Hey friend, welcome to the podcast!

I have a special guest today, Paul Churchill from the mega-popular Recovery Elevator, with more than 10M downloads! He is also an author and since I spoke with him last, a new husband and father!

We had a wide-ranging conversation, including pushing past fear, new challenges in long-term sobriety, and how the recovery landscape has changed over the years.

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!

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Hey Friend!

Im so glad youre here for this special episode. Today my dear friend Charlie LeVoir, the host of The Way Out Podcast, is interviewing me to talk about my new book The 12 Step Guide For Skeptics Clearing Up Common Misconceptions of a Path to Sobriety.

And stay to the end because we talk about the dark side of social media sobriety!

When I announced that the book was published, I had several people suggest that I talk about why I wrote the book, and Im not great at doing solo episodes, so I asked Charlie to join me.

BTW, follow me on Instagram @arlinaallen because Ill be sharing about The Inner Compass Program thats launching in January. The whole idea about this new program is to help you get unstuck on your personal growth journey and solve the one problem EVERYONE has which is collapsing the gap between knowing what to do, and actually doing it!

We all struggle with internal resistance, and the new program will be focused on helping you resolve that resistance, so you can feel freer to take the actions that will help you break out of negative behavior patterns and make consistent progress towards your goals.

I am so excited about this work, because its the work that frees you up to do all your other work!

So thats it for announcements. Without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!

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Imagine being so obsessed with alcohol at 12 years old that you land in rehab at 13! My guest today is Christoper, and thats exactly what happened to him. He went on to struggle with alcohol and severe drug addiction for decades, which led him to the darkest side of humanity.

But thats just the beginning of Christophers story. In this episode he will share how he was finally able to break out of addiction and adopt a lifestyle where he is absolutely thriving!

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!

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Can We End The Shame and Stigma of Addiction? Can we turn survival skills into healthy coping skills? Is it even really possible to heal from childhood trauma?

Today my guest Heather Zuchowski and I addressed all these questions, and it might sound weird, but we actually had a great time! Heather is smart, shes funny, and very talented in her work. I so appreciated her vulnerability and transparency as we talked about the hardest parts of her story as well. She really delivers on the solutions too, which I love.

Also, I have something fun to suggest to those brave souls who are listening right now. the response to the coaching calls has been so good, that I've decided to make them a regular part of the show!

Here's the deal, if you are struggling with an issue like a difficult family member, ending a relationship, a situation at work,& maybe you're struggling with letting go of a sponsor, procrastination, dealing with grief, whatever and you'd like to talk it through with me, we can record our conversation and publish it as an episode, and we can even do it anonymously.

So if you'd like support from me, and you'd be willing to be a guest to talk about your challenges, email me at [email protected]. I'll only be able to do a couple of these per month, so if you're interested, be sure to reach out as soon as you can.

Lastly, the paperback version of my book is out! In case you didn't know, it's called “The 12-Step Guide for Skeptics: Clearing up Common Misconceptions of a Path to Sobriety”. All I'm going to say is that if you haven't worked the steps yet, this guide will help you get all the benefits without all the drama. The 12 steps are a worthy endeavor. You have nothing to lose, and there's nothing to be afraid of. I love you, you are safe, I'm here to help. You can work with me on a 1:1 basis, just visit soberlifeschool.com to book a strategy call. I'll keep you safe and moving in the right direction.

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, with Heather!

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Welcome to the podcast! If you’re listening in from the US, UK, Australia, Ireland, Germany & China - I’m so glad you’re here! You’re a part of a community that is listening from 69 countries. How cool is that?!

I mention the different countries because I’m very aware that a lot of people don’t have access to large recovery communities in their local towns. But we’re living in a digital age, where people in recovery can connect, and stay sober through online groups.

Today, my guest Paul will share his story of alcoholism, why he decided to stop drinking, and the online group he joined that has helped him to stay sober for over 15 years.

 Before we jump in, I have the biggest announcement I’ve ever made… which is that my book is FINALLY available for pre-order on Amazon!

It’s called “The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics: Clearing Up Common Misconceptions of a Path to Sobriety”. And if you’ve ever had a bad experience with 12 step, or feel turned off by AA, I just ask that you try to keep an open mind for a moment, because the first thing I want to tell you is that your feelings are valid! I’m not going to pretend that there aren’t some aspects of the program that are problematic, but what I want to tell you, is that there is a way around those sticking points that will allow you to access this magical process.

The book will call out some of the most common issues I hear, and give you context and perspectives that might clear up any misconceptions. It’s really a set of logical mindset shifts, while still honoring the feelings that naturally arise when grappling with behavior changes like alcohol use disorder.

Listen, for the last 8 years and hundreds of podcasts later, you know my only goal is to help you end needless suffering. If this book can help you feel better, I hope you read it and apply it! But if you just can’t get yourself to do that, I hope you feel comfortable enough to reach out to me and set up a call to talk about sober coaching. There are many paths to the same destination and I’m here to help.

As always, you can book a free strategy call with me, just visit: makesobreitystick.com  

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Paul.

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👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!

Here are 3 ways to get started:

🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist

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☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick

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💻Online Classes: https://www.soberlifeschool.com/courses

Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Challenge: Start Today!

https://www.sobrietyreset.com 

The Reinvent Yourself - Create an Unstoppable Identity & Experience A Breakthrough!

https://www.selfesteemcourse.com

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Are you a sober parent? Because if you are, you need to know youre not alone in navigating this sober lifestyle. We have different challenges which require a specific skill set.

In her new book Parents in Recovery Navigating a Sober Family Lifestyle my guest Sarah Benton provides the solutions we need to create the peaceful loving families homes we all want for our kids.

Shes going to share some stories, and some practical tools that you can use right away.

Before we jump in, I have to share that I finally have a publication date for my book, The 12-Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing up Common Misconceptions o a Path to Sobriety which is Friday October 25th! Ive been talking about this book for what feels like forever, so I have to say, it feels very surreal to finally be at this point!

The book is really my attempt to make the 12 step process available to those who are curious about it, but have stayed away due to shameful labels, religious trauma, or rigid oldtimers. There is a way around every obstacle. You can get all the benefits of this magical process, and this book will serve as your guide.

To celebrate, you can get the ebook for .99 only on launch day! Im only doing this for my friends/listeners, so you just need to be on my newsletter to get the link. To sign up, go to odaatchat.com and enter your name and email on the popup!

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with my guest, Sarah.

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This is a little bonus episode. I’ll be experimenting with some different formats, so if you find this valuable, please let me know and I’ll do more of them!

This is actually a very important topic about relationships. If you are  in the process of getting sober, you’re probably in the process of repairing relationships too. Today I’m having a chat with Paul who answered my call for volunteers who are dealing with challenges in sobriety. We’re going to be discussing his marriage of 37 years and the struggle he faces in coping with resentment from his wife.

I just want to thank Paul for his openness, vulnerability and his desire to be of service to others.

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!

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Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick

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Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free

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The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love 

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Is this election season making you feel crazy?

I know Im feeling frustrated and sad with where we are as a nation. There is a lot of tension in the air, I see long time friendships that are ending, and with the holiday season just around the corner, we need to find a better way to relate to our families that have different perspectives.

And I just have to admit, I have plenty of my own biased thinking. I want to be open to allowing new ideas that will help me be the kind of loving person I want to be.

Today my guest TJ Woodward and I are going to talk openly about how to maintain our sanity, and find a new way to relate to those we disagree with, all without abandoning our values.

TJs name might sound familiar to you. He was my guest for episode #311. As a little refresher, TJ is the author of Conscious Recovery A Fresh Perspective On Recovery, and a person in long term recovery with 37 years of sobriety!

This is a very important conversation. I hope it helps you find peace the way it did for me.. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with TJ.

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Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free

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Do you have an anger problem? It seems like it would be obvious, but if you have learned to suppress or deny your feelings, you may not recognize it or how its affecting your life.

Michelle Farris joins me today to talk about 4 ways to identify anger, and 5 ways to manage it. Michelle is a licensed psychotherapist and person in recovery. This is actually her third time on the podcast, so if you want to hear her whole story, just go to odaatchat.com and Ill leave a link in the show notes.

Before we jump in, I just wanted to let you know that Im publishing educational videos on my youtube channel. Ill be covering topics like how to rebuild self-esteem, tips to stop drinking, and long form sleep hypnosis to help you rewire your brain for improved self worth, detachment from overthinking, trust in the universe, self love and confidence. 

Just visit The one day at a time recovery podcast on YouTube, and as always, the link will be in the show notes.

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Im really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Michelle .

Connect with Michelle  

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Private Coaching Make Sobriety Stick

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Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free

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Hi Friend, thank you for downloading this episode and hanging out with us today! If you hear some snoring, that’s just my english bulldog Ted. I didn’t have the heart to kick him out so he’s hanging out with us too.

Today’s question is:  Can you get sober for someone else? 

There is a lot of debate around the idea of getting sober for someone else. In this episode, I have a conversation with Paul Summers Jr, who is a returning guest. He is the author of “Hide and Seek: A Dad’s Journey from Soulless addiction to sole custody”. 

In this episode Paul shares his story of drug addiction, how he got sober for his daughter, and the fight to save her from an addict mother. 

Before we jump in, I wanted to share an idea that has really helped a lot of my clients as they work towards breaking old behavior patterns and achieving really big goals, and that is the Law of 51%. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by changes that you want to make or goals you want to achieve. That feeling of overwhelm can keep you from taking action, which keeps you feeling stuck. Think of a balance scale and what it takes to tip the balance. It’s just a little more on one side than the other! So the law of 51% states that all you need to tip the scale, is just a little more progress in the direction you’re headed in. The big take away here is that you are closer to your goal than you think! With some tools, support and a little practice, you can reach that goal you have been struggling with.

This is just one of the lessons from my 6 week class called “Reinvent Yourself”. Listen, we all know what to do, but we just don’t do it. Why? The answer is resistance. The magic is that we do the exercises together in class to break through that resistance and help you build momentum.

Class starts Oct 3 at 6pm PST. I only teach this class 3 times per year and space is very limited, so don’t miss out! As a little incentive, if you sign up by Friday, you can bring a friend for free! To register, head on over to selfesteemcourse.com.

So that’s it for announcements! Please enjoy this episode, with Paul!

Purchase Paul’s Book Here: https://amzn.to/47JCY8e

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Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!

Here are 4 ways to get started:

Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist

Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com

Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick

https://www.makesobrietystick.com

Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free

https://www.sobrietyreset.com 

The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love 

https://www.selfesteemcourse.com

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Is your self-worth tied to your relationship with money? 

It is for me! And I know it is for so many of us in recovery. Money is a very triggering topic and touches so many aspects of our lives. And we rarely talk about it! So in this episode, we’re going to get into it.

Today I’m speaking with Julie Reisler who is the author of Get a PhD in YOU: A Course in Miraculous Self-Discovery, podcast host of “The Youest-You”, and a woman in long term recovery from food addiction.

In this episode we’ll cover topics like:

Food Addiction

Examples of Money Wounds

Limiting Money Beliefs

12 Steps To Healing Money Issues

Julie has so many insights to share. My favorite quote from her is: “What’s reflected outside is a mirror of what’s going on inside”. So true!

I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Julie.

Connect with Julie Here: https://juliereisler.com/

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Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube.

Need help applying this information to your own life? I got you!

Here are 4 ways to get started:

Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist

Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com

Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick

https://www.makesobrietystick.com

Sobriety Reset - An Online 30 Day Bootcamp To Living Alcohol Free

https://www.sobrietyreset.com 

The Reinvent Self-Esteem Course - Join A Live Class To Rebuild Self-Esteem And Create A Life You Love 

https://www.selfesteemcourse.com

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