Overcoming unhappiness in the legal profession
So we made it to then end! In this very last episode of the Happy Lawyer Happy Life podcast I sat down with my now very dear friend Jennifer Harris. Jen and I met thanks to this show and her friendship will forever be one of the greatest things that has come as a result. When I was trying to work out who would be the perfect person to help me wrap this all up I immediately thought of Jen. So here we are! Talking all things happiness in law, what we have both learned over 237 episodes and 6 years of podcasting.
Before publishing this episode today I was listening back to Episode 1 to remind myself of what I set out to explore with this show. Now, 6 years later I can say with confidence that there are so many happy lawyers out there. Sure they all have their ups and downs but each of them has found a way to build a career in this profession that they (mostly) love.
These stories have show us that happiness really is different for all of us. I have had the chance to speak with some extraordinary people in our profession- some are famous, some are hardly known and all are going about their work with meaning, purpose and conviction and doing great things in the world.
We can build careers in law that enable us to pursue a meaningful and happy life- just listen back to my many guests and you will find out how.
That’s a wrap.
It is finally time to say goodbye, and I won’t be seeing you on the airwaves next week. A lot of you are asking ‘what’s next?’ for me, and as much as I’d love to tell you there’s some great plan to do something fascinating, interesting and grand, there actually isn’t. Over the last six years, I have really explored what it takes for me to build a life that has at the heart of it, happiness. My kids are that bit older. My business works well. I know that I need craft, sparkles and colour in my life. And so, I’m actually going to take a bit of a step back from this law land stuff.
These days I spend most of my free time hanging out with my girls, being a dance mum, watching them build lives that have at the heart of them their happiness. For the next few years, that’s all I really want to do. I love law, I love the careers that we all get to build, and I hope I’ve done my little bit to make an impact in the profession that we’re all part of. For now, I just want to go and be Clarissa, that happy lawyer who loves that sparkly stuff and enjoys the people closest to her. Maybe a new project will come along, but I’m pretty content if it doesn’t.
I want to say thank you to a few people that have made this project what it is. Firstly, to Amelia Rees, the silent mind behind each and every one of these episodes. Amelia and I’ve worked together for many years. Some years ago, I ran a cafe and she was the manager of that cafe before she transitioned to a receptionist in my law firm. Thanks to some challenges in her own life, she had to step away from working within my business, but in her time there, she’d built the skills to become a podcast producer. Having navigated some health challenges, she fast set up a business using all of the skills that she and I had learned together. Amelia runs a great little business called ‘Pretty Podcasts’. She’s the back end now of a whole bunch of successful podcasts all around this country.
Amelia, you have been such a wonderful part of my life. You and Marshall have been there since the beginning of my businesses and I’m so grateful that you are still involved today. Thank you for all your work in producing this show and making it the great thing that it has been.
To my other creative sidekick, Sarah Follent, who has also been there with me the whole time through this journey, the brains behind all of the pretty pictures and all of the nice things that come out of my two businesses I say a huge tinsel filled ‘thank you’! Sarah is another deeply talented human being that I’m so very grateful to have in my life. Many of you would’ve connected with Sarah over the years and I’ve come to learn that everyone needs a Sarah in their life, a cheerleader who is kind, determined, and smart.
To another cheerleader in my life, Kiarah Grace Kelly aka Episode 117 I say ‘thank you’! Kiarah is my side kick in business at Brisbane Family Law Centre these days, and is fast becoming a significant leader in our profession. She’s wise beyond her years and keeps me smiling every day. She’s a big part of why I can say to you that I’m stepping back, because with leaders like Kiarah coming through our profession, I have comfort that the future is very, very bright.
I would like to thank Ann Maree David and the team at the College of Law. When this show was just an idea in my head, I turned up on Ann Maree’s doorstep with a very poorly produced PDF, asking her and the College to get behind this idea. Six years later, the College has been there for every single episode supporting me and all of us in this adventure.
I will forever be grateful to Anne Maree and her team at the College for taking a chance on what was then the first podcast in this country for lawyers. I know I say it every week, but I’m going to write it just in case you forget-
“Jump on their website, collaw.edu.au, because the College offers so many wonderful tools and resources for us lawyers, no matter our age or stage in our careers.”
I would also like to thank each and every one of the guests that have taken the time to join my show and share their stories so earnestly. Without them, clearly this would not have been possible.
To my personal cheer squad, Ollie, London, Daisy, thank you. London’s grown up with this show, her voice kicking off the beginning of each episode. She sounds a bit different now. Both my girls think podcasting is just a thing that everyone does, and I look forward to seeing what they each do with the tools that they’ve come to learn, being surrounded by all these great people. My husband, Oliver, is the quiet cheerleader that many of you will have never met and probably don’t hear too much about, but I am forever grateful as he always says, “Sure, whatever, you go for it,” with all of my crazy ideas.
And finally, a big thank you to you, the listener. Every single week, so many of you have tuned in to hear from me and my guests about all these things, happiness in law. The show clearly wouldn’t exist without those of you who have listened, and I hope there’ll still be many more of you who will continue to listen into the future. Whilst the question might be answered in the affirmative, we can of course have lives in the law that enable us to be happy people, this is an ongoing dialogue.
The pandemic has shown us that the strangest things can happen at any time. The work that needs to be done right now in improving our profession for all within it will no doubt be different in 10 years’ time. We should, as custodians of this profession, be forever doing our best to ensure that we create an environment for all of us that enables us to thrive.
A few years ago, I chose to be happy. That sentence sounds so simple, but that action took daily mindful work. It still does, and I encourage you to do the same. Choose happy. It won’t be easy, and some days happiness will feel far from your reality, but by choosing happy, you are making decisions within a mindset of optimism, kindness, connection, community, seeking a more meaningful life. And I’d like to think that ultimately, that will leave the world in a better place.
In this interview, Jen and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with final words from our host, Clarissa Rayward.
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In this final guest episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing Claudia Maw. If there was a person I could pick to be our final story on this show then Claudia is that person- she optimises all of the things I think about when I picture a ‘happy lawyer’ and is a true example of what I think we have come to learn from this show- there is no one way to be a lawyer!
Claudia is based in a little town of Albany in WA where she has built a bustling estate planning practice. But she is not from Albany, and not even from Australia! Claudia has lived a most interesting life and it makes for a fascinating story. It was fantastic to learn more about her background in both law and life, and how she came from a travelling military family in the UK to set up a small firm in rural WA.
Claudia absolutely embodies all the things I love about the ‘new law’ movement. She has taken her incredible life experiences, her passions and her interests, and created a boutique firm that fits her definition of success perfectly. Claudia’s advice? ‘Do the things you want to do’, and I couldn’t agree more.
In this interview, Claudia and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Claudia Maw
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In this second last episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing Andrew McCormack, family lawyer with Thynne + Macartney Lawyers.
Andrew is a great friend of mine, who like me is a Family Lawyer in #brisvegas! Andrew has has been a big part of my legal career, and I am so glad to be able to interview him before this Podcast comes to a close. His story-telling, his sense of humour and his ‘law nerd’ abilities are things that I greatly appreciate, and this interview really embodies these amazing qualities. Andrew has also been a wonderful friend to me particularly during the challenges of 2020 and 2021 so I am glad I got to say ‘Thank you’ and have that recorded for good.
This episode brought a lot of laughter, but also a lot of learnings on everything from entomology to looking after your mental health in #lawland. Andrew openly speaks about his own neurodiversity, burn out and the steps he takes each day to keep at it in #Lawland.
In this interview, Andrew and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Andrew McCormack.
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In this episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing Kate Sherburn. Kate is an inhouse lawyer at a company I am a raving fan for- ‘Who Gives a Crap’- a company who despite a pandemic have a product that sure has been in high demand!!
Kate and I have chatted a few times over the pandemic years and it was great to catch up with her in the last few weeks as we close out this show. Like anyone who lived in Victoria, the last few years have taken a toll but Kate’s positive mindset explains so much about why she and her team have been able to navigate their way through.
Kate is such a great example of someone who has pursued a career in law, found what she loves in an unexpected place, and is absolutely thriving in her career and life.
In this episode, we discuss Kate’s experiences in different companies, the incredible teams she works with and has worked with in the past, and what experience and life is like when you’re working as an in-house lawyer in businesses, particular at ‘Who Gives a Crap!’ (As an aside, I would love to work in a company that manages to appropriately get the word ‘crap’ into the title!)
Kate is such an interesting, personable and articulate human, and I am excited to share her story with you!
In this interview, Kate and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Kate Sherburn
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In this episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing Elspeth Finney, director of Shoalhaven Family Law on the south coast of NSW.
Elspeth is someone I’ve known for a few years, and while this interview was recorded all the way back in the Covid-scape of 2021, I am so pleased to have been able to get this episode out there to you all. Elspeth is such an incredible woman, and is absolutely someone to watch in the legal space moving forward!
In this interview, it was such a pleasure to learn more about her. We discussed Elspeth’s earlier life, her love of remote coastal NSW and competitive fishing, and how she has crafted her life, practice and team around the things she values most. While many of us with our own practices take the leap later in our careers, Elspeth knew what she wanted from very early on in law, and made it work (and succeed!) with incredible determination.
But while she has built one great law firm down on the South Coast of NSW, it is her life out of the law that has always made me smile. Elspeth has a love of family, dogs and fishing (yes out in the ocean ‘Big’ fish type fishing!). I think we can all learn from Elspeth’s self-awareness, drive, and in crafting her work and life around the people and things she loves.
In this interview, Elspeth and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Elspeth Finney.
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In this episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing Elizabeth Fairon, business owner extraordinaire of both Life Law Solutions and Acumen Leadership.
You may not know too much about Elizabeth if you live outside of Queensland, but I can say she is one of the most talented lawyers and business owners I know.
In this interview, Elizabeth takes us through so many of the things that makes her such a fantastic leader, business owner and person. From her non-linear journey into law, her love for learning and writing, and her new business ‘Acumen Leadership’ that is helping us all be better leaders in law. She also discusses the attrition rates in law, how to avoid burnout, where she’s going next, and where she finds her peace – in creativity, connection, and those magical morning moments!
She has also just launched her own podcast so because you need a new show to listen to I can highly recommend hers- ‘Life Law and Leadership’.
Elizabeth really is just such a cool human and I am so glad I managed to sneak in this interview!
In this interview, Elizabeth and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Elizabeth Fairon.
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In this week’s episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing Perpetua Kish (Pepe) and Jonathon Naef (Jono) Co-founders of Balance Family Law. I’ve known Pepe and Jono for a few years now, and it’s been incredible watching them from afar as they have built and created their firm. This was recorded quite a while ago, so apologies to you both that this episode has taken me so long to publish!
What really stood out for me in this chat was how Pepe and Jono have found themselves working in Family Law with such a similar vision, but with such different strengths and experiences. We don’t see many partnerships in newer law firms emerging, but Pepe and Jono truly embody the spirit of why and how these partnerships can come together and bring out the best in us.
Their mutual vision, respect, and helping one another in realising their complimentary strengths is absolutely something we can all learn from – in life both inside and outside the law.
In this interview, Pepe, Jono and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Pepe and Jono from Balance Family Law.
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In this week’s episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing immigration lawyer, Rachael Bosnjak.
Rachael is someone who I’ve gotten to know through this Podcast as a dedicated listener so it is fitting that she is bringing home our last 7 episodes ever!
About a year ago now, right in the midst of the pandemic with international borders closed, Rachael took a giant leap and opened her own law firm, Passage Migration. Now you might think opening a migration practice at a time when migration was near impossible was a little left of centre but a year down the track and we can now say that Rachael was ahead of the curve, literally!
Rachael’s creativity is the heart of her success in designing and operating her own business- her recent sketches in a workshop we both attended made me jealous!
As I’m starting to wrap up the Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast after 6 wonderful years, this chat with Rachael was fantastic in discussing where the conversation around lawyers finding happiness began all those years ago, compared to where it is now. I had so many moments through this Podcast recording where I was reminded why I started this whole thing – the chance to talk to incredible people across the world that I otherwise would not have met, and all of the incredible listeners out there- Rachael being one of them.
Thank you for this wonderful interview Rachael, and I look forward to seeing the Aston Martin goal come to life!
In this interview, Rachael and I also chatted about –
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Rachael Bosnjak.
There are still a couple more interviews to come before this show comes to an end, but fret not – I am still doing all of the Happy Lawyer things! In true Clarissa style we will be celebrating the end of the Podcast with a party alongside the incredible College of Law, not to mention the upcoming Retreat in November. If you want to stay in the loop, just check out my Instagram @thehappyfamilylawyer.
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In this week’s episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing the wonderful Kate Christie. Kate is a former lawyer now author, ‘life curator’ and business owner. She is a time-saving superstar who helps high-powered, busy people (particularly women) to curate their time and prioritise sustainably to create their best lives both in and out of law.
Like so many of us, Kate started career in law- climbing corporate ladders and achieving all of the outward signs of a successful legal career. But add 3 kids, an unrelenting corporate position and Kate found herself burnt out and leaving the career that she had once loved. The irony of course is that by stepping away from life as a lawyer Kate has gone on to build a mini-empire for herself- a successful solo career as a consultant to busy professionals- helping them avoid the traps that she encountered.
Kate also shared her perceptions of #lawland over the past 20 years, especially on the gendered expectations of parenthood that result in women opting out of their legal careers from feelings of guilt, with the underlying expectation that there needs to be a choice. Kate’s advice? You don’t have to choose! You can curate your life and time around the things that matter to you, which is one of the biggest take-aways here for me! Kate’s advice on value prioritising the ‘big rocks’ of your time is a really important shift. If you’re looking at what you value as a first port of call in shaping your life, you’ll always have the time and space for the things and people you love.
This really is such a fascinating discussion, and Kate really exemplifies what this Podcast is about – how life can come full-circle, the pivots and changes we face over time, and how you can always find a way to harness your time to live your best life.
In this interview, Kate and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Kate Christie.
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In this week’s episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing family lawyer Joplin Higgins OAM.
Joplin is someone I’ve known through the excellent work she does in the family law space for a while now, so it was such a privilege to be able to sit down and learn more about her story. Joplin really is such a great example of someone who came into law through a fascinating pathway, found her calling, and has created a unique space in #Lawland where she continues to flourish.
While covering what led her to where she is now (Joplin’s rural upbringing, love of jewellery, time in Germany and how coral trout led her into the law), a key piece for me here is Joplin’s observation on the importance of loving people as a lawyer, and our role in creating a great customer service experience. In allowing this love and care for clients to shine, it makes us better – not just as lawyers, but as people too.
This conversation was so much fun, but also a fantastic insight into something many of us experience in law – ending up in a space that was not a part of our initial plan! Joplin is a beautiful example of how life leads us to unexpected places, and how we can make the most of these opportunities to learn, grow, pivot, and find joy.
In this interview, Joplin and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with Joplin Higgins.
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In this week’s episode of the ‘Happy Lawyer Happy Life Podcast’ I had the pleasure of interviewing James Janke and Drew Hamilton. James and Drew are together the owners and operators of Hamilton Janke, a progressive criminal law practice based in Newcastle. These two friends started their business a few years ago and I so enjoyed hearing the ‘how and why’ behind that decision. Partnerships in legal firms were certainly the way of the past, but we don’t see so many of them popping up now and yet here is one that really works. For James and Drew it is the combination of their shared drive for excellance in their area of law but perhaps more importantly their common belief in the value of life and family. This is a fun interview for anyone with an interest in building a firm from the ground up. These two have done it, successfully, and I can see why having had the chance to enjoy their banter for this hour! We talked surfing, being a Rock Star and somewhere in there life as a criminal lawyer! My favourite tip from these two was a reminder that as business owners it is important to give yourself permission to have downtime, without any guilt.
In this interview, James Janke and Drew Hamilton and I also chatted about-
Sit back and enjoy this interview with James Janke and Drew Hamilton.
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