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Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Healing the Effects of Love Addiction, Love Avoidance, and Unresolved Childhood Trauma

  • 29 minutes 58 seconds
    #273: How Fear of Abandonment Affects Your Relationships

    Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to your recovery plan for healing.


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    Register for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop here


    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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    26 December 2024, 11:03 pm
  • 40 minutes 42 seconds
    #272: 3 Green Flags Someone is Available for Love (How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts)

    In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts.

    Get the New Book here on Amazon

    Register for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop here


    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

    Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled

     

    Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?

    Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements

     

    CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE

    Website: Blackgirlsheal.org

    Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal

    TikTok: @blackgirlsheal

    Facebook: Black Girls Heal

    Website: Blackgirlsheal.org



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


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    18 December 2024, 10:13 pm
  • 40 minutes 15 seconds
    #271: 3 Tips to Deal with Holiday Overwhelm, Stress & Mental Fatigue

    On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips to help support where you are.


    Enroll in the 60 Day Love Avoidant Rehab

     

    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

    Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled

     

    Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?

    Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements

     

    CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE

    Website: Blackgirlsheal.org

    Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal

    TikTok: @blackgirlsheal

    Facebook: Black Girls Heal

    Website: Blackgirlsheal.org



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


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    12 December 2024, 9:20 pm
  • 47 minutes 27 seconds
    #270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary

    In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.


    Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose.


    This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift.


    In this episode, we cover…

    • 03:14 Why temporary friendship exists
    • 04:11 Four signs of temporary friendships
    • 18:16 The complexity of building friendships
    • 34:26 How to navigate transitional friendships
    • 36:57 The importance of clear communication in friendships
    • 44:59 Why you should still embrace temporary friendships
    • 46:17 Upcoming book releases 


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

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    26 November 2024, 9:00 am
  • 38 minutes 10 seconds
    #269: Navigating Seasons of Relational Conflict (Throwback episode)

    In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels like you're in conflict with EVERYONE. You know those times? When it seems like every conversation is tense, every interaction is challenging, and you're starting to wonder if maybe you're the problem?


    First, take a deep breath. Because what if I told you these seasons of conflict aren't here to break you - they're here to build you? What if every misunderstanding, every tough conversation, every moment that makes you want to scream into your pillow is actually an invitation to grow?


    We're getting real about how to take care of yourself when it feels like you're swimming in difficult energy. From dealing with current conflicts to processing unresolved issues from your past, I'm sharing four practical strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these stormy seasons.


    In this episode, we cover…

    • 01:00 Understanding why seasons of conflict happen
    • 02:52 Opportunities for growth during seasons of conflict
    • 08:14 How to deal with misunderstandings
    • 19:57 Why you should be teachable
    • 25:31 Reflecting on past conflicts


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

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    19 November 2024, 9:00 am
  • 33 minutes 59 seconds
    #268: 4 Reasons to Be Proud of Yourself

    In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey.


    You know those moments when you catch a red flag early? When you trust your gut instead of second-guessing yourself? When you look in the mirror and actually like who you see? Those aren't small wins - they're evidence of your incredible growth, and it's time we celebrate them!


    Through personal stories and real-life examples, we're diving into the beautiful transformation that happens when we start recognizing our own progress. From being able to spot those red flags quicker (instead of six months down the line!), to actually trusting ourselves more than other people's opinions, to developing that genuine self-love that isn't dependent on anyone else's validation - these are all victories worth celebrating.


    This conversation isn't just about patting ourselves on the back - it's about acknowledging that every step forward in our healing journey matters. Whether you're just starting out or you're well along your path, there's something powerful about stopping to recognize how far you've come.


    In this episode, we cover…

    • 02:47 Why you should recognize your growth
    • 03:31 Embracing your wisdom
    • 05:13 How to navigate life's challenges
    • 06:30 Understanding self-knowledge
    • 08:26 How to build self-love
    • 09:42 Having faith beyond relationships
    • 19:22 The power of self-liking


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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    12 November 2024, 9:00 am
  • 38 minutes 53 seconds
    #267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care

    In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you emotionally? You know that feeling when their energy shifts, the care fades, and you're left wondering what happened?


    After seeing so many TikTok conversations about love avoidance and no contact, I knew it was time to dive into this topic heart-first. Because let's be honest - whether it's a romantic partner, a friend, or even family, that emotional withdrawal hits different when it comes from someone you truly care about.


    This isn't just another "move on" conversation. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of how to hold onto your worth when someone's actions (or lack thereof) have you questioning everything. I'm sharing three powerful strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these tough waters.


    In this episode, we cover…

    • 04:31 When you grieve the fantasy of relationships
    • 06:35 Your coping toolkit
    • 08:52 Coping Strategy 1
    • 15:57 Coping Strategy 2
    • 21:46 Coping Strategy 3
    • 35:41 The No-Contact Strategy


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

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    5 November 2024, 9:00 am
  • 48 minutes 5 seconds
    #266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship

    In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.' 


    I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively. 


    I also explore how going slow helps in truly understanding your partner, avoiding unhealthy attachments, and building a stronger foundation for your love story. 


    This episode is perfect for hopeless romantics who want to avoid 'struggle love' and genuinely find a fulfilling relationship.


    In this episode, we cover…

    • 00:17 Understanding love addiction and avoidance
    • 2:55 Seven benefits of going slow in relationships
    • 28:36 The impact of sex and affection
    • 34:40 Self-love and building a fulfilling life


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

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    29 October 2024, 8:05 am
  • 49 minutes 59 seconds
    #265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others

    In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


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    23 October 2024, 12:45 pm
  • 40 minutes 22 seconds
    #264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal

    In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal!


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

    Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
    17 October 2024, 2:13 pm
  • 50 minutes 43 seconds
    #263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict

    In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma. 


    We discuss how trauma can heighten our threat response, making it difficult to discern real threats from perceived ones. The episode delves into the skill of 'checking the facts,' a concept derived from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), outlining practical steps to take for regulating emotions and improving conflict resolution. 


    My personal stories and examples highlight the nuances of threat perception, emotional regulation, and the impact of trauma on relationships. 


    We also tackle the challenge of making amends if you realize you've misunderstood a situation or person. 


    Tune in for essential tips on fostering better personal relationships and self-awareness.


    In this episode, we cover…

    • 01:06 Understanding trauma and threat response
    • 02:55 The skill of “Checking the Facts”
    • 04:20 Dialectical Behavior Therapy Explained
    • 07:03 Personal reflections on trauma responses
    • 18:42 Steps to check the facts
    • 30:17 Why you should challenge your assumptions
    • 44:36 How to make amends with healthy and available people


    Resources mentioned in the episode:


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    Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEAL


    Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donations

    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

    Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
    1 October 2024, 8:00 am
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