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Dan Koch

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  • 39 minutes 10 seconds
    How to Write a Post-Evangelical Novel (#256)

    I was joined by editor, podcaster, and novelist Jason Kirk to discuss how he put his Evangelical upbringing — barely distinguishable from my own — into his recent novel Hell Is A World Without You. We also discussed the power of storytelling to capture the overlap of complex ideas, fear of Hell, queer affirmation, Dune, and more. 


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/69-5jPEmrBE


    Jason’s Book “ Hell Is a World Without You”: https://www.amazon.com/Hell-World-Without-Jason-Kirk/dp/1735492647


    https://www.jasonkirk.fyi/p/novel


    “Pretty Good Vibrations” Episode mentioned - Further Seems Forever Deep Dive:

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pretty-good-vibrations/id1652779250?i=1000651894374


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    25 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 1 hour 18 minutes
    I Don’t Like Worship Music, But It Works (#255)

    On this week’s episode, I spoke with Elias Dummer, a musician, marketer, and former singer-songwriter of the Canadian Christian rock band The City Harmonic. We talked about the power and potential of contemporary worship music, exploring its role as a "spiritual technology" and its ability to unite people across various divisions -- class, race, theology, etc. And yes, in case you are wondering, I had to set aside my own personal distaste for Contemporary Christian Music and worship music, but I was happy to do so, all in the name of science, of course!


    Elias shared his unique background, coming from an ecumenical, missional context rather than a typical megachurch setting. I liked how this challenged common assumptions about contemporary worship music and its association with private piety and white Evangelical tribalism.


    We delved into the research Elias and others are doing about worship music, touching on concepts like Emile Durkheim’s collective effervescence and the ability of music to manipulate emotions. Acknowledging the power that worship leaders hold can help them use this influence responsibly. We agreed that being transparent about the mechanisms at play can help protect people from potential harm and abuse.


    Dan’s old band “Pacific Gold”:

    https://open.spotify.com/artist/5JiCHmso7KrIrNdhjRuElw?si=DOHu-J1wTyeQ6Rh7ET565g


    Elias’s Band “The City Harmonic” on Spotify:

    https://open.spotify.com/artist/6qAVoMGl7omcu0RhX1B3fm?si=XTVkEntjSyuMSDLM1zjNlw


    The City Harmonic’s “Manifesto” on Spotify:

    https://open.spotify.com/track/5PsxiztPCYZUcEkXmYSx8Q?si=f921612d70464c32


    Elias’ IG @eliasdummer


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/7D-lyxdwDQs

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    22 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 51 minutes 36 seconds
    A New Queer-Affirming Book & Its Fallout (with The New Evangelicals) (#254)

    In this conversation, Tim Whitaker of The New Evangelicals joins Dan for a dual-feed special episode to discuss the upcoming book by Richard B. Hays, a respected New Testament scholar (Duke), and his son Christopher (Fuller), titled 'The Widening of God's Mercy: A Thoroughly Biblical Account of LGBTQ Affirmation in the Church.' They explore the potential impact of the book and the various reactions it has received. They also discuss the importance of acknowledging the harm caused by previous non-affirming positions and the need for an apology. They consider the strategic implications of the book and its potential to shift the conversation in white Evangelical spaces. They highlight the importance of listening to the voices of queer Christian scholars and the potential for the book to provide validation and support for those navigating their faith and sexuality. Also, they explore the idea of holding contradictory views and the importance of integration and growth, including a little bit of therapy-adjacent ideas about Tim and his dad.


    https://www.thenewevangelicals.com/


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/bEdcKuNfHg8


    Richard Hays’ Book “The Widening of God’s Mercy”:

    https://yalebooks.yale.edu/book/9780300273427/the-widening-of-gods-mercy/


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    18 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 1 hour 12 minutes
    Still Christian & Way Humble About It! (#253)

    Dan spoke with friend and frequent guest Sarey Martin Concepcion about the intersection of intellectual humility and our Christian faith journeys, attempting to tie this together with his recent set of “Still Christian” episodes. They discussed how Sarey was raised in a fundamentalist evangelical strain of Christianity that valued certainty and correct doctrinal beliefs above all else. This made it challenging to embrace intellectual humility -- acknowledging what one can and cannot be confident about.


    While appreciating the research around intellectual humility can create some real tensions within Christianity, it also provides a foundation for extending grace to ourselves and others amid disagreement and uncertainty.


     https://www.tidycocreative.com/


    Other Intellectual Humility Episodes:

    Elizabeth Hall: Doubt, Intellectual Humility & Uncertainty Tolerance (#146)

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000553166878


    Joshua Hook: Intellectual Humility (#184)

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000608179436


    Daryl van Tongeren: You Are Not Your Beliefs (#195)

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000618349369


    Stephen Sandage: What Does a Healthy Spiritual Leader Even Look Like? (#209)

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000627460605

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    15 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 38 minutes 13 seconds
    GGCH: Richard Hays’ Gay Affirmation, Huberman, and More (#252)

    On this month's Generation Gap Culture Hour, Dan, Josh, and Tony play a round of “Bar, Bank, Church, or Dispensary,” consider ways they are becoming like their dads, discuss the impact of the forthcoming gay-affirming book by New Testament scholar Richard B. Hays, the New York Magazine attempted takedown of Andrew Huberman, and more.


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/g5vmzxlRTLI


    RESOURCES MENTIONS:

    Richard Hays’ Book “The Widening of God’s Mercy”:

    https://yalebooks.yale.edu/book/9780300273427/the-widening-of-gods-mercy/


    Andrew Huberman Article:

    https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/andrew-huberman-podcast-stanford-joe-rogan.html


    CT’s “Why Character Doesn’t Matter Anymore”:

    https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2024/march-web-only/ned-flanders-douglas-wilson-russell-moore-character.html


    Tony's Website:

    https://reverendhunter.com/

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    11 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 1 hour 15 minutes
    How Do Violent & Unhealthy Men Change? (#251)

    Dan's guest today is Simon Nixon, a former pastor and licensed counselor in Australia who works predominantly with domestic violence offenders in group therapy settings, helping them understand how to change their behavior and become safe partners and fathers. They discuss the challenges of such work, including the emotional difficulty and the need for a non-judgmental approach to facilitate change.

    Simon and Dan explore the concept of toxic and non-toxic masculinities and the importance of helping men identify and process their emotions. Simon outlines the process of working with these men, which includes identifying the kind of man they want to be, challenging unhelpful beliefs, and providing tools and strategies for managing anger and other emotions. They also touch on the evolutionary aspects of masculine traits and how some of these traits, such as protection and provision, may have been adaptive in the past but can be problematic in modern society. Dan offers a framework for re-evaluating some classically masculine traits in a more adaptive way.


    Simon's Counsellor Page:

    https://www.theaca.net.au/counsellor/Simon-Nixon


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/Dou415Dnhow

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    8 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 22 minutes 18 seconds
    Trump 2024 Anxiety, Part 2 (#250)

    Speaking as much to himself as to listeners, Dan continues this series by recapping Part 1, then discussing two more common thinking errors, known in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as “cognitive distortions,” that he sees in news coverage around the possibility of a Donald Trump victory in 2024. Recognizing these distortions in the media as well as our own thoughts about the election and its results can 1) reduce our anxiety and 2) align our thoughts more fully with the reality that the future is uncertain but unlikely to be as catastrophic as we often assume. More episodes should come and will focus on additional cognitive distortions, as well as acceptance work.

    **Watch this episode on YouTube** https://youtu.be/Ixh-be0_l5A

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    4 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 1 hour 12 minutes
    A Pastor Walks Out of The Church and Into The Woods (#249)

    Our very own Tony Jones (Generation Gap Culture Hour episodes, author, theologian, recovering youth ministry wunderkind) joins Dan for a very special conversation about the release of his brand new book, The God of Wild Places. Their conversation follows a three-act structure: Tony's early ministry days, then his escape into hunting while his marriage and life were crumbling, and finally the re-approaching and rethinking of his theology and faith in light of those experiences. Along the way, they also touch on mid-century mainline Protestantism, the spirituality and ritual of indigenous hunting practices, and the costs and benefits of organized religion versus a more "disorganized" spirituality. This is not one you'll want to miss, especially if you enjoy Tony on the GGCH episodes.


    Tony's Website:

    https://reverendhunter.com/


    RESOURCES MENTIONS:

    James Dobson’s “Preparing for Adolescence”:

    https://www.drjamesdobson.org/broadcasts/preparing-for-adolescence-part-1


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/wbAuF3YKj3A

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    1 April 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 23 minutes 38 seconds
    Rapid-Fire Mailbag: Pluralism, Eucharist, Oppenheimer vs. Dune, Books & Podcasts (#248)

    **Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FhPSrPr0g9U

    In the first of hopefully many "rapid fire" mailbag episodes, Dan answers listener questions on the following topics:

    • Books to read as you start faith deconstruction
    • Podcasts he wishes someone else would start
    • Oppenheimer vs. Dune Part 2
    • Whether Jesus’ teachings in the Gospels are compatible with other religions being viable paths to God
    • Albums that changed how he listens to music
    • What the Eucharist/Lord’s Supper means to him today


    To listen to or watch the full episode, join the Patreon community at http://patreon.com/dankoch


    RESOURCES MENTIONED:

    The Bible Made Impossible

    A Flexible Faith

    Pure

    Bonnie Kristian YHP episodes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000428619214

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000437967133

    Linda Kay Klein YHP episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000450839620

    Pretty Good Vibrations (Dan's music podcast): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pretty-good-vibrations/id1652779250

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    28 March 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 26 minutes 56 seconds
    Finding Meaning in Difficult Bible Passages (#246)

    This week, Dan answers a listener question about how he approaches difficult biblical passages that portray God as full of wrath, punishing humans in this world for their sins and rebellion. Later, Kristen Tideman joins to discuss Dan’s answer and ask some follow-up questions.


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/ZHtYQQmRp9Y

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    25 March 2024, 12:00 pm
  • 36 minutes 25 seconds
    Responding to: Finding Meaning in Difficult Bible Passages (#247)

    This week, Dan answers a listener question about how he approaches difficult biblical passages that portray God as full of wrath, punishing humans in this world for their sins and rebellion. Later, Kristen Tideman joins to discuss Dan’s answer and ask some follow-up questions.


    **Watch this episode on YouTube**

    https://youtu.be/STHpDBYJuQc

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    25 March 2024, 12:00 pm
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