a part in this. The nurture piece is so big, and this is absolutely 1000000% our family of origin. And there’s so many of us that are acting out. We are trying to prove ourselves to people, the world, and society. And then there’s often a trauma response to our family of origin. And societal norms.

These are two very powerful forces.

Enjoy this third installment of the new mini-series within the Healing the Hustle Series! And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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Welcome back everybody to the Front Seat Life podcast, I am Jessica Butts your host. We’re back for the second episode of a mini-series I’ve renamed How We Got Here and this is the Our New World episode. And this is all within the Healing Our Hustle focus for the podcast. This is all about how we got to this crazy hustle, hustle world and today we’re going to talk about that new world we find ourselves in.

The last 30 years have completely changed our existence. I mean, I remember like in high school, college even, and when I started my first job out of college, all we did was work. We didn’t have computers. There was no internet. We didn’t do any of this stuff. And so, within 30 years, our lives have completely changed, completely changed. With technology and phones, and obviously social media, all of it, the “how we got here” is just massive. This must be addressed. We’ve got to acknowledge the fact that we are now in hustle culture.

Absolutely because of this new world we live in. I was looking at my book earlier and all the things I had written down about how people can contact us. Back in the day, people called us on the telephone connected to our houses. We had the cool phones with the super, super, super long cord so that we could go into the bathroom and have a private conversation and have our parents not hear us. We used to do everything I R L, in real life. We had to actually see people.

So anyway, you need to listen to this episode. I just find this fascinating and creates a great sense of awareness. Please, enjoy this second installment of the new mini-series within the Healing the Hustle Series! And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

And, because I said I would include them, here are the lyrics to The Man by Taylor Swift:

I would be complex

I would be cool

They’d say I played the field before I found someone to commit to

And that would be ok

For me to do

Every conquest I had made would make me more of a boss to you

I’d be a fearless leader

I’d be an alpha type

When everyone believes ya

What’s that like?

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can

Wondering if I’d get there quicker

If I was a man

And I’m so sick of them coming at me again

‘Cause if I was a man

Then I’d be the man

I’d be the man

I’d be the ma

They’d say I hustled

Put in the work

They wouldn’t shake their heads and question how much of this I deserve

What I was wearing

If I was rude

Could all be separated from my good ideas and power moves?

And they would toast to me, oh

Let the players play

I’d be just like Leo

In Saint-Tropez

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can

Wondering if I’d get there quicker

If I was a man

And I’m so sick of them coming at me again

‘Cause if I was a man

Then I’d be the man

I’d be the man

I’d be the man

What’s it like to brag about

Raking in dollars

And getting bitches and models

And it’s all good if you’re bad

And it’s okay if you’re mad

If I was out flashing my dollars

I’d be a bitch, not a baller

They paint me out to be bad

So it’s okay that I’m mad

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can

Wondering if I’d get there quicker if I was a man (you know that)

And I’m so sick of them coming at me again (coming at me again)

‘Cause if I was a man (if I was a man)

Then I’d be the man (then I’d be the man)

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can (as fast as I can)

Wondering if I’d get there quicker if I was a man (hey)

And I’m so sick of them coming at me again (coming at me again)

‘Cause if I was a man (if I was a man), then I’d be the man

I’d be the man

I’d be the man (oh)

I’d be the man (yeah)

I’d be the man (I’d be the man)

If I was a man

Then I’d be the man

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Welcome back everybody to the Front Seat Life podcast. I am Jessica Butts and thank you for all the love about the hundredth episode. It's pretty amazing to have a hundred episodes. I mean, do I have that much to say? I guess I do! I really appreciate the comments and the reviews, and the love and we are just going to keep this party going. And we're going to get back on track today Healing the Hustle.

So, today we are going to start with the first section of my new book which is answering the questions, “How did we get here? And why can’t I just be happy?” And this is broken into basically three main things.

The first is looking at your journey, how you got to where you are now. Like me sharing my journey of getting to where I am, both personally and physically here on Maui. Then we look at our new world, this crazy unbelievable new world we live in. And finally, it’s good to reflect on our obsessive need to "do." We live in a capitalist society and a culture that puts a lot of value on “the more you do the better.”

How can we not always be going, going, going? This need to “do” is some sort of badge of honor. It's a bunch of BS, quite honestly, but we've all bought into it, that we need more, we need to buy more. We're just spending our money like crazy people and we're not saving. And so, we always need a better job and to be making more money. We've always got to be hustling to do the next thing, because we've literally created this life, but it's also innate in us.

Okay, enjoy this first installment of the new mini-series within the Healing the Hustle Series! And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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Welcome back everybody. This is the Front Seat Life podcast, and I am Jessica Butts bringing you my 100th episode! It’s kind of amazing. I’ve paused, taken some time off, come back with Healing the Hustle, but today we get to celebrate! I believe in celebrations and that we should celebrate our life and business wins.

And I’m celebrating two major wins this week, my 100th episode and I got approved trademark for Front Seat Life! So, of course my 100th episode is going to be about personality type. And dialing it up, not dialing it down. Be more of who we are, not suppressing it or oppressing it. Not being vanilla in any way, shape, or form.

It’s hard for us to do, because we naturally focus on the stuff we suck at and think we need to get better at that, to try to please everyone. I explain some of the traps we can fall into and the mistakes we make. But our greatest gift or path in life is to become more of who we are. We are not meant to be in a zone of competence, but a zone of genius. So, dial it up!

And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me via email and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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Welcome back everybody. This is the Front Seat Life podcast, and I am Jessica Butts bringing you another episode in the Healing the Hustle series. I know it’s confusing, but it’s what I’m doing at the moment. Today’s episode is a bit of a mess.

I’m talking about how to show up when you are not okay. Because part of our hustle is absolutely people pleasing. Absolutely pretending, like everything’s fine. And I’m not okay today. The cons of doing this in real time, in real life, as I’ve promised to be doing, is that sh*t happens, but the show must go on. I got kicked in the gut and I do believe that I really, really struggled with whether I do the podcast, or I just not do it?

That was option A, just skip a week. Option B, which is not really an option for me was to show up and be fake. To show up and pretend like I don’t have super wonky energy. And that is part of, again, the hustling that we do. This is part of the everything’s fine culture. It’s part of the culture that I’ve calling BS on for 11 years probably. This is just not healthy. It’s not healthy to pretend like everything’s fine.

It’s not healthy for us or for our relationships to show up in an inauthentic way and from our backseats. The backseat is when we’re doing too many things that we suck at, or someone breaks our heart… So, option C was to show up, record the podcast, be true to my commitment, and be authentic. Please listen and I’ll explain what is going on and hopefully what I share will help you if you find yourself in a similar situation, which does seem to happen to us all from time to time.

And remember, I always love hearing from my listeners. Feel free to reach out to me via email and of course I would love, love, love a review on iTunes, it helps others find us. And don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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I am back with Part 2 of my birthday episode! If you’ve been following along, I started sharing my five favorite personal development tools in the last episode, but due to my love of sharing, I couldn’t get them all into one episode, brevity is not my thing ha! So, I’m back this week to finish it off with the final two pieces of the puzzle.

If you are catching Part 2 and missed Part 1, you may want to go back to catch up. Part 1 was about personality type, obviously, codependency, and attachment. Today for Part 2 I am breaking down the five Love Languages from the amazing book by Gary Chapman. I unpack the five different Love Languages with examples from myself and others and explain why this is a wonderful tool in helping decode what makes your spouse, children, siblings, parents, and anyone close to you feel most loved.

Then I share one of the best decision-making tools that I’ve ever used, Core Values. There are 38 different Core Values (I think) and I have six that are important to me, and that help guide me. I think of Core Values as a bubble, and they surround me and keep me protected from things that are not going to be in alignment with my core values. You can get a list to help you uncover your Core Values over at my site, link below.

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I am very excited about today’s episode for a couple of reasons. One, it’s my birthday! I know as we get older, it shouldn’t be such a big deal, but I’ll be 49. I’ve heard people say that when you get past 35, you just continue to feel 35. I absolutely feel that way. I don’t necessarily look like I’m 35 anymore, but I absolutely feel that way. So, I have no idea how I got to be 49 years old, I’m way too immature! I’m just a very playful soul and playful person.

As I have divulged in previous episodes, this Healing the Hustle series is very in the moment real. I am not recording weeks and weeks out. I am literally recording this two days before my birthday, on July 5th, and I’ve been thinking about this episode a lot. It’s going to divert a bit from the Healing the Hustle content, because I was having a conversation recently with somebody in my life. And we were talking about how well we know ourselves. My answer is probably an A- minus, there’s always room for improvement, I don’t believe we’re an A+ plus at anything.

I will be doing personal development and self-improvement for sure until the day I die. I just always believe in forward momentum and thinking into the future and being the best version of ourselves.

So that will always be happening. Today’s episode I’m covering my five favorite personal development tools as a therapist and as just somebody who is adamantly for personal development and for self-improvement. Well, at least this is Part 1 because I love this so much, I couldn’t squeeze it into just one episode. In fact, each of these tools could be an entire episode on their own, or even more.

I could have done 10. I could have done three, but five came to my mind very easily. So, with today’s episode, I want you to be thinking about… How well do you know yourself?

I would love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out to me via email and of course would love a review on iTunes and don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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Welcome back everybody to the Healing the Hustle series on the Front Seat Life podcast. I’m delighted that you’re back, we’re on episode four. I really have no idea how many episodes there are going to be in this series, I’m just going to keep it rolling.

I do love when the universe continues to give feedback, if you will, that the more that I talk about this, the more that I go back to my roots of personality type and my therapy roots, and really connecting with people and not talking at people again, the universe just continues to reward that with more ideal clients.

The world is eager and excited to start learning about their personality type again. And I’m loving that people are reaching out and they’re engaging, and they want me to come in and speak to their organization or their women’s group or their team.

Now, I know you are dying to know about some of the stuff that I’m going to talk about today. Today’s episode is “I Made a Mistake.” I made a mistake and I’m assuming, everybody’s thinking, oh God, she thinks she made a mistake by moving to Maui. That is not what this episode is about. I did not make a mistake moving here, but I have made a mistake.

I’m not going to spoil it here, you are going to have to listen to the episode to find out! And you should listen to the end, go all the way through this episode. There is some good sh*t. I get on a soapbox at the end. I think the entire episode is wonderful and I hope you learn a lot about why I made a mistake.

I would love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out to me via email and of course would love a review on iTunes and don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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Welcome back everybody to the Healing the Hustle series on the Front Seat Life podcast. Today is yet another doozy. I was just going to name this episode “overthinking,” but then I realized it’s not that for us, for “J” women, for us controlling, domineering, bossy, overthinking women. Hence the name of this episode.

This is a fun project because I get to be very observant. I am an extremely observant person. It’s one of my favorite things to do. It’s just sit and people watch. And it’s absolutely why I love being a therapist.

And with this episode I’m sharing some observations, some stories about overthinking and trying to control the moment or the experience. I’ve been going through some big changes with my move to Maui and have caught myself trying to control things that are outside of my control, and noticing times when I could overthink things. Hopefully you can relate to these, I have a feeling these might resonate with many of you.

I am enjoying putting these episodes together for you! And I would love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out to me via email and of course would love a review on iTunes and don’t forget to subscribe and follow for future episodes.

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