Changes in your kinky power dynamic can be scary and destabilizing, but they can also be exciting, healing, and necessary. This week, we discuss shifts in power we’ve experienced within our own relationships, and how we navigate them.

Are We Switches? | Empathy & POV | Learning to Dominate | Receiving Caretaking | Somatics & Self-Esteem | Not Having All the Answers | Switching Within Relationships | Motivations | Kinky Flirting | What Do You Want? | People-Pleasing & Boundaries | Deciding to Change | Making Changes

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Happy Masturbation Month! We’re celebrating by answering listener questions about jerking off.
 

Cum Socks, Cum Box | Pruney Fingers | Jerking Off to Oneself | Perspective in Fantasy | Stroker Newbie Tips | Fleshlight Quickshot | Tenga Egg | Porn Addiction | Masturbating Before Bed | Unexpected Additions | Museum of Sex Event

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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What do sex, kink, Michelin-star restaurants, Disney World, and Dungeons & Dragons have in common? This week we’re talking about the concept of immersiveness, and what we can learn about sex and kink from studying immersive experiences.

“What is Sex Like?” | Flow State | Internal vs. External Factors | Social Anxiety | Sleep No More | Attention | Moments | Hospitality | Disney | Ambiance & Headspace | D&D

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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What’s the best lesson you’ve ever learned about sex, dating, or masturbating? This week we’re celebrating Kate’s birthday by distilling some key pieces of wisdom we’ve learned on several of our favorite topics.
 

Birthdays | First Dates | Masturbation | New Relationship Energy | Long-Term Relationships | Friendship | No Sleep | Fantasy | Re-Watching | Sadomasochism | Orgasms | Jealousy in Non-Monogamy | Codependency | Flirting | Metacommunication

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Traveling with a partner can be magical, or it can be stressful as hell. This week, we’re discussing the pitfalls and best practices of taking trips with someone you’re dating.
 

Hotel Sex | Different Version of Yourself | Compatibility Test | Travel & Polyamory | How Soon? | Stress & Arguments | Time Apart | Early Trips | Overstimulation vs. Calm | Conferences & Camp

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, boundaries, “leagues,” dealbreakers, and more.

Male Attention | Horrors of Singledom | Self-Judgment | Gender Differences | “Leagues” | Rejection | Insecurities | Chemistry | Wanting vs. Being Wanted | Monogamy vs. Polyamory | Friend of a Friend Matchmaking | Bad Standards | What ARE “Standards”? | Attractions Changing | Good Standards | Setting Standards | Preference vs. Fetishization

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts and feelings on various forms of size kink.
 

Littleness vs. Age Play | Vore | Eating & Swallowing | Cannibalism (7:52–11:40) | Giantesses | Tinies | Toy Story | Human Size Variations | Kissing | Height Preferences | Gender | CNC | How to Emphasize Size

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a tattoo artist.

Dildo Nerds | New Logo | Listened to Every Episode | Fifty Shades | Favorite Part | Separate Personas | Piercing | Tattooing | Alt Culture | Traditions vs. Colonialism | Flash Art | Kinky Tattooing

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Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jessica Fern | Differing Compatibilities | Friendships vs. Romance | Dean Spade Essay | Building Your Own Escalator | Professional & Creative Partnerships | Social Media | Collars | Money

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Artwork by Addison Finch

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Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic from New Zealand who has studied porn addiction discourse and the NoFap movement, about all of the above and more.
 

Origin Story | Masculinity | New or Old? | NoFap Research | Homoeroticism in NoFap | Women on NoFap | Giving Pleasure | Eroticizing Self-Denial | Dust Breeding | Barriers & Tension | Sexual Fantasy | Male Pleasure | Flure App | Porn Dependency | “No Porn” Rule | Fantastical Fantasies | Vibrators | A Cyborg Manifesto | Solitary Sex | Making Sex | Female Orgasm | Queer & Trans People | Future Research Directions

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Humor is a big component of our sex and kink, but it’s not always appropriate during scenes. This week we talk about how and when to deploy humor to improve your flirting, domming, or subbing.

Vibrators Dying | Improv Crushes | Take an Improv Class | The Excitement of Humor | Collaboration | Repetition | Tension & Release | Too Much Laughing? | Read the Room | Nothosaur Toys | Breath Play | Nerves & Anxiety | Aftercare | On the Same Page | Making a Top Laugh | Humiliation Play | Funny Kink Scenes | Commit to the Bit

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